In this episode of the Motherhood Series, host Tinatswe Mhaka sits with Theo, a Zambian queer, masc-presenting mother, as she reflects on the layered journey of becoming a parent while navigating her queerness.

Theo opens up about her own childhood and the cultural expectations that shaped her early ideas of family, children, and marriage. She speaks candidly about the realities of queer motherhood in Africa, from the contradictions and silences she has had to live through, to the moments of tenderness and love that anchor her relationship with her children.

Now, looking back, Theo shares why she advocates for women to remain child-free if they can, speaking from a place of both regret and resilience. This is a conversation about love and responsibility, about questioning inherited scripts, and about the courage it takes to reimagine motherhood on one’s own terms.

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