The Adults' Table

Avoiding disappointing others might keep the peace – but at what cost?

In this episode, I explore why trying to meet everyone's expectations can slowly disconnect you from yourself. You might think that you are being a good daughter, friend, or partner – but if it comes at the expense of your authenticity, is it sustainable?

We'll talk about the guilt, the fear of rejection, and how to find a healthier balance – one where you can stay true to your values without abandoning the people you love (or yourself).

00:00 Intro

1:20 Why we're so afraid of disappointing others

4:32 The link between disappointment and authenticity

8:42 How fear of disappointing others holds you back in life

10:13 Staying stuck in life to avoid upsetting people

11:02 Redefining disappointment

11:25 People's expectations are not always your responsibility

11:52 It's impossible to fulfill everyone's expectations

12:38 When the pressure is just in your head

14:00 How to become more comfortable with disappointing people

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What's it really like to travel the world for a living?

In this episode, I sit down with Miguel Sant'Anna (aka Guelmi) – a wanderer, storyteller, and loyal son and friend – who has explored 38 countries and built a Youtube community of nearly 100,000 subscribers along the way.

Whether you dream of living on the road or just love honest conversations about courage, identity, and chasing your own path, come have a seat at The Adults' Table!

00:00 Intro

2:50 Miguel's story, from waiter to content creator

15:53 The ups and downs of traveling full-time

22:30 How traveling has changed Miguel

26:54 Traveling is addicting

30:00 Overcoming fear

38:17 Starting where you are, with what you have

40:24 Let life surprise you

44:30 Taking calculated risks

46:26 Having low expectations and celebrating small wins

47:30 "Dream with your hands"

53:38 Advice for future full-time travelers

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• Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@guelmiporai

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Adapting to a culture is more than participating in its customs and understanding what individuals value, how they behave and what matters to them. It’s about questioning your own identity, re-discovering, and expanding it. That is both liberating and disorienting.

I left my home country when I was 23.

Back then, I had no idea how much culture shapes the way we see ourselves.

In this episode, I dive into some of the core feelings that come with being a foreigner and how to navigate a hybrid identity that is formed once you leave your home country.

00:00 Highlight

00:32 My background, moving countries and changing

03:30 3 phases when moving countries

10:11 Identity, Culture, Language, Belonging

11:10 How is our identity formed

14:10 Our identity is supposed to be stretched

15:14 Why culture impacts our identity

16:27 7 ways that changing cultures can affect us

19:30 Why humans long to belong

21:20 Is language just a communication tool?

23:00 To understand a language vs. to feel a language

24:09 The 3 layers of language

25:42 Key concepts

26:25 How can we better navigate a cultural change

If you live abroad and find it hard to put your experience into words, come grab a seat at The Adult’s Table and let’s talk about it!Instagram: @theadultstableshow TikTok: @theadultstableshow

Are you waiting for a divine intervention to change your life? In this episode, I sit down with Yoli Inácio to talk about self-clarity, accountability, and what it really takes to build the life that you want. We discussed:

• ​Giving yourself permission to try
• ​Following your excitement and why curiosity matters
• ​Taking ownership of your decisions and your life
• ​Breaking free from the victim, savior, and prosecutor roles
• ​Pivoting in your career and navigating change
• ​Letting go of past versions of yourself to build new ones

Yoli Inácio is a Brazilian brand strategist and creative director based in Barcelona with 14 years of experience in brand strategy, design, mentoring, and creative direction. Known for blending creativity with practicality, she brings depth, clarity, and innovation to brands and individuals. Yoli teaches at BAU and IED Barcelona and is the founder of Endless-ID, a community for creative self-development.

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In today’s world, where we're constantly plugged into everyone’s lives and bombarded by the illusion that everyone is happy all the time, we’ve started to believe that any discomfort means we’re in the wrong place or not living life the "right" way.

We’ve bought into the cheap advice of “If you feel this way, it’s not for you,” and by chasing a perfect life free of any “negative” emotions, we only end up more frustrated, anxious, and unfulfilled.

In this episode, I dive into why we sabotage ourselves by thinking we should always be happy and comfortable. I also offer an alternative perspective on how to approach life.

Does anyone else find it tough to make friends as an adult? Or at least think about it often?

The older I get, the more I'm okay with having just a few really good friends. But at the same time, I’m realizing how important it is to surround ourselves with people we like. And that a true friend doesn’t have to be someone you share everything in common with.

As I've moved countries and gone through so many changes, I've faced some real challenges in making new friends and maintaining the ones I already have. In this episode, I dive into some of those challenges and talk about:

1. ​Making the first move
2. ​Putting in the effort to nurture friendships
3. ​Setting boundaries
4. ​Navigating everyone's busy schedules
5. ​Dealing with fear of rejection and insecurities

Come join me at the adults table and let’s talk about friendships!  

Feeling stuck? Like the best version of yourself is behind you—either in the past or in the choices you didn’t make and the life you didn’t live?

To truly enjoy the present and create a fulfilling future, we need to let go of the past. Not just the painful moments, but also the good ones and the life we never lived.

In this episode, I discuss:

1. The power of taking responsibility for your life, even when you're not at fault for what happened to you.

2. How the "unlived life" can be a way of escaping reality and avoiding responsibility.

3. The danger of living in a "provisional" state, where you see your current life as just a placeholder for your "real" life.

4. How to shift your perspective on the past so you can move forward.

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Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to break free? Life often tries to show us something about ourselves through repeated experiences, and relationships are no exception.

In this episode, we’ll dive deep into why these patterns keep resurfacing and what we need to become aware of in order to break free and create healthier relationships.

We’ll explore:

1. Secondary Gains: Uncover the hidden benefits behind repeating unhealthy relationship patterns.
2. Misaligned Desires: Recognizing when what you think you want and what you truly desire are out of sync.
3. Comfort in Predictability: Why we often stick with what’s familiar, even if it means avoiding deeper emotional growth or change.
4. Projection: How the way you see yourself can be reflected in your relationships.
5. Desires vs. Actions: Is there a disconnect between your relationship goals and the actions you’re taking to get there?
6. Choosing the Wrong Places: Are you still looking for love in places you no longer want to be?
7. Creating the Life You Want: How to align your actions with your desires to attract the right partner for you.

Join me this week as we explore how to recognize and break free from the relationship patterns that no longer serve you.

Do relationships really need to be 50/50? Is the idea that people should give us exactly what we give them healthy—or even realistic?In this episode, we dive into the difference between EQUALITY and RECIPROCITY in relationships.We’ll explore:1. The difference between equality and reciprocity2. The real foundation of healthy relationships3. Finding balance between giving and receiving4. Do you know what you truly value?5. Are you able to ask for what you value?6. How comfortable are you with receiving in a relationship?Join me for an honest conversation about what it really takes to build strong, balanced connections.Socials:@TheAdultsTableShow

The events that shape our lives certainly play a role in who we become, but when it comes to truly knowing ourselves, there's so much more to explore. In this episode, I dive into some of the key aspects that make us who we are:

• Family dynamics
• Emotions
• The menstrual cycle
• The shadow
• Culture
• Personas