The Choose Yourself Channel

Money exposes mindset faster than motivation.

In this episode on the Choose Yourself Channel, I sit down with Mrs. Cashflow to talk about what really happens when expectations collapse, plans fall apart, and life forces you to grow up : financially, emotionally, and spiritually.

This isn’t a “get rich quick” conversation. It’s a get honest quick one.

We talk about:

• Why money problems are rarely just about money
• How expectations create disappointment and how accountability creates direction
• What happens when life doesn’t go your way… repeatedly
• How being finessed, failing, or coming up short becomes curriculum, not condemnation
• Why financial literacy without identity work still keeps people stuck

Mrs. Cashflow shares real stories around trial, error, humility, and rebuilding, and we break down how financial evolution mirrors personal evolution: You expect one outcome. Life gives you another. You either blame ... or you build. You choose.

This episode ties money, mindset, and maturity back into the Choose Yourself process: Recognizing the moment things go wrong Evaluating your environment and decisions Rebuilding your foundation Investing differently ... with clarity instead of emotion And eventually contributing what you learned so others don’t repeat your mistakes

If you’ve ever:

• Trusted the wrong situation
• Made financial decisions from pressure instead of principle
• Confused movement with progress
• Or realized “nobody is coming to save me”

This conversation will hit.

No shame. No fluff. Just accountability, perspective, and growth.. the kind that actually compounds!

🎧 Listen fully. 🧠 Reflect honestly. 🔥 Choose yourself .. especially when it’s uncomfortable.

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Everybody wants the bag… until it’s time to build the discipline to keep it.

In this 10-minute preview, I sit down with Mrs. Cash Flows to crack open the real conversation most people avoid: Why money problems aren’t just financial.. they’re emotional, habitual, and environmental.

We touch on:

• Growing up around money but never learning how to respect it
• Retail therapy, saving your way to nowhere, and why “looking rich” is expensive
• Why credit is a tool, not a flex
• How habits, health, and mindset quietly sabotage your finances

This preview sets the tone for a powerful full episode about structure over status, discipline over dopamine, and why money only multiplies when you do first.

If you’ve ever said “I make money but don’t feel secure,” this conversation is for you.

🎙️ Full episode drops next and it goes way deeper.

⭐️ Grow With Me! ⬇️

🐬CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.)

❤️‍🩹Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar Zoom

🏝️Costa Rica Retreat

📖Choose Yourself to Be Chosen (book)

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In this episode, Big Dream Hakeem sits down with Kasia - clinic owner, keynote speaker, breathwork specialist, heart-coherence Jedi, and living proof that your nervous system can glow up too.

We dive straight into the wisdom of the heart, the honesty of the breath, and the beautiful chaos of becoming the person your past self was scared to meet.

Kasia doesn’t just talk healing.. she lived through comparison, control, a concussion that scrambled her brain like weekend brunch, heartbreak, losing her best friend, and still found a way to turn her nervous system from “hamster on Red Bull” to “monk with WiFi.”

She gives raw truth, uncomfortable gems, and practical tools you can use TODAY.

🔥 What We Cover

• The moment her life split into “before” and “after” and why the universe sometimes humbles you publicly

• How opening a clinic at 20 taught her courage, chaos, and community (and why the town newspaper nearly ended her career) • The brain-gut-heart connection and how your emotions literally rewire your body

• Why heart coherence is the “Bluetooth connection between God and your nervous system”

• How movement, gratitude, and boundaries saved her from anxiety, burnout, and self-abandonment • Why grief is love in disguise and how losing her best friend gave her the wildest fuel for living fully

• How to stop reacting like a triggered toddler and start responding like someone who did the inner work

• The difference between walls vs. boundaries, and how your relationships expose your foundation • Why you should never shrink your light to keep someone comfortable in their shadows

🎙️ Why You NEED This Episode

If you've been living in your head, reacting before thinking, ignoring your triggers, burning yourself out, or trying to “out-hustle” your trauma… this conversation will feel like a hard truth, a warm hug, and a spiritual slap in one.

