The Adults' Table

You are not for everybody, and that’s the best news of your life. In this episode, we dive into the freedom that comes when you finally stop chasing universal approval and start showing up as who you really are.

Most of us confuse connection with validation. We’re so afraid of rejection that we shapeshift, hoping to be accepted by everyone. But validation without authenticity is fragile, it crumbles the moment you change context. Authenticity, on the other hand, creates stability and attracts the right people, the ones who actually see you.

As we close out Season 1 of The Adults’ Table, I reflect on what this season has taught me, the power of starting, and what’s coming next for Season 2.

If you’ve ever felt torn between fitting in and being yourself, this episode is your reminder: you’re not for everybody, and that’s exactly what makes you magnetic to the right people.

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Do you really hate socializing—or do you just hate certain kinds of socializing? In this episode of The Adult’s Table, I unpack my love/hate relationship with being around people.

As someone who often feels pressure to “be more social,” I share what it’s like to navigate friendships, connection, and introversion as an adult, especially after moving countries and hitting my 30s.

We’ll talk about why socializing feels draining sometimes, how to tell the difference between not liking people vs. not liking certain settings, and how to redefine what friendship and connection look like for you. If you’ve ever thought “I hate socializing” (or felt guilty for not wanting to go out), this conversation is for you.

✨ If you’re introverted, I want to hear your perspective. If you’re extroverted, help us understand your side too. Leave a comment with your experience – I’d love to know how you navigate socializing.

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We all say we want to “be authentic,” but do we even know what that means? In this episode of The Adults’ Table, I dig into the real meaning of authenticity – beyond the Instagram quotes and overused buzzwords.

We’ll talk about why showing up as your true self is so difficult, how personas and validation shape who we think we are, and why belonging often clashes with authenticity.

You’ll hear about the shadow side of your personality, the friction you’ll face from family and friends, and why being authentic can sometimes feel selfish (but isn’t).

If you’ve ever felt torn between being accepted and being yourself, this conversation is for you.

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In this episode, we dive deep into the real meaning of discipline and why it’s the key to true freedom, especially if you don’t consider yourself naturally disciplined or full of willpower.

We break down the myths around discipline, showing it’s not about punishment or living a strict, joyless life. Instead, discipline is about self-respect, honoring your commitments, and taking responsibility for your own growth.

Whether you’re struggling to stick to your goals, tired of feeling like a victim of your circumstances, or just want to level up your consistency, this conversation is for you.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why discipline is an act of self-love, not self-punishment
• The difference between making a choice and making a decision
• How to identify what you truly value (and why that matters)
• The role of rituals, routines, and planning in building discipline
• How to overcome decision fatigue and set realistic expectations
• The importance of adaptability and self-awareness in staying consistent
• Why you need to stop negotiating with yourself and start honoring your commitments

We’ll also discuss insights from James Clear’s “Atomic Habits,” Steven Pressfield’s “The War of Art,” and practical tips for organizing your life, even if you’re not naturally organized.

If you’re ready to stop making excuses, take ownership of your life, and finally build the discipline you need to achieve your goals, pull up a chair and join the conversation.

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You are creative. Even if you’ve convinced yourself otherwise. In this episode, I’m breaking down why creativity isn’t just for “artists” or “geniuses” — it’s a force that lives in all of us.

I share why so many of us stopped believing we were creative, how resistance shows up to block our ideas, and why we confuse creativity with inspiration, artistic talent, or being disruptive.

Then, I’ll walk you through what creativity really is, and how you can start inviting it back into your life – whether that’s at work, in your art, or just in the way you solve everyday problems.

If you’ve ever said “I’m just not a creative person,” this conversation is for you.

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Feeling like you don’t know who you are anymore?

If life feels unfamiliar, if you’re questioning your path, your choices, or even yourself – you might be in an identity crisis. And that’s exactly what we’re unpacking in today’s episode of The Adults’ Table.

We’ll explore:

• What identity really is: fixed, fluid, or flexible?
• Why identity crises happen
• How big life shifts can shake your sense of self
• Why life isn’t a straight line but a spiral that asks us to redefine who we are again and again.
• The tools and practices that are helping me navigate my own quarter-life crisis – from comfort and discomfort, to awareness, journaling, and talking it out.

Whether you’re 16 or 60, you’re not alone in this. Identity crises are part of our developmental process, and embracing them can actually expand our consciousness and bring us closer to who we truly are.

So, come have a seat at The Adults’ Table, and let’s talk about what it really means to answer the question: “Who am I?”

You can’t have it all at the same time, but you can have what matters. In this episode, I’m breaking down the myth that happiness means having every area of your life at its peak all at once – and replacing it with something more realistic: focus on what you truly value.

But first, you have to know what that is… and be willing to accept the consequences of choosing it.

What we’ll talk about:

• Coming to terms with the fact that time and energy are limited resources

• How to figure out what your true priorities are

• Owning your priorities, and the consequences of choosing them

• Aligning your actions with what actually matters

• Re-thinking what you say yes (and no) to

We often romanticize relationships so much that we lose touch with reality. In this episode, I share 20 honest truths about love: the beautiful, the difficult, and the ones no one talks about.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, these insights will help you see relationships more clearly and build something that lasts. We’ll cover:

• ​Why most of us don’t actually want a relationship (we want something we think it will give us)
• ​The difference between the partner you say you want vs. the one you actually choose
• ​How subconscious “agreements” shape your relationship dynamics
• ​Why healthy relationships can feel harder than toxic ones at first
• ​The role of friction in growth
• ​The real shift that happens when your partner becomes your family

Come have a seat at The Adults’ Table, and let’s get real about relationships!

Chapters

02:55 Do You Really Want a Relationship?

11:51 A Relationship Is Between 4 People

19:11 Adjusting to a Healthy Relationship

21:39 Independence and Making Space for a Partner

28:34 Why Disagreements Can Be Healthy

31:41 Love as a Conscious Choice

33:38 When Your Partner Becomes Your Family

38:57 Growing in Love Over Time

40:36 Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness

Whether you live abroad, dream of it, or love someone who does – this episode is for you.

In our first roundtable, I sit down with Glauci Fernandes and Nathália Santos Lohmann, two brilliant women who’ve built international careers and have been living abroad for over a decade.

We talk about the highs, the hard parts, and what it really takes to build a life that feels like your own, even far from home

00:00 Introduction to the Guests

05:29 Planning vs. Spontaneity in Moving Abroad

13:45 The Emotional Challenges of Living Abroad

30:33 Raising Children in a Foreign Land

37:04 Cultural Barriers and Family Dynamics

38:14 Raising Bilingual Children

40:07 Maintaining Connections with Family Abroad

44:01 Building Friendships in a New Country

51:24 Humbling Experiences of Living Abroad

58:01 Navigating Language and Accent Challenges

01:10:07 Final Thoughts and Advice for Living Abroad

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Join us at The Adults' Table for a captivating conversation with Edmar Ferreira – a tech entrepreneur, investor, and co-founder of Coeus Ventures, a cutting edge Venture Studio dedicated to creating AI-driven companies.

In this episode, Edmar explores the future of AI, the inherent paradoxes in technological progress, and the ethical questions that arise as we advance.

05:12 You are not special, but you can still create

22:30 Personal career insights

31:34 The Limits of Technology and Society

33:03 The Evolution of Human Challenges

34:28 The Impact of Intelligence and Technology

42:19 The Role of Struggle in Human Growth

48:56 The Potential and Risks of AI

52:08 The Future of Education with AI

55:33 Concerns About Power Concentration

01:00:55 Final Thoughts and Advice in the era of AI

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