Thank You Heartbreak with Chelsea Leigh Trescott

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Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of Life Worth Living: A Practical & Compassionate Guide to Navigating Widowhood & Sole Parenting, Michelle Hoffmann joins Chelsea 5 minutes in to talk about finding what there is to honor in a traumatic and transitionary experience so grief can actually move you forward, the two primary reasons relationships are out of alignment, why seeking approval from someone outside your core value system is never going to garner authentic acceptance, and how to effectively navigate the three part process of every relationship from chemistry to casual to committed so you can go from lonely to love with confidence, competency, strength and orgasms.

Michelle Hoffman:

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Life Worth Living: A Practical Guide to Navigating Widowhood via Amazon

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Sasha Nicole, the creator of Fearless Nfluence, a curation of digital experiences and content about mental health, motherhood, love, food and more, champions overcoming obstacles by embracing one’s truth and identity fearlessly. She joins Chelsea 6:30 minutes in to talk about the heartbreak of invisibility, of being overlooked or made a joke of for being obese, and the power she's walking with as she lets go of who she used to be. She opens up about her weight loss journey, the grief of looking different but still expecting people to look at her the same, the trauma embedded in insults that are meant to isolate you, mental health and the stigma of anti-depressants, the scary and singular journey of postpartum depression, and yet the grace, compassion, and relatability that can become because when you've been exposed to the cruelty of a world that doesn’t try to understand you, you have every reason in the world to dare to be different.

Sasha Nicole:

Website: https://fearlessnfluence.com
Blog: https://fearlessnfluence.com/blog
eBook: From Detour to Destination: Your Ultimate Guide to Navigating Obstacles and Overcoming Fear
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealsashanicole
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fearlessnfluence
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/AmerikanTherapy
Podcast: Amerikan Therapy

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

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Fashion designer and young visionary Blair Christopher joins Chelsea to talk about all the things including the advantages of shaking every hand and cutting the chit-chat, seeing the world from both sides and multiple rungs on the ladder, getting sturdy and being unforgivingly oneself, West Elm Caleb, weeding out the weak and  regularly elevating your circle, owning our insecurities aloud and never settling, and how losing everything after the army and winding up in jail gave him the vision and conviction to go for everything because he no longer had anything to lose.

Blair Christopher:

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"My story was typical," Sex & Intimacy Coach Irene Fehr says describing her picture perfect marriage with her ex-husband. "We fell in love. Everything was wonderful in the beginning. We had amazing chemistry. We were the couple that everyone looked at and said, wow, we want to have what you’re having. It looked great from the outside but, on the inside, just by getting married, it didn’t make us experts in being married. It didn’t all of a sudden make us know each other and know how to make a relationship work, how to make love and sex work, how to negotiate, how to take care of each other’s emotional needs, how to even express our own emotional needs. So, the way I wasn’t living my own life was because I was performing. When it came to sex, what was I reading? I was reading Cosmo and the different tips and how a woman is supposed to be. I also grew up on shows like Friends who showed me you’re supposed to be nonchalant and easy about things. I couldn’t fathom this idea that I could actually ask a man to do something different. I was just on this receiving end of what came. Of course I felt powerless, like I wasn’t living my own life, because I had no agency."

Thus begins, Irene's rolling awakening from closed eyes to eyes wide open, from friction sex to connection sex. Together we discuss the need to know what we want in order to truly consent to anything in a deep way and how exactly it's possible to finish sex feeling more open, more confident, more relaxed, and filled up with pleasure rather than empty and wanting.

Irene Fehr:

Website: https://www.irenefehr.com
Blog: https://www.irenefehr.com/blog-and-writing
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ignitedwoman
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel
Email: https://www.irenefehr.com/contact

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In 2017, Cal-Rugby player Robert Paylor started the NCAA National Championship game as a sports star and left on a stretcher, a quadriplegic. His future was grim, his identity taken in an instant. Today he talks about death waiting for him to quit and the mission he’s on to walk again, the universal experience of paralysis, dark nights with his thoughts, and the staying power of accountability. He gets real about his hardest heartbreak — losing his identity,  the times he’d see himself in the mirror and feel pity, and the pride that he’s been able to reclaim through the experience of romantic love. 

Robert Paylor:

Website: https://www.robertpaylor.com
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-paylor
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Comedian, Podcast Host of Future Role Model, and CEO/Founder of My Breakup Registry, a community-driven platform that allows people to crowdfund their break-up or divorce and more, Natasha Pearl Hansen joins Chelsea 6 minutes in to talk about the choices leading up to calling off her wedding and deciding to record and self-produce her first comedy special titled “I Was Supposed To Get Married Today…” (Amazon Prime Video) at the venue instead, how dropping her ego and walking away from the “showy stuff” in the midst of heartbreak helped her figure out the most important question, what am I feeling?, and truly change, how her experience in therapy combined with being in a conscious relationship became a masterclass in knowing yourself, and what it feels like to learn, in your 30s, that the conversations you were having with partners in your 20s weren’t that deep after all.

