The Couples Expert

Welcome to episode 139 of our show. Your host Stuart Fensterheim has some insights to share with his listeners today about intimate partner relationships and sexual intimacy with your partner; specifically about banishing boredom from your bedroom.

Welcome to episode 138 of the Couples Expert Podcast. In today's show Stuart is going to share with listeners the secrets to a successful marriage that we all crave to know.

In episode 137 of this week's podcast, Stuart speaks of using humor and positivity to divorce-proof your marriage. 

In episode 136 of this week's podcast, Stuart speaks of remarriage & the "Doubt Factor" with special guest Brian Mayer.

In episode 135 of this week's podcast Stuart speaks of the connections that we have with our siblings in addition to the relationships that we have with our spouses and partners, the sibling connection is a major relationship that we keep near our hearts.

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:

• Why family relationships with siblings are so important 6:20 • How your early relationships form your adult interactions 7:10 • How your partner views you based on how you interact with your siblings 10:59 • Why keeping those sibling relationships alive and healthy is so important 12:00 • Extended family includes in-laws from your partner and ex-partners as well 20:21 • Love creates the dynamic that allows you to make everyone feel important  23:11 • Repair your sibling relationships and have no regrets. 24:09

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In episode 134 of this week’s scary podcast Stuart discusses how important our marriage is to us; the impact on us when we’re struggling in our relationships; how each of us can be harmed. We need to have a good relationship so both of the individuals can thrive singularly in addition to the relationship.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

• Nothing is better than having that relationship with that one person in the world who loves you more than anyone [7:00]
• The most negative relationships and you – It’s no joke [8:17]
• The physical impact of living in negative relationships [11:20]
• Mental health, memory and unhappy relationships [14:30]
• The emotional toll of an unhappy marriage [17:30]
• You and your partner can have the dream  [24:00]

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October is Domestic Violence Month and our goal here at The Couples Expert is to bring awareness to the challenges and issues that couples face. No one likes to talk about Domestic Violence, not even Stuart, but this is a very real problem that occurs in the shadows of not only the poor urban and economically depressed areas of our country, but the wealthy and affluent homes as well. Listen in as Stuart shines a light on this dark issue. 

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:

• Sobering statistics about domestic violence 7:35
• How love turns to violence 8:15
• We are responsible for how we treat our partners 10:39
• The cycle/pattern of violence has three phases 12:00
• One example of how things go wrong (the story of Ross and Beth)  17:27
• Why it’s different for the wealthy 24:25
• When the man is the victim 26:17

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In episode 132 of The Couples Expert podcast Stuart is reflecting on how blessed we are by the people in our lives. We need to tell those people how much they matter to us. The things that we do for others to make their lives easier are another example of showing how they matter to us. Seeing his wife shop and cook for her elderly parents makes Stuart feel how fortunate he is to have Debbie in his life. She’s a very kind and giving person. If Stuart didn’t slow down and notice sometimes, all of these might pass him by. Does any of this sound familiar to you? It’s really all about love. 

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast: 

• Why expressing your passion in life makes you happy 6:57
• What passion means in your relationship 8:54
• How you keep that passion in your marriage every day 14:04
• Why you should plan activities together 16:15
• How to get passionate in the bedroom 19:15

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In episode 131 of our show we're going to expand your horizons and your thought processes about the Universe and your relationship with your partner.  Stuart has brought Mel Schwartz, LCSW Clinician and author to guest on our podcast. They’re going to discuss Mel’s latest book The Possibility Principle and how the concepts surrounding his study of quantum physics can improve the way you think. There is a correlation to your relationship and the science Mel is studying. Thanks for joining us today. Listen as Stuart and Mel talk about a practical approach to living fearlessly and about his book The Art of Intimacy, The Pleasure of Passion. 

What you’ll learn on today’s podcast:

• How quantum physics pertains to your relationships 3:40
• How we get in the way of communication and the 5 percent rule 8:00
• The goal is not to win but to have a dialogue 12:43
• Uncertainty is the essence of romance (Oscar Wilde) 14:27
• Techniques for subjectively discussing our issues 18:35
• Why are you in this relationship? Is it out of fear?  19:44
• How to infuse your relationship with uncertainty and passion 25:30

In Episode 130 of The Couples Experts Podcast Stuart discusses the perception that men need to have sex with any or every woman and cannot be friends with females without sex becoming an issue.

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast: 

• Can men live up to their commitments and stay true to their vows? [5:45] 

• Is the Coolidge Effect real? [11:00] 

• What is the difference between those who can stay faithful and those who cannot? [12:17] 

• The importance of teaching the value of connection over sexual desire [14:58] 

• How adults conduct relationships [19:55] 

• Teaching the value of emotion and understanding [21:56] 

• The 7 year itch and other clichés [25:56]

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