The Art & Skill of Coaching: Get any client any result using trauma-informed coaching strategies

What if balance wasn't about choosing between your career, your relationships, your health, or your ambition—but learning how to honor it all?

In today's episode of The Art and Skill of Coaching, I'm joined by Shayla King—former C-suite leader turned life coach, wife, mother, and entrepreneur—who is a living example of what it looks like to build a full, thriving life without sacrificing what matters most.

Shayla and I unpack what balance actually looks like in practice, not just in theory. We talk about the beliefs she had to unlearn coming from corporate leadership, how her relationship with balance has evolved across different seasons of life, and the systems, structures, and decision-making frameworks that support both her business and personal life.

This is a grounded, honest conversation about capacity, priorities, and redesigning your life—especially if you're a high-achieving woman, a coach, or someone who refuses to accept the narrative that you have to choose.

Inside this episode, you'll learn:

• Why "doing balance better" often keeps women stuck—and what actually creates space

• How Shayla decides what gets prioritized when everything matters

• The non-negotiables that protect her marriage, health, and business

• The systems and support that make balance sustainable (not exhausting)

• The biggest mistake coaches make early on when trying to build a full life and a thriving practice

If you're looking for a more expansive way to think about success, this episode will challenge you—in the best way.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

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Shayla info: www.ShaylaKing.com

Most coaches don't struggle because they lack confidence or passion—they struggle because they're in a predictable stage of skill development.

In this episode, I break down the 5 stages of becoming a coach, why each stage feels the way it does, and how learning theory and the four stages of competence explain why so many coaches feel stuck despite doing "all the right things."

We'll talk about:

• Why personal growth doesn't automatically translate into coaching skill

• The difference between consuming information and developing competence

• What I call the coaching gap—and why it's a training issue, not a personal flaw

• How coaches move from intuition and soft skills to real, repeatable results

• What separates good coaches from expert-level coaches

If you're a coach who wants to go beyond the basics, refine your craft, and coach with confidence rooted in skill, this episode will help you identify where you are—and what your next step should be.

Take the Coach Skill Audit: https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit

ASC Consult: www.chatwithjess.com

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

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Most coaches are trained to do one thing well: either push clients forward with action and accountability or take them deep with insight and awareness.

Great coaches do both — at the same time.

In this episode of The Art School of Coaching, I break down what it actually means to move a client deep and forward simultaneously, why most coaching training fails to teach this skill, and how that gap leads to unsustainable results, resistance, and client frustration.

You'll learn:

• Why action without depth creates temporary change

• Why insight without tools increases overwhelm

• The psychology behind sustainable behavior change

• The ABC Model (Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence) and how it's used in evidence-based coaching

• How to rework beliefs and implement aligned behavior for lasting results

If you want to coach using science-backed frameworks, create deeper client transformations, and build a coaching practice based on science — this episode is for you.

🎓 Spring enrollment for The Art School of Coaching is open now. This is the final week before doors close for six months.

ASC Consult: www.chatwithjess.com

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

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The Coach Skill Audit:

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Coach Question of the Week:

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Many talented coaches struggle with consistency, income ceilings, and burnout—not because they aren't good enough, but because they're coaching from energy instead of skill.

In this episode of The Art and Skill of Coaching, I break down why motivation, rapport, and personal experience aren't sustainable foundations for professional coaching—and what it actually means to coach from skill.

You'll learn:

• The difference between surface-level coaching and professional skill-based coaching

• Why relying on energy leads to inconsistent client results

• How structure and frameworks protect intuition (not kill it)

• The two types of structure every coach needs to scale their impact

• Why breadth of skill matters more than having a "favorite" modality

If you want to create consistent results, scale your income, and coach effectively even when you're tired or uninspired, this episode is for you.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist

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IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

The Coach Skill Audit:

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Coach Question of the Week:

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Coaches are consuming more content than ever—books, podcasts, trainings—and yet many still freeze on calls, overthink what to say next, or default to advice-giving when clients get emotional or stuck.

In this episode of The Art and Skill of Coaching, I name the skill gap most coaches feel but can't articulate: the gap between knowing coaching concepts and being able to execute them cleanly in real time.

I'm joined by Cat—ASC graduate, peer coach, and collaborator inside The Art & Skill of Coaching—who helps break down why content consumption doesn't create mastery, and what actually makes coaching skills stick.

