In this VERY personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my new relationship—three months in and already pulling back layers I thought I’d healed.

After 2.5 years of healing alone—separating from a past relationship, parenting, rebuilding, and reconnecting with my inner child—I was finally at a place of peace. Or so I thought.

Then love showed up. Not the fairytale kind. The real kind. The kind that gently (and sometimes not-so-gently) holds up a mirror to the wounds I was still carrying. My abandonment wounds. My people-pleaser. The voice that still whispers, “You’ll never be good enough. You are such a burden.”

This episode is vulnerable and full of reminders that God and the Universe send us the exact people and moments we need—not to break us, but to help us break open.

You’ll hear how I learned to stop projecting my pain, take ownership of my healing in real-time, and finally understand the difference between being a burden…and being a gift.

✨ You are not too much.

✨ You are not broken.

✨ You are worthy of love that sees the real you—and stays!

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Whether you're hoping to improve your marriage, deepen your self-awareness, or finally feel safe in love, this episode meets you right where you are. Inner Child Healer Tami Schiltz joins forces with psychotherapist, sex educator, and relationship coach Christie Bemis to unpack the real reasons relationships feel stuck—and how inner child work can unlock lasting connection, communication, and emotional safety.

You’ll learn how childhood patterns sneak into adult relationships, how to identify your adaptive child responses, and why being triggered is actually an invitation to heal—not a red flag.

We also break down Christie’s SPARCS relationship assessment tool (Safety, Play/Pleasure, Attunement, Realized Dreams, Communication, and Sex/Intimacy), and the 5 losing strategies that sabotage connection: withdrawal, retaliation, controlling, needing to be right, and unbridled self-expression.

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Erika and I first crossed paths at the gym, but our real connection came through shared soul work—intuition, signs, healing, and the drive to live life on purpose. In this episode, we dive into Erika’s journey from gym goals to soul goals, and how bodybuilding became a gateway to profound healing (inner child healing)!

Expect honesty, laughter, and spiritual realness as they break down self-prioritization, ego work, the mental health side of fitness, AND the behind-the-scenes of hosting a podcast (she’s the heart behind My Fit Tribe)! 

This conversation is a reminder that healing doesn’t have to look one way, and honoring your journey (and your body) is one of the bravest things you can do.

If this episode speaks to you, please DOWNLOAD, share, subscribe, or consider supporting the podcast so we can keep doing this work. Join the Tami Talks Patreon. 

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If you’re somewhere between breaking down and breaking through—this episode is for you!

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami sits down with her Bestie and Soul Sister, Brittany, to explore the raw, unfiltered journey of emotional growth, midlife transitions, and learning to love our mess. From a dietitian who needed to reset her own health to a counselor who realized she needed therapy, this episode dives into the heart of what it means to release guilt and shame around our stories. Together, Tami and Brittany unpack the emotional layers of midlife "crisis" (or awakening), the freedom in vulnerability, and how true healing begins when we stop trying to fix everything and start feeling everything.

They discuss how to process anger, redefine success, support other women without feeling like a burden, and hold space without becoming the “fixer.” The episode also explores spiritual signs, intuitive nudges, and the importance of safe spaces where hard conversations aren’t just normalized—they’re necessary.

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Whether you're deep in self-discovery, holding heavy emotions, or just trying to figure things out—this one's for you.

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Healing doesn’t show up in big, perfect moments — it’s in the small shifts we almost miss. This week, Tami shares 5 signs you're truly growing, how she prepared herself to feel ALL the feels after her divorce was finalized, plus the story of how a donkey sign, an accidental "ass moment," and her daughter's frustration turned into a real-life lesson in slowing down and repairing with love. 

Whether you're parenting, navigating relationships, or working on your own healing and growth, these non-scale victories show you're changing cycles for yourself — and for those around you.

If you've ever wondered, "Am I actually healing?" — this conversation is for you.

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What if disappointing others didn’t mean losing love?

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami explores the fear of disappointing others—and how it often stems from childhood experiences and a deep belief that love is conditional and can easily be taken away.

From childhood trauma to adult relationships, Tami explores how this fear often roots itself in the belief that disappointment equals a withdrawal of love. Through honest reflections and stories, she sheds light on how people-pleasing behaviors develop, how the ego tries to protect us, and why setting boundaries can feel so emotionally risky.

This episode is an invitation to reconnect with your inner child, speak your truth without guilt, and embrace the idea that disappointing others doesn't make you unlovable—it makes you human.

✨ Ready to explore where this fear might be showing up in your life?

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*Trigger Warning: There is mention of domestic abuse in this episode. 

Episode #58: In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I sit down with my dear friend Wendy C. Wilson—speaker, coach, and author of Iron Will—to talk about the long road from childhood trauma to deep healing, purpose, and emotional freedom.

Wendy shares how witnessing abuse as a child, walking on eggshells, and struggling with self-worth shaped everything from her relationships to how she showed up at work. We dive into how people-pleasing, silence, and survival mode can follow us into adulthood—and how healing those inner wounds changes everything.

This conversation is raw, real, and full of wisdom about breaking cycles, reclaiming your voice, and trusting the timing of your purpose. If you’ve ever felt like you’re still waiting for clarity, this one will hit home.

You can purchase Wendy's Book: Iron Will on Amazon

Wendy's Website: https://wendycwilson.com/

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Healing the past to expand the vision is at the heart of this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing. I sit down with Jaime and Kevin White—coaches, healers, and real-deal humans—who know what it’s like to walk through the fire (including a move to an entirely new country) and come out the other side with purpose and clarity.

We unpack the layers of human design, generational patterns, entrepreneurship, and the deeply rooted fear many women carry around being seen. This episode is a powerful reminder that you can’t play big carrying old pain—and that healing the past is often the key to expanding your vision for the future.

From the illusion of money to the freedom of surrender, this conversation invites you to release outdated programming, lean into your intuitive gifts, and finally trust the process—even when there's no proof, only faith. Healing is messy. Growth is sacred. And you’re not meant to do it alone!

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Have you ever caught yourself sabotaging a good thing—whether it’s a relationship, opportunity, weight loss efforts, gym streak, or personal success—without really knowing why?

You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my own experiences with self-sabotage and why we often push away the very things we desire. It’s not because we don’t want health, happiness, or wealth—it’s because if you have unhealed childhood wounds, your nervous system is still wired for chaos and control, not peace and safety.

*Trigger Warning for anyone who has experienced a miscarriage or loss of a child. I talk about it only regarding the lack of support women receive - and send anyone who has experienced either so much love and healing. 

This journey of healing is messy, ongoing, and beautifully unscripted—but the more we understand ourselves, the more we can step into the love, joy, and success we truly deserve.

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Join Tami and Stephanie Freiboth, Executive Career Coach, as they explore the deep connections between self-discovery, empowerment, and career growth through the lens of inner child work. 

This conversation delves into childhood trauma, self-worth, emotional resilience, and the power of supportive communities. Whether you're navigating a career transition, seeking balance, or working through personal growth, this episode offers insightful reflections and actionable takeaways to help you step into your full potential.

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