The Bubbly Bibi

The truth is, many of us experience a lack of self-confidence from time to time, and that's perfectly normal. But when it comes to jealousy, personal insecurity and comparison in a relationship, it can drive a wedge between you and your partner. Insecurity can be somewhat positive and cute, as it can inspire you to work harder in the relationship and value your partner more. However, if insecurity starts to get out of hand, it can create a toxic atmosphere in your relationship and wreak havoc on your confidence. Even worst, it can tear apart partners who genuinely love and care about each other. 💔

Feeling insecure in your relationship can be deeply painful and upsetting. It can show up in all kinds of ways. For example, you may have trouble believing that your partner won't cheat on you. You may feel like your bond has been getting weaker and weaker for a while and that the foundation is starting to crumble. Or you may even feel like your partner is constantly on the verge of breaking up with you.

😰 Under these conditions, it can be tough to believe in the future of your relationship, and you may sometimes wonder if the easiest solution would be just to split up. It can also begin to have very negative effects in other areas of your life. Your self-esteem and self-confidence may be undermined, making it difficult to resolve problems. 😟

When insecurity or jealousy begins to surface, it can often seem harmless and somewhat adorable. But if it creeps too deeply into the relationship, it can cause you to act out of character and destroy your relationship. 🤯 So, if insecurity and jealousy are taking a toll on you and your partner, I suggest you listen to this podcast for some ideas to deal with this whole situation! 😊

We often try to mould ourselves into the image of what others think, and in this vicious process, we forget how to stay true to ourselves. From a young age, we learn to be someone our parents want us to be, and it is perfectly normal to get lost in this process.... 🤯 We are constantly told how to sit... how to talk... how to act... and even how to breathe in front of others. All of this has been so ingrained in our minds that when someone asks us how we’re doing, we don’t actually reply to that question as seriously and deeply as we should. Our answer is more often “Yeah, I’m fine” or “I’m okay” - even if we don’t necessarily mean it.😟 Unfortunately, it has become a habit to hide our true personalities and present ourselves to others as entirely different people. And, we somehow lose our true selves in that whole process. Have you ever thought about what it would be like if you could just be yourself? Your true self, without a mask hiding you? Imagine living in a world where we are all accepted - flaws and all - without hiding from others and ourselves. 🥰 Feeling positive in today’s chaotic world doesn’t seem easy. Saying “I’m fine” when you’re clearly NOT can damage your mental and emotional well-being. This false positivity prevents us from feeling confident and authentic with ourselves.🤐🤫🤕 Recognising and accepting our feelings as they are can be really helpful. When we accept our emotions, we acknowledge the problem behind those feelings and respond to find a solution. Knowing yourself is not just about knowing your body. It is about knowing who you are as a whole person – your body, thoughts, emotions, intuition, awareness, spirit, character and determination. Hiding these emotions and feelings would not help you feel any better; on the contrary, you will feel bummed out, miserable and blue.😓 This whole self-acceptance thing may seem daunting, but once you muster up the courage to accept your true identity, you will become more confident and self-assured in your actions. So, don’t be afraid to get to know yourself better and find the beauty that may be hidden. Each one of us is unique and has our own individuality. Even if you are a twin, you are still a 1 in 1. You’re beautiful, intelligent, strong, fearless, full of depth and wonder. And don’t forget to define how you want to be treated and spoken to. You are the one who has to live with yourself most of the time, and in the end, it is your opinion of yourself that will mostly influence your behaviour and functioning. So learn to tune your mind to positive thoughts about yourself. Do not let any negative thoughts about yourself linger. Do not let unpleasant words about yourself come out of your mouth. Be lighter on yourself. Nobody is perfect. Gently accept your human side. Listen to this podcast if you’re struggling to find your true authentic self. 😘🤗

For many of us, standing up for ourselves doesn’t come naturally 😓 – in fact,  it can even seem like a no-go. Maybe you’re someone who doesn’t like to “rock the boat” and swallow any opposing feelings or thoughts to avoid confrontation - you find that doing what others want seems the best or easiest thing to do.

But when we let people walk all over us, it leaves a bad taste in our mouths.😖 We’ll end up with anger and resentment. We may wonder why people are so insensitive… why don’t they know what we want?

This is why you should stand up for yourself 💪 and stop 🚫 doing everything for someone else’s benefit. 🙅‍♀️ And to really stand up for yourself, you need to have boundaries and, more importantly, know how to set them. 🤗 When we don’t, we become passive - we let life “happen” and often get stepped on along the way.😞 If you find it challenging to stand up for yourself, you’re probably out of touch with your very own needs and overly attentive to those of others. In that case, you’re setting the stage for being taken advantage of.

Your needs, wants, desires, and goals are just as important as anyone else’s. Maybe they have not have been recognised as such when you were younger, but you have the power 🌟 to make sure they are now. And if you start standing up for yourself and fighting your own corner, you’ll find that things will start shifting in your favor. ❤️

Feeling like you’re missing something essential? 😰 Are you always left feeling not good enough, accomplished enough, attractive enough, smart enough or whatever you think the lack is related to? 🥺 Does the search for positive feedback and affirmation in your life feel like a unicorn hunt? 🦄 You may think you’ll never be good enough for anything or anyone, but the truth is that you are good enough, even if you don’t see it. 💪🥰 With a few mind shifts and thought discipline, you can learn to embrace and honour your inner worth and dignity. ❤️

Without a shadow of a doubt, the world has a way of keeping us busy and rushing us through moments of accomplishment and good news. But with so much inevitable sadness and anguish that we are all bound to experience in our lives, it’s high time we take the time to appreciate and focus on those happiness-inducing magical moments.

