If the same person who broke your trust is telling you to “calm down”… what do you do? In this episode of The ANTD Podcast with Amee & D. Widders, we talk about what actually happens in your body after betrayal and why being triggered after cheating is not a character flaw — it’s a trauma response. We break down the science of betrayal trauma, why your nervous system goes into survival mode, and how to stop spiraling when the person who hurt you is also the one trying to help you heal.

This episode is for couples navigating infidelity recovery, rebuilding trust, and learning how to communicate after cheating. We share real stories from our marriage, practical steps to regulate triggers, set boundaries, and rebuild emotional safety — plus faith-based tools that helped us heal. If you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go, or you’re working to rebuild after betrayal, this conversation will help you feel seen and give you a roadmap forward

🔗 SUPPORT & HEALING RESOURCES

If you’re stuck after infidelity, you don’t have to do this alone.

We offer:

Weekly group coaching

1-on-1 coaching

A 6-week healing course

A 31-day devotional

Downloadable healing PDFs

👉 All resources are available at shopantd.com

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If you cheated and don’t know how to tell the truth, this episode could change everything.

Telling the truth after cheating doesn’t erase the pain — but how you tell it can either begin healing… or cause even more trauma.

In Episode 79 of The ANTD Podcast, Amee and D Widders break down:

• Why trickle truth hurts more than the affair itself
• How to confess cheating without gaslighting or retraumatizing your partner
• Why hiding details is selfish — even when you think you’re “protecting them”
• What real remorse actually looks like (and what fake remorse sounds like)
• How to respond when your partner explodes emotionally after betrayal
• Why honesty is the beginning of healing, not the end

If you’re trying to:

• Tell your partner the truth after cheating
• Get someone to finally stop lying and come clean
• Understand why betrayal feels traumatic
• Decide whether your relationship can survive infidelity

…this conversation is for you.

💔 Betrayal changes everything — but honesty done right can stop the damage from spreading.

If you’re stuck after infidelity, you don’t have to do this alone.

We offer:

• Weekly group coaching
• 1-on-1 coaching
• A 6-week healing course
• A 31-day devotional
• Downloadable healing PDFs

👉 All resources are available at shopantd.com

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🔥 EPISODE 79 – YOUTUBE TIMESTAMPS

How to Tell the Truth After Cheating

00:00 “I Thought I Was Protecting You… I Was Lying”

01:42 Why Trickle Truth Hurts Worse Than the Affair

05:08 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Confessing Cheating

08:47 What the Betrayed Partner Is Actually Hearing

12:36 Why Partial Truth Is Still Manipulation

16:04 What Real Accountability Sounds Like

20:18 How to Tell the Whole Truth Without Destroying Them

25:31 How to Get a Liar to Finally Come Clean

30:44 When the Truth Comes Out Too Late

35:09 Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity?

39:58 What Healing Actually Requires From Both People

Can you ever fully trust someone again after cheating? After infidelity, many people feel trapped between wanting to heal and feeling like their body will never feel safe again. In this episode of The ANTD Podcast, Amee and D. Widders break down what trust actually looks like after betrayal, why pre-betrayal trust is gone for good, and how real healing begins after cheating. We talk openly about betrayal trauma, hypervigilance, panic, and the physical toll infidelity takes on the nervous system.

If you’re struggling with rebuilding trust after cheating, this episode will change how you think about recovery. You’ll learn why trust isn’t restored—it’s rebuilt through consistency, transparency, boundaries, and emotional safety. Whether you’re the one who was betrayed or the one who cheated, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and real tools for infidelity recovery. Healing after betrayal is possible—and your relationship can become stronger than it ever was before.

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📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/products/6-weeks-to-peace-after-betrayal-course-video-pdf

📖 Complete PDF Pack → https://shopantd.com/products/7-antd-complete-healing-pdf-bundle-pack-all-7-of-our-pdf-guides-for-recovery-restoration

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00:00 – Can You Ever Trust Again After Cheating?