Natasha Pearl Hansen

WEBSITE: https://www.nphcomedy.com
MY BREAKUP REGISTRY:
COMEDY SPECIAL via Apple:  "I Was Supposed To Get Married Today"
COMEDY SPECIAL via Amazon Prime Video: "I Was Supposed To Get Married Today"
PODCAST: Future Role Model
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/nphcomedy
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/NPHcomedy
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/nphcomedy
CLUBHOUSE: https://www.clubhouse.com/@nphcomedy

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"As adults, because we’ve experienced pain, a lot of what we go through in life is pain avoidance rather than truly living," Ruchika Lal, the Founder & CEO of Winked!, an app that aims to make adulting joyful, joins Chelsea 8 minutes in to advocate for embracing our inner child,  and with that our whole range of emotions, picking up the lesson and dropping the story, the opportunity in outgrowing ourselves, surrendering to helplessness rather than shunning it, and why the road to warriorhood is paved with feeling it all and letting transitions fill us with wonder.

To connect with Ruchika Lal:

Winked! via Instagram
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The Founder of MensGroup.com Sean Galla joins Chelsea 9:30 minutes in and, through his own experiences and the wisdom that came with, is able to nudge her toward a massive wake up call before she falls too deep. Topics touched upon within: the healing balm of approachability, preserving your identity within relationships by honoring personal boundaries, there are no shortcuts towards inner validation, the harmful effect of choosing partners and careers that require us to perform outside of our nature, the anxiety of trying to make everything work in your life so you don’t look like a failure, chasing activities in an effort to avoid feelings, setbacks forcing us to turn off, from Mr. Popular/one of Vancouver’s Most Eligible Bachelors to isolated and sick for four years, losing friends when they can no longer relate to you, filling the void by rushing a relationship, not having the self-worth to say I deserve better than this, patterns come from wounding, the power of pacing in new relationships, the classic avoidant hero complex is portraying yourself as the caretaker, underestimating the opportunity cost of being in a mediocre relationship, the call for consistency in intimacy and communication is not a liability, and so much more.

To connect with Sean, visit his:

Website: https://mensgroup.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/mensgroup
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seangalla
Free men's self-improvement community & online men's groups: https://mensgroup.com/groups

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Author of the memoir Available: A Memoir of Sex & Dating After a Marriage Ends, Laura Friedman Williams opens up about the loneliness of a stay-at-home mother, what her marriage—and life—looked like when she measured it by being happy enough, what it means to no longer be playing the supporting character in her own life, and the sexual liberation following her divorce that set her on a path of self-expression, self-enhancement, and self-sufficiency.

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Laura Friedman Williams

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurafriedmanwilliams
Twitter: https://twitter.com/laurafwinnyc
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laura.f.williams.90
Available: A Memoir of Sex & Dating After a Marriage Ends via Amazon

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“That’s literally what it is,” today’s guest recording artist Lil Sebby tells Chelsea 57:25 minutes in, "lazy loving. You’re not fully committed. You’re not ready to ride throughout the ups and downs. And there are going to be down times. It’s inevitable. It’s never just going to be perfect. But once it’s not as fun anymore, they dip. They just dip. Ghost culture.”

HIGHLIGHTS.

2:35 — I don’t even know if I should be comfortable being close to you. I’m just looking at you from a distance. You could have COVID. The trust for a common human being was gone.

5:11 — You know how people say, start before you’re ready? The next big shift I need to make is, start before I know. Start before knowing whether it is going to resonate or go in your favor.

10:15 — You should never stop because you're not making money. Money is just the cherry on top of the cake. The passion is the cake.

15:40 — Late in my twenties, I started to see that there was always something beautiful about everyone I looked at. I realized that most everyone we pass on the street has been loved before and I started to get curious about that. Someone has loved them, I wonder why.

21:30 — Depending on Adderall to give us a false sense of interest in our lives.

29:15 — Sometimes you don’t really connect or click with someone when you want to. You may see they have their own thing going on outside of you that comes into play. And it shows, it radiates off them. They aren’t ready for love and you don’t want to force that.

33:10 — I would never change who you are for nobody. Because when you’re changing who you are for somebody else, are you truly happy or are you trying to impress and having to hold back? Because, then, you’re in your head and that’s the worst place to be.

43:20  — Girls won’t even give dudes a shot these days.

59 — We don’t need fans. We need believers. We need partners who believe in us.

1:08:40 — I feel like if you want something, you can get there and get rejected but at least you tried and took the time to get there rather than not going to figure it out. You fail by not trying. You succeeded by trying. So, either way, you win. 

1:16:00 — I’m more litty than ever. We’re having a lit experience right now because we’re expressing ourselves. 

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Lil Sebby

Instagram: www.instagram.com/lils3bby
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/3Ez3l65SieOJV8bxp2qlWz
Twitter: https://twitter.com/lilsebby_

Chelsea Leigh Trescott

Website: www.breakupward.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak
Email: [email protected]
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