"Raising Strong Willed Fighters will Make You one Too"

Sharing on my personal power struggles and how this can feel isolating - especially with the "perfect child" highlight reel on social media

Before talking strategy, try on perspective of active empathy to really identify with how they feel and why there is a struggle happening in the first place.

Truths..
-No one likes to be told what to do- not children or adults
-Deep desire there for independence and to be in charge- this is a GOOD thing
-They have a strong need to be right... which I can totally relate to ;)

Two Strategies for Mom Life with Spirited Ones

1. Surrender with Empathy
   In addition to the points above, pay attention to slowing down to put yourself in their shoes. Soften and relax your own need for control when you can. This alone will surprise you as we often are engaging in the power struggle just as much as they are.

    

2. Renew your body, mind and spirit OFTEN
   Circle ad star this point. Truth is we cannot control anyone else - not our kids or ANYONE. We can control our reaction. And we can choose to respond instead of react.

    

Nourish you body with self care, food and movement to encourage renewal of your mind. Renew your mind with positive INPUT. Lighten up and laugh not accepting the attempts to engage with confrontation.

Renewal of surrendering your child to spirit, god or your creator - acknowledge in quiet mindful moment that you are challenged and although you are grateful for these beings it is ALOT. Pray for their highest good and support to guide them.

Last and most importantly... you are your child's guide... not their hero.

As I heard from one of my amazing coaches Jackie Paige this weekend, "You can not be the Hero in someone else's story"

Yes, this includes our own children's story.

References:
www.ahaparenting.com/

Checking in from my heart on our inner critic and how that voice of "not enough" can creep in. Even more challenging to see this to see our children experience this feeling. When does being hard on yourself creep in?

Sharing on a "miracle moment" of connection that brought profound healing and sense of wonder to my life.

After playing a small part in connecting mother in law with the now grown woman she gave up for adoption in the 1960's, and witnessing their opportunity for closure I have a renewed belief in life happening for us not to us.

Life is not simple nor black and white but it is happening for us to become who we are meant to be- Tony Robbins

This once in a lifetime event made me stop in my tracks and ponder the unlimitedness of all of connection.

Reminder of "oneness" and that all disagreements, conflict, that we are separate are false.

What a time to be alive and present for healing.

And an update on a return of LIVE essential oil education classes!

New more interactive format- less me talking ;)more hands on!

Check the events tab on my website for details.

Choosing to OWN our time is a bold and rare move.

Instead of allowing everyone else's needs to dictate where we spend our time and energy, choosing to set aside space for us to grow into the person of greatness we desire deep down inside.

Inspired by Rachel Hollis, Girl, Stop Apologizing accept that WE are in control of our schedule and what we allow to occupy our time.

Will we hold ourselves accountable to documented HOW we are spending our time for an entire week to see where we are leaking energy with distractions of perceived comfort. Such as scrolling or netflixing.

Then we are truly able to see the full picture of where there is an hour that can be carved out for personal goals and growth.

It's time to be honest with ourselves about our time leaks. What are we willing to give up in order to realize the greatest vision of own lives for US.

Are you ready to trade comfort for growth?

Need support with your own time and energy management? We might be a good fit for coaching program. You’ll identify your time “blocks” and learn to dance with time while being present with the most important people in your life.

Our time is a fixed asset- can’t make more of it. Our energy is a controllable variable that can be tended to and support our efforts.

How to dance with our time and energy given the unpredictability of a Mom Life? That is the question… distractions are guaranteed.

Good news! We can all become focused and clear with our time. Is it time for a new approach?

Start with a brief assessment of your individual experience of time.

What does your experience of time feel like? Spacious, freeing or more constricted, stuck in cycle of unproductivity?

Get clear on the “must do’s” FIRST. Calendar them to reveal what actual time you do have to play with and embrace.

Self care is a NON-negotiable. I have learned this lesson the hard way. Pushing through and working to depletion does not move your goals or growth further than taking rest breaks.

This is especially important for women and hormonal balance.

Approach time management from a perspective of honoring energy management. When do you naturally have most energy in the day? What circumstances promote the most high quality energy for your body and mind? Identify energy leaks and learn the power of saying no.

Break free of the epidemic of “busy” and feel into thinking of your life as FULL!

Need support with your own time and energy management? We might be a good fit for coaching program. You’ll identify your time “blocks” and learn to dance with time while being present with the most important people in your life.

