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A suit can announce power to the room and whisper surrender to the one person who knows how to read it. We sit down with Doctor Tom, a self-described Sir and suit fetishist, to unpack how tailoring, uniform codes, and ritual details transform wool and silk into tools for desire. From Bond’s tux getting ripped to the scent of warm leather dress shoes, we trace the sensory and psychological threads that make suits a stealth fetish—hyper-visible to everyone, invisible to most.

We map the terrain where menswear meets military lineage: structured shoulders, tall collars, and the ceremonial logic that mirrors leather protocols. Doctor Tom shares practical starting points—why thrifting post-COVID is gold, how to spot quality construction, and why a good tailor is your best accomplice. We explore community “tells” like sheer dress socks and double Windsors, Instagram codes, and Recon tags, plus why excess is a signal and restraint often reads vanilla. Along the way we tackle elitism, access, and red flags, and we highlight a crucial reminder: suit fetish is gender inclusive, and gender-affirming tailors exist.

We also cross the aisle into leather—formal looks rebuilt in hide, the satisfaction of hierarchy, and the pleasure of rules you know well enough to break once, on purpose. In Ask Edge, we address accepting masochism, the need for mutual enjoyment in DS play, and resources for emotional fluency. Then we turn to kink on screen, calling out what lands and what misfires, and why some sacred spaces might be better served by community-made stories.

If suits have ever made your pulse quicken—or you want to build a look that doubles as a scene—this conversation gives you history, tactics, and permission to play. Subscribe, share with a friend who loves a good knot, and leave a review telling us your first suit memory.

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