00:47 – Why Pre-Betrayal Trust Is Gone Forever

01:18 – Trust After Infidelity Must Be Earned, Not Assumed

02:05 – Transparency Isn’t Punishment, It’s Repair

03:04 – Why Actions Matter More Than Apologies

04:11 – Betrayal Trauma & the Nervous System Explained

05:02 – The Physical Effects of Cheating on the Body

06:56 – Why “Just Get Over It” Makes Healing Worse

08:31 – How Long Healing After Cheating Really Takes

09:59 – Why 100% Trust Isn’t the Goal—Safety Is

11:15 – Boundaries After Infidelity (The Alarm System Analogy)

12:32 – How Trust Was Actually Rebuilt Over Time

14:22 – Final Truth: Trust After Cheating Is About Safety

Rebuilding intimacy after cheating is one of the most painful and confusing parts of healing—but it is possible when you rebuild it the right way. In this episode, Amee & D. Widders break down the REAL steps they used to slowly restore physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy after infidelity shattered their marriage. From nervous system triggers, shutdown responses, and hysterical bonding to resetting your intimacy timeline and learning how to rebuild a brand-new relationship—this conversation gives you clarity, hope, and the exact roadmap couples need to move forward.

We also discuss the role of spiritual intimacy, why connection must come before sex, how to create safety after betrayal, and the daily practices that helped us reconnect, forgive, and rebuild trust. Whether you're the betrayed or the betrayer, this episode gives actionable steps and faith-based wisdom to help you rebuild closeness without pressure, fear, or guilt. If you want your relationship to heal, grow, and truly transform—this is where you start.

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🧠 Coaching → https://shopantd.com/collections/coaching

🗓️ Join Our Live Web Class → https://shopantd.com/products/webinar

🗓️ 31 Day Devotional → https://shopantd.com/products/1-antd-healing-devotional-31-day-devotional-videos-pdfs

📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

📖 Complete PDF Pack → https://shopantd.com/products/7-antd-complete-healing-pdf-bundle-pack-all-7-of-our-pdf-guides-for-recovery-restoratio

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00:00 – Why intimacy after betrayal feels unsafe

00:25 – How betrayal affects the nervous system

01:10 – Safety signals couples must relearn

01:39 – Truth, God, and the foundation of intimacy

02:05 – Trauma responses during closeness

03:00 – Hysterical bonding & shutdown cycles

04:02 – Why intimacy must be rebuilt slowly

05:18 – Connection before sex: rebuilding the timeline

06:03 – Letting the betrayed partner lead intimacy

06:46 – Rebuilding a “new relationship” after cheating

07:27 – Why healing isn’t linear

08:08 – Hidden layers: SA, trauma, and sexual triggers

08:35 – Why cheating isn’t worth the long-term pain

09:01 – Emotional consequences that linger

10:08 – Confession, guilt & repentance

11:01 – Healing enough to help others

11:46 – The turning point: non-sexual intimacy

12:38 – Why rushing intimacy backfires

13:23 – Doing intimacy backwards vs. the right order

14:20 – Non-sexual connection that changed our marriage

15:08 – Truth as the deepest form of intimacy

15:36 – Daily intimacy routines that rebuild connection

16:22 – Praying before, during & after intimacy

17:29 – Choosing a healed life over the old life

18:03 – Why honest living is “worth sounding crazy”

18:12 – Available resources for healing

18:55 – Spiritual intimacy: rebuilding what betrayal destroyed

19:46 – How prayer changes the atmosphere

20:11 – Speaking life over your partner

21:27 – Giving fears and triggers to God

21:51 – Final encouragement for couples rebuilding intimacy

Infidelity shakes the foundation of any relationship—but should you stay or leave? On this episode of The ANTD Podcast with Amee & D. Widders, we dive into a real-life infidelity story and explore the emotional journey couples face after cheating. From heartbreak and betrayal to the decision of whether to forgive or walk away, we cover the raw truth and practical advice for anyone navigating this painful experience.

Amee and D break down why some couples choose to stay, what red flags to watch for, and how to evaluate whether a relationship can be rebuilt. You’ll hear honest perspectives on trust, forgiveness, and emotional healing. This episode is designed to give clarity, guidance, and hope for your next steps in love and relationships.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Should I stay or leave after cheating?”, this episode is a must-listen. Learn from a real infidelity story and get actionable insights to decide what’s best for your heart.

