The Brittany Wheeler Show

Everyday we face crossroads that require us to make a decision. Some could be a simple "whats for dinner?" decision. While others could be which partner do I choose? Or do I leave everything I have ever known? The crossroad of "choosing your hard" takes practice, falling flat on your face and making the wrong choice more than you make the right one for you. Listen along as I break down how to navigate that crossroad.

• Choosing your hard is just as hard in the small decisions as in the big ones
• Each choice is hard but you should be asking, "Which is going to get you closer to who and what you desire to be?"
• Your decisions compounded over time will become a habit, be mindful
• Know your blind spots, weak areas and maybe the people who are not supporting the positive changes
• If you are at a cross road and the hard is a big decision, consult with someone you trust
• Ask for guidance from a person who is WHERE YOU WANT TO BE
• Don't ask for advice or wisdom if the individual has not themselves OVERCOME and arrived in the area you need help with
• Sometimes you will allow yourself to get knocked down over and over again without realizing that making another choice would launch you forward
• Choose the other hard if you keeping coming back to the same cross road
• Give yourself GRACE and commit to choosing your hard until you become the person you desire to be

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About Episode
We are the sum of our choices. At 21, Alexis Perry found herself in jail and at a life changing cross road. Does she keep doing what she is doing and end up back in jail or worse? Or does she find help to become the better version of herself. On fire for God and leaving a legacy Alexis is here to tell her story of redemption and a relationship that saved her life.

• Alexis was brought to Wilmington not by choice, but God
• Growing up in church and been a Christian but has grown in her walk with Christ
• Knowing God is being relational with him
• Be aware that the people you love the most, may not be able to see what God is calling you to- its love disguised
• At 21 going to jail was the life event that forced her to change her life
• Allowing God to love you and fill the void that could be left by an earthy parent will provide healing
• Let your "walk talk louder than your talk talks" by being better and doing better
• Becoming a better version of yourself may not sit with others in your life, be ok with focusing on your goal and loving them regardless
• Shut out the noise to focus and grow
• Lift your foot and let God place it
• There are many seasons where you need to decrease yourself and surrender to allow God to increase
• Do the work, give it to God and lean into God
• We have more in common than we do different

Thank you @bluecuproastery for being our coffee partner and providing drinks for the episode! Check them out on instagram, and if you are local stop by and grab your own delicious drink!

Check out Alexis Perry and The Bashpad on IG and DM if you have questions or could use some help navigating what we talked about today! Grab her book "The Beautiful Overcomer". 

Luna Caffe favorite coffee shop @lunacaffeilm  -check them out!
The George favorite restaurant @thegeorgeilm- check them out!

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#dreamingbig 
#choosingyourhard 
#thelifegodcalledyouto
#beingkind 
#dogoodthingsmakemeproud 
#thelifeyoulongfor

Looking to make lasting changes in certain areas of your life? Longing to stick with a goal? Join Brittany as she dives deeper into  The New Year Sustainable You Process. Looking for more help and or guidance, DM or email [email protected]!

• So many reasons why goals won't work- set yourself up for success by trying them on first
• Have you taken the time to reflect on all areas of your life you want to grow in?
• Reflecting on 2023 will give you the facts on WHY you didn't reach your goal, OR HOW you did
• Give yourself permission to praise all the HARD and GREAT work you did
• If you don't know where you have been, you won't know where you are going
• Set goals based on last year but set them big enough to create room for growth
• Don't buy the gym membership, the fancy gym clothes or journal until you KNOW your goal and are ready to sustain it
• Try your goals on, use January as a sketch month

Thank you to all of the coffee shops who have been our coffee partner and providing drinks for 2023! Check them out on instagram, and if you are local stop by and grab your own delicious drink!
Bespoke Coffee
Luna Caffe
Blue Cup Roastery
The Maroon Monkey
Drift Coffee Kitchen
Vigilant Hope Roasting
Spill Coffee Co.

