The Couples Expert

In episode 129 of The Couples Expert podcast the topic is making peace with your divorce before you remarry. That’s pretty deep isn’t it? What Stuart wants our listeners to know is that there is oftentimes work that needs to be done on your part to figure out what went wrong with the prior relationship before you remarry or commit to another relationship. 

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast: 

• What is the value you place on marriage? 2:32
• Do the autopsy on your past relationships 3:23
• Co-parenting true or false?  4:38
• Letting go of the past and moving on 6:56
• Consequences of rebounding into a new relationship 15:54
• Deal with and take responsibility for the issues that got in the way in the last relationship 18:24

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in episode 128 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart talks about married sex and sex in monogamous relationships. Getting married doesn’t mean your sex life is over. When you’re young, just starting out, you may think that getting married or being in a monogamous relationship is going to mean the end of great sex.  Stuart discusses how in many ways it’s just the opposite. Please note that the content of this podcast relates to adult themes and parental guidance is suggested. Listen as Stuart talks about married sex. 

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:

• Married sex vs.unmarried sex
• The bachelor party and the aftermath  
• Sex is not a science experiment
• What happens in Canada…
• The dream is real
• The keys to the best love life

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Episode 127 of The Couples Expert Podcast is about living and loving in middle age. Stuart is going to answer some burning questions you may have about life after 60. Is it all downhill from here? Take a listen as Stuart addresses the concerns that many of you have about love and aging. 

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast: 

• When you’re 50+ you’re just learning to live life 6:50 

• The golden ticket to love that lasts a lifetime  9:53 

• The benefits of love and making better choices when you’re over 50 15:15 

• Recognizing the small things that make a difference and make you happy 18:30 

• The end is getting nearer so live out loud 24:56 

• Importance of connecting with loved ones and having a great sex life in your 60s 30:00 

• A recap 38:43

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In episode 126 of The Couples Expert podcast Stuart’s topic is about the meaning and characteristics of Loyalty in your relationships. There are certain basic characteristics of loyalty in our relationships and Stuart is going to define those and the behaviors that accompany them. 

What you’ll learn in today’s podcast:

• Loyalty means respecting your partner’s strengths and weaknesses [4:58]
• Keeping confidences   [8:37]
• Never stand against your partner in public [9:56]
• When your partner needs you [11:29]
• The meaning of loyalty [13:11]
• Honesty is a characteristic of loyalty [17:57]
• The difference in loyalty in friendship and love relationships [20:32]
• Loyal as a therapy dog [24:26]

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Episode 125 of The Couples Expert Podcast is about financial role reversals in relationships; when the woman is the main earner or breadwinner in the relationship. This can be a touchy and sensitive subject. Tune in and here Stuart discuss the challenges that come with this type of arrangement.

What you’ll learn from today’s Podcast:

• The perception of society and why gender roles shouldn’t matter at [4:15]
• How best we meet the goal matters most at [8:00]
• Stay at home Dads and stereotypes at [9:32]
• Women don’t need a man to support them and why you shouldn’t need permission to spend money at [10:41]
• The value of stay at home parenting and financial independence at [14:05]
• Teamwork is the key at [15:49]
• Men struggle with role reversal and the double standard at [17:22]
• The value of both roles in the family’s success at [20:15]

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In Episode 124 of The Couples Expert Podcast with Stuart's guest is Laurie DiLorenzo. Laurie recently joined The Couples Experts in Scottsdale, AZ. Laurie is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a varied background in counseling youth, families and couples including Spring Hills Academy Residential Treatment. Today Stuart and Laurie are going to discuss dealing with an angry adolescent.

What you’ll learn from today’s podcast:

• How to define an angry adolescent at 6:19
• Holding good boundaries and firm values for teens at 8:03
• Anger and your own self- control and mindfulness as a parent  at 11:50
• When teens want to be on their own but still crave structure from parents at 16:01
• Definition of true discipline at 19:56
• How to reach out to an angry teen with empathy and when to seek help at 21:18
• Parents can seek help first to better help their child at 28:23

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In this week's episode of Three Minutes with Stuart, the topic is Interracial Relationships. Stuart talks about race and how we've come a long way as a country, but still there is a long way to go.

Interracial couples face the same challenges that other couples face while they attempt to build a life together, but in addition to the day to to day issues that the average couple faces, and interracial relationship may have additional outside stressors antagonizing the relationship. These outside stressors could be family members that reject the idea of race mixing, friends or even complete strangers.

It's so important that people in an interracial relationship know and understand that love is love. It has no color. We love who we love. In saying that, the reality is, if you are in an interracial relationship you shouldn't be surprised or caught off guard or hurt if your relationship is not accepted by all.

You may run into people who stare at you, or even mumble and say things. That doesn't make it okay, but be prepared. As long as you and your partner work on strengthening the foundation of your relationship, your friendship and love for one another you can have a long lasting thriving relationship.

Episode 123 of The Couples Expert Podcast is about interracial marriage, or as he likes to call it, simply: marriage. No matter your racial background, the challenges are same for all couples trying to have a close and connected relationship.  The struggles in your relationship if you’re an interracial couple more often than not come from outside stressors which sadly can also sometimes include your very own family members. Listen in as Stuart discusses some of the great challenges and joys of being an interracial couple.

What Stuart will discuss on today’s podcast:

• Interracial Marriage became legal at [3:45]
• Love sees no color at [6:51]
• Root causes of pain in interracial relationships at [7:40]
• Children are colorblind at [10:00]
• When family and friends are resistant at [14:29]
• How your family can overcome racial bias at [19:35]

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What is Trust in a marriage? In today's video Stuart delves into the topic of trust and what it means to really have trust in your partner. When it comes to relationships, most people think of trust as it relates to infidelity. But, trust is more than whether or not someone is having an affair or cheating on their partner. Think about the following questions. Answer them honestly to yourself. Your answers will reveal to you whether or not you truly trust your partner. Do you trust your partner to do their part in the relationship? Do you trust your partner to be there for you when you need them? Do you trust that your partner will do what he/she says they will do? Do you trust your partner with money? Do you trust your partner with decision making? I could keep going but you get the point. After looking at trust in a much broader sense, can you honestly say that you trust your partner? If your answer is no, there is some work that the two of you need to do on your relationship. Underlying feelings of distrust will manifest, and can be the root cause of many disagreements and arguments. It's time to build trust and Get On The Same Page!!

In episode 122 of The Couples Expert Podcast Stuart will be discussing issues surrounding trust in your relationship.

What you’ll learn on today’s podcast: 

• When you don’t have trust at 6:00
• How trust is built at 7:34
• How do you keep that bond of trust? At 10:08
• Continually renewing trust in your relationship at 12:22
• Trust is more than fidelity at 13:55
• When you choose the wrong partner at 15:00
• What love and security gives you at 16:14

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