Buckle up, sexy spirits! This episode is a transformative one. 

This week’s guest Spirit Child is a revolutionary somatic practitioner who has never been a fan of the boxes we put ourselves in. They’ve made it their life’s work to help people find liberation from stereotypes and shame - inside and outside of the bedroom. 

In this episode, Spirit explores how ancestry and culture assign stereotypes and shares ways we can responsibly acknowledge, heal, and free ourselves from those stereotypes.

Join Spirit and me as we discuss: 

• What being a revolutionary matriarch means
• Exploring your masculine and feminine energy with yourself and your partner - regardless of gender
• The benefits of being side-by-side, instead of face-to-face, with your partner
• Why pronouns are important 
• The evolution of labels
• how we can stay mindful and flexible with the language we use
• identity and how it differs from who we like and what we do
• how masculinity shows up in different parts of society
• Spirit’s own journey with masculinity
• the disconnection prejudice creates
• the self-fulfilling prophecy of stereotypes 
• healing racism from the root 
• how to heal and unpack the psychological effects of stereotypes in the bedroom
• How our ancestry affects the way we engage in relationships and narratives

About Spirit:

Spirit is a rEvolutionary Somatica practitioner incorporating elements of sensuality, sexuality, spirituality and the various “realities” (our society and daily practical challenges) to holistically obtain desired effects of eroticism and greater intimate relations with self and the world that surrounds us.  

Spirit has 30 years of experience as a spiritual advisor and counselor along with; community organizing, mentorship, prison/school/community workshops on arts and exploration of another world for the liberation of all beings, being an international touring freedom singer (musician) who devotes songs that speak to liberation and a pedagogue that assist with the professional development with individuals as well as organizations. spirit has a B.A. in Psychology and Communications. 

Spirit offers experiential sex and relation guidance (coaching) working with parents/partners, lovers, rEvolutionaries and those seeking to improve their ever growing and loving relations providing tools to assist with self awareness, repair, inner child and having the sex and intimate relations you want and that are right for you.

We explore a mutually vulnerable experience while creating a *relation lab. we practice intimate relations starting with self and with others. this method is inspired and explored with the tools of the Somatica Institute. we will add various healing methods infused offering services on embodiment, sexuality and relationships.

Connect with Spirit:

Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/soulsensespirit

Connect with Deborah:

Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected]

For a free Truth and Clarity Session https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat

When Lindy James walked into her first Tantra event with her friends, she really didn’t know what to expect. Did Tantra require you to be naked? Would she be having sex? What the heck was she getting herself into? But instead of finding the intimidating orgies she had pictured, Lindy found a place of healing, empowerment, and freedom.  She left that event knowing she needed to be a part of this world - and to make this world more accessible to others like her.

A decade later, Lindy James serves as a counselor, intimacy coach, and healer in the Tantric space. In this episode, she debunks some common myths about Tantra, explores how to use Tantra to facilitate healing, and provides strategies on how to become better at listening to what your body needs. 

Join Lindy and me as we discuss: 

• Lindy’s journey from Tantra newbie to a respected Puja leader
• How to keep the “spark” alive in relationships
• Offering love through your body
• Tapping into sacred love
• The importance (and sexiness) of setting boundaries
• How to discuss fears and boundaries with your partner
• What sacred sexuality really means
• Chakras and your sex life
• Deepening your connection with your partner
• How to identify your body’s feelings of “yes” and “no”
• How being willing to disappoint your partner can actually improve your sex life
• Tantra in the age of COVID
• Practicing embodiment in everyday life

About Lindy:

Lindy James is a counselor, intimacy coach, and sexual healer. She is a Certified

Tantric Educator, Hakomi graduate, and 25-year Tantra practitioner. Lindy offers

sessions in the ‘Art of Conscious Intimacy’ for individuals, couples, and groups. 

Lindy James is a woman gracefully in touch with her intuitive wisdom. She believes in the importance of healing ourselves by facing the truth, developing clearer communication, and nurturing deep self-love.

Connect with Lindy

Website: https://lindyjames.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLfe_bopfLeqzKBQR_1scYg

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PermissionzonewithLindyJames

Connect with Deborah:

Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected]

For a free Truth and Clarity Session https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat

Better Art = Better Sex?

Does becoming a better artist make you better at sex? And does becoming better at sex make you better at art? According to this week’s guest, Artist and Sex Coach Rafael Martinez, the answer to both questions is yes - and he’s here to show us how that’s possible. In this episode, Rafael and I explore the relationship between sex and art, what Kundalini energy has to do with both, and how we can use both to heal ourselves and feel more fulfilled.

Join Rafael and me as we discuss: 

• The impact our creativity has on our relationships
• What Kundalini energy is and how it affects art and sex
• The mind-body connection 
• Why numbing emotions doesn’t work - and what to do instead\
• How to use emotional intelligence to learn about our bodies
• Dealing with the “inner critic” - both in and out of the bedroom
• What to do when fear kicks in
• The connection between sex and art
• Rafael’s recommended technique for better sex
• How to “practice” sex
• Having compassion and patience with yourself on your sexual journey

About Rafael:

Rafael Martinez, born in Colombia and raised in New York City, has been an artist all his life and a coach for over nine years. He’s been doing transformational work for well over thirteen years. Rafael is skilled in subtly penetrating and identifying the heart of his clients’ desires and helping them live their lives guided by that desire. Rafael has also expanded this skill to coach artists and people in relationships. He helps them access deeper passion and live with more connection to the deeper things that make life fulfilling.