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From 2014-2022 I spent New Years Days creating goals based on 24 hours of reflection. But each of these years all I achieved was burnout and disappointment. I only took a day to decide what goals “fit” for that year. Rather than “trying on” goals that would fit because I was willing to create sustainable change. After listening to a successful entrepreneur share how he starts off every New Year, I knew his tips could be applied to my life. Join me as I share HOW to achieve your goals through this sustainable process!

• The New Year is a time for rejuvenation, refresh and rebirth
• Most people don't make it into the 4th week of the new year because what they have created isn't sustainable
• This process is applicable to any goal; health/wellness, spiritual, finances, relational
• Using this process will help you create sustainability through the end of the year
• Remove the “running out the gate” mentality
• Allow yourself to live the first three weeks of January so you can decide if the goals you are considering will FIT and make sense
• Reflecting in your business(es) not just for 2023 but 2022 as well- this will give you a big runway for growth
• As a couple, reflect on what worked and what didn’t work regarding kids involvement, date nights, time with friends etc.
• You cannot make a years worth of goals in one night, so be smart and take the time to reflect and assess
• This is duplicatable and can be scaled down monthly 
• Take the time to do this, see this process as an investment not something that takes away your time

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As an influencer with over 11.5 thousand followers Amanda Hoffman of Wilmingtonmom is seen as a local celebrity. Bringing a "family friendly" lens to the Lower Cape Fear area. While the community knows of her as this public figure, I am elated to welcome you into a conversation to get to know the human and ray of sunshine behind the instagram handle. Please welcome to The Brittany Wheeler Show, Amanda Hoffman.

• Amanda's humility and kindness is deeply rooted in her upbringing
• Her desire to help others and create community begun as college student while attending UNCW
• Loving people and being around them is a passion and has been an undertone for even her newest endeavors
• Wilmingtonmom was a solution to a need- An adventure to travel and discover within her community 
• Amanda recognized that many locals didn't even know places existed.
• She is just an ordinary woman who is as real on IG as she is in person
• Amanda has brought together competency and trust to "influence" and guide the community
• Bringing a child into the world during COVID was NOT the plan, but God helped Amanda birth a new dream as a result
• All of what she has done has led her to this moment and the dreams she is bringing to life right now
• God gifts those abundantly who steward their gift and love others
• Wilmington is a special place and has an incredibly amazing small business community
• Be positive, see the beauty and be a ray of light for others
• There are people out there who want to help WITHOUT strings or a trade
• What are you doing with your time? With your gifts?
• Focus and intentionality to accomplish what your goals are
• If you are wanting to do something different, or try something new- DO IT
• Don't make excuses, and simplify!

Thank you Vigilant Hope Roasting- The Roastery for sponsoring today's coffee. Check them out on instagram to support the mission of Vigilant Hope!

Check out Amanda via Wilmingtonmom on instagram and follow along for all things "Family Friendly" in Wilmington, NC.  Grab Amanda's book Hello, Wilmington on her website. If you are a local business looking to collaborate or carry her book shoot her an email!

Casa Blanca is one of Amanda's favorite- check them out! She loves PT Grille burger. Grab one and go to the NC Arboretum and enjoy the beauty around you!

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Living in fear of God and battling depression and suicide James was living in complete darkness. Saying yes to a youth group would be the catalyst that brought him to understanding unconditional love and the light that lives within God's children. Love always wins, and James’ is a testament to this. Join us and hear just how James has overcome obstacles and found light in the dark.

• Grew up not knowing God the way he does now
• Spent much of his childhood avoiding go to hell- living a fear based faith
• Feeling unworthy, James was accepted into his youth group and began to feel Gods love
• James has navigated depression and suicide and it was witnessing goodness and watching believers walk out their faith that help him see light over darkness
• It's likely that those around you suffering from mental health issues, won't ask for help, so be sure to ask them if you can help
• Choosing to forgive his brother and former girlfriend, willing himself to love them both over the hurt he was navigating
• Moving to NC was one of the hardest decisions he made because life was “ok” in NY
• Even after making the decision to move to NC and pursue becoming a firefighter, he knew the only way to get where he wanted was to push through
• Put what you desire and the dreams you have in front of you- just as Abraham did (the original form of vision boards)
• Don’t quit, believe in your goal and it's worth it
• Be humble enough to ask people who have gone where you desire- learn from them

Thank you @maroonmonkeycoffee for being our coffee partner and providing drinks for the episode! Check them out on instagram, and if you are local stop by and grab your own delicious drink!

