The Academy of Self Love

On this week's episode, we talk about financial health and how it is an essential part of self love, self care and self worth with the amazing Petra Remy. Petra is a senior wealth manager who is all about socially conscious investing and supporting women to achieve financial independence. With over 30 years experience and being the person I go to for financial advice, I thought she would be the perfect person to dive into the correlation between self love and the financial world. If you are new to financial literacy or are curious how your financial health is a part of self love, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

- What is financial literacy and health?

- Who actually needs to be financially literate?

- Why financial education is self care and so important?

- Why do so many people not understand finance?

- Why financial health is a crucial part of self care and development?

- How people can start developing this part of their self care practice (how to get started)?

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On this week's episode, we talk about Apathy vs. Empathy and how they can both be good and bad, positive and negative. On this episode I dive into the importance of empathy and apathy in our everyday lives and how caring or not caring can become toxic. The episode goes into why apathy is seen as such a negative trait and how empathy such a good one, yet they both have their proper place in our lives. If you have ever struggled with caring too much or too little, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

- When does caring become toxic and unhealthy?

- How apathy and empathy can be a positive and negative force in our lives?

- What is healthy empathy? How much should someone care about something?

- What is healthy apathy? When should we not care about something?

- Why is apathy seen as an inherently bad trait and empathy as a good one?

- My experience of empathy becoming toxic in social movements

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On this week's episode, we talk about how we only have one personality but so many sides of that personality deserve to be expressed. On this episode I dive into the importance of figuring out all the different aspects of your personality and learning to accept and love them. The episode goes into how to become crystal clear on who you are and what actions you need to take to feel fully expressed and live life fully as your authentic character. If you want to feel like you are fully expressing all the different parts that make you shine, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

- Why many people feel they have conflicting parts of their personality?

- How to become clear on who you are and the parts that make up your personality?

- What to do if you feel a lack of self expression in your life?

- What is The Personality Break Down exercise?

- How to channel different parts of you to use in different social situations?

- Why understanding and having acceptance for yourself will lead to self love?

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On this week's episode, we talk about all things mindfulness and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). On this episode I dive into the importance of being a mindful person and how mindfulness practices in DBT have helped people with mild to severe mental health issues and can be used as a way to create more self compassion for oneself. The episode goes into how mindfulness is used in modern psychology and how you can practice mindfulness in every aspect of your life. If you want to be a more mindful person and add more tools to your mental toolbox to become a more present person, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

- What is mindfulness?

- What is dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT)?

- What does mindfulness have to do with DBT?

- What are the 4 main strategies behind DBT?

- How to be a more mindful person?

- How to practice mindfulness?

- My personal experience with mindfulness, DBT and how it lead me to be able to meditate

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On this week's episode, we talk about the 5 main love languages and how they can transform your relationships. On this episode I dive into my experiences with learning my own and family members love languages and how that changed my relationships for the better and allowed me to feel truly loved by understanding how others love me. The episode goes into how different love languages don't separate us, but actually bring us closer by allowing us to understand our needs for ourselves and from others and how to communicate our love styles to others in our life. The Golden Rule is apparent in cultures all over the rule but this episode challenges the Golden Rule with the Platinum Rule. We should learn to not just treat people the way we would want to be treated but how THEY want to be treated.

This episode covers:

- What are the 5 main love languages?

- Who came up with the concept of love languages and the 5 main ones we discuss in modern psychology? 

- Why is it important to understand our love languages and the love styles of people around us?

- How to improve your relationships through love languages?

- What to do when you have contrasting love languages to the people you love?

- My personal experience of love languages repairing and healing relationships

- Many examples of ways to express your love languages or honour your love ones love styles

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The Love Language Quiz

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On this week's episode, we talk with Jill Rose from Jill Rose Coaching about rest, recuperation and resourcing and why it is such an important topic around self care, self worth and your overall health. On this episode we dive into our experiences or client's experiences with burnout, how to avoid it and what to do if you are burnt out already. The episode goes into how to keep up your energy and not just use sleep as a way to rest. We also talk about the importance of sleep and have some interesting sleep facts that will have you prioritizing rest from now on.

This episode covers:

- Why rest and resourcing is essential to a healthy counter balanced life?

- What happens to our bodies and mind when we slack on all forms of rest and sleep?

- What does having a healthy relationship to rest look like?

- What actually is a burnout, how can we avoid it and what to do if you are burnt out?

- What is resourcing and how you can utilize this practice to never run out of energy or feel drained?

- Many examples of good resting and resourcing practices you can adopt into your life

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On this week's episode, we talk more about owning who you are and being radically honest with ourselves about who we are not. On this episode we dive into how the easiest part of owning who we are is accepting the lighter sides of us, but in this episode we go into how to embrace the darker sides of us. The episode goes into how owning who you are completely is looking at the parts of us that are hard to accept and facing our fears, doubts and insecurities around them face on. Only when we face the darker sides of us, the hidden sides of us and bring them to the light, show them compassion and find true acceptance for them, will we be able to have authentic confidence and fully own who we are.

This episode covers:

- Owning who you are is not just accepting the easy or light stuff

- Why facing your shadows and darker parts can bring light to them

- How owning who you are might push people not meant for you away

- How to let yourself be your true authentic self even if it's a new pursuit for you

- How your desires are not shameful and they can lead you to the deepest connection with yourself and others

- How connecting and having compassion for both the light and the darkness to us is the key to truly owning who we are inside and out

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On this week's episode, we talk about owning who you are, who you are not and who you will or want to become. On this episode we dive into how to own who you are and why it is so important to understand who you are and who you are not. The episode goes into why learning this information about yourself and owning the good, the bad and the ugly is a sure way to create confidence, high self esteem and personal success in your life.

This episode covers:

- What does it mean to own who you are?

- Why you should learn who you are and who you are not?

- How owning your authentic self is a big factor in succeeding in anything you do

- How to learn who you truly are?

- How honesty with yourself will allow you to focus on what you are naturally good at

- What sort of ability do we have to create our present and future self?

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On this week's episode, we talk about all things codependency with my beautiful friend and coach Anouk Hajage. Anouk is a sex, love and relationship coach, and on our episode we dive into how people become codependent and how to heal yourself and your relationship from it if you are dealing with codependency. The episode goes into ways to tell if your relationship has a healthy level of dependency and independence and how to really work within your attachment styles to create a deep level of safety, support, love and compassion for yourself and your partner.

This episode covers:

- What is codependency?

- How and why do people become codependent?

- How to figure out if you or your partner are codependent?

- How to heal from codependency?

- How to work within your attachment style to develop deep clarity, understanding, safety and support with your partner

- Healthy boundaries to set up for yourself and your relationship to keep you both happy

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Resources from the Episode:

The Attachment Style Quiz

Getting The Love You Want Revised Edition: A Guide for Couples 

From Harville Hendrix (Book)

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain Can Help You Defuse Conflicts and Spark Intimacy

From Stan Tatkin (Book)

On this week's episode, we talk about taking leaps of faith with my dear friend Sam Hawkins. This week's episode dives into why taking positive and calculated risks is a huge factor in going after your dreams and learning to trust yourself fully. The episode goes into our small and big experiences of taking leaps of faith and how taking risks has challenged us and allowed us to grow exponentially. If you want to know what it takes to jump out of your comfort zone and into what you desire most, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

- What is a leap of faith?

- What are some of our first and biggest leaps of faith?

- Why taking positive risks in important?

- How to motivate yourself to take a leap of faith?

- Some of the challenges of calculated risk taking

- The reported satisfaction of people who take risks in life and those who don't

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