Talking Points with Kia Rae

Kia Rae talks about her college sorority experience and why she thinks it added to her life in different ways.

Kia Rae recently joined the Peloton community; it's been an interesting ride- pun absolutely intended.

At various points in our journey’s we need a coach, a teacher or a mentor to guide us, to help us level up and/or to learn something new.

Growing up my mother always said “tradition will kill you” and when you think about it, she was absolutely right.

It’s ok to not be ok. As a society we do not know how to properly grieve and it seems that there is a horror genre trope that is aiming to help us explore that. The Haunting of Hill House and The Haunting of Bly Manor helps Kia Rae understand her own relationship with grief and its place in our society.

Happy Birthday to me! Yep, I turning the big 3 0! I take a look back and a look forward to the future.

 America has already decided gun reform is not possible, so if guns are going to be a part of the culture we need to learn how to properly store, maintain and shoot guns.

Links: https://injepijournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40621-019-0220-0#:~:text=Unintentional%20shootings%20kill%20approximately%20430,victims%20and%20shooters%20are%20male.

https://www.holdmyguns.org/

Summary: Why is Hennessy so popular in the black community? Kia Rae does some research and learns about a historical link between Cognac and black folks.

Newly single Kia goes out with her work bestie and admits she has never had Hennessy and that she should FoR tHe CuLtUre. There is even a video deeeeep in my iPhone archives even- documenting the moment. Now it's not that I don't drink brown liquor, it's quite the opposite. I drink whiskey, bourbon, and all kinds of liquor straight. I’m loyal to local so I tend to keep local distillers in my liquor cabinet rather than the big names- yeah they cost a little more but the quality is way better. Which brings me back to- WHY HENNESSY? So of course I head to the internet to look it up.

Plants seem to be having a moment. Social media accounts dedicated to them and their care, shops full of plants, even plant subscriptions. Let's take a look at why they are good to keep around- besides the whole providing oxygen thing. 

I started noticing this plant craze and honestly, I love it. On social media people talking about and two plants, people gifting plants, shops that offer you a drink while you shop for plants. Last year during the summer, I tried my hand at keeping a few plants alive- a mint, basil, a rehabbed lavender plant, a stubborn snake plant, 2 cacti, and 2 very dead succulents (why are they so hard)! My girlfriends and I frequently chat about plants and caring for them so I decided to share that with you all. 

It is alright to go to therapy for anything. A pivotal moment in your life, a major decision you are trying to work through, maybe just to chat.

While my first experience with therapy was not the ideal introduction, a very long story in the least and not on the fault of the therapist AT ALL. If anything she helped me navigate an event in my life where I was actively being gaslit and I am forever grateful because my story could have had a trajectory without her. The second time I went to therapy, I initiated using my job's EAP after a very rough break up- whew. While these sound like problems, issues, or pivotal moments in my life (and they were)- I'm here to tell you that it's ok to go to therapy for anything. 

Let's be real, 2020 and portions of 2021 came with levels of trauma that no one was expecting. Even if you came out relatively “unscathed”, it was still a wild ride. There was no playbook or plan. We were and probably still are doing what we could to keep our wits about us.