The Change Paradox

Ted Klontz offers an experiential exercise on financial peace.

Hey everybody, it’s Pete...

Dodge and I do our best to unpack a triggering conversation for the both of us. Money’s tough. Too few of us are doing the things to maintain a healthy relationship with it. We’re trying to figure out why. We hope this conversation helps someone out there to move their own ball down the field just a bit.

Thanks for all you do,

Pete

Hey everybody... it's Pete.

Raise your hand if you've never had any challenges with money. Look around. See that? You're all alone.

OK, all gimmicks aside, it's money week and that's scary. Jobs won and lost. Health care, insurance, education. Bills coming due. Major, unexpected expenses. It's no understatement to say that how we relate to money defines how we relate to the world around us.

Ted Klontz is back on the show with us this week. Last time he came around he was talking about readiness for change. What we didn't cover in that conversation is a non-trivial part of his career: financial behavior. And he doesn't do it alone.

Brad Klontz, Ted's son, is a founder of the Financial Psychology Institute and an associate professor in Financial Psychology at Creighton University. He's spent much of his professional career helping people with money and wealth issues and together with his father has written books such as Wired for Wealth, and Mind over Money. Their latest, Money Mammoth, dives deep into the psychological barriers that stand between us and our financial success.

Talking about money out loud is terrifying for a lot of us. Together, Brad and Ted help us to approach this subject with a little less trepidation thanks to the knowledge that we're not doing it alone — many of us feel this way, and many of us are looking for change. We hope you find a dose of that change today in their conversation with Dodge Rea.

Links & Notes

• Money Mammoth: Harness The Power of Financial Psychology to Evolve Your Money Mindset, Avoid Extinction, and Crush Your Financial Goals

Hey everybody...

This week Dodge and I do our best to unpack this conversation with Lynne. We come at this discussion from very different perspectives so much of this week is devoted not so much to Lynne and her work, but to how we approach those things that run counter to our worldview.

I'll be honest, I was a wreck going into this one, but I'm happy with how it turned out. It's challenging, personally, but deeply satisfying as we remember that it's about the journey, not the finish.

Thanks for showing up.

Hey everybody... it's Pete.

It's April. I hope, after everything we've been through, that you're someplace you can walk outside, fill your lungs with clean air, and breathe deep. If we ever needed a spring full of new life, it is right now. So let us take advantage of it by reveling in it and letting ourselves grow through that nourishment.

Journalist and author Lynne McTaggart joins Dodge today to talk about her work. She's written seven best-selling books, and the scope of that work makes it practically interview malpractice to attempt to cover it all in one conversation. They start by approaching her work chronicling the work of scientists and researchers in the field of consciousness and her own observations of the power of intention.

Speaking personally here, there's a lot I don't understand in this space and, frankly, hearing much of it causes my walls to come right up. But as I've learned from Dodge time and again, just because I don't understand a thing, just because it doesn't fit into the worldview of my collected experience, doesn't mean I should stop asking questions. There are so, so many questions to be asked.

Ultimately, this is a conversation anchored in hope. And here at The Change Paradox, we want to provide a platform for more hopeful conversations. We can't think of a better way to continue a hopeful investigation than with this one with Lynne McTaggart and Dodge Rea.

Links & Notes

• Download The Power of Eight Handbook: A Step-By-Step Guide to Creating Your Own Power of Eight Circle by Lynne McTaggart

Victoria brings an exercise to help us all breathe into abundance.

Victoria Castle with an exercise to help us all break the trance.

Hi everybody,

We dish on the Trance of Scarcity and Victoria Castle's perspective on generosity.

Thanks to you all for showing up and doing the work right along with us.

— Pete

Hey everybody... it's Pete...

I just finished editing this week's conversation and I have to tell you it hit me where it hurts... you know, that place in the solar plexus that goes hollow when someone outs you effectively as having been lying to yourself? Yeah. That place.

This week, Dodge and Victoria Castle are continuing their conversation on her book, The Trance of Scarcity, with a special focus on the Cycle of Abundance, building a routine of breaking out of the trance and focusing instead on myriad possibility around us.

I tend to be wired a bit more conservatively when it comes to these kinds of conversations so it's easy for me to take the critic's perspective and start poking around at them. What this show has demonstrated time and again is that this poking behavior is usually rooted in fear and — to take Victoria's word — arrogance.

But that veil of fear and arrogance breaks down when confronted with a few things they discuss this week. You should be on the lookout if you're wired like me: generosity costs you nothing. You don't have to tithe to be generous. Sometimes, an act of generosity is a simple wish of goodwill toward others offered when they least expect it, and that might be enough to spark a practice of grace in yourself.

Once more, you can find her book where books are sold, link to the Amazon page in the notes. But please, support your local booksellers if you're able.

And, if you haven't done it yet, there are things in the works around the Trance and, while they're not quite ready yet, if you'd like to hear more about what's coming up from Victoria and Dodge in whatever form it may take, please visit trustory.fm/trance and leave your name. I promise, we won't sell your information, but we will let you know as soon as we have something new out there in the world you might be interested in.

Thanks for coming back for part two. Our usual Afterthoughts episode is coming next week. We hope you enjoy this continued conversation with Victoria Castle and Dodge Rea.

Links & Notes

• The Trance of Scarcity by Victoria Castle

Hey everybody... it's Pete...

As I write this, Victoria Castle and I just jumped off of a quick FaceTime call to talk about a new project. I say that with the full intention of practicing what it will sound like when I drop her name in conversation with friends in the future. Did it sound OK? Just ... you know, casually telling you that Victoria Castle and I FaceTime?

Dodge introduced me to her book, The Trance of Scarcity, a few years after she'd written it. Must have been 2010 or thereabouts. It's not an undersell when I tell you it transformed the way I think about myself. It's a book that drills deeply into the heart of our inner imposter and churns there. It skewers your limiting beliefs and negative self identity in a way that's both real and gentle at the same time.

That she agreed to be on this show, to me as a fan, seems like she's the victim of a prank, some ruse, a hornswoggle. What's more, she stuck around to talk to us for an entire two episodes.

The first is dedicated to The Trance of Scarcity, that numbed state we find ourselves in when we're convinced that lack, struggle, and separation represents our ultimate fate. Part two, coming next week, is dedicated to the Cycle of Abundance; a salve to scarcity that reminds us what can be when we adjust our mindset accordingly.

You can find her book where books are sold, link to the Amazon page in the notes. But please, support your local booksellers if you're able.

While we're at it, we've got in the works around the Trance and, while they're not quite ready yet, if you'd like to hear more about what's coming up from Victoria and Dodge in whatever form it may take, please visit trustory.fm/trance and leave your name. I promise, we won't sell your information, but we will let you know as soon as we have something new out there in the world you might be interested in.

Thanks for sticking with us. This show is a continued honor to produce and deliver to you. We hope you enjoy this conversation with Victoria Castle and Dodge Rea.

Links & Notes

• The Trance of Scarcity by Victoria Castle