Power and certainty in ourselves is not only UNLOCKED and ACCESSED...it is BUILT!

And built day after day.

We don't wake up with power.

No one who's lifting considerable iron wakes up and walks straight away into the gym as a hits a new PR on the first or second set.

You don't just paddle out at Pipeline for a barrel the first time you get on a surfboard and come out successful and injury free.

You're not going to be the ultimate husband your first year of marriage or the master manipulator of her sex and pleasure on your first go or two.

And no one comes out of the vagina a master marketer, writer, or speaker in their career...

You want fruit? You must GROW it! There's no tree with full grown, ripe, delicious fruit that didn't first bear immature, baby fruit.

The ultimate outcome you're looking for is BUILT win upon win upon win EACH DAY!

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Hanging out with friends and family can be SO FRUSTRATING 😤 ...

Just going with the flow without getting clear on what I want, what I’m committed to, and setting my frame can leave me anxious about the experience beforehand,

A slave to my environment during the "fun time"

And often even resenting my experience with them afterwards feeling stupid and confused.

Ain't nobody got time for all those crappy feelings and seemingly wasted time!

Getting clear in what I want, what I’m committed to, and my frame entering the experience makes me feel powerful, in control, and unstoppable.

As you probably notice on Facebook, I go out with the family all the time.

And often it can just be going through the motions doing what I’m "supposed" to do as a dad taking them out to have fun family experiences.

But if I get clear on my heart on why I’m going out with them,

what I want from the experience,

what I’m committed to making happen,

And I set my frame accordingly,

I create MASSIVE value for myself and everyone else and take absolute control of my environment.

Not to mention I feel amazing and proud!

If I just jump in the water and go surfing because some guys are going surfing and I'm going with the flow,

Anything can happen and I can feel like crap and empty and alone inside when it's all over.

But when I get crystal clear in my intentions and powerfully set my frame beforehand,

I not only ensure that I have an amazing experience myself, but I create a VALUABLE, amazing experience for everyone around me.

I bring the passion and connection with FIRE that makes for absolutely unforgettable experiences!

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I saw my first bioluminescent waves break before my eyes this week 🌊 .

They glowed a florescent neon blue 🤯 !

As thoughts started flowing through my mind watching these beautiful waves glowing in the dark, I cried.

Tears of joy welled up in my eyes and steamed down my cheeks.

But why?

I'll tell you why...

Because I REMEMBERED.

Remembering simple and profound truths can be one of the most powerful ways to stir the fire in our hearts and stoke the flame.

🔱 Remembering who we are.

🔱 Remembering what we stand for.

🔱 Remembering what we're committed to.

🔱 Remembering WHY we are committed.

The problem is that we lack passion and power because we rely on an outside source to remind us in due time if at all.

And by the time God or the universe or your WIFE gives you that reminder, it's more like a WAKE UP CALL!

Practice remembering to cultivate your passion and not need that wake up call!

Join me in this episode of Surfing Lessons 🎙 to hear about the power of remembering and how I practice it!

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NO ONE CAN HEAR MY WORDS UNTIL THEY CAN HEAR MY HEART!

Surfing the face of a wave, I want to show myself and the whole world how amazing I am by laying into a nice gouging carve.

And when I get too excited seeing an open face and try to carve away without adequate connection to the source of the wave,

I will bog down, sink, lose speed, get left behind, fall... basically anything except surf smoothly through the turn.

But if I stay connected to the pocket of the wave, I can literally move buckets of water through the air with the bottom of my board and come out of the turn with even MORE power and speed!

And this is exactly what I face again and again as I try to get Luci to hear and understand me...

And my kids to understand me...

And all of the world to hear me...

Even GOD himself to hear me!

We want to help others and create massive value them while being seen for who we truly are.

Yet without creating and maintaining adequate connection, our words and "love" fall on deaf ears and closed hearts.

Worse yet, they feel judged and even judge us.

And then you and I are stuck with our heads in our hands thinking that we're only trying to be the best husband, father, man that we can be – Why is this SO difficult!

Join me in this episode of Surfing Lessons 🎙, and I'll show you how to navigate this issue!

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I can often get caught up in a STRUGGLE OF NOT FEELING LIKE I'M DOING WELL ENOUGH...

And inside that struggle I can lose passion and become unknowingly paralyzed in my ability to get clear with what I want a be want I'm committed to.

And as soon as I figure out how to get over that feeling a be crush that story of not being enough, I find my way up the next mountain which leads me to my next place in my journey of life of "next level" not enough!

It never ends...well unless I decide to quit.

So in order to crush this game of life and become MORE THAN ENOUGH again and again, I must master the practices of realizing my capacity and commitment.

This can be done through gaining perspective.

In today's Surfing Lessons episode 🎙 I'll share 2 ways YOU can gain and expand your perspective!

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I HATE IT WHEN...

I want something so badly for someone else, but seem to not be able to help them!

