The Be Ruthless Show

Why do you think my littlest pup is named Dallas ? ?

You also don’t have to know me well to know how passionate I am about breaking stigmas and having the uncomfortable conversations. Mental Illness. Grief. Substance Abuse. Violence. The list is endless.

You might have to know me a little better to know my vision about combining the above two things: sports, rather athletes, and breaking stigmas.

I have been on a personal quest to connect with athletes who are open about their own mental health stories -

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I have two very special guests: Doug Cornfield and Dave Clark of The Disability, Dream, and Do (D3Day) Sports Camps and Pulling Each Other Along. 

Doug Cornfield is an author, speaker, and former college athlete. He is the director of the Disability, Dream, and Do (D3Day) sports camps, created with Dave Clark. In college, he was a top contender in track and field, and a scholarship athlete at the University of Georgia. His professional experience includes time spent in both the family entertainment industry and as a senior financial advisor for Merrill Lynch. More recently, he partnered with Dave Clark to organize their company and run D3Day events, where the duo create opportunities for children and young adults with special needs to interact with professional sports players and compete with no limitations.

Dave Clark is a remarkable pro baseball player who has overcome tremendous odds to achieve his dreams. Born in 1952 in the small town of Corning, NY, Dave was diagnosed with polio at 10 months. This left him with a permanent disability and he could only walk with crutches and braces. Despite this challenge, Dave was determined to pursue his love for sports and began playing at a young age.

Dave faced many obstacles, including exclusion from participating in elementary school phys-ed, baseball leagues, and more due to his perceived limitations. However, he refused to let this hold him back. With the help of his parents’ pursuits of the Little League HQ leaders, Dave was allowed to play. And play he did.

Despite facing skepticism, Dave continued to work hard and proved himself on the field which led to a 17 year minor league playing career and 55+ years in pro sports as a coach, owner, manager, speaker, author, and disability advocate.

Dave is a 3 time Championship manager in Sweden, Atlanta Braves pitching coach, Olympic Coach, and he still owns the famous Indianapolis Clowns.

https://pullingeachotheralong.com/

https://d3day.com/

https://peoacollective.com/

We play these games and set ourselves up for disappointment. Mistakes do not mean things are ruined. They are opportunities to learn. Lessons.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the importance of accepting where you are - no matter what you’re going through!

It may seem like Evelyn has it together, but it hasn't always been that way. Evelyn has held almost every position in a Preschool or childcare center. She has owned 3 centers, one she built from the ground up, one she purchased while it was operating, and she purchased one that had been shut down due to regulation violations. For years, her centers owned her instead of Evelyn owning them. She worked at least 50 hours a week and used her family's personal money to keep the doors open.

During that period, the director and owner in Evelyn were in a battle between creating a high-quality center and a profitable one.

Her director's mind wanted a high-quality childcare center, not a daycare! The owner in Evelyn knew that making enough money to pay the bills had to come first. For a long time, she thought it was not possible to have a high quality, developmentally appropriate center and turn a profit.

Fast forward through a lot of lessons learned, money spent, and coaching gleaned….and now it is Evelyn’s life mission to show you how to take back control of your center so that you can own your time while making money!

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Todays guest on The Be Ruthless Show has certainly been through her share of life’s challenges. Dr. Chonta T. A. Haynes has survived the death of a child, a devastating divorce and a career transition. Through it all she’s come out emotionally, professionally, and mentally stronger.

Dr. Chonta T. A. Haynes empowers women to confidently live life with peace and financial security. Through her Amazon Best Selling books, coaching programs, and Keynotes, she equips with Biblically based resources. From her experience and degrees in engineering, theology and Christian counseling, she balances logic and faith. Known as the Performance Excellence Transition Coach and Biblical Money Management expert, she simplifies complex problems and creates actionable and effective solutions with sustainable results. As CEO and Founder of Heart 2 Heart Truth Ministries and Heart 2 Heart Truth Foundation, her mission is to help you put feet to your faith so that you can walk victoriously.

Visit https://Chontalaynes.com for more encouragement and inspiration.

Am I in the minority? Do most people care more about the socially acceptable things to say?

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss telling the truth when it might hurt someone’s feelings vs people pleasing and compromising your own feelings.

My 10 year old niece knows this about me, and told me I had to watch American Idol “because there’s this guy who’s really really good but also, Aunt Sam, (said reallllly quickly, because she talks a mile a minute and never seems to need to stop for a breath ) his dad died and he’s sad, like you, and he talks about his dad like you talk about Uncle Jim.” 
Ten years old.

And she recognizes the difference between how I have the conversations and how most of the rest of the world….. does not.

I started watching Iam Tongi’s journey, from his incredibly moving audition to his equally powerful victory. And I discovered that American Idol addresses grief better than the world. ABC handles grief better than the world.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss American Idol Winner, Iam Tongi’s journey. Not his American Idol journey. His healing journey.

And I discuss what the world can learn from ABC. Thank you ABC and American Idol, for a much needed lesson on life, loss, love, and hope 

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Dr. Jay Joshi is a physician, entrepreneur, and author who was wrongfully convicted in 2018. He has since regained his medical license and become a national leader in the opioid epidemic. He has written a book about his experiences: Burden of Pain.

After reporting an employee who was forging scripts under his credentials to the local police, Dr. Joshi suddenly found himself at the center of an investigation led by the DEA. Over the following months, evidence was tampered with and statements were perjured, all of which resulted in a coerced plea and a sentence of 11 months in prison.

He fought to regain his medical license and reestablish his clinical practice while authoring legal briefs for prominent federal opioid cases, including the Supreme Court case, Ruan v. United States.

https://www.daily-remedy.com/

Burden of Pain: A Physician's Journey through the Opioid Epidemic

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We collaborated and created Faces of Mental Illness - and we’re not done!On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, we share the next book in what has now become a series: Faces of Mental Illness: For Anxiety.

This is more than books, though. It’s our Passion. It’s our Mission. It’s our Movement. And we are not only sharing it with the world, we’re inviting you to join us… in whatever way feels right to you.

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Thank you for your support! Mental illness impacts many, and most suffer silently. We’re working to change that - because silence makes it worse!

To anyone struggling, please know that you’re not alone. You can reach out to me or 988 anytime for confidential support, resources, or a friendly ear.

That’s a lot of Week’s!

It feels appropriate to discuss things that contribute to our overall mental health. For me - feeling safe, physically and emotionally, is at the top of that list.

That might mean different things to different people, and they all matter because safety is the underlying concern. No matter what anyone else has to say about it.

Some people don’t feel safe in crowds. Others don’t feel safe alone. Both need to be treated with respect, not mocked, ridiculed, or questioned.

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I get personal. I talk about the areas I don’t feel emotionally safe, as well as the impact this has on me physically.

I discuss physical situations that make me feel unsafe, and the impact that has on me emotionally.

I discuss how to use these clues from your body as your guide - even if you’re the only one, and especially when it definitively wasn’t yoga!

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