Talk Your Poly Off

Monsuta and Bella dive deeper into their personal experiences with guilt and shame as well as how each emotion affects their ability to operate within relationships and with life, in general. Guilt is one of the difficult emotions to feel and to process in any relationship so we really dissect this emotion in ways to understand how it works and how it is a guiding factor in life.
As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam understand and accept guilt in order to help each of us learn this tricky feeling so we can guide it rather than have it guide us. As always, we sincerely hope our discussion and our vulnerability provides you the space to open up and to grow in beautiful ways. If this is how our episodes affect you, please share your growth with us if you'd like to shout to the world on how you've evolved into a more capable loving human being, we can keep you as anonymous as you'd like. You can send an email to [email protected]

FIRST - Our Shoutouts:
Slipknot and their song, SULFUR
Kara Lowentheil and her podcast, UNF*CK YOUR BRAIN
Learn more about F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.
Bella mentioned the 18 Synonyms For Guilt, which you can find here

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Feeling Guilty at #PsychCentral
5 Tips For Dealing With Guilt
Good Therapy's Take On Guilt
WebMD On Guilt
Psychology Today's Take On Guilt
As Well As Jeffry S. Nevid's Views
Yoga Journal's Views
Even catch F. Diane Barth's article on Psychology Today here

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Bella and Monsuta each take time to discuss five skills they've developed to better their relationships, from direct communication to guilt management. They both also share three skills they are seeking to improve. Is there anything on heir lists which struck home for you? Let your hosts know by email (address is below).

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This week is a special, 'cozy up to your hosts' kind of week where you get to learn a little about us. We talk about the things we like, share some feelings about polyamory, and even walk down memory lane a time or two.
Take the opportunity to connect back through our Facebook page, specifically the post where you get to share a song with meaning to you.

Speaking of songs, we talk about the time we met with the band HAIL SAGAN and how cool they are. You can hit up their Facebook Page here.

Bella would like to give a shout-out to "And That's Why We Drink", a couple of awesome podcasters who entertain her through the week with their true crime show. #ATWWD

Finally, for those of you listening, Monsuta chose to use Fennel Phil as this episode's picture so you can see what Bella saw in the kitchen.

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An aspect of Polyamory is solo practice, polyamory which doesn't necessarily ride the relationship escalator. Another polyamory practice is relationship anarchy in which a person doesn't subscribe to traditional labels and standards of what a relationship "should" be. Today, Katie, a practicing soloist and anarchist, discusses polyamory with us from a different perspective.

Today's definition of a relationship anarchist came in part from THE CUT's article on the topic, written by Katie Heaney.

Our definition of solo polyamory was quoted from a portion of the Psychology Today article written by Elizabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CSE

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Emotional baggage, we've all got it, we don't always want it, so what do we do with it? This week, Bella and Monsuta take some time to give your life luggage the Marie Kondo treatment. We share how to be aware of the excess and what to do with it, as well as what to get rid of.

Some of the resources we utilized while packing this episode:
Dr. Seth Myers and the 3 basic signs of emotional baggage
Chris Hart and the Five Steps
The Emotional Baggage Check website

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This week is a rollercoaster of relationship discussion as Bella and Monsuta talk our poly off about the infamous relationship escalator and what it means. We bring up milestones of a partnership, mindfulness in navigating this deepness of connection, what it all means for your future and even take the time to look back on it all.

www.polysingleish.com
“Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life” by Amy Gahran

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You know those feelings you get when you first start dating someone and everything about them is perfect and you just can't get enough time with them? That's new relationship energy and it is not only a big factor in your non-monogamous journey but also a widely common phenomenon. So we take some time to try understanding this addictive experience in an attempt to build healthily from it.

Check out these bonus links to get a feel for these feels.
Thoughts on NRE from Zhahai Stewart
and
7 Tips to Making NRE Last

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A common phenomenon which happens in the polyamory circles is developing and feeling crushes. The harmless little feels you catch when someone new comes into your world. We dig deep into them to help get an understanding of why we have them and what impact even these little feels can have on our world.

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Bella and Monsuta take advantage of a lightning storm to discuss the best....and worst...personality traits they bring to a relationship while Monsuta makes dinner in the dark.
In this episode, we look into the abyss of what a person brings to the relationship table, both good and bad, and how to handle these traits in one's self and with one's partner.

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Monsuta is knee deep in comic books while he and Bella delve into the subject of self care. Each host shares different methods of self care.
We even get a surprise guest appearance from the son of Monsuta who engages fully into this episode.

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Finally,

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