Check out James Petteys on IG and DM if you have questions or could use some help navigating a dark season, and overcoming obstacles!

James' favorites:
Maven Coffee Company favorite coffee shop @mavencoffee_co -check them out!
Front Street Brewery favorite restaurant and their black and bleu burger @frontstreetbrewery check them out!

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250 Downloads!!! I could not imagine we would be this far with  ONLY 8 episodes uploaded!

Thank you all so much for listening, sharing and receiving from the BWS! I am excited for the consistent growth and following that is continuing to move throughout the podcast world.

More and more episodes to come that will help you and help others you know! I am so blessed to have guests who are everyday individuals who you can recognize your own story in theirs. This platform is forming and growing and God is at the helm of this.

Thank you Julian and Taylor! Thank you for creating the space for me to host this podcast and steward what God has called me to. 

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Katie Tate is an incredibly kind, driven and motivated woman who has spent her career serving the community. During our time together you will hear how she has chosen to serve and make a difference in not just her career but in how she raises her daughters. You will always find Katie with a smile and a joyful personality, both of which take practice. Take a listen and learn more about Katie and how she has practiced kindness, intentionality and awareness.

• Be open to meet friends. Whether it is at networking events, coffee shops or even the grocery store!
• Trust the spark and the connection for friendship and community
• Are your eyes open? Are you willing to recognize the need for change?
• Your calling and life's work could be on a billboard...but you have to see it!
• Leaving and changing is a part of growth. It is easy to stay and be comfortable, or choosing what is going to better you
• Recognizing intentionality is key in personal growth and what you are called to do
• There are experiences and people who will shape you and shape how to raise your family or make decisions
• The WYCA has played such a greater role in Katie's family not just in her career
• Personal and professional growth is a choice and takes intention
• There are many ways to grow professionally in Wilmington, NC you just need to seek them out, whatever is best for you
• As a Mom you can have both a career and be a mom
• There is no "one size" fits all or one way to do it
• Recognize the guilt doesn't need to exist and know that as a woman and a mom you deserve to fight for your dreams and desires
• If you don't have access or need support seek out organizations that can help
• "You can have it all, but you can't do it all"- Brittany Wheeler
• Choose what you can give up within your means. An example maybe its grocery shopping- choose instacart
• Kindness DOES NOT equal weakness
• Saying NO is an important part to practicing kindness
• Smiling is a form of kindness, and it can change a person's day
• Many ways to volunteer with Lower Cape Fear Life Care check out their website to learn how!
• Don't forget to check out Cape Fear Festival of Trees at North Carolina Aquarium at Fort Fisher 

**Ticket fees go straight to the Aquarium. But Donations are accepted onsite**

Shout out to Port City Java coffee shop as Katie's favorite coffee shop. Katie is learning how to live without Deck House at Carolina Beach. 

Thank you Maroon Monkey for sponsoring today's coffee! Follow them on IG @maroonmonkeycoffee

Join Samm and I as we talk about business, choosing your hard and being kind! During this episode you will get the chance to hear how life is a series of choices and it doesn't always end up the way you believe it will, but it can be EVEN BETTER!  Samm Sawyer is a visionary and has found herself helping small businesses grow their vision through digital marketing. Whether it is starting a business, a relationship or getting healthy showing up and being willing to take one step is 90% of it. You will learn that you will never have all of the answers . If you are willing to choose hard things each day growth will occur! 

