Sometimes the biggest thing standing between us and what we want… is us.

Not because we don’t care, or aren’t capable, but because fear and self-protection run deeper than we realize.

In this episode, we explore the quiet, often unnoticed ways we get in our own way.

From perfectionism and procrastination to over-planning and fear of success, I break down how self-sabotage works – and how to catch it with curiosity instead of judgment.

We'll talk about:

1. ​Why we sabotage ourselves
2. ​The fear of success and what it actually means
3. ​8 unconscious ways you might be self sabotaging right now

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From short bobs to lip fillers to “that girl” aesthetics, beauty can feel like nothing more than the ability to conform to what’s considered desirable. In this episode, I offer a different perspective: what if real beauty is the enjoyment of being who you are, without naively dismissing the role of external appearance?

I talk about how true beauty comes from awareness and self-confidence, and how to build both.

We’ll cover:

• The real reason we all want to look alike

• What separates magnetic people from the merely pretty

• Why honoring your word to yourself is the most underrated glow-up

• How to stop outsourcing your worth to strangers online

We’ve been sold the dream: Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life. But is that true?

In this episode, I get honest about how chasing your “passion” can sometimes be a trap. We’ll talk about the difference between a job, a career, a hobby, and a vocation, and how fulfillment can show up in surprising ways.

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Elizabeth Gilbert on Distinguishing Between Hobbies, Jobs, Careers, & Vocation:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0g7ARarFNnw

So Good They Can't Ignore You - Book: https://amzn.to/4kbZYRQ

We lose so much in life by avoiding the amateur phase. In this episode, I dive into our collective fear of being seen as inexperienced or not good enough, and how that fear stops us from becoming who we want to be. 

From childhood praise to social media pressure, we explore how self-image is formed and how deeply it affects the risks we’re willing to take. 

If you’ve ever held back on a dream or a hobby because you didn’t want to look “clownish,” this conversation is for you.

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Bad Bunny isn’t just topping charts. He’s reshaping how we see Latin identity, masculinity, and giving voice to multiple generations.

In this episode, I share my take on how Bad Bunny has been constructed as an artist, why his work resonates so deeply, and the layers behind his most recent album, Debí Tirar Más Fotos.

Part cultural analysis, part personal reflection, this is a conversation around culture and authenticity.

00:00 Intro

4:59 Who Is Bad Bunny?

7:42 Relatability & Projection: How People Become Famous

10:20 Why Is Bad Bunny So Famous?

17:20 The Cultural Context When Bad Bunny Became Famous

21:39 The Relationship Between The US and PR

28:00 Living Abroad and The Search For Identity

40:44 Analyzing Debí Tirar Más Fotos

44:22 The People Behind Debí Tirar Más Fotos

48:30 Visual Storytelling: El Club, Pitorro de Coco, DTMF Short Film

52:50 The Symbols Behind DTMF

01:00:29 Fashion & Marketing

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In this heartfelt and empowering conversation, I sit down with my friend Glauci Fernandes – an accomplished program leader with a global career at companies like Disney and Mattel, and now, a mother navigating purpose and ambition with grace. Glauci opens up about moving abroad, learning to lead in different cultures, and how motherhood reshaped her view of success and identity. We also dig into the pressure women feel to “choose” between career and family, and why Glauci believes becoming a mother made her more creative, more productive, and more powerful.If you’ve ever felt torn between ambition and motherhood, or unsure if the timing of your life matches society’s expectations, this one is for you!

00:00 Introducing Glauci: Global career, big transitions, and building community

2:30 What does a program manager do?

4:08 Ambition, moving abroad, and working in the US and Brazil 10:16 Ambition and motherhood 13:15 Meeting your partner in your 30s

16:15 Having kids in your 40s & realizing what really matters

23:00 Traveling the world

27:03 Maternity leave and the 1st year after having a baby

34:00 Learning to be ok with what we can't control

36:00 Are good mothers always "selfless"?

40:15 The maternal instinct

42:28 Your kid makes you want to live longer

44:04 Guilt and control

46:30 Advice to future mothers and women afraid of losing their careers

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Anger has a purpose. It’s not evil, it’s not shameful — and if you know how to listen to it, it can become one of your greatest tools for change.

In this episode of The Adults’ Table, we unpack how many of us were taught to reject anger and other so-called “negative” emotions, and what happens when we don’t.

I also walk you through six types of anger (yes, six!), why you might be angry at someone when you’re really angry at yourself, and how inherited anger plays out in our adult lives.

If you were taught that good people don’t get angry — this one’s for you.

00:00 The truth about anger

01:26 Why we fear negative emotions

02:10 Anger as fire: how it can burn or empower you

03:02 Boundaries, forgiveness, and the fuel to move on

04:09 You don’t need to be more positive — just real

05:29 The six types of anger (Bert Hellinger)

09:53 How to process and integrate your anger

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In this episode of The Adults’ Table, we dive into one of the hardest lessons in relationships: accepting people for who they are — not who we wish they’d be.

Whether it’s in friendships, partnerships, or group dynamics, we often exhaust ourselves expecting others to mirror our efforts, give what we give, or show up the way we do.

But the truth is: people give what they have to give. And sometimes, they just don’t have what we’re asking for.

I talk about why understanding this can save you frustration, how to stop keeping score, how to own your role in a group, and how to communicate your needs without expecting others to change. Oh, and yes — I use a snake and a dog metaphor. Don’t judge me ’til you hear it.

00:00 People give what they have to give

01:27 Group roles

02:45 Embrace your role (if you’re good at it)

04:18 “Accept it, and it will hurt less”

07:42 Let people deal with consequences

09:31 Accepting isn’t the same as allowing

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People pleasers aren’t just “nice”. They’re manipulators. I know that’s hard to hear, but I’m saying it because I need to hear it too.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the truth behind people-pleasing: why it’s not as selfless as it seems, how it disconnects you from your true self, and how it’s ultimately a form of control rooted in the fear of being unloved.

If you’ve ever found yourself constantly saying yes, avoiding conflict, or becoming whoever someone else needs you to be just to feel safe... this episode is for you. 

00:00 Intro

1:11 why are we people pleasers?

5:12 why it’s hard to change 

6:01 manipulating others

9:24 you’re loved for who you are 

Avoiding disappointing others might keep the peace – but at what cost?

In this episode, I explore why trying to meet everyone's expectations can slowly disconnect you from yourself. You might think that you are being a good daughter, friend, or partner – but if it comes at the expense of your authenticity, is it sustainable?

We'll talk about the guilt, the fear of rejection, and how to find a healthier balance – one where you can stay true to your values without abandoning the people you love (or yourself).

00:00 Intro

1:20 Why we're so afraid of disappointing others

4:32 The link between disappointment and authenticity

8:42 How fear of disappointing others holds you back in life

10:13 Staying stuck in life to avoid upsetting people

11:02 Redefining disappointment

11:25 People's expectations are not always your responsibility

11:52 It's impossible to fulfill everyone's expectations

12:38 When the pressure is just in your head

14:00 How to become more comfortable with disappointing people

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