Superglue Podcast

Truth be told, I like to be in control. But life does not always work out the way we want and situations we are hoping to control can come unraveled. In this episode, I share a recent experience in which control was taken from me. When we experience disappointments, it is often because we have lost control and that hurts. We can learn to recover with practical tips and strategies for healing. However, we should never feel rushed to "get over it" because part of healing is working through each aspect of disappointment. In the end, I was reminded that God is really in control and I am reminded of the importance of letting go.

Do you ever worry about worrying? In this episode, you will learn to understand your primary and secondary emotions as a method for boosting happiness. The Science of Happiness also helps us understand why we need to move from doing to being. That is, we need stillness in order to thrive. If we avoid being still, or we are afraid to "do nothing" for a while we are actually robbing ourselves of productivity later. Happy people are still sometimes. Tune in to learn why it is important to be still and tips for getting comfortable with stillness. 

During this episode I had the pleasure of interviewing Megan Reese, a first year college student who reminds us that we are more alike than different regardless of our age differences. Many of us are parents and we are trying so hard to connect and relate to our children. As a mother to young adults, this episode hit home! Megan shares her personal perspective on how she centers herself during tough times. She shares insights as to what young adults need in order to connect with their parents or other adults. Listen in and learn from this young woman.

I decided to interview her after reading her blog post. Check it out! Her honesty and vulnerability is something we can all learn from!

In this episode, we will explore how laws cause a divide yet love is our calling. As humans we tend to argue over who is right and who is wrong. Black and white thinking can often cause division. Together we will explore what it really means to live a life focused on love. Ultimately, people are good. We will focus on the goodness of humankind and focus our minds on love.

• Think of a person in your life who seems to be very different from you in every way that you can imagine. They might have different interests, different religious or political beliefs, or different life experiences. They may even be someone with whom you have had a personal conflict, or who belongs to a group that has been in conflict with a group to which you belong.
• In this episode we will discuss ways to find common ground when it feels hard to make a connection with someone who seems so different from you. Perhaps it is also time to forgive this person. We will explore the power of forgiveness and use strategies to cultivate more forgiveness in our lives.

Cognitive framing can be used to help us find the silver linings in difficult situations. How we view a threat has a lot to do with our life experiences. We have a lot of power in our thoughts and shifting from threat to opportunity is up to us. Moving from risk to innovation allows us to stay motivated during unsettling times. Using the Silver Lining mediation from Greater Good in Action, we will work on shifting our mindset from threat to innovation by finding the silver linings around us. 

In this episode, I interview Supergluer, Alicia Dalton. Alicia is the author of two books 

•  Let Go!: Elevate Your Destiny and ForgiveThe Let Go!: Elevate Your Destiny and Forgive. ...
• I Can't Keep Calm: He Gave Me Beauty for AshesI Can't Keep Calm: He Gave Me Beauty for Ashes.

 and is a mom to two amazing daughters. She shares her tips for coping with difficult circumstances and everyday annoyances, including her laundry ministry.  That's right...she even has an awesome way of thinking about laundry! Tune in to learn more about this wife, mother, healthcare executive, and fellow Supergluer.

Alicia's books can be found here:
Link to purchase from Amazon.

One intervention that can help us focus on adaptive responses is called, Affective Regulation. This is our ability to move from unwanted spiralling thoughts which, when left uncontrolled, can lead to depressive symptoms, to a more comforting mindset. PsychologyTools.com offers many tools including this one:
When an unwanted thought occurs put in on display:

• Record the Situation that bothered you. Who were you with? What were you doing? Where were you? When did it happen?
• How did you feel?  (Rate intensity 0–100%)
• Interpretation / Thought How did you interpret what happened? What went through your mind?
• Alternative viewpoint: Try to interpret that situation differently. Use the prompts below.
  • What other ways are there of looking at this situation? • What would a friend say to me about this? • What would Batman say to me? • Name 3 good outcomes that might come from this event. • When you’re aged 80 and looking back on this event will it still bother you? • What would someone who truly liked themselves think in this situation?

We are emotional beings and we often are influenced by the people around us. The behaviors and attitudes of others have a great influence on our own affect, motivation, attitudes, behaviors. Employees continuously spread their own moods because individuals copy one another’s nonverbal cues, including movements, posture, and facial expressions such as a frown. Negative moods are difficult to overcome, but in this episode will discuss ways to shift negativity and take on a more positive approach. 

This episode was inspired by James Clear's book, Atomic Habits (https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits). We will talk about the concept of Habit Stacking; adding a new, healthy habit to an existing habit to increase productivity. Habit stacking helps us accomplish more because we already have certain patterns in place so it is easier for the brain to connect to something we are already doing.