Kasia’s wisdom bridges science, soul, psychology, and real-life heartbreak with that CYC-level accountability you know and love.

📚 Tap Into Your Evolution

Kasia’s retreats and upcoming heart-coherence book are on the way.. and you already know I’m putting it in the CYC library the second it drops.

🌱 Keep Growing with Kasia on IG

🔗 Tap in to her services and resources

Want more episodes like this?

👉 Join the Choose Yourself Community (CYC) — weekly calls, resources, accountability 👉 Get the Choose Yourself Book — learn the full TEFIC process

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Your foundation is your future. Choose yourself today so life doesn’t choose the lesson for you tomorrow.

🎧 PREVIEW — Kasia on Heart Coherence & Healing the Reactive Self

This 10-minute previews set the stage for one of the deepest, funniest, and most emotionally intelligent conversations we’ve had all year. Hakeem breaks down what’s coming in the full episode with Kasia : a woman who built two businesses before 25, survived dark nights of the soul, healed her nervous system, and now teaches heart coherence like it’s an Olympic sport.

Get ready for:

• Why your heart is your spiritual WiFi
• How grief becomes your greatest teacher
• Why boundaries save relationships (and sanity)
• The moment she stood face-to-face with the woman who tried to sabotage her career — 25 years later on a hiking trail
• And how TEFIC shaped her transformation from chaos → coherence → creation

This preview gives you the emotional appetizer before the full meal drops.

🐬 Tap in, grow your mind, and don’t skip the foundation. Full episode coming soon.

On today’s episode of the Choose Yourself Channel, we sit down with the ageless OG himself - Greg Peck - the man who went from partying with the stars to training them, coaching them, and staying shredded longer than most people keep a New Year’s resolution. First time I met Greg, he asked me to spot him on 100-pound dumbbells and I had to check his birth certificate because the boy looks my age. This episode is about discipline, redemption, and the kind of self-honesty that punches you in the throat before it sets you free.

Greg takes us from the streets of the Bronx to the music industry boardrooms, to personal training and transformational coaching. His story shows one truth: you cannot outrun your dark place .. you have to outgrow it. He talks about addiction, depression, racial tension in the industry, being fired, rebuilding, and discovering that the mental transformation matters even more than the physical.

We break down the TEFIC pillars through Greg’s lived experiences — the domino trail from triggers → environment → foundation → investment → contribution. His mantra: “To thine own self be true.” His message: the sword doesn’t sharpen without heat. And life will keep throwing you in the fire until you stop melting and start forging.

We talk:

• Outgrowing chaos without abandoning your authenticity
• The difference between being propelled and being misguided
• How to actually hear your inner compass
• Why you must heal before you “move on,” or you’ll revisit the same breaking point in a new environment
• The cost of comfort vs. the reward of discipline
• Why some people stay stuck and others sharpen
• What separates transformation from performance
• Using solitude as a spiritual training ground
• Why fitness is emotional fitness first

Greg also drops gems on leadership, navigating toxic industries, and why self-discipline is the final form of self-respect. And yes, we talk about astrology, workout partners by zodiac sign, and how he ended up writing Training With the Stars before social media even knew what a “niche” was.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or like life keeps handing you the same damn lesson in a new outfit… this episode is your mirror. Sharp. Honest. Necessary.

Tune in. Take notes. Then take action. Your future self is waiting on you to choose yourself first .. not last.

Resources & Reminders

🐬 Join the Choose Yourself Community (CYC) — every Tuesday at 10 a.m. EST. Accountability, perspective, growth.

📘 Grab the book Choose Yourself to Be Chosen — Amazon & Barnes & Noble.

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🎙️ Subscribe to the Choose Yourself Channel — new episodes weekly.

Abs don’t expire, they just change careers. 😂

In this preview, I sit down with my guy Greg Pec- Bronx-bred, record-label VP, celebrity trainer, and transformation coach - to prove that discipline doesn’t have a retirement age and purpose doesn’t have an expiration date. We talk about surviving the streets, navigating racism in the music industry, getting fired and “propelled” into your calling, and why your sword (character) only gets sharp in the fire, not in your feelings. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being pushed by fear or propelled by purpose, this convo is your mirror.