I feel so small and stuck watching them struggle.

In fact, often it can seem like I want the results for them more than they want it themselves!

And everything inside me wants to help them. To save them. To rescue them.

But I can't.

In fact, the more I try to help them, the more resentment builds up towards them until I get to the point where hours, days, months, YEARS later, I give up on them.

And underneath I am angry at them, blaming them for not being enough or not listening to me, taking my advice.

And this leaves me drained of passion and ultimately disconnected from those I originally just wanted to help.

But what if there is a better way? A better way to inspire and move people towards the results they want?

In today's Surfing Lessons Podcast episode 🎙 I'll give you 3 principles to help YOU help others get their desired results!

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NOTHING DO I HATE DOING MORE THAN WHAT I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO DO ...

Whether it's surfing, connecting with Luci, working out, praying, working, buying birthday presents, or even HAVING SEX, I hate doing stuff out of obligation.

I hate it when anyone tells me what I NEED to do, my parents, God, my wife, the president, my military supervisor, my coach, even... MYSELF!

But what if you literally were not obligated to do anything?

You don't HAVE to...

You don't NEED to...

You GET TO.

Remove the prison of obligations from yourself and live in the freedom of opportunities you have before you and that you get to create for yourself and watch your PASSION skyrocket!

Stop feeling like you HAVE to connect with your wife and children, and stay seizing the OPPORTUNITY to create, grow, and overflow with CONNECTION, and watch your relationships deepen beyond your imagination!

BUT HOW do you remove yourself from the prison of feeling like you're obligated to do something (when let's be honest, society and everyone around us puts considerable pressure on us to DO what we are "obligated" to do like show up as an amazing father, husband, provider, etc...)?

I'll give you some insight in today's Surfing Lessons Podcast episode 🎙 !

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GETTING WHAT I ULTIMATELY WANT STARTS WITH A SINGLE DECISION...

And then continues with another decision...

And then another and another, moment after moment, day after day.

Getting the body and health I want is nothing more than decision after decision after decision.

Have the relationship I want with God is created decision after decision after decision.

My marriage is a decision moment after moment, day after day.

My business and marketing is simply decision after decision, day in and day out.

A life lived with power and passion is hundreds and thousands of consistent decisions stacked upon one another.

Connection with Luci is a constant war with myself to make the tough and courageous decision again and again.

The problem is that we give up.

We stop.

We get exhausted.

We entitled.

We pause and take a break.

We procrastinate.

And then before at know it, time has passed us by...

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Summer is here and it's not uncommon to jump up on a wave only to have another 1 or 2 surfers drop in on you, particularly with the good ol' excuse – "Oops, i didn't see you!"

And one sure way to rob yourself of passion and excitement is to fall victim to other people's lack of awareness and responsibility.

Do you know how many times I've gotten pissed off at Luci and my kids because I wanted a certain outcome for us as a family but it seemed like they only got in the way?

Or how many times I've gotten frustrated and disappointed because someone was supposed to show up at my house a certain time to surf, but was late or even flaked altogether!

Or how many times I got hit in the head by someone surfboard because they were unaware and dropped in right on top of me (actually only one time, but that one time is plenty enough for me to learn my lesson!)!

Don't let other people dictate your outcome and steal your fire and passion! In this episode, I'll show you how!

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I'M NOT LUCKY. I'M NOT "BLESSED" OR "GIFTED." MY RESULTS ARE 100% BY DESIGN...

I literally shouldn't be surfing. My body should not be able to handle it.

But gone is the shell of a man who simply says "screw it" and surfs anyways with a deep sense of hope in a blind faith.

I have built a game with an entire framework specifically designed to transform my body into a vessel capable of surfing the chaos of the ocean.

I have every reason to be depressed and pull the disabled victim card. I could easily continue suppressing my heart and dragging down my family like I did for two years. I know many men who do with far less pain and responsibilities.

But I've built a game with an entire framework specifically designed to transform my pain and disappointment into passion and power.

I don't wake up with fire. I CREATE my fire by design.

My marriage should be Luci and I just getting by doing the bare minimum. Luci should be heavily sexually suppressed like the first 11 1/2 years of our marriage with the particular sexually damaged and horrific history she has.

But I've built a game with an entire framework specifically designed to unlock her desire and passion, transforming her guilt, shame, and even apathy into freedom and connection...and PLEASURE.

With 4 kids, disability, an ambitious type-A wife running multiple businesses, and 100's of pleasurable distractions at any given moment (right now the beach just down the road is calling my name!), I have every legit reason to not have a coaching business and to not show up consistently and passionately to the world.

But my prayers have been backed vision, design, and commitment.

It's no accident. It's no lottery. God didn't just hand these "blessings" over to me. I designed my life with the results in mind. Crystal clear intentions allowing me to set a very focused frame. And pure commitment to these results doing the rest.

What results in your life both attained and unattained are you writing off to luck or blessing?

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