👇 RESOURCES MENTIONED 👇

🧠 Coaching → https://shopantd.com/collections/coaching🗓️ Join Our Live Web Class → https://shopantd.com/products/webinar

🗓️ 31 Day Devotional → https://shopantd.com/products/1-antd-healing-devotional-31-day-devotional-videos-pdfs

📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

📖 Complete PDF Pack → https://shopantd.com/products/7-antd-complete-healing-pdf-bundle-pack-all-7-of-our-pdf-guides-for-recovery-restoratio

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Timestamps:

0:00 — Intro: Why This Topic Matters

1:30 — Real Infidelity Story Begins

6:50 — Emotional Impact: Shock, Anger, Confusion

10:20 — Why Some Couples Stay Together

14:40 — Red Flags vs. Signs of Remorse

18:50 — Deciding: Stay or Leave

23:30 — Steps to Begin Healing & Rebuilding Trust

27:10 — Lessons Learned & Final Thoughts

29:30 — Outro & Encouragement

In this episode of The ANTD Podcast, Amee and D dive deep into one of the most overlooked spiritual battles in relationships — soul ties. After betrayal, many couples feel trapped in invisible bonds that keep them emotionally and spiritually stuck, no matter how hard they try to move forward. Amee and D share their personal story of breaking free from unhealthy attachments, exposing how these ties can linger even after repentance — and how true freedom only comes when you invite God into the healing process.

Whether you’ve been betrayed, battled guilt, or are simply searching for clarity, this episode will give you practical steps, biblical insight, and raw truth to help you recognize, break, and heal from ungodly attachments. Stay tuned until the end for a powerful prayer of release and spiritual breakthrough.

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🧠 Coaching → https://shopantd.com/collections/coaching🗓️ Join Our Live Web Class → https://shopantd.com/products/webinar

🗓️ 31 Day Devotional → https://shopantd.com/products/1-antd-healing-devotional-31-day-devotional-videos-pdfs

📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

📖 Complete PDF Pack → https://shopantd.com/products/7-antd-complete-healing-pdf-bundle-pack-all-7-of-our-pdf-guides-for-recovery-restoratio

🎥 Tik Tok → https://www.tiktok.com/@antdsply

📸 Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/antdsply/

🎧 Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-antd

🎧 Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/3uH9u5kTi7VcqN2x1zJ9xP

Adultery Sermon: https://www.youtube.com/live/GGQLeikB2Y0?si=UjnIdeZ09E-TUg5H

In this powerful episode of The ANTD Podcast, Amee & D. Widders tackle the agonizing question of infidelity recovery and the stigma of staying after cheating. Everyone loves a redemption story... until you tell them your partner cheated, and you’re fighting for your marriage. We dive deep into the "silent stigma" where the outrage, support, and loyalty from friends "dries up" the moment you choose reconciliation. We unpack why people assume staying means you are "desperate, weak, [or] have no self-worth," and how to navigate this intense external pressure. Did you know a 2023 poll found that 62% of people believe relationships should end immediately after cheating? Tune in as we expose the judgment and the gossip that follows a betrayed partner who decides to work through it instead of walking away.

The conversation gets personal as we debate the central question: Should you tell your family and friends you were cheated on? We discuss the reality that external people often "come and go," but your marriage is for the long term. Ultimately, we share why your decision should be "made up... with God" first, and then you can choose to tell—or not tell—everybody else. If you are working through marriage after an affair or dealing with the emotional labor of reconciliation stigma, this episode offers the clarity and conviction you need to prioritize your relationship. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell for more real-talk on navigating the hardest parts of life and love!

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🗓️ 31 Day Devotional → https://shopantd.com/products/1-antd-healing-devotional-31-day-devotional-videos-pdfs

📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

📖 Complete PDF Pack → https://shopantd.com/products/7-antd-complete-healing-pdf-bundle-pack-all-7-of-our-pdf-guides-for-recovery-restoratio

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00:00 The Stigma of Staying After Cheating: Should You Tell Anyone?

00:26 Point One: The Silent Stigma

00:49 Losing Support: Why Friends Distance Themselves After You Reconcile

01:33 "You Chose Him Over Us": The Family Conflict After Infidelity

02:38 Why We Kept the Cheating a Secret from Our Parents

04:25 How 50 Years of Marriage Saved Our Relationship

05:27 Why 50% of Couples Stay: Exposing the Truth About Reconciliation

07:02 Point Two: Their Pain, Your Pressure

07:52 How to Spot Bad Advice Rooted in Unresolved Trauma

09:44 Should Unhealed People Get a Say in Your Marriage?

11:15 Support Break: 1-on-1 Coaching & Biblical Counsel

11:46 Point Three: The Cost of Restoration

12:38 Is a "Relationship Purge" Necessary for Healing?

