Is online dating advice actually making it harder to find love?
This week, Jerusalem Demsas and Matthew Yglesias wade into the world of online dating advice, from the manosphere influencers coaching men to treat women as opponents to the female-coded content teaching women to read every date as a minefield. Jerusalem and Matt find themselves split on what it's actually doing to us. Is this tactical advice a useful nudge for people who'd otherwise never take a risk, or a trap of stereotypes that flattens individuals and increases neuroticism? And in a world where the old tracks to marriage have disappeared, what's left to help people actually connect?
Plus: research on the economics of fracking and what the shale revolution did for the Obama era.
(00:00) The problem with modern dating advice
(06:27) Judging Andrew Tate and Dan Bilzerian
(10:16) Psychological dating games and the Neil Strauss era
(18:53) Female-coded dating advice
(30:10) Risk vs. reward in dating
(36:47) Gender stereotypes in modern romance
(46:52) What's the point of a relationship?
(51:07) Peer Review: The economics of frackin
Peer review: “How Much Has Shale Gas Saved U.S. Consumers?" paper by Lucas W. Davis calculating how much natural gas customers have saved annually, between 2007 and 2025, as a result of the fracking boom: https://www.nber.org/papers/w35245
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