Even I tended to let the little moments of joy slip by too quickly…But I have slowly learned to stick with my feelings in the good times to make sure they really matter. So now, more than ever, I’m constantly working to create space for more joy and happiness in everything I do.

What does it look like if we focus on good days as much as bad days? How can we create spaces for happiness in our adult lives and feel better?

This January, it’s time to kick back and hone in on healthy habits that will allow you to thrive throughout this year and beyond. To help you feel better in 2022 and truly bring joy into your life, this week’s podcast is about tips for pursuing, capturing and treasuring positive moments, whether in small or big ways.

I hope you enjoy the first episode of this year’s podcast! Have a blessed and happy new year! ❤️

When you’ve deeply loved someone and that love dissolves or meets a sudden end, it can jolt you out of reality into a cloudy, confused state where you feel low, lost and alone. 😞

And, if you’ve ever suffered from self-esteem issues before, a breakup can make you particularly vulnerable to feeling unworthy of love from anyone (let alone yourself). 😥

When a relationship dissolves, it can alter the way we view our own identity. It has such a detrimental impact on us that we can even forget that we have a life, a career, and other people who still love us; we just feel worthless. But why does this happen?

So, here’s the thing: when we fall in love, we willingly choose to succumb to vulnerability. We blindly trust a person to the point that we think that they will be with us forever, present for our victories and, most importantly, our failures. Isn’t that so true? We become so attached to them that we share every silly incident, as well as all of our time, insecurities, fears, our saddest and happiest moments, and our new experiences with them. Inevitably, there comes the point that they become a part of our life, even our identity.

When the person who knows your real self, personality, weaknesses, and strengths breaks your heart by one day deciding to dissolve the relationship, then it seems logical to think that you are worthless and unloveable. It can make you believe that, when the person who used to love you the most doesn’t anymore and treats you like a piece of garbage, then they might be right!

But, however tempting it may be to cut yourself off from society or spend your days crying at yourself in the mirror and relentlessly running through everything your ex said to you (in a vain attempt to find a ‘solution’ that you think will make you worthy of love again), that’s not the answer.

Feeling worthless after a breakup is not uncommon, but it is harmful to your physical and mental health to not embark on the journey to learning to live life again. That’s why I present to you some self-love practices that you can observe to love yourself again and recover from your present state of melancholy.

Before you take your first step towards healing, however, there is a disclaimer: the journey will require both time and effort, but the results are worth it! ❤️

In a world that convinces you to be different, being different and unique has become a scarcity in this world. It's easy to compromise everything you are and what you stand for just to make people feel warm... But doing so won't change ANYTHING, honey! 😉

In fact, you'll most likely lose yourself trying to fit in this world. Every person is unique and you can't try to be someone you are not. Just like a snowflake, you have distinct personality and characteristics that set you apart. 🤗

Your uniqueness is what helps you identity who you truly are and who you aren't. So, it's high time you learn to embrace your flaws and dare to be different! 💕

When we lose ourselves and our passion for life within our partnerships, it’s time to cut the cord and run.

Our relationships aren’t meant to be stagnant and burdensome affairs. They are meant to fill us with happiness and ease, while making our lives a more enjoyable experience.

Relationships that are bogged down by heavy torment or endless regret and conflict are not relationships meant to stand the test of time. They’re an indication of two people who just don’t work.

If you want to stop falling back into bed with your ex, break the pattern by empowering yourself with compassion and understanding.

It's important that you overcome this compulsive need to return to the same old places. But how? By trying to overcome the insecurities and misunderstandings that bring you back to toxic relationships. And this occurs by cultivating understanding, acceptance and the ability to reshape and re-process the intense thoughts and emotions you might be dealing with.

Honey, you aren’t defined by your relationships , but your lives can be bolstered by them. So, build better partnerships by learning how to let go of the bad ones once and for all. 💪

And always remember, the only relationship you'll ever own is the one with yourself. ❤️

Yes, it's perfectly okay to say "NO" without explaining yourself! 😊

Even if it hurts someone's feelings, give yourself permission to say NO to anyone or anything that drains you, makes you uncomfortable or causes you pain. ✋

Show up for what really matters without feeling mean, guilty or selfish! 💪

You have to set healthy boundaries and take care of yourself. ❤️

Racine de la jalousie et poison pour l’estime de soi, la comparaison n’est sûrement pas une solution idéale pour se sentir heureux dans son quotidien. Cela a des effets néfastes sur la confiance en soi, la bienveillance, la gratitude, etc.

Comment sortir du piège de la comparaison ? Écoutez ce podcast et découvrez les meilleures astuces pour arrêter de se comparer aux autres, être fière de soi et regagner confiance en soi ! 💋