Talk Your Poly Off

We welcome our guest host Peaches so we can all talk our poly off about long distance relationships. Peaches and Monsuta are long distance partners who bring real world experience to this episode and Bella provides insights from the outside, looking in.
We realized toward the end of this recording, we could not capture enough of the LDR relationship dynamic in one episode so we will be airing periodic updates to this episode as the three of us are together.

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#NormalizeLove
This episode, we decide to get into bed to record this episode. The bed is a more intimate environment which helps us discuss the vulnerable topics of deepening our connections with people we care about for stronger emotional bonds. We share our love languages and discuss how to use the five languages to know your loved ones better.
We also highlight how sexuality or sensuality can bring more profound aspects of relationship to light and even get a little mushy while doing it, because emotional intimacy is a beautiful thing.

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Today's (slightly longer) episode is about kink, what kink is, safety practices for getting your kink on, and how kink and polyamory co-exist. We will talk about sexy stuff like power exchange dynamics and fetishes and will discuss responsible things like safety and negotiation. So, pull up a seat and let's get sexy.

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Bella's struggles in flirting helps us discuss how to improve our communication skills for stronger connections and more security within ourselves so we can provide ourselves and each other a healthier, more confident life.
We talk through three steps of personal growth:
1. Live like birds
2. Active thought awareness
3. Tearing down (and keeping down) the walls.

This episode is dedicated in loving memory to Monsuta's dear friend and brother, Garth Brinson, a true practitioner of these three steps and a loving friend.

08/09/1966 to 04/06/2019
I love you brother and you will be missed.

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Levels of being out

1. Total secret (100% closed doors)
2. Partial out (maybe in friend circles but generally not family or work)
3. Totally out (shouting from the rooftops)

How open are you?

1. Social media - relationship status, tagging, sharing pictures
2. Public outings - Running into friends, family, co-workers, and the like
3. Family events

Deciding when, how and whom to come out to is quite the challenge and there are a lot of resources for you out there. Here are our 4 basic tips to help get you started...

1. Bring your partners around your family/friends early. Introduce them however you are comfortable at the time but let your family/friends get to know them as a person BEFORE they make snap judgements of them as a partner.
2. Talk about Polyamory and explain WHAT it means to you. (When I first mentioned it to my mom she assumed it was always swinger parties with keys in a bowl.)
3. Explain WHY you are choosing to be polyamorous. Explain your abundance in love and how you aren’t using it as an excuse to cheat etc.
4. Be OPEN to questions and feedback. Understand that everyone may not support you right away. Be patient and answer their questions and give them time.

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You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

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Jealousy & envy are both feelings most of us have at some point or another. J is the fear of losing something you already have while envy is wanting something you don't have. Both of these feelings are similar to to other universal feelings.

1. Throughout our research, studies suggest there are 5 universal feelings across cultures (fear, happiness, anger, shame, sadness)  and all the extra feelings we have can typically be put into one of these categories.
2. There are 3 levels to jealousy which explains why we go so frantic
   • We believe we need something external to be happy
   • We can't guarantee keeping what we have
   • If someone else gets it, they’re better than us
3. Thought work on how to change the negative thought that are creating the feeling of jealousy or envy.

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We even have a Tumblr.
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And a LinkedIn page.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

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We have made it to the date, let's talk about how to move through the first date.

Are you going to date alone? Are you looking to date with a partner as a couple?

What do each of these look like?

How soon do you discuss poly, how much do you discuss poly or your other partners?

If the date goes into building some kind of relationship, how much do you date before potentially introducing the new person to your polycule?

Providing you do poly from an involved standpoint, when to introduce? How does that look?

Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
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We even have a Tumblr.
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And a LinkedIn page.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

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You've decided to open yourself up for relationships but, where to start? Bella and Monsuta take some time to discuss options and provide tips on how to get out there, whether you're trying to meet in person or have a chance to meet online. From bar hopping to meetups, social events to dating apps- we help wingman for connection.

Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.
Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.
We even have a Tumblr.
Join our shiny new Fetlife group.
And a LinkedIn page.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]

Our dear friend JJ joins Bella and Monsuta as we discuss physical and mental health and how it affects how we poly. WE go in depth on obstacles we face with health issues, how we get support from partners and friends, and what these issues do to our schedules and time.

Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.
Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.
Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.
Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.
We even have a Tumblr.
Join our shiny new Fetlife group.
And a LinkedIn page.
You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally,

we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]

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You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)

Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at [email protected]