13:27 The Friend I Thought I Lost (The Story of Jean)

17:12 The 4-Part Order to Prioritize Your Spouse and Rebuild Trust

18:12 The Golden Rule: Make Up Your Mind with God First (Then Tell People)

19:42 Final Word: Your Marriage is for 100 Years, Friends Come and Go

20:42 Outro & Resources for Healing

Forgiving a cheater feels impossible… but with God, healing after betrayal is possible. In this episode of The ANTD Podcast with Amee & D. Widders, we share the raw truth about how forgiveness, healing, and rebuilding trust really happen after infidelity. Amee opens up about hearing God’s voice in her darkest moments, and D shares what it took to forgive himself after being the one who betrayed. Together, we unpack the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, how to let go of resentment, and why surrendering it all to Christ is the only path to freedom. ❤️‍🩹

If you’re struggling to forgive, to heal, or to move forward after cheating, this episode is for you. Learn how to release shame, find peace in God’s grace, and begin your own journey toward restoration — one choice at a time.

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🗓️ 31 Day Devotional → https://shopantd.com/products/1-antd-healing-devotional-31-day-devotional-videos-pdfs

📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

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00:00 – Forgiving feels impossible… but one choice changes everything

00:33 – Forgiveness vs. reconciliation: what’s the difference?

02:21 – How forgiveness heals your heart and health

05:23 – Hearing God in the pain

08:28 – Forgiving yourself after betrayal

16:04 – The science behind self-forgiveness

18:25 – Forgiveness is a process, not a one-time event

21:15 – How unforgiveness opens doors spiritually

25:28 – 3 key takeaways for healing after infidelity

In Episode 72 of The ANTD Podcast Amee and D. Widders dive DEEP into the topic of DEFENSIVENESS in relationships and how it DESTROYS TRUST and STOPS INTIMACY.

Follow along as we explain how being defensive after infidelity blocks healing and transparency, shifts focus away from responsibility, and delays the rebuilding of trust and intimacy.

If you apply what we teach in this episode you will drastically speed up yoru healing after betrayal and through humility, accountability, and transparency - not defensiveness -you can being to heal, rebuild trust and have a stronger relationship that WILL LAST!

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📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

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• 0:00 – 0:37 | Intro & Theme: Defensiveness as a silent killer in relationships
• 0:37 – 1:09 | Why defensiveness destroys rebuilding after betrayal
• 1:09 – 3:48 | Point 1: Defensiveness blocks healing and transparency
• 3:48 – 5:35 | How to approach your partner without triggering defensiveness
• 5:35 – 11:26 | Point 2: Defensiveness shifts focus away from responsibility
• 11:26 – 13:41 | Intimacy, defensiveness, and different phases of relationships
• 13:41 – 15:25 | Why prayer and intentional intimacy matter in marriage
• 15:25 – 19:35 | Point 3: Defensiveness delays rebuilding trust and intimacy
• 19:35 – 20:37 | Healing takes humility, patience, and accountability
• 20:37 – 22:52 | Closing thoughts, resources, and prayer

In this episode of The ANTD Podcast with Amee & D. Widders, we talk about 5 ways that are guaranteed to speed up your healing and transform your relationship after being cheated on.

If you’ve been cheated on or have done the cheating, this episode will help you. You will Learn how to release pain and find peace through prayer,

anchor yourself in God’s Word for clarity and guidance, recognize the spiritual side of betrayal, discover the freedom forgiveness brings, reclaim your true identity in Christ and see how sharing your testimony can inspire healing!

👇 RESOURCES MENTIONED 👇

🗓️ Join Our Live Web Class → https://shopantd.com/products/live-web-class-09-21-2025

🧠 1-on-1 Coaching → https://shopantd.com/collections/coaching

👕 This Month’s Merch Drop → https://shopantd.com/products/bet-on-the-blood-t-shirt

🗓️ 31 Day Devotional → https://shopantd.com/products/1-antd-healing-devotional-31-day-devotional-videos-pdfs

📘 6-Week Healing Course → https://shopantd.com/collections/antd-courses

📖 Complete PDF Pack → https://shopantd.com/products/7-antd-complete-healing-pdf-bundle-pack-all-7-of-our-pdf-guides-for-recovery-restoratio

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⏱️ Timestamps

00:01:01 – Prayer as the Foundation

00:07:38 – The Bible & Devotional Time

00:13:21 – Cheating is Demonic (Spiritual Warfare)

00:21:14 – Forgiveness Brings Freedom

00:26:33 – Reclaiming Your Identity in Christ

00:33:21 – Sharing Testimony & Building Community