Talk Your Poly Off

The key component to your polyamorous life, even more than honesty and communication, the one thing you can't practice polyamory without...is YOU!
Learning who you are, how you work, and what motivates you is a truly fundamental aspect of how you will maneuver through a life of relationships and love. Many tests exist out in the world of the internet to help you figure yourself out a little bit and we at Talk Your Poly Off have started the path of self exploration with you by taking some of the more prominent tests available (which we have linked just below).
In this discussion, we share our results and feelings around some of these quizzes. We also try to help you understand what these tests even means and how they might apply to you in your search for personal awareness. Everything from how you love to how you get your kink on!

Please visit our social media posts or inboxes and share any of your results you'd like to share, let's talk!

The tests we took are as follows:
The Five Love Languages
The 16 Personalities - (Myers Briggs)
Relationship Attachment Style
Apology Style
Anger Style
BDSM Test (this is a sexual test, take with care)
Sex Personality Type
Enneagram Test

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Bella, Monsuta, and Lili come together to discuss that magical thing which happens at the beginning of each new year....the resolution! Whether you enjoy them or turn a nose up at them, resolutions play a big part in our society. Sure, not everyone sticks to them and many fall to the wayside but there's so many which do take hold and so many people make changes for the better!
We are open to change and committing to a fun way of change, like resolutions can be a good time! We talk about how to increase success in resolutions, how to manage these changes, who personal resolutions may affect and how to handle that, we even work to find ways of changing or exploring life without the use of resolutions!

CNN's Resolutions Wisdom
10 Ways To Keep Your Resolutions
10 Unusual New Year Resolutions
Alternatives to the Resolutions
Rachel Hollis Hopes You Fail

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The holiday season is tough for everyone in different ways and even in a monogamous life there are challenges, how do those challenges differ for those of us in the polyamorous life?

The holidays are such a special and magical time for Bella so this episode was extra fun to make for all of you, our polyam fam <3. While our holidays may differ from yours or you might have beliefs that your partners don't, we can all still come together and celebrate love.

If you can find a way to overcome the craziness of family, travel, and finances etc. and make the holiday season something that works for you and yours, it'll be a special no matter what.

Monsuta even ends the episode with a Shia LaBeouf style tangent about just living!

We wish you the best and happiest of seasons as we wrap up the 2019 holiday season. Merry Christmas from all of us here at Talk Your Poly Off <3

Things we also mentioned in this episode...
The Village People
Star Wars
AMC A-List Movie Club
Pittock Mansion
The Grotto
Sock Dreams

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Reviews are an aspect of measuring team members in the workplace. When done properly, they provide insight on areas where team members have improved, where the business relationship needs work, and provide marker points for conscious development. Goals and benchmarks help enhance the success of the company.

When it comes to romantic relationships, just like the workplace, people want to see and measure the success of the relationship which is a lot of the reason why relationship escalators are common, but how many people actively evaluate aspects of their relationship beyond the escalator? What happens when you have a relationship which doesn't follow the escalator model?

Regular check-ins are great for day to day but is that enough? In this episode, Monsuta, Bella, and Lili enhance check-ins by discussing how an annual review of all your relationships might be just the thing you need to build and maintain stronger bonds; with yourself, your partners or polycule, and even your community.

Additional Resources:
More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
Relationship strategist, Denise Onofrey

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Finally,

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One aspect of the polyamory world, especially in our technology age, is how much more ethical nonmonogamy has become and how much it has grown to be more accepted thanks to a more open minded society and tools like the internet. Because of this, people new to the nonmonogamy culture join our communities on a daily basis. Today, Monsuta interviews Lili, a mom recently out of a fifteen year marriage who has found polyamory. In our discussion, we take a look at how this subculture of sexual and romantic openness looks from someone just walking in.

Our shout-outs today are to:
The Multiamory podcast who provide excellent education on nonmonogamy
The book More Than Two, written by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
The Ethical Slut, written by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
and The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory, written by Dedeker Winston

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Finally,

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One of the daily practices of managing polyamory is where we sleep in a world of multiple partners. Who gets to sleep together and when is alone time essential? We discuss the benefits and pitfalls of sleeping alone versus sleeping with a partner. We also try to piece together how to successfully sleep in a bed with multiple partners and basic overall logistics behind multiple bedroom arrangements.
As with many of our episodes, this week gives food for thought, not just for a polyamorous home but also for monogamous couples.

We are also providing some additional resources to help you make your own opinions on the discussion of sleeping with or without people:
www.thelittlethings.com on The Benefits of Sleeping Alone
www.lifehealth.com on The Benefits of Sleeping With a Loved One
www.theatlantic.com on Why We Sleep Together
bettersleep.org on Why Couples Sleep Apart

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You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]

Surprise! Happy thankfulness day! Bella and Monsuta are both so thankful for the community which has grown from this podcast that they had to get out a surprise episode on the subject of gratefulness.

For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon!
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We even have a Tumblr.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

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Small towns and cities are vastly different environments, both physically and culturally. These differences are especially prevalent when it comes to polyamory. We take a moment to examine some of these differences and how a polyamorist might navigate through each environment.

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Finally,

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This show is dedicated with love to Tatianna Gwynne, a wonderful girl with a shiny soul who has left this world too soon. You are missed every day.

We are never prepared for loss and, despite what schedule we prefer to keep, the unexpected does happen and when it does, you find your life turning upside down. We take this episode to help figure out how to process the loss of a close friend and discuss how grief affects a polyamory life.

Our resources for you this week:
The Five Stages Of Grief: An Examination Of The Kubler-Ross Model
How To Cope With Loss And Pain
Coping With Grief And Loss
7 Tips For Supporting A Partner After A Devastating Loss

Apps and Websites For Therapy:
Better Help
Online-Therapy.com
TalkSpace
7Cups
Online Therapist Directory

Substance Abuse Prevention Assistance and Awareness:
Addiction Recovery Now
Substance Abuse And Mental Health Service Administration
Government Directed Substance Abuse and Mental Health Treatment Resources
How To Help A Drug Addict

Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
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Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]

Let's talk DIC, Direct Intentional Communication and how it affects our relationships. Monsuta and Bella role play some scenarios you might find yourself in when it comes to relationships, especially polyamorous relationships, and how we mess them up with vague communication and how to better them with DIRECT communication. We talk about a few take away tips to improve your communication and talk about some common pitfalls we've all done. Join in the conversation about how we can all improve our DIC.

Don't forget to check out our new Patreon page if you're interested in those bonus episodes! https://www.patreon.com/ilovepoly

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Here are a few of the people and sites we mentioned in the episode as well as additional resources we came across:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-communication-problems-and-mistakes-we-all-make-0919157
https://bthechange.com/5-tips-to-communicate-more-effectively-ed3a11405bda
https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorgan/2015/04/21/how-to-communicate-intentionally/#7ec50972715c
https://www.tonyrobbins.com/ultimate-relationship-guide/key-communication-relationships/
https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapists/profile/susan-heitler-20071114
http://clubprivata.com/
https://www.skunkbrothersspirits.com/
An essay on Intentional and Unintentional Features of Communication

Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.
Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.
We even have a Tumblr.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]