The BOSSUP Podcast

If you have been following this podcast, you know it's about showing up as the CEO (boss) in your own life. It's about taking control of your actions so you can position yourself to be the best version of yourself . At some point in our lives we have all showed up as an employee in our own life. Let me explain real quick. If you have been overwhelmed by your to-do list because it's consumed with things you need to do for others, employee. If you are asking permission to do the things that make you happy because you are worried what others will think, employee. If you have said YES, when you wanted to say NO, employee. If you have made quick decisions because you felt time was against you, employee. I hope you get the point. A BOSS adds up the cost of every decision she makes. She is intentional with her time.

In this episode, I talk about being a Boss vs being an employee and how it is keeping you from accomplishing your goals, living the life you desire and keeping you stuck.

Shared in this episode:

Personal Mission Statement Mini-course - bit.ly/personalmissionTBO

Every person on this earth has at least one person they hold high regards towards. If you don't, we need to have a totally different conversation because you are lying to yourself and may need to go back and listen to last week's episode!

But what I'm seeing a lot of is people allowing the fake images of others to paralyze them and not go after their own dreams? Maybe you have dreams but have never seen anyone accomplish them, so you stay stagnate. Maybe you are having issues in your relationship while watching your friend's relationship bloom right before your eyes. I just want to encourage you to normalize being you! Standing Bold in who you are, realizing you are not a tree you can move any time you desire, and that you do not have to submit to someone else's timeline of what you should be doing with your time.

Every time you compare yourself to someone else you silently telling that little girl inside of you she is not enough. Stop that!

Okay now to this week's episode.

We have all been in at least one situation where our power has been tested. You know you have that person that think they can tell you what to do or how to act. I get it! I've been there several times and it's not fun. Often time making you feel forced to defend yourself and push back.

Once a victim of domestic abuse, I found after "leaving" the situation, instead of being extremely passive about how I allowed myself to be treated, I went to the other end of the spectrum and refused to allow anyone to mishandle me - cause who's gonna check me, Boo?

Well remember the way you do one thing is the way you do all things. I soon learned I could walk around with a "no check" attitude, but that accountability that I needed almost took my life.

In this episode of the BossUp Podcast, I talk about my experience and hopefully give you some insight on why accountability is not just needed but required to live your life to the fullest. You MUST find the balance - no we will not allow anyone to mishandle us and dictate how we live our lives, but we must be willing to deal with the consequences of our choices.

Leave a comment below and let me know what areas of your life have been tested and how you faced them and/or the person that tried to check you.

If you don't allow the wounds in your life to heal, you will bleed on the things you love.

Although women are some of the most emotional specimens on earth, we can hide our emotions even from ourselves. It's time to stop pushing the things that hurt us under the rug and start dealing with them. In this episode, I talk about why it's important to deal with the things that once hurt you and how it can hold you back from accomplishing the goals you have.

I would like to give a moment of silence for those who sacrificed their lives while serving the our country. You made the grand sacrifice and we appreciate it. Happy Memorial Day.

One of the things I despise is hearing someone say "you should be over that by now". How can you tell anyone when or how they should grieve? What is an appropriate amount of time to set aside to grieve? How do you know when the "grieving period" is over? Can you grieve something other than a person?

In this episode we talk about grief and answer all those questions and more. Last month I experienced a situation that made me revisit the losses in my life. It made me clutch my pearls and think about how I was living my life. It made me stop and re-evaluate the things that really matter in life. It made me dig deep inside of all the BS (belief systems) that I have been dealing with most of my life.

Grief sucks! It's one of the hardest but most essential things you will ever experience in life. But when it's done the right way, it will help you BOSS UP, grab the bull by the horn and make some adjustments! It sucks but it's a part of life. I just want you to handle it like a BOSS!

I also encourage you to pick up a copy of "What You're Hiding is Hindering Your Blessings". This book will help you identify some things in your life that you could be grieving and are not aware of it. It will also give you guidance on how to deal with them.

Until Next Time

Imagine running through an airport with a carry on bag, your purse, holding a child's hand and talking on the phone. Something is going to get dropped or lost in the shuffle. But that is exactly what we are doing when we attempt to take on new opportunities in our life while holding on to things that no longer fit our lifestyle.

Some times it's hard to let go of things that we once saw potential in; but until you are willing to release them NOTHING else can come into your life. I hope you have enjoyed the Girl Unpack That Bag series. But now it's time to unpack, reorganize and get ready to tackle the things that will help you live YOUR BEST LIFE.

In part 1 we talked about the "stuff" we have in our baggage and why we hold on to those items, this week I want to talk about how to get rid of those items.

Well the way you do one thing is the way you do all things!! If you don't get rid of the items you no longer need, it's going to be hard to pack the items you do need or you are going to find yourself buying stuff you don't need because they are somewhere hidden in a bag.

In today's episode, I will share HOW to get rid of those items so you can live your best life and enjoy your trip. If you ready, let's go.

I have a lot of trips planned for the next few months and I'm super excited. BUT babee - I realized that before I could prepare for these amazing trips I had to unpack some stuff! Last year, we did a little bit of traveling and I left a few "essential traveling" items in my bag; like toothbrush, toothpaste, lotion. Well there was a few other items in that bag that I was not expecting to be there. In fact, I had looked for those items all winter and there they were sitting in a bag that I hadn't used for several months!

That's exactly what we are doing in life. We have stored things in our mental or emotional bags thinking we will need them again. Truth is it's time for you to unpack that bag so you can move on. This is a two part episode because I have soo much to share. Girl you know me it may even be three parts because I had a lot of ish in my bag that needed to be removed and I know you can relate! If you ready, let's go.

In a previous episode, I spoke about how having motivation is not enough. It requires discipline and determination to change behaviors that we have grown to accept as our norms. But I will be the first to say even with the best discipline and determination, there are some behaviors I find hard to change. There are times I revert to old habits not intentionally but because they are part of my norm. I have to force myself not to do them! And even then I self-sabotage. It's so frustrating. Can you relate?

Well in this episode, I share my secret weapon for limiting my self-sabotaging behavior so I can be more successful in accomplishing my goals. If you are ready, let's go.

Hey Girl Hey!

You have a choice - you can show up as a variable or a constant in this thing called life! The choice is yours but be willing to deal with the consequences of that choice. In this episode I want to talk to you about how you are showing up. Because the way YOU SHOW up is exactly how people will deal with you.

You deserve to be the BOSS in your own life. You do NOT have to lower your standards because others won't step up to theirs. Life is full of opportunities and NO - just means there is a better opportunity on the horizon. Keep pushing forward and claim the space you want. YOU ARE THE BOSS!! claim your status.

Have an amazing week.