Connect with Rafael:

Email: [email protected]

Website: rafaelmartinezcoaching.com

Connect with Deborah:

Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected]

Book your free Truth and Clarity Session at https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3 

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat 

After leaving a sexless marriage at age 30, Sky Studley felt adrift. Her body was changing, she was a single mom, and she felt more disconnected from herself and others than ever before. Sky tried therapy, but it wasn’t until she learned about sex and relationship coaching that her body was able to start processing things. Only then did her healing really start to begin. Now a Life and Relationship Coach, Sky supports people navigating big life transitions and anxiety - especially in the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities. In this episode, she shares how anxiety shows up in intimacy and gives us some ways to help ourselves and others through anxious moments in the bedroom… and beyond.  

Join Sky and me as we discuss: 

• How anxiety shows up in sex, intimacy, and connection
• Common challenges anxious people experience with sex and intimacy
• Tools and strategies to handle anxiety in the bedroom  
• Tips for creating intimacy with an anxious person
• How different attachment styles are affected by anxiety
• Ways to use love languages to calm your anxious partner
• How to tell if someone wants to be with you but is just shy
• Starting intimate, vulnerable conversations while shy (or with someone who is shy)

About Sky:

Sky Studley, Life & Relationship Coach, is the founder of OpenSkySpace.com. Sky supports people going through major life transitions such as divorce & separation, life cycles of parenthood, opening up relationships, coming out, those at the end of life or grieving the loss of a loved one. She is also very passionate about supporting marginalized groups and provides discounted rates for lower-income BIPOCs.

Connect with Sky

Website: https://www.openskyspace.com/

Connect with Deborah:

Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected]

Book your free Truth and Clarity Session at https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat 

I often talk about my Leather Daddy or my BDSM mentor I am beyond thrilled to have Ken as my guest.

Though he’s always had a love for tying people up, Ken Zane didn’t connect with the BDSM aspect of this affinity until he was stationed in Germany. There, he found an amazing community that introduced him to BDSM play - and unlocked his passion for being Dominant. But the more BSDM communities Ken explored, the more he found a lot of other Doms played in very unsafe, inattentive ways. So, Ken did what any good soldier would do - he formed a lesson plan. 

Ken traveled around the country teaching Doms everything from how to build trust, use tools, and become a better communicator during play. In this episode, he takes us through some of his most essential teachings and gives us an insider look at what makes up a REALLY good BDSM dynamic.

Join Ken and me as we discuss: 

• playing dominant and submissive at parties on Capitol Hill
• why surrendering yourself to power and submission can feel so freeing
• the sexiness of solid boundaries
• how BDSM & sex relate to each other
• what needs to happen to ensure a positive and safe BDSM experience
• the importance of trust and communication in BDSM
• how to check in with each other - without ruining the moment
• what most Doms get wrong about being dominant
• How Ken’s experience in the military affects his Dominance style

Connect with Ken

[email protected] is good.

Connect with Deborah

Send your sex and relationship questions to [email protected]

For a free Truth and Clarity Session https://www.deborahkat.com/appointments-3

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat 

The Three Keys to Great Sex and Fulfilling Relationships This week’s incredible guest, Sheba, Queen of the Night, began her career as a traditional stage actress, but a fated performance of the Vagina Monologues changed everything. That show became her life for the next 11 years, and opened her up to a world of sex, dance, creativity, pleasure, and kinks in the process. Now an Erotic Artist and Sex & Intimacy coach, Sheba spends her days teaching others how to fill their lives with good sex and fulfilling relationships. In this episode, she shares the pillars of her philosophy on fulfilling sex, gives us some fascinating ways to apply them, and takes us through how to let your personality shine through your sensuality. 

Join Sheba and me as we discuss: 

• Her journey from actress to performance artist… to entertainer to model to erotic artist to sex & intimacy coach (Sheba really does it all!)
• Finding joy in - and reconnecting with - your body
• A burlesque exercise that can benefit anyone’s sex life
• How to explore your own sensuality
• The multi-dimensional benefits of moaning
• Where yoga and sensuality meet
• How to be more present - and why you should

About Sheba:

Sheba is a Sex & Intimacy Coach and Erotic Artist located in St. Petersburg, FL. As a practitioner of Body Joy Intimacy School, she works with clients virtually and in-person for one-on-one coaching sessions around relationships, sexuality, exploration, and body positivity. She leads kink-friendly/queer-friendly workshops encouraging intimacy building and creating a playful, explorative, exciting dynamic in your sex life. 

Connect with Sheba

Website: https://www.shebaqueenofthenight.com/sex-coach

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexposisheba/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shebaQOTNentertainment/

Connect with Deborah:

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat 

Tarot and You: A Conversation with Wizard and Business Coach Sage Lee I don’t know about you, but when I have a fight with my partner or less-than-stellar sex, my first move isn’t to consult my tarot deck - but after this episode, that might change. 