We discuss:

• Why freezing on calls isn't a confidence or motivation problem—it's a training problem

• The difference between understanding coaching theory and being able to coach live

• Why mastery is an embodied skill (and how therapists and elite performers are actually trained)

• Inside the new ASC Intervention Library and how it teaches coaches how to coach, not just what to know

If you've ever thought, "I know this… why can't I do it on a call?"—this episode will make it click.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist

Stay in Touch:

www.jessicademarchis.com

IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

The Coach Skill Audit:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit

Coach Question of the Week:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3

Catherine's IG: @cat_farrell_lifecoach

Why Intuition Isn't Coaching: How to Spot and Stop Projection in Sessions (Episode 181): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-skill-of-coaching/id1612960277?i=1000719596313

What actually changes when you invest in a high-level coaching certification?

In this episode of The Art and Skill of Coaching, I'm joined by one of my current Art and Skill of Coaching (ASC)students—just one month away from graduation—who shares an honest, behind-the-scenes look at her experience inside the program.

Jess is a holistic wellness coach with 15 years of experience bridging nutrition, fitness, and mindset. Despite her background, she noticed clear gaps in her coaching skills, confidence, and session effectiveness—gaps that ultimately led her to ASC.

We talk about:

• The biggest challenges she faced as an experienced coach (both skill-based and business-related)

• What made her choose ASC over other coaching certifications

• How her coaching identity, confidence, and depth have changed

• The tangible results she's created inside the program—while caring for a newborn

• What truly makes ASC different from other coaching programs

If you're considering becoming a coach, already coaching but want to go deeper, or looking for a science-based, professional coaching certification that actually changes how you coach—this episode will help you decide your next step.

Enrollment for the Spring ASC cohort opens next week. Space is limited, and doors won't open again until later this year. Check the link in the show notes to learn more about the Art and Skill of Coaching certification.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

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Coach Question of the Week:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3

Jess Uthe's IG: @sagestrengthnutrition

Why do some clients change—and others stay stuck?

In this episode, I break down the difference between surface-level coaching and deep, identity-based coaching, and why working at the level of being creates more sustainable results than focusing on behavior alone.

You'll learn:

• Why deep coaching is nonlinear and messy

• The skills coaches need beyond basic techniques

• How identity shifts naturally change behavior

• Questions that immediately deepen your coaching

This is the work we teach inside The Art & Skill of Coaching—psychologically grounded, science-based, and trauma-informed.

Join the Spring cohort waitlist through the link below.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist

Stay in Touch:

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IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

The Coach Skill Audit:

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Coach Question of the Week:

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Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and frustrated—even though you're working hard?

You're not broken. You're not on the wrong path. You're likely stuck in movement instead of momentum.

In this episode, I explain:

• Why thinking, processing, and preparing can actually keep you stuck

• How movement feels productive but doesn't create results

• The coaching mistake that leads to burnout and stagnation

• How to shift into momentum through aligned, imperfect action

Whether you're a coach or a high-performing professional, this episode will change how you approach growth, change, and progress.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist

Stay in Touch:

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IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

The Coach Skill Audit:

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Coach Question of the Week:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3

In this special Ask Me Anything episode, Jess DeMarchis—therapist-turned life coach—kicks off the new year by answering your most asked questions about coaching, business, money, and personal growth.

Pulled directly from Instagram DMs, Jess is interviewed by her friend Megan in an honest, fun, and wide-ranging conversation that blends personal stories with professional insight. Together, they cover everything from Jess's early leadership influences and favorite coaches, to why she transitioned from therapy to coaching, how she runs her coaching business, and how she thinks about money, morality, and impact.

You'll also hear Jess's perspective on:

• How she found her path into professional coaching

• What platforms she uses to run a successful coaching business

• What it really means to reach your full potential

• How to evaluate your internal operating system, outgrow old goals, and build the courage to start

• Why moving faster, failing faster, and learning faster is key to growth

Whether you're a coach, aspiring coach, or someone deeply invested in personal development, this episode offers insight, clarity, and a refreshing behind-the-scenes look at the life and mindset of a professional coach.

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist

Stay in Touch:

www.jessicademarchis.com

IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

The Coach Skill Audit:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit

Coach Question of the Week:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3

Megan Wing: IG @meganwingcoaching

Description: In this episode of The Art & Skill of Coaching, Jess breaks down the fastest and most evidence-based way to develop coaching mastery. If you've ever wondered why you're not improving as quickly as you want — or why practice alone isn't enough — this episode explains the exact path professional coaches use to grow.

You'll learn:

• why information and inspiration don't lead to real skill

• the Learn → Witness → Practice framework for building mastery

• how supervised coaching accelerates your growth

• the difference between repetition and correct repetition

• the role mentorship and feedback play in becoming a great coach

Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification:

https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching

ASC Waitlist:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/ascwaitlist

Stay in Touch:

www.jessicademarchis.com

IG @jess_demarchis_coaching

The Coach Skill Audit:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/coachskillaudit

Coach Question of the Week:

https://purple-lion-72607.myflodesk.com/agcj1mr1y3