⭐ From partying with the stars to training them and now coaching according to them

⭐ “To thine own self be true” as a real-life choose-yourself filter, not a Pinterest quote

⭐ How trigger points, breaking points, and turning points actually show up in real life

⭐ Why some people are sharpened by hardship while others stay stuck in victim mode

⭐ Discipline as the missing bridge between your potential and your actual lifestyle

⭐ How environment, ego, and screens can either dull your sword or refine it

⭐ The difference between being propelled into purpose vs. pushed by pressure

⭐ Why mentorship and coaching are the real shortcut (and not the fake quick fix)

🎧 Tap into the full Choose Yourself Channel episode with Greg when it drops

🐬 Tap into the CYC Community every Tuesday at 10 a.m. EST to grow with us 📅 Tap into the Saturday Choose Yourself Webinar to learn the systems & resources

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On this episode of the Choose Yourself Channel, Hakeem sits down with Clarq : (artist, producer, writer, creator) and walking proof that your lowest chapter can become the foundation of your rise. She was raised by a 16-year-old mother, grew up in chaos, and faced the type of trauma most people never talk about: instability, financial struggle, physical and sexual abuse, fear, anxiety, depression, and the loss of her creative spark.

Adulthood brought its own storm of overmedication, addiction, isolation, self-doubt .. until one day she realized:

“Nothing outside of me is fixing what’s inside of me.”

That’s when the real healing started. Not the pretty kind. The honest kind.

This episode is part poetic storytelling, part comedy, part neuroscience, and full Choose Yourself philosophy. Hakeem and Clarq go deep into her transformation while still laughing at the absurdity of trying to selfie-angle your way out of trauma. Spoiler: you can’t.

💥 What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Her journey from chaos to clarity Raised by a teenage mother, surviving unsafe environments, and learning how her story shaped her strength instead of her suffering.

• When coping stops working Therapy, meds, avoidance and the moment everything resurfaced louder than before, forcing her to turn inward.

• Her radical healing shift 90 days raw vegan. 8+ years plant-based. Meditation. Yoga. Water. Nature. Silence. Toe-in-the-grass spirituality. Small habits that pulled her out of the fog and helped her meet the real her.

• TEFIC in real-time Hakeem breaks down how the Choose Yourself Process showed up in her life.

• The dopamine disaster A hilarious, brutally honest breakdown of instant gratification (sugar, liquor, weed, porn, nicotine, gambling, scrolling) and how they fry your brain like carnival food.

• People-pleasing & vocabulary detoxing Why everyone isn’t your “friend,” why everything isn’t “amazing,” and why using your strong words too often weakens your relationships.

• Her 60-day self-designed learning journey A daily self-development curriculum that boosted her creativity, awareness, and confidence.. including the moment she heard her own song blasting in a stranger’s car.

🐬 Tap in with Clarq

IG: @clarq.music Creative blog & music: bttrsnc.com

🚀 Your Choose Yourself Resources

• CYC Zoom - Every Tuesday @ 10 a.m. EST Your accountability family.

• Choose Yourself Webinar - Saturdays Learn TEFIC, gut health, story work, and the systems behind the movement.

• 30-Day Speed Foundation Reset your habits and environment fast.

• 90-Day Foundation Program Walk the full identity shift.

• Book - Choose Yourself To Be Chosen -The philosophy behind the entire movement.

This 10–15 minute preview is your warm-up lap before the full conversation with Clarq drops and trust me, it’s a mix of comedy, chaos, raw truth, and those “damn… he’s talking about me” moments.

Hakeem opens the episode in full Choose Yourself Channel fashion - loud, laughing, and roasting everything from your bad angles to your bad habits. He cracks jokes about rock bottom, skin care, fake dopamine, and the way we all try to selfie our way out of suffering. It’s hilarious… but it’s also the truth: you can’t filter your way out of your foundation.

We touch on Clarq’s upbringing with a mother who had her at 16, the chaos she grew up in, and the patterns adult life forced her to confront. Not in a heavy way, but in the “we’ve all been through something, now let’s talk about how we turned it into something” way.

