Before you can design the life you want, you have to get honest about the life you're living.

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In this episode of Living by Design, Rikki Lee walks you through the 9 areas every ambitious woman should assess before building her That Girl Blueprint—from your energy, time, relationships, and career to your finances, health, identity, and faith.

This isn't about deciding that your life isn't good enough. It's about gaining the clarity to understand what's working, what's draining you, what you've outgrown, and what is helping you grow.

Using the categories of joy, pain, and growth, you'll learn how to audit your current life and identify the areas that need more intention before you begin building new systems, signatures, and standards.

Because your dream life isn't built by accident. It starts with knowing where you are, getting clear on where you're going, and intentionally designing the bridge between the two.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to conduct a life audit without turning it into a list of everything you're doing “wrong”
• The 9 areas of your life you should assess
• How to identify what's bringing you joy, causing you pain, and contributing to your growth
• Why your calendar, relationships, environment, and finances are part of your life design

• Why clarity has to come before creating new goals, habits, and systems
• How your Life Audit becomes the foundation for building your That Girl Blueprint

Your That Girl Assignment: Download the free Life Audit Guide and take the time to honestly assess where you are before deciding where you're going.

You've done the inspiration part. You've got the vision board, the saved routines, the aesthetic bookmarked — and somehow your actual life hasn't moved. That's not a discipline problem. That's a missing infrastructure problem.

This episode introduces the That Girl Blueprint — the three-part framework every Living by Design episode builds from here forward.

You'll learn:

• What a "system" actually is, and why it doesn't have to be a beautifully color-coded Notion dashboard to work — the difference between a life that looks organized and one that actually runs
• How to find your "signature" — the specific, undeniably-you way you do things, instead of borrowing someone else's morning routine or someone else's definition of a good life
• Why "standards" are what protect everything you build — and the handful of places (your time, your money, your career, your relationships) yours probably need to show up first
• Why there's no single template for that girl's life, and why your blueprint is supposed to look nothing like anyone else's

By the end of this episode, you'll have the language for the framework driving this entire series, and a clear read on which piece— Systems, Signatures, or Standards—needs your attention first.

Your assignment before the next episode: ask yourself what your life looks like when no one else is watching. Write down the honest answer.

Listen next: Living by Design | How to Do a Life Audit, where we turn this framework into nine questions you can actually answer.

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Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Am I behind?”

Maybe you're not where you thought you'd be in your career. Maybe you're still waiting for the relationship, the financial breakthrough, the business, the home, or the next big opportunity you thought would have happened by now. And in a world where everyone else's milestones are constantly on display, it's easy to mistake someone else's progress for proof that you're falling behind.

But what if you're not behind at all? What if you're simply living a life that doesn't follow someone else's timeline?

In this episode of That Girl Radio, Rikki Lee explores why comparison can make us question our progress, rush our decisions, and lose sight of what we actually want. She unpacks the pressure ambitious women face to have their careers, relationships, finances, and lives figured out by a certain age—and why building a meaningful life requires you to stop measuring your journey against everyone else's.

You'll hear a deeper conversation about comparison, career and personal growth, life timelines, ambition, purpose, faith, and becoming the woman you're meant to be.

In this episode, Rikki talks about:

• Why feeling "behind" often starts with a timeline you never consciously chose
• How social media encourages us to compare our behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel
• Why someone else's milestone is not your deadline
• How to want more for your life without believing your current life isn't enough
• The difference between being delayed and being prepared
• How to recognize when you're making decisions from vision versus comparison
• Why your waiting season may be developing the skills, character, and capacity you'll need for what's next
• How to create a timeline for your life based on what you actually want—not what everyone else is doing

And most importantly, Rikki asks a different question:

Instead of “Why am I behind?” what if you asked, “What is this season asking me to become?”

Because your life isn't a race. There is no universal timeline for success, and you don't have to rush through your current chapter just because someone else is already living theirs.

Your timeline is allowed to look different. Your path is allowed to be nonlinear. And you are allowed to become at your own pace.

Your That Girl Assignment

Take a moment to write down where you currently feel behind. Then ask yourself: According to whom? From there, separate the expectations you've inherited from the life you genuinely want to build.

Because before you can stop comparing your life to everyone else's, you have to get clear on what your life is actually supposed to look like.

You are not behind. You're becoming.

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💌 Dear That Girl is a collection of short audio essays and letters written for the woman navigating every season of becoming. Whether you're waiting, healing, rebuilding, dreaming, or simply trying to find your way, each letter is an invitation to pause, reflect, and remember who you are.

In the second letter of Dear That Girl, “You’re Not Behind”, Rikki Lee speaks to the woman who has been looking around at everyone else's milestones and quietly wondering if she's falling behind. The career, the relationship, the money, the home, the dream, the timeline—you thought you'd be further along by now. But who told you there was a schedule in the first place? Together we’ll discuss releasing comparison, trusting God's timing, and learning to honor the season you're actually in instead of mourning the one you thought you'd have by now because your story isn't late. It's still being written.

Wherever this letter finds you, I hope it finds you well.

With love,

Rikki Lee

P.S. If this letter found you at just the right time, don't keep it to yourself. Share it with the woman who came to mind while you were listening.

Last week, Rikki Lee wrote you a letter.

