The Calm Confidence Podcast: Social Anxiety and Being Yourself

You want to talk to more people, but you're afraid to initiate. This often begins with our expectations. We tend to believe there are certain social "rules" we must follow before approaching, which make taking action twice as hard as it needs to be. In this episode I challenge long held beliefs, accepting possible outcomes, and speaking freely about what is on your mind.

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Sometimes making progress with your social anxiety can be painful. We are reminded of all the time and opportunities we lost for not making progress earlier. This can stop us in our tracks and hinder progress moving forward. In this episode I cover how to deal with this very common yet painful process.

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There is a not so hidden driver of social anxiety, and that is our insecurities. Whether it is the way we look, the way we talk, our current place in life, our physical symptoms... we all have insecurities. For some of us however, they consume our life. We are so afraid of of others judgment that we may hide or modify who we are to feel "secure." The problem is it never works... The more we hide the more afraid we feel. In the episode , I will explore the counter-intuitive approach to overcoming your insecurities.

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Other Relevant Episodes:

The Core Fear Of Social Anxiety: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6xgFxmAYwM0CHbWAn4Q8hU?si=WgaKLpHzQHWsle7c05T8aA

The Practical Way To End Self Consciousness:

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Do you ever find yourself up all night worrying about a party, date or presentation the next day (or week or month). This is a very common symptoms of social anxiety. In this episode I explore what anticipatory anxiety is, what we tend to do to try to solve it (which often makes it worse) and what we can do instead to finally put an end to this vicious cycle.

Disclaimer: This episode and podcast should NOT be considered therapy and is NOT a substitute for therapy. Listening to me does not constitute a therapeutic relationship.

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Other Episode Mentioned:

How To Stop Replaying Social Interactions

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When we have social anxiety it feels like we are doing exposure therapy every day and yet nothing gets better. Still people tell us, "you have to face your fears." But no matter how hard or often you try you still feel anxious. In this episode I explain what exposure therapy is, why it may not be working and how to actually do it so you can truly start to face and overcome your fears.

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Other Relevant Episodes:

On Safety Behaviors and Post Processing:

"Why Your Social Anxiety Isn’t Getting Better"

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On Post Event Processing:

How To Stop Replaying Social Situations

https://open.spotify.com/episode/73sQBMvUxNdnycDNG1Ntzv?si=mrfy3hx5TDSv8PCYWPdnFQ

On How To Be More Present In Social Situations:

"How To Talk To Strangers"

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"How To End Self Consciousness"

https://open.spotify.com/episode/310HMvM2D58SF5G1e4lEpn?si=EOIKWgXoSPWNIR9p196HgA

When you have social anxiety people give you really bad advice, like "Just be Yourself." It sounds good in theory, but what does it actually mean? No one explains it. Also, sometimes we don't even know who we are, so how can we "bo ourselves" if we can't identify with who we are and what we like. In this episode I explain what this actually means and give a practical guide to how to truly be yourself and how to figure out who you are.

In this episode I also mention a prior episode where explore a similar topic called "How To Like Yourself." Here is the link to that episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/67AfJBOLvae9n6hENlbiDx?si=GWeNKg5oSuKbcVZwlpR1MQ

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Making friends can be very hard, especially when you get older, and especially when you have social anxiety. In this episode I explore my own experience and struggles making friends and what change made the difference for me.

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Are you introverted, shy or do you have social anxiety disorder? Thes are three terms that often get confused for one another but are actually very different things. I break it down completely in this episode.

DISCLAIMER: THIS EPISODE IS MEANT FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. PLEASE DO NOT USE THE INFORMATION IN THIS VIDEO TO SELF DIAGNOSE. DIAGNOSIS ALWAYS REQUIRES A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL. IF YOU FEEL YOU ARE IN NEED OF HELP, PLEASE FIND A THERAPIST AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.

Sources:

American Psychiatric Association. (2022). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed., text rev.; DSM-5-TR). American Psychiatric Association Publishing.

I apologize for the background noise. It was beautiful out today so I recorded outside on my phone. I spent years trying to figure out how to not care what others think. I read books, argued with myself endlessly, tried to justify, rationalize and reason my way out of my fear… but nothing worked. I remained trapped in my own mental prison. In this video I explain how not caring what others think is not an active process. It’s not something you can “do.” Instead we flip it on its head. We detach from everything we think is necessary. All the fixing, fitting in, changing yourself does nothing but create more self doubt and social anxiety. We need only to “be.” Exist. Let life come to us. Our emotions, thoughts, fears. Embrace them and you will find freedom.Link to podcast and services: https://linktr.ee/calmconfidence?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=3ccd9358-ea8c-4a98-ba80-1bf8ddcc5aaf