In this week’s unfiltered conversation, wizard and relationship coach Sage Lee pulls back the curtain on the power tarot has to reveal the true challenges between you, love, and good sex. Tune in to learn how to use the power of tarot to identify our relationship or sexual blockages, facilitate inner healing, and integrate our awesome masculine and feminine energies. We’ll even give you an inside look at a tarot deck Sage Lee designed specifically for this purpose - The Sage Tarot. Take a look at one of the cards here. Join us to discuss:

• how tarot actually works and its surprising applications in business and life
• bringing magic back into your life
• the different forms of love
• integrating our masculine and feminine using the tarot
• why it’s important to integrate and develop our masculine and feminine - regardless of your gender identification
• how and why Sage designed The Sage Tarot
• improving your sex life and relationships through tarot
• falling in love with yourself

Connect with Sage Lee: 

Website: theschoolforwizards.com

Instagram: instagram.com/sageleelove

Twitter: twitter.com/brandmystic

Get your copy of The Sage Tarot: https://theschoolforwizards.com/sage-tarot-2/

Connect with Deborah:

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat

Chemistry is essential for great sex - and it isn't as elusive or accidental as we make it out to be. In fact, how we experience chemistry can be a BIG indicator of blockages or unhealed patterns within ourselves.  This week, I've invited Hema - a gifted psychic, energy healer, and certified Tantra Instructor -  on to the podcast to take us through what contributes to chemistry, teach us how to use energy healing to move those past blockages and unhealed patterns, and give us the language we need to identify and communicate exactly what we want in the bedroom. 

Join Hema and me as we discuss:

• the science behind energy healing
• reprogramming your energy field to remove blocks
• how to honor our physical intuition
• why you should be cautious of overwhelming chemistry
• what contributes to chemistry
• the impact communication roadblocks have on your sex life
• how to identify and communicate your needs - both sexual and otherwise
• staying curious about sex, yourself, and your partner

Connect with Hema: 

Website: http://hemaholisticmystic.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/realhemayoga

Connect with Deborah:

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat 

Born in rural Eastern Europe, sex coach Lyuba Venable was raised with the understanding that women were to be married off and sex was only for men to enjoy. She lived by these rules... until a chance encounter with a stranger transformed her idea of what sex could be - and who it could be for. In this episode, sex coach Lyuba Venable shares her compelling journey from a subservient wife to a multidisciplinary sex coach - along with all of the orgies, orgasms, intimacy, and self-discovery in between!

Tune in to hear Lubya and I discuss:

• Lubya's intense journey of discovering her own sexuality
• the true nature of intimacy
• overcoming limiting sexual beliefs
• Tantra and the Chakra System
• the role masturbation should play in your relationships
• what you need to do for yourself first in order to have better sex
• self-discovery and healing
• sensual feasting

Connect with Lyuba:

Lyuba Venable is a coach, trainer and public speaker. Through her open and vulnerable speaking style, Lyuba leaves audiences inspired, open to honesty, and interested in new possibilities.

Having learned from Master Mantak Chia, Charles Muir, Somatica and the Human Awareness Institute, Lyuba marries multiple disciplines together in her online workshops. With topics ranging from sex communication to energetic orgasms, participants have a safe, confidential space to share, explore, and learn how to create a juicier sex life and a deeper connection with self.

TikTok: tiktok.com/@lyubabodylove

Events: https://beacons.ai/lyubabodylove

Connect with Deborah:

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat 

Episode 2: Sexual Healing with Lucia Pavone

In this episode, Deborah Kat interviews Lucia Pavone, a somatic sex mentor. Lucia began her journey of sexual emancipation began over 17 years ago when she took a  sensuality course. Quickly realizing that the pursuit of pleasure was her calling,  she became a dedicated researcher of communication, relationships and sensuality. Since then, she’s trained and experienced over 6,000 hours of Deliberate Embodied Orgasm  (full body, extended orgasm), become a trained facilitator of Sacred Dao Pelvic Healing, and has supported hundreds of people in their sexual, ancestral, and trauma healing journeys.

Join Lucia and Deborah as they discuss: 

• how healing our systems, our stories, and our relationships can help us experience pleasure
• the surprising connection your ancestral heritage has to inner awareness and transformation
• the difference between an orgasm and a climax
• how to use pleasure to strengthen your connections - even your platonic ones - and vice versa
• what sensual alchemy is and how it helps your healing journey
• the relationship between pleasure and pain

About Lucia Pavone: Lucia  Pavone is a rule-breaker,  international speaker, Somatic sex educator, and sensuality mentor. As a modern-day temple priestess, she is passionate about supporting people to embody their sexuality, love their juicy bodies, free themselves from shame, heal sexual traumas and have a sex life worth bragging about.

Connect with Lucia: 

Email: [email protected] Website: www.luciapavone.net

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lusciousluciapavone/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lusciousluciapavone/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/life_luscious

Connect with Deborah:

Website: https://www.deborahkat.com/ Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat Twitter: https://twitter.com/TantraKat