Hakeem breaks down the TEFIC process in simple, funny, punch-you-in-the-face truth: your triggers repeat until you actually deal with them your environment exposes you your foundation saves you your investments shape you and your contribution is the real freedom

There’s laughter, there’s science, there’s a spiritual lesson somewhere between “brush your tongue” and “your dorsal cortex needs reps.” This preview gives you the vibe of the full episode — raw, relatable, revealing — without giving away all the gems.

🎯 What This Preview Sets Up

This mini-episode gives you the funniest, most triggering, most relatable moments before the full interview drops. You’ll hear:

• the TEFIC breakdown
• self-awareness cravings
• how healing actually works
• what Clarq did to rebuild her mind
• and the jokes y’all definitely weren’t ready for

The full episode goes deeper and hits harder — this preview is just the warm-up set before the heavy reps.

🐬 Tap Into the Movement

• CYC ZOOM every Tuesday at 10 a.m. EST
• Choose Yourself Webinar Saturdays
• 30-Day & 90-Day Foundation programs
• Choose Yourself To Be Chosen (the book)
• CYC Retreats (2x a year)

Hakeem and Ashley dive deep into modern relationships through the lens of the TEFIC Process ( Triggers, Environment, Foundation, Investment & Contribution ) and how your internal world shapes every connection you enter.

This episode is raw, funny, and uncomfortably honest. You’ll laugh, rethink your patterns, and question every “situation” you ever justified.

Ashley specializes in helping people build healthy internal relationships ; the kind that keep you grounded, calm, emotionally aware, and able to love without abandoning yourself. Together, they break down:

💥 The Self-Relationship Blueprint

Why your relationship with yourself decides who you attract, what you tolerate, and how you show up in love.

💥 Love Within vs. Love You Chase

If you don’t develop love internally, you’ll overvalue temporary attention and undervalue real intimacy.

💥 Friends, Identity & Independence

Why maintaining friendships OUTSIDE the relationship protects your sanity and your connection from codependency and emotional suffocation.

💥 Opposite-Sex Friendships & Boundaries

The truth nobody wants to talk about: If they weren’t in your life before… why are they auditioning now? Ashley and Hakeem break down transparency, digital respect, emotional cheating, and the difference between honesty and loopholes.

💥 Authenticity, Influence & Content Creation

Your relationship doesn’t just exist offline.. it also lives in your posts, comments, DM habits, and online persona. They talk about how to show up authentically online without sabotaging what you’re building in real life.

💥 TEFIC Applied to Love

• T — Triggers: Partners don’t create your wounds; they reveal them.
• E — Environment: What you consume shapes how you connect.
• F — Foundation: Your routines determine your reactions.
• I — Investment: Healthy love requires time, presence, and emotional effort.
• C — Contribution: Real love gives from overflow, not exhaustion.

This episode is for anyone navigating dating, healing, relationships, identity, or trying not to repeat the same cycle with a different face.

🐬 Join the Movement:

• CYC every Tuesday at 10 a.m. EST — heal, grow, and build emotional discipline.
• 30-Day Speed Foundation Program — reset your habits & internal relationship.
• 90-Day Foundation Program — identity reconstruction through TEFIC.
• Book: Choose Yourself To Be Chosen — the blueprint for healing your story so you stop repeating it in love.

This quick 10-minute solo episode sets the stage for the full conversation with Ashley Maland. Hakeem breaks down the real relationship work: loving yourself before you expect anyone else to survive you.

Topics include:

• Why the relationship you have with yourself shapes every relationship you enter
• Loving from overflow, not emotional overdraft
• Friends, boundaries, opposite-sex dynamics
• How your content + lifestyle becomes the environment your relationship lives in

🔥 This is your warm-up for the full episode with Ashley - where the conversation gets deeper, funnier, and way more uncomfortable (in a good way).

Tap in to the next episode for Hakeem's convo with Ashley Maland

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🐬 Join the CYC every Tuesday at 10 a.m. EST - grow your mind, strengthen your identity, and heal the patterns that keep showing up in your relationships.