Talk Your Poly Off

Check out these awesome resources!
Ego and Pride: How Does It Really Affect Our Lives
25 Ways To Kill The Toxic Ego That Will Ruin Your Life
How To Kill Your Ego

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Direct links to the podcasts we enjoy:
LORE
My Favorite Murder
And That's Why We Drink
Monstrosity
The Creeping Hour
Two Girls One Ghost
Sword And Scale

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Coming from a place of compassion when it comes to relationships and the world around us, is a powerful tool. Learn how to improve your communication by adding more compassion.

In this weeks episode we approach communication from a compassionate place. Where would our relationships be if we could remember to put ourselves in their shoes and listen to understand? We cover the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion and give you 8 tips for improving your compassionate communication.

Here are our resources or sites we found useful during our research:
Tips To Master Compassionate Communication
8 Ways To Practice Compassion For A Healthier And Stronger Relationship
Ways To Be Compassionate In A Relationship
How Cultivate More Self Compassion
Dr. Kristin Neff Self Compassion

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Bella and Monsuta take accountability on this episode. They discuss how taking accountability improves not just your relationships with partners but also how it helps you grow as a person.

Resources for our polyam fam.
How To Improve Accountability by Insperity
Responsibility Vs Accountability from Partners In Leadership
The Importance of Accountability In Your Relationships by Flourish Counseling
Is Your Partner Holding You Accountable or Just Taking Inventory by Vicki Tidwell Palmer

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Discussion revolving around boundaries and some aspects, including preferences, compromise, soft limits, hard limits, rules, and codependency.

They say we are our own worst critic, they say we are our own worst judge, they're right. But what if we could actually flip the script on our inner dialogue and change the way we treat ourselves? How could our life change if we talked to ourselves like we talked to a loved one, a friend, or someone else in need of support? In this episode, Bella and Monsuta dig into the aspects of internal monologue and the effects of how we speak to ourselves in an attempt to understand how the spectrum from negative to positive self talk can affect not just ourselves but also our partners and how we can use self talk to improve various aspects of our life.

We referenced Wikipedia when describing Internal Monologue. You can find that page here.

This week, we recommend exploring the works of life coaches Brendon Burchard and Bella's "favorite people" Rachel and Dave Hollis.
We would like to give honorable mention to Mr. Brad Pitt for being a great influence with his words and actions.

Additional materials for your internal dialogue journey, here are some mindful 'road maps':
Cognitive Behavior Therapy
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Neuro-linguistic Programming (link provided from Medical News Today as it discusses from a non-biased point of view and offers a logical and analytical view of NLP, we wanted to provide education with this link rather than a link from a NLP course advertiser).

You can read more about some of the fun stuff we brought up this week here:
The Pygmalion Effect
The Golem Effect
Self Fulfilling Prophecies
Even the horse- Clever Hans

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Hey there Polyam fam, our regularly scheduled episode has been pushed out due to a medical emergency. We didn't want to leave you hanging so we had a discussion on one method to help partners in a struggle, processing emotions through a move, and even gave a little homework for all of you.
Please forgive the raw, unedited episode and thank you for understanding. Love you all and we promise, next week we will get back to our regularly scheduled programming!

This time around, we take a break from discussing big topics and instead, share some great experiences we made over the weekend on a camping trip with folks in our polyamory community, including some fun and cheeky shenanigans.
This episode is dedicated to George the Salamander, our unofficial mascot of the Raab campgrounds and to his friend, the Blue Jay and the Chipmunk.

Check out the Bagby Hot Springs

Also, here's a couple games for you if they aren't in your collection yet:
Fluxx
Red Flags

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Episode 23 falls on a special day for Monsuta as this is the 30th birthday from his shooting (sure, call it an anniversary if you feel so inclined). For his 30th birthday, we will celebrate with a full and in-depth conversation about self-care and making sure you're writing the best story for the main character of your life (spoiler warning....it's YOU).
*Happy birthday Monsuta!*

Taking care of yourself is a crucial aspect of polyamory. This is the first step for taking care of partners, metas, or anyone close to you. With a positive self care program, you will be confident and strong enough to take on the world and come out on top.

Here's some fun links for you:
Thank you Psych Central for providing our definition this week.
Also, thanks to Forbes for making sure readers knew taking care of yourself is important.

HERE'S SOME MORE INFORMATION FOR SELF CARE
From The Laws Of Attraction website.
From the University Of Buffalo, school of social work.
Andre Shakti discusses self care on the Find Poly Blog.
You can read about 5 Self-Care Practices For Every Area Of Your Life at Very Well Mind.
And please, check out Helpful Affirmations for Polyamorous People Struggling with Self Judgement at Every Day Feminism

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Bella and Monsuta ride some great feels and intimate lows (but not a new motorcycle, there is no new motorcycle) to playfully discuss the serious business of processing emotions and feelings.

Processing can be extremely difficult and doing it alone may not always be the best option. If you would like to find a therapist to help you work through some of the difficulties of your life, you can search your local phone directory, get a referral from a loved one, do a web search, or even try finding one here.

As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam build on processing skills. As always, we sincerely hope our discussion and our vulnerability provides you the space to open up and to grow in beautiful ways. If this is how our episodes affect you, please share your growth with us if you'd like to shout to the world on how you've evolved into a more capable loving human being, we can keep you as anonymous as you'd like. You can send an email to [email protected]

FIRST - Our Shoutouts:
Joseph Gordon-Levitt, movie star and mastermind behind the show HitRecord, has jumped into the podcasting world with his new show, Creative Processing which can be found on multiple podcast platforms. In his first episode, director Rian Johnson says something which blows Monsuta's mind.

We discussed The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns, M.D. and you can purchase this book HERE.

We also momentarily discussed the 9 Step Process to Processing Your Emotions from the book The Wisdom Of The Enneagram, written by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Emotional Intelligence Toolkit
How To Process Your Emotions
How To Use Your Emotions To Build Relationships That Work
Helpful Versus Harmful: Ways To Manage Emotions
Processing Emotions And Learning To Tolerate Painful Feelings
Move From Rumination To Healthy Emotional Processing
A 3 Step Model To Help Your Client Process Through Difficult Feelings And Emotions
How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Life, In Non-Vague Terms
We also discussed the 5 Stages Of Grief.

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