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Do NOT treat others the way YOU desire to be treated.

In general instances where your preferences “just so happen” to match you’ll be spot on.

However with the reality of living in a world of different preferences  you’ll inevitably be unintentionally assuming and unknowingly dismissive  to what other desire even before putting the principle into action.

In my opinion the more appropriate mantra should be.....

“Treat others the way THEY desire to be treated so long as it doesn’t jeopardize your morals and values”.

This way you can be respectful, sensitive and mindful of others desires while maintaining your personal values.

Everyone wins.

Aaron Hill

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R.A.I.N is a handy way to explore any sensation, thought or emotion.

- Recognize

1. This practice boosts your emotional literacy. You become curious of  an emotional reaction as opposed to being lost inside of the  emotion/experience.

2. You'll notice fewer negative emotions in general because of the regular practice of observing emotional habits.

• Sometimes meditation can open "Pandora's Box" exposing various  subconscious feelings, emotions and habits you were previously not aware  of.

• Recognize (without judgment) the emotions you are currently experiencing in the moment.

• Accept. Whatever the emotional sensation allow it to be, open up to  it and even care for it. Instead of suppressing it simply allow yourself  to feel and be with it. In this you are integrating your emotions with  your cognition. Marrying what we feel with what we know.

•  Acceptance is the most important practices for humanity. (imho) It's  also known by synonyms such as equanimity, forgiveness, maturity, love,  being present etc.

• Investigating is expanding and deepening the  volume of what we're accepting by getting interested in what we're  feeling and working at a pace that is acceptable for us.

• Be objective.....but friendly with yourself while investigating.

• The way to change a habit is by working to create a new habit. Not by  trying to abruptly stop a habit. There is a subtle, nuanced difference  to this approach but the effects are monumental.

•  Non-identification is the attitude of not taking your emotions  personally. Say ________ is happening similar to saying "A thunderstorm  is happening" Making this "room" or "wedge" allows for you to observe  the emotions, sensations or thoughts without becoming the emotion,  sensation or thought.

• Periodically come back to your "home  base" (breath, being with the body etc.) during this mindfulness process  and practice to practice settling in, detaching, having self compassion  and overall....relaxing.

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• It's normal to feel guilt for putting aside time to practice. The  mind can wander thinking about all the things you "could" or "should" be  doing.

• If you're a very busy person you can face "burn out" by  not setting aside the time or putting your self care as a priority. In  order to continue to put time into other people, activities and daily  responsibilities you must make time for yourself, your mental clarity and physical well being.

• Equinimity (mental calmness, composure, evenness of temper) is  achieved by making self care a priority. Remember, you can't be there  for others until you are there for yourself first. This is a good place  to be selfish.

• Whatever you fight you ignite and whatever you  resist persists. Be gentle with yourself in meditation and take it one  focused moment at a time.

• Self Compassion is the most important  medicine in the world that's needed whether you're feeling fine or not.  In extending it to yourself regularly you're practicing "preventative  self care"

• Acceptance vs. judgement is key as you feel the range of emotions, thoughts and sensations while practicing meditation.

• Using a phrase like "May I be well", "It's Ok", "Feel better" etc.  periodically while breathing can help with inducing mindfulness,  compassion and acceptance. You can also make up any personal phrase that  works for you.

• Using imagery can also assist with this process.

• Thinking of others while extending compassion, well wishes and  intentions of positivity adds to your personal experience of  mindfulness, relaxation and happiness.

• Don't forget to thank yourself and extend a few moments of gratitude for taking the time to devote to your self care.

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• Meditation is starting to become more and more socially acceptable  abroad among people with various belief systems, religions and spiritual  paths.

• Pattern noticing/investigation is how we become less and less pulled away by the natural distractions.

• Your breath is always your home base to come back to whenever you're mind starts to wander.

• If focusing on breathing bothers you use the sensations of the body  or even some other sound to focus on. Meditative music is a good source.

• Make a mental note of the direction your mind goes when being  distracted, make a mental note of that then refocus on the breath.

• Use gentle non-judgemental curiosity to explore your distractions. This is mindfulness.

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