In this episode of That Girl Radio, Rikki Lee goes deeper into the message behind Dear That Girl: Just Be and explores the difference between knowing yourself and creating an image of yourself. Because while there’s nothing wrong with developing your personal style, cultivating signatures, or intentionally designing the life you want, your aesthetic should be an expression of your identity—not a replacement for it.

This is a conversation about personal identity, self-knowledge, the pressure to be aspirational, and giving yourself permission to evolve. Rikki Lee explores why we can become so attached to the version of ourselves we’ve presented to the world that we forget we’re allowed to change, grow, explore, and become.

You’ll be invited to ask yourself: Who am I when nobody is watching? What do I actually like? What parts of my life are genuinely mine—and what parts have I chosen because I thought they would make me more admirable to someone else?

Because the goal was never to become the perfect aesthetic. It was to become more of you.

And as you build your dream life, develop your taste, and create your signatures, remember: you don't have to become a brand to become That Girl. You just have to become intentional about knowing, loving, and living as the woman God created you to be.

Your That Girl Assignment: Spend some time this week doing something you genuinely enjoy without documenting it, sharing it, or turning it into content. Just experience it. Then ask yourself: Who am I when nobody is watching?

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💌 Dear That Girl is a collection of short audio essays and letters written for the woman navigating every season of becoming. Whether you're waiting, healing, rebuilding, dreaming, or simply trying to find your way, each letter is an invitation to pause, reflect, and remember who you are.

In the very first letter of Dear That Girl, “Just Be”, Rikki Lee reflects on the quiet pressure women face to curate, perform, and package themselves into a "brand." In a world that rewards consistency and carefully crafted identities, this letter is an invitation to return to the person God created you to be before anyone else had expectations of you.

Wherever this letter finds you, I hope it finds you well.

With love,

Rikki Lee 💌

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Too many of us are trying to write the next chapter of our lives with a room full of voices.

Your parents have an opinion.
Your friends have a suggestion.
Social media has a blueprint.
Culture has expectations.
Fear has a script.

Before you know it, you've invited so many people into the writer's room that you can't hear the Author anymore.

In this episode of That Girl Radio, Rikki Lee explores the importance of clearing the room and making space for the One who wrote your story before you ever lived it. Because your greatest chapters won't be written by committee—they'll be co-authored with your Creator.

This isn't about isolating yourself or rejecting wise counsel. It's about discerning whose voice deserves influence over your vision. Not everyone gets a writing credit in the story God is telling through your life.

If you've ever found yourself second-guessing your calling, seeking validation before making a decision, or feeling overwhelmed by everyone else's expectations, this conversation is your invitation to clear the room and return to the vision God gave you.

In this episode, we'll discuss:

• Why too many opinions can cloud your purpose
• The difference between wise counsel and unnecessary commentary
• How to know when to protect a vision instead of announcing it
• Why comparison causes us to edit the story God is writing
• Creating space to hear God's voice with greater clarity
• What it looks like to co-author your next chapter with your Creator

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Some of the deepest wounds you'll ever carry are the ones no one else can see.

They don't show up in a cast or leave visible scars. Instead, they reveal themselves in the way you respond to conflict, how you love, what triggers you, and the stories you tell yourself about who you are.

The truth is, many of us are carrying invisible wounds without even realizing it—until life has a way of bringing them to the surface.

In this deeply personal episode of That Girl Radio, Rikki Lee shares a recent life-changing experience that forced her to confront pain she could no longer ignore. Through honest reflection, she explores what it means to acknowledge your hurt, grieve the version of yourself you once knew, and trust that God's restoration isn't about returning you to who you were before—it's about transforming you into who you're meant to become.

Because healing doesn't begin when the pain disappears.

It begins the moment you're honest enough to say, "I'm hurting."

Whether you're navigating heartbreak, grief, disappointment, trauma, or simply feeling like life has changed you, this episode is a reminder that your wounds do not define your worth, your story isn't over, and God is still in the business of restoration and transformation.

Today's episode is dedicated to my baby sister, Royalty Hearn.

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What if the hardest season of your life isn't who you are, it's simply where you are?

It's easy to let a season become your identity. We begin introducing ourselves by our circumstances instead of by who God says we are.

"I'm unemployed."
"I'm single."
"I'm behind."
"I'm grieving."
"I'm stuck."

But what if those aren't identities? What if they're simply chapters?

In this episode of That Girl Radio, Rikki Lee explores the difference between your season and your identity, why we so often confuse the two, and how to stop allowing temporary circumstances to define your reality.

Whether you're navigating heartbreak, career uncertainty, financial challenges, waiting on answered prayers, or simply feeling like life isn't unfolding according to plan, this episode is a reminder that seasons change, and although they may shape you, they should never define you.

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Stepping into a new season can make you feel like the smallest fish in the pond. The new job. The new city. The new business. The new room where everyone seems more experienced, more connected, or more accomplished than you.

But what if you've been looking at it all wrong?

In this episode of That Girl Radio, Rikki Lee challenges the idea that being the "little fish" is something to fear. Instead, she explores how every uncomfortable season, every setback, and every challenge is preparing you for something much bigger than the pond you're currently swimming in.

Because little fish don't stay little forever.

The pressure, the uncertainty, the lessons, and even the failures are building your fins—strengthening your character, increasing your capacity, and preparing you to thrive in an ocean God has already called you to.

If you've been questioning whether you're qualified, capable, or even in the right room, this episode is your reminder that growth isn't meant to feel comfortable.

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