Learning to trust your gut is a SUPER power.   Leaning into a knowing or a message repeatedly showing up is inner wisdom that helps us navigate  the multitude of decisions and action we take on our child's behalf.   Scientific evidence shows our children's DNA is actually present in our mom brains long after delivering them into the world!   Types of maternal intuition that we use automatically with our children:
Problem Solving / Social / Creative / Moral   How to strengthen our intuitive muscle and learn to trust our gut instincts:
1. Awareness of gut/brain connection to our health and feeling clear headed
2. Deep Belly Breathing to calm the "thinking" mind
3. Activate our Bodies through movement or exercise
4. Get Still. It's difficult to pour intuition into a moving object
5. Be open to repeating messages or themes   "There is a voice that doesn't use words. Listen"
-Anonymous

A topic inspired by the classic book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.

Based on the simple premise that giving and receiving love in one of 5 categories: Gift Giving, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time or Physical Touch will meet our emotional needs to feel loved.

Decoding the love languages of your children will give you an advantage in meeting their needs and improve the emotional climate of the relationship.

We cover each love language qualities and offer specific suggestions on how to speak that language with your child that fills their emotional love tank.

To take the love language quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

The 5 love languages of Children: Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

The Wilbarger Protocol (Brushing Therapy) for Sensory Integration

In the spirit of Valentines day week, discussion on importance of opening your heart to fully give and receive healing love.

What it means to have an open heart? What it looks like?
And why it matters especially as a mom.

Practical tips on attuning to the POWER of the vibration of love.

How energy blockages impact our emotional and physical state of being.

Why we close down and armor up?

What to do about it?

The simple practices to release tension around our heart and create more receptivity in our lives and relationships
Gratitude practices, Yin yoga, Energy Healing & Heart Opening Practices

Heart Centered Oil Support package: 
Rose touch, Bergamot and Breathe
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2/4 Podcast Show Notes
Love & Logic: Parenting 201

An area of opportunity for growth in my life is parenting skills . I have found the love & logic approach to be of great value especially with strong willed kids that defy basic parenting 101 strategies.

I am happily giving all the cliff notes on today's podcast, to serve another mom like me who is looking for strategies to help things go smoother at home.

As women, we are natural creators and we do need other women to help us visualize possibilities!

Love and Logic, starts with a foundation of empathy for the child who has made a mistake and delivers natural consequences in a grounded manner.

This parenting style challenges us to rise above the old tired programming that punishment is the only way to teach a child. A person that learns to own their problem teaches logical consequence as mirrored in the "real" world.

It's finding this "middle path" with parenting- as a coach rather a helicopter or dictator that fosters connection and reduces tension.

I would love to support you with 1:1 Coaching.  You can find more about that @ www.reneenovello.com/coaching

Creative Health Solutions Inc
http://www.creativehealthllc.com

Positive Parenting Solutions-
www.loveandlogic.com/‎

I can't remember a time when I didn't feel low level anxiety and in more recent years even full blown panic attacks. It seems we are all feeling it on some level in this modern world even our children.

Well, nothing motivates me more than to shine a light on a situation that can potentially help someone transform and heal.

So hear is the good news about anxiety..

with a positive approach and adapting calming inducing habits like using doTERRA essential oils, yoga and pleasurable daily practices we can literally tip the scales.

Start with incorporating just ONE change. Keep it simple and FEEL good inducing.

Consciously choosing to s l o w with intention and attention down also yields massive benefits. There are SO many ways to creatively activate the bodies natural ability to rest, digest and heal.

Do you have a story to share? Is there something you've heard on the podcast that inspired you?

I WOULD love to hear from you.

Peace,

Renee

I would love to support you with 1:1 Coaching.  You can find more about that @ www.reneenovelo.com/coaching

Resources: 
Essential Oils Impact -"The Oil Effect" Study
https://www.roseman.edu/2018/10/03/roseman-university-researchers-study-doterra-essential-oils/

Meditones - Binaural Music
https://www.sonesence.com/

Positive Parenting Solutions-
www.loveandlogic.com/‎

 

Talking about her experience with having ADHD the benefits and the struggles

The challenge of mom life with all of the millions of decisions, outside noise and judgements from well meaning people and importance of listening to your own intuition.

Nurturing our children as powerful individuals and how learning to meet their needs stretches us as people.

Keeping an open heart when it is challenging and importance of checking in with ourselves to cultivate presence.

Taking chances and trusting “unreasonable” solutions when you need to.

What ADHD looks like in girls? The differences between hyperactivity and inattentive ADHD and why girls are more prone to silently suffer.

The additional impacts of low self esteem and mood disorders. How I have supported my child naturally with these challenges.