Tend Your Garden

First an apology, I didn't post last month because my laptop charger is broken so that's a whole ordeal to be honest. 

But! This episode marks the first of the mini-series, sex in the brain. And what better way to kick it off then to record an epidsode about celibacy. Celibacy has been a hugely important element of my sex life. I also reflect on some of the sensual healing I did during this time. 

Hello!! Happy June! Happy Pride! I couldn't not do a little pride episode! In this mini-sode I introduce a new topic I'll be exploring over the upcoming episodes. It's called sex in the brain and it looks at how the biggest sexual organ in our bodies is our brain! I also briefly gush over Heartstopper. Because it's too cute. 

Sophie, we miss you so much and we love you. You were a force of nature. Xxx

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HELLO!!! It's been 5 months since we last spoke. This is a little deep dive into why I took an unexpected 5 month break from podcasting. I'm in a new relationship, I had a breakdown, I'm in a band. We go on a whistlestop tour of what happened. Mostly I just missed you all, I missed talking about all this stuff. Season Two of TYG is going to be all about connections, romantic and/or sexual. If you'd like to come on and chat with me please do!

*Audio quality is a bit touch and go this week 

JESUS CHRIST I really made you wait for this one. I'm sorry, but being honest it just frightened the life out of me and I had to fully re-record it. Which truly fits in with the motif of this week, sometimes things take longer than expected and its ok and its important to be gentle with yourself. This is an incredibly heartfelt episode and if you are not ready for the 15 minute segment where I basically give you a pep talk on why having sex with anyone (including yourself) should be viewed as beautiful and meaningful this is not the episode for you. I tried to answer some of the most common questions people had and am open in a way about my journey with bisexual anxiety that feels very raw. I hope you enjoy xxx

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This was a hiiiighly requested episode and honestly a fascinating conversation amongst two Róisíns. Róisín Nolan, an incredible collagist, joins me to pop off about being constantly fucked zoned by the straight men in her life. And just to clarify we are not talking about honest, open communication we are talking about DM slides, late night booty calls and haunting your stories. Between the two of us we discuss how to navigate modern dating and why the sentiment 'ugh men' is hilarious but actually shames women's sexuality and shame has no place in a sexually liberated future.

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I know I say this every week but this episode is glorious. The one and only Sian Conway joins me to chat neurodivergency in the queer community, the mental health issues that come with not knowing you have ADHD, what exactly does it mean to be queer coded and Sian's very special place in my own bisexual awakening. I also throw in a little bisexual history for y'all. This epsiode is informative and chaotic like all the best things in life.

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This episode was everything I needed right now. Myself and the glorious Amy Clarkin sat down to chat about navigating dating with chronic conditions. As you all know I am NEWLY dating again so this felt like a cold glass of water on a hot day. Amy who is my first guest who was originally a fan of the podcast sent me some of her writing on the theme of sex, pleasure and chronic illnesses and it was so beautifully written it made me weep. We discuss friendship break-ups, advocating for your own needs and the power of thirst traps. Xxx

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TEND YOUR GARDEN TURNS TWENTY OOOOOONNNNNEEEEEE!! I can't believe we're here already. What a journey this has been. To celebrate we've got the incredible Eadie McCarthy on to discuss polyamory. She talks about how growing up on a new-age traveller site influenced her understanding of family, what she learnt through looking back on her old journals and some poly 101s. We chat about compulsive monogamy and how communication is key in any healthy relationship.

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This week the incredible Aoife Murray returns to chat about fake doms and why that term can help and harm the BDSM community, mental health and learning our limits. This conversation felt so necessary to talk about considering so many people are on their way to getting vaccinated and the chance for a frenzy seems hiiiiigh. Truly I've learnt so much from Aoife particularly regarding consent and navigating boundaries. Enjoy!