In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with psychologist and author Dr. Eric Fitz Medrude about what it really means to be "a better man." Together, we explore how cultural conditioning, shame, and lack of real education have left so many men confused about sex, masculinity, and intimacy.

Eric shares how his Catholic upbringing and family's unusually frank conversations about sex shaped his perspective, and how those early experiences inspired his book, The Better Man. We dive into common myths about porn, testosterone, and what men are "supposed" to want—and how those beliefs often block real connection and pleasure.

Along the way, Eric opens up about the importance of platonic touch, the emotional cost of living inside "the man box," and what it takes to build relationships rooted in honesty and consent. We also talk about resentment, boundaries, and the hard truth that being a better lover starts with being a better human.

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Website: https://www.drericfitz.com/

Book: The Better Man https://www.drericfitz.com/the-better-man/

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with elder, teacher, author, and longtime men's work facilitator Dene Maria Sebastiana, author of Fierce & Tender: Healing the Deep Masculine. We explore what really happens inside men's circles—and why emotional maturity, vulnerability, and deep male connection are essential for better sex and healthier relationships.

Dene shares his journey from growing up in a hyper-masculine world to leading transformational circles across the U.S. and Mexico. He talks about the power of integrating both the fierce and the tender—the masculine and feminine energies within all of us—and how that integration shapes intimacy, partnership, and personal growth.

This conversation is grounded, heart-centered, and full of insight—a reminder that healing the masculine isn't abstract. It's embodied, relational, and deeply human.

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Website: https://www.denemariasebastiana.com/

Book Fierce & Tender: Healing The Deep Masculine https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XSSBGXP

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with board-certified sexologist Dr. Diane Mueller. She holds doctorates in naturopathy and acupuncture, is the founder of MyLibidoDoc.com, and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast. Together we explore how science, spirituality, and sensuality come together to shape desire—what awakens it, and what quietly turns it off.

Throughout our conversation, Dr. Diane shares her journey from a strict Catholic upbringing to reclaiming pleasure as a source of healing and power. Along the way, we talk about what's missing in traditional medical training around sexuality, how arousal cycles differ between men and women, and why libido isn't just hormonal—it's a reflection of vitality, safety, and connection to self.

Dr. Diane offers deep insight into why passion fades in long-term relationships and how novelty can reawaken erotic energy. She reminds us that pleasure isn't indulgence—it's nourishment. And she shares grounded, practical tools from her upcoming book, Want to Want It, for reconnecting with your body, expanding curiosity, and creating more joy and intimacy in your sexual lif

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Website: MyLibidoDoc.com

Preorder the Book Want to Want it https://mylibidodoc.com/want-to-want-it/#a_aid=bettersex&a_bid=b520ee83

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Pelvic Health, Pleasure & the Cooch Ball with Jana Danielson

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pelvic health expert and creator of the Cooch Ball, Jana Danielson. We explore the connection between pelvic floor health and sexual well-being, and how caring for this overlooked part of the body can unlock more intimacy, pleasure, and vitality.

Along the way, Jana shares her journey of pain, incontinence, and dismissal by the medical system—and how discovering Pilates led to her healing and ultimately the creation of the Cooch Ball.

We talk about the emotional impact of pelvic floor dysfunction, the difference between hypo- and hypertonic muscles, and surprising links between the jaw, feet, and pelvis. Jana reframes pleasure as a birthright and guides us through a simple breathing practice to release tension and reconnect with the body.

You'll walk away from this conversation with inspiration, practical tools, and a fresh perspective on how small daily practices can transform not only pelvic health but also the quality of connection and pleasure in relationships.

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Website: https://bloombetter.life/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thecoochball

Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@Jana.Danielson

Free Gift: Healthy Pelvic Floor eBook https://info.bloombetter.life/healthy-pelvic-floor-ebook585347

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex and relationship coach, Dr. Jeni Wahlig, co-founder of Powerful Love Relationships and creator of the Powerful Love Method. Together we explore how to create "next level love" through radical self-leadership—even when your partner isn't ready or willing to do the work.

In this conversation, we dive into Jeni's Awareness → Choice → Power framework and how it helps you stop repeating old patterns, renegotiate agreements with freedom and repair, and reframe conflict as an opportunity for deeper trust.

Along the way, Jeni shares her powerful personal story: a seven-year, on-again off-again journey with her partner Cal that spanned other marriages, included the heartbreak of separation, and ultimately led to their reconnection. She describes how shifting from blame to personal leadership not only transformed their relationship but also became the foundation of the Powerful Love Method she now teaches.

From there, we open into a candid look at polyamory—not as a lifestyle of multiple partners, but as an identity and a practice of love as something expansive. Jeni explains why this perspective reshapes what it means to have a soulmate, and how embracing fluidity and ongoing repair can create resilience in any relationship, monogamous or not.

This episode is your invitation to step into relational leadership—so you can claim your power, create safety for intimacy to grow, and experience the extraordinary love you deserve.

