A conversation with Chanie Krasnianski, a seasoned educator and shlucha on the Upper East Side in Manhattan, NY, about the beauty of the Jewish perspective on sexuality, mikvah, and marriage. Explore the spiritual depth of physical attraction, the beauty and struggles that can arise with the laws of family purity, how to navigate religious differences in a relationship, and the deep potential for holiness and profound connection within our most intimate spaces.

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TIMESTAMPS:

0:00:00 - The Bedroom is the Holy of Holies

0:00:41 - Partner With Human & Holy

0:01:57 - Guest Introduction: Chanie Krasnjanski

0:03:01 - Welcome Chanie

0:03:27 - Topic: Holy Intimacy

0:03:33 - Chanie’s Background

0:05:53 - Bringing Holiness to Marriage

0:07:07 - You Want to Fix the World, Fix Your World

0:08:05 - In Times of Crisis, Strengthen the Home

0:09:11 - The Art of Holy Intimacy: Connection

0:09:42 - How Do You Begin This Conversation?

0:10:27 - Reclaiming Your Sexuality

0:12:48 - Boundaries as Protection, Not Restriction

0:14:08 - What is the Jewish Perspective on Sexuality?

0:14:28 - The Physical Reality Mirrors the Spiritual Reality

0:15:11 - The Kabbalistic Understanding of Male & Female Attraction

0:18:22 - Attraction Outside of Marriage

0:19:05 - The Torah's Perspective Keeps You Honest

0:20:27 - You Choose How to Satisfy Your Hunger

0:22:13 - Halacha Is Not a Checklist

0:26:39 - Accepting the Imperfections in Our Relationship with G-d

0:27:48 - Judaism is Not a Religion

0:28:17 - A Child Learns Faith In Infancy

0:30:36 - Reframing Your Understanding of the Mikvah

0:31:10 - The Spiritual Significance of Mikvah Immersion

0:33:01 - Femininity is a Divine Vessel

0:34:42 - You Can't Override the Spiritual Level of Your Spouse

0:35:59 - Building a Relationship with G-d

0:38:26 - Overcoming Personal Discomfort with Mikvah Ladies

0:41:42 - Your Triggers are Signals

0:43:41 - When Your Spouse Wants Something But It Isn't the Highest Halachic Standard

0:46:07 - When You Feel Uncomfortable Speaking to a Mentor About Intimate Topics

0:52:02 - Religious Guilt Around Sexuality

0:55:11 - G-d as a Loving Father

0:56:40 - You Are Not Your Spouse’s Rabbi

0:57:10 - When a Spouse Is Resistant to the Other's Spiritual Growth

01:02:58 - Your Spouse is a Mirror

01:04:09 - When Niddah Draws You Apart

01:08:21 - The Seasons of Marriage

01:10:49 - There’s Usually a Deeper Reason

01:12:30 - Differentiating Between Law & Custom (Halacha & Chumra)

01:15:13 - Strengthening the Mitzvah of Family Purity

01:19:13 - The Jewish Ideals of Sexual Intimacy Are Designed to Encourage Connection

01:23:24 - Seeking Out the Right Rabbi or Mentor

01:25:24 - Inviting G-d into Our Bedrooms

1:27:31 - Through Intimacy, We Become G-dlike

1:28:02 - Host's Outro