The Conscious Couples Podcast

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they share how you can create your standards for a potential relationship. When some people think of relationship standards, they jump straight to “the list” of things they want in a partner. The list of attributes you want in a romantic partner is not the same as the standards you set for a relationship. Relationship standards reflect the standards you set for yourself and what you think you are worthy of when looking for love.

Show notes:
[1:56] Intentions
[4:39] Define your musts, must-nots, and negotiables
[7:01] Setting standards creates clarity
[11:55] The must enable you to be who you want to be
[14:55] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as a single person
[16:19] The must-nots pull you out of alignment and do not enable you to honor what you value
[17:14] The negotiables are a preference but not a deal-breaker
[20:29] These standards can evolve
[22:50] Everyone has a choice to create their standards
[27:49] Next Relationship Talks event on August 11, 2022, at 7 pm EST
[28:53] Service Saturday — one conversation can change your life; book your free call now
[30:00] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the difference between having a fixed mindset and a growth mindset in relationships. How we think about our relationship and partner matters, and depending on our core beliefs, we might manage our feelings in a way that brings us closer or takes us further apart from the other person.

Show notes:
[1:43] Fixed vs. growth mindset
[5:08] A fixed mindset can complicate your relationship
[8:46] You likely inherited the mindset that you grew up around
[12:12] What conversations make you or your partner uncomfortable?
[15:40] Here’s Angela and Caleb Roy Backus sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[20:13] How to approach a partner who has a fixed mindset
[27:58] Service Saturday – free Relationship Talks session
[29:49] Monthly Virtual Relationships Talk on August 11, 2022, at 7 PM EST
[32:25] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the fear most people have about outgrowing or being outgrown by their partner. Identify which of the scenarios they talk about your relationship is in and then take action. It’s difficult, painful, and no one’s fault, but sometimes you really do outgrow the people you love.

Register to Relationships Talks #13: How to Have Stress Free Travel with Your Partner https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g

Show notes:
[2:09] Fear and pain points
[5:25] The puzzle scenarios
[10:17] Going with the flow makes you and your partner stagnant
[17:37] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[18:57] Do you have the courage to communicate with your partner?
[24:21] Be vulnerable
[31:16] Service Saturday – free Relationship Talks
[32:27] Free live virtual event on July 14, 2022 - https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g
[35:02] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about what you can do to avoid hurting your partner. It might be a hurtful comment, rejecting your partner physically, or being unfaithful. When you hurt the one you love, it causes strain in the relationship. You're only human, so you can't expect never to hurt the one you love again, but you can work on your behaviors and communication skills to improve the relationship and how you treat one another.

Register to Relationships Talks #13: How to Have Stress Free Travel with Your Partner https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g

Show notes:
[2:07] Understand your parts
[7:43] The 4 archetypes of a person
[12:22] Identify when the wrong part is driving at the wrong time
[14:48] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[16:02]  Name the part that was driving
[22:59] Express what that part needs
[24:22] Give reassurance or ask for reassurance from your partner
[26:03] Every response you get is either a loving response or a cry for help
[29:11] Free Relationship Talks every Saturday
[29:46] Free Live Virtual Event on July 14, 2022, at 7 PM, EST
[31:34] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the importance of showing gratitude to your partner through your actions. It can be through complimenting them, letting them have a break, writing a note of appreciation, or just being thankful for them even when they’re not around. No matter how you choose to show gratitude and cultivate a greater sense of appreciation in your relationship, remember that it is a simple way to build and strengthen your bond.

Register to Relationships Talks #13: How to Have Stress Free Travel with Your Partner https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g

Show notes:
[2:52] Emilia’s experience on the opposite of gratitude
[9:46] If you’re grateful for anything, prove it
[13:53] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[15:39] What does it feel like to be undervalued? And what should you watch out for to avoid it?
[21:37] There’s no replacement for expressing or showing gratitude through actions
[25:55] A lot of people value words of affirmation
[27:48] 3 questions for you to ask yourself
[29:00] Live virtual relationship event on July 14, 2022, at 7 PM, EST
[31:32] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the challenges people face when they start living with their partners and how they can overcome them. Living with a partner means a new level of shared intimacy, closeness, and togetherness – but it can also lead to some serious relationship stumbling blocks. So tune in and learn how you can address those issues before they even happen.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[2:04] Dealing with the fear of moving in
[4:31] Discovering each other’s lifestyle preferences
[10:47] It’s harder to stay consistent when you live with someone with who you’re not in alignment with
[16:23] Wondering what it’s like to join Relationship Talks?
[17:45] Digging underneath the why
[24:15] What are your real preferences?
[26:52] Relationship Talks live event on June 9, 2022, at 7 PM EST
[30:05] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about why you get stressed when you travel with your partner and how you can address those issues to avoid getting stressed in the future. Because there’s nothing quite like seeing the world with your significant other, visiting a new place together – or bringing your partner to one of your favorite places – can help you feel more connected and keep the romance alive.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[1:40] Intentions
[3:18] Stay on the same page before, during, and after traveling
[7:26] It all comes down to communication
[14:01] Here’s Angela and Caleb Roy Backus sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[16:27] You both have to be aligned
[22:03] Travel intentionally
[26:20] Reach out to Emilia and Alan
[27:21] Do a root-cause analysis
[28:18] Relationship Talks event on June 9, 2022, at 7 pm EST
[29:40] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about setting healthy boundaries in a relationship and how you can do so. You’ll find boundaries in every kind of relationship — from friends and family to colleagues and brief acquaintances. You can’t see them, but these lines help you stay “you” and provide a sense of mutual respect, protection, expectations, and support.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[2:06] Intentions
[5:25] How do you know when boundaries are needed?
[8:33] Set boundaries around what you value
[14:13] Myth: There’s an unconscious belief that you own that person in a partnership
[18:03] The three Es that you need to be mindful to
[19:43] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[23:17] Healthy boundaries Alan and Emilia have set
[29:35] 3-step process to setting healthy boundaries
[36:29] Relationship Talks Virtual Event
[39:09] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the importance of taking ownership of your actions in a relationship. Taking ownership is an empowering reminder that you have control over your role in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which encourages your partner to be open and authentic with you.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[1:23] The importance of taking ownership
[4:23] Focus on what’s within your control rather than what’s beyond it
[6:19] You’re likely to take ownership when you have a growth mindset
[7:38] Scenario 1: Lack of ownership between partners
[10:42] Scenario 3: One partner has extreme ownership
[12:54] Scenario 2: Optimal ownership in a partnership
[14:15] It’s all within your control
[15:46] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[17:12] You will never effectively improve something without ownership
[21:34] Ask yourself…
[26:00] It’s the hardest to take ownership when it’s the most important
[27:21] Service Saturday—if you want to learn more and dig deeper, book the FREE Relationship Talk with Emilia and Alan
[28:31] Next Relationships Talk event on June 9, 2022
[30:26] Outro

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about relationship paradigms and the importance of recognizing and understanding yours. When it comes to relationships, you and your partner should be on the same page. Although conflict is unavoidable in any kind of relationship, you and your partner should still be able to talk things through and realign your values and beliefs to keep your relationship strong.

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Show notes:
[1:31] The relationship paradigms
[4:03] What is a paradigm?
[8:44] Know the paradigm you’re coming from
[13:15] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[16:00] It will be challenging if you and your partner live with different beliefs
[19:51] What is your paradigm?
[20:33] Digital asset giveaway: see the link above
[22:06] Monthly virtual event on Bouncing Back After Screwing Up In Your Relationship
[25:42] Outro