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Website: https://powerfulove.com

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/powerfulove

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Youtube YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Mel Cassidy, a queer, multidisciplinary somatic practitioner and relationship coach who specializes in supporting queer and questioning folks navigating non-monogamy. Together, we explore the liberating possibilities of honest, consensual non-monogamy—how it works, why it can be both exhilarating and challenging, and what it means to approach relationships with openness and authenticity.

Mel's personal journey—from crafting imaginative, non-monogamous love stories as a child to courageously embracing relationship anarchy and becoming their own primary partner—sets the stage for a conversation that is both vulnerable and deeply empowering.

As we dive in, Mel shares how colonialism and the nuclear family model have shaped our ideas of love and commitment, why chosen and extended kinship networks are essential, and how perfectionism and societal norms can quietly limit our relational freedom. Along the way, we unpack Mel's unique framework for mapping relational landscapes, explore the nervous system's role in building meaningful connection, and discover how to create space for both autonomy and intimacy.

If you're ready to break free from outdated scripts, expand your understanding of love, and build relationships that reflect your truest self, this episode offers both the insight and the tools to begin.

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Website: http://radicalrelating.ca

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex, Relationship and Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach Ryan Brown. Together, we explore how understanding the Erotic Blueprints can unlock new ways to experience pleasure, connection, and self-expression. Ryan's own story, from growing up in a conservative, sex-negative environment to embracing their full erotic and gender expansiveness, sets the stage for a conversation that is both honest and inspiring.

As we dive deeper, Ryan unpacks what makes the Erotic Blueprints so powerful, explaining how they can be maps to guide us toward a richer, juicier experience of life and intimacy. Along the way, we explore the difference between sexuality and eroticism, how to bring play and curiosity into everyday life, and why dismantling societal boxes around sex and gender is essential to finding authentic joy.

Ryan also shares practical tools and coaching insights, from mirror work for healing body image to practices that invite more presence and pleasure into daily routines. They bring a fresh perspective on gender liberation and platonic eroticism, offering a vision of erotic energy that is both expansive and deeply human.

If you're ready to break old patterns and discover new pathways to connection and self-discovery, this episode will give you the tools and inspiration to begin.

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Website: humxnsx.com

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/humxn.sx

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with leading Somatic Sex Therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, Ma. We explore how women can reclaim their sexuality—not by waiting for someone else to unlock their pleasure, but by learning to create it for themselves.

Susan shares her powerful personal story—how she went from a sexless marriage to discovering deep, full-body pleasure on her own. That awakening became the catalyst for her life's work helping others break free from sexual shame and disconnection.

Together, we unpack the common myths about women's sexuality and why so many women lose interest in sex over time. Susan explains how stress, safety, and relationship dynamics shape desire—and why learning your own body is essential for lasting connection.

She also introduces her Pleasure Keys framework, rooted in relaxation, presence, and internal awareness. Along the way, we explore how to navigate mismatched libidos, sexual fantasies, and communication challenges with curiosity instead of shame.

This conversation is a reminder that great sex starts within. You'll leave with practical tools—like the "pleasure date" practice—and one bold question to ask yourself that can turn your sex life around.

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Website: https://www.pleasurekeysretreat.com

Free Gift: eBook: www.pleasurekeys.com

Free monthly masterclass https://www.pathwaytopleasure.com

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Somatic Sex Coach Danie Bergstrom where we explore what it really means to initiate intimacy with confidence—especially for queer women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) folks navigating trauma, social conditioning, and disconnection from desire.

Throughout the conversation, Danie shares her personal journey of coming out after leaving a 7-year marriage with a man—a turning point that led her to discover somatic work and reconnect with her body after years of dissociation. From that work, she began supporting others who feel stuck, unsure how to move from awareness to embodied change.

Danie offers insight into how somatics can gently rewire our relationship with pleasure and intimacy. Along the way, we talk about nonverbal consent, how to initiate without anxiety, and why lesbian sex doesn't follow a single script. She also explains why "Where do you feel that in your body?" isn't always the best place to start—and what to ask instead.

If you've ever struggled with initiating sex, felt unsure how to communicate boundaries, or wanted a deeper connection with your body—this episode offers practical tools and permission to start small.

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Website: sapphicsexologist.com

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with clinical psychologist and neurodiversity expert Dr. Matt Zakreski about navigating sex, dating, and relationships through the lens of neurodivergence. From decoding consent to building confidence in communication, Dr. Matt offers real talk, deep insight, and practical tools for connection.

In this conversation, we go behind the scenes of the social dynamics most people take for granted—like reading the room, picking up on flirting, or knowing how to initiate intimacy—and what happens when your brain processes the world differently. Dr. Matt breaks down why things like anxiety, social cues, and different ways of developing can make relationships feel especially confusing or overwhelming for neurodivergent folks.

We explore how to build social and sexual competence through practice, why naming your needs is powerful, and how embracing your unique wiring can lead to more authentic intimacy.

If you've ever felt like dating is confusing, consent is awkward, or you're not doing it "right"—this episode will help you feel seen, empowered, and better equipped to create connection on your terms.

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Website: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/

The Playbook: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/the-neurodiversity-playbook

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmattzakreski/

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