Episode Notes

• Samm Sawyer is the owner and founder of SMM Creative Collective a digital marketing company based in Wilmington, NC
• Being an entrepreneur didn't cross her mind, until COVID and in-person teaching ended 
• Waitressing led to the right people who saw the potential in Samm
• The entire growth of this business was based on word of mouth referrals
• Are you willing to fight through life figuring out how to do it uniquely YOUR WAY?
• Your talents far extend a career, and you can create a versatile lifestyle doing what you love
• Samm's business has grown because of her clients' acts of kindness
• As a small business owner you get the opportunity to show up authentically for your business and for your brand
• Do you see the long game in your business? What are you fighting for?
• Choosing your hard happens daily- and sometimes requires a pivot
• Show up when you are scared and do it regardless
• Create tricks to help you get things done
• Use habit stacking to help you get tasks done by pairing what you love with a task you don't love
• Don't listen to people who make your hard sad
• Surround yourself with people who challenge you to be better and grow
• Sometimes the people who love us have opinions rooted in love, but coated in fear
• No one will care about what you have created as much as you

Thank you Drift Coffee & Kitchen for sponsoring our coffees for the show! As you heard from Samm check out Second Glass Wine Bar and Bespoke Coffee & Dry Goods as her favorite restaurant and coffee shop in Wilmington!

You can find Samm at online at  SSM Creative Collective or @ssmcreativeco on Instagram!

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Do Good Things and Make Me Proud!

Join us as we talk about Julian's journey of dreaming, doing the work and listening to God's call. This conversation will inspire you and encourage you to do what it takes to live a fulfilling life. Sometimes the plan you have for yourself is not the ultimate plan, but learning how to grow through it and adapt leads you closer to who you are mean't to be.

Julian shares incredible insight on how he became a dreamer and what dreaming looks like now.

Episode Notes
-God brought us together and for the perfect reason and time
-Julian was always gifted, and God given talents in sports and education
-His work ethic started at a young age
-The realization that his motives were not as God has desired. The spotlight he acquired was self focused.
-Now he is stewarding these talents, work ethic and convictions by teaching others
-Dreaming didn't naturally occur as a child, because as a child his parents created a "dream like" world
-Dreaming for himself came later, when his parents stopped supplying the dream
-The life Julian had as a child was not going to sustain him as a teen or an adult. He worked at a young age for what he desires.
-Went through several dreams of careers  until he landed on News Anchor
-Becoming a News Anchor was bringing him back to the spotlight and away from what God was calling him to
-He had always had a camera in his hand, but pushed back because it wasn't "the spotlight"
-God forced his hand, with his gifts behind the scenes and helping create it for others
-Couldn't imagine putting Julian and I together to create this podcast and make such an impact
-Julian's life and everything has to be a God story
-Never felt real pain until Julian's back surgery, he carried a "super hero" complex as a youth (10 injuries prior to back surgery)
-His injury is what saved him from going down an empty road
-Felt that pressure as a youth to "show up" and be present for your team
-"Showing Up" isn't always physical and there are many ways you can show up
-Julian was obedient in God's call to do something different to get something different. Took him 3x to listen!
-Realizing after college that building his career around himself wasn't lucrative nor fulfilling
-Julian's Mom was an incredible example of how to LOVE the Lord and lean into him and rely on his strength and NOT her own understanding
-The revelation of who you are mean't to be and become is in the intentional opportunities and moments God provides. For Julian it was through a camera!
-God gives you crazy ideas, but they are not for anybody else but you!
-Allowing himself to be stripped of who he was to become the Julian he was mean't to be
-Are you willing to deal with the loneliness on this journey of all you desire?
-Having no regrets means you believe in God's plan for you. If you do have regrets are you doubting Gods plan?
-God may be block your blessing to bless you bigger at a later time
-If you feel lost, or can't find the will to keep dreaming- do something different, try something new


The beach is Julian's best recommendation to spend time with others, discover yourself and find peace.  Chicken Salad Chick - Chicken Kailyn is his favorite sandwich. Located here in Wilmington.