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July 05, 2023 Queer Love, Ultimatums, Toxic Relationships & Surviving Reality TV with Tiff Der
You won't want to miss this interview with Tiff, a cast member of a Reality TV show on Netflix called The Ultimatum: Queer Love. Tiff shares their experience on the show and how it affected their mental health and led them to start a support group for survivors of narcissistic abuse. We'll also spill some tea that wasn't aired on the show, and you'll see that not all producers have your back when it comes to making good TV. This chat with Tiff is inspiring, and raw, and will give you insight into what really goes on behind the scenes. So grab your favorite snack, sit back, and hit play. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more engaging interviews like this one. Let us know how you think blasting your life on reality tv can affect an individual's mental health and alter relationships.
*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*
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↓ C O N N E C T ↓
Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
Connect with this week's guest | Tiff Der
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/tiff.der/
Fweebs Podcast → https://www.instagram.com/fweebspodcast/
Tiff's Support Group → https://www.instagram.com/survivorsandfriends/
↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
00:15 Meet Tiff A cast member From the Netflix Show The Ultimatum: Queer Love
01:03 How Did Tiff Get Cast For The Netflix Show The Ultimatum?
02:33 The Hesitation to Put Their Relationship in the Public Eye
03:28 "I Understood the Assignment"
04:46 Knowing Something Was Off From the Beginning
06:07 Self-Awareness and Discovering the Origins of Their Feelings
07:26 The Truth is, In the Show, You Only See A Fraction of What Goes On
08:04 Tiff's Relationship with Their Father
10:09 "I'm Going to Reject You Before You Reject Me" A Theory For Mildred's Behavior
12:16 "My Level of Self-Esteem in That Relationship...Didn't Match Up to Who I Really Was"
15:04 Trauma Bonds and Finding A Safe Space To Express Feelings in My Relationship through Couple's Therapy
16:28 The Added Strain Reality TV Puts on Your Relationship and Mental Health
19:51The Use of Speculation and Ignorance To Manipulate & Shift the Blame
24:16 "If Mildred Was A Masculine Man and I Was A Feminine Woman, Would This Have Even Happened?"
33:02 Going Through This Process Helped Tiff Create A Level of Self Awareness
36:38 The Ultimatum Was A Life Changing Experience
37:32 "I Didn't Know What Boundaries Were"
39:24 "How Did I Let Myself Stay In Such A Toxic Relationship For So Long?"
40:21 What Does Healing Look Like For Tiff?
43:15 Life After The Show
46:07 There's Way More That Unites Us Than Divides Us
50:46 Part of the Contract, It's Our Job on the Show to Have Tuff Conversations
52:21 Where Can You Find Tiff & Shiloh?
↓ M U S I C ↓
Track: "Attention", Overu
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55 min
June 29, 2023 Help! I'm In A Relationship With A Facebook Narcissist!
Listen to Am I in A Relationship With A Narcissist?
Link: https://youtu.be/pt_gwaegrLU
Hey there, D Spot fam! Do you ever feel like you're in a relationship
with someone who always puts themselves first and doesn't consider your
feelings? Well, you might be dealing with a narcissist. In this video,
we're exploring the ins and outs of narcissism and how it affects
relationships. We'll cover everything from what defines a narcissist to
tips on surviving their behavior. Plus, we'll dive into the world of
social media narcissism and how it's affecting our generation. So, plug
in, turn it up, and get ready to be a part of this discussion. Share
your thoughts in the comments and don't forget to like, share, and
subscribe for more videos like this one!
*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you
that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional
therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information,
this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a
qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental
health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or
healthcare provider.*
→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email
[email protected] for more information!
↓ C O N N E C T ↓
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Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
Connect with this week's guest | Lena Derhally
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/therapywithlena/
Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/LenaDerhallybooks/?modal=admin_todo_tour
Website → https://www.lenaderhally.com/
↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
00:49 Meet Lena Derhally
01:14 What Defines A Narcissist
02:41 Do Narcissists See Themselves As Victims?
04:42 Most Narcissists Don't Go to Therapy Because They Don't Think They are the Problem
06:31 Narcissists Actually Do Have Emotions
08:19 Tips on Surviving Narcissism here: https://youtu.be/pt_gwaegrLU
09:01 Social Media Narcissism
10:55 Help! I'm In A Relationship With A Facebook Narcissist
13:34 Asking For Your Needs Instead of Criticism
15:04 What is The Imago Theory?
19:42 How Do You Navigate Narcissism Within Couple's Therapy?
21:52 Are We A Generation That is Losing the Art of Empathy?
28:18 How Do You Know You're Speaking To A Narcissist Online?
28:50 What is Love Bombing?
30:34 Rushing Into Relationships with Narcissists
32:11 How Do You Set Healthy Boundaries With A Narcissist?

Track: "Last Time", Laxcity
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35 min
June 21, 2023 Therapy, religion & Porn Addiction
In this insightful episode of The D Spot, Dr. Dana sits down with Gordon
Brewer, a therapist and ordained clergyman from the bible belt to
discuss a wide range of topics. From exploring what it means to be a
Deacon in the Episcopal Church, to delving into issues surrounding sex
and pornography addiction, this conversation is packed with valuable
insights. They also talk about how being an important member of the
church and being a therapist can sometimes clash, and how focusing on
what couples have in common can be more helpful than focusing on their
differences. Whether you're curious about these topics or looking for
some practical advice, this video has something for everyone. So grab a
cup of tea and join us for this fascinating conversation! Don't forget
to like, share, and subscribe for more amazing content like this.
*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you
that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional
therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information,
this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a
qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental
health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or
healthcare provider.*
→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email
[email protected] for more information!
↓ C O N N E C T ↓
Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
Connect with this week's guest | Gordon Brewer
The Kindness & Compassion Podcast → https://kindnessandcompassion.com/
Website → https://lgordonbrewer-therapy.com/
↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
02:26 What Does it Mean to Be an Ordained Clergy in the Episcopal Church?
04:14 What Came First, the Deacon or the Therapist?
04:51 Does Being an Important Member of The Church and Being a Therapist Ever Clash?
06:21 Are There Many Couple's That Struggle Because of a Difference in Religion?
07:49 Why Does One Partner Feel Threatened When The Other Has A Differing Set of Beliefs?
10:16 Can You Be Curious Vs. Furious?
12:01 Focusing on What Couples Have in Common Before Focusing on What They Don't
13:46 Two Religions, One Child
15:42 We Are The Family of Our Own Choices Now
16:53 Sex and Pornography Addiction
20:32 Signs You Might Be Addicted to Sex or Pornography
22:07 How Do I Address My Partner's Porn Addiction?
23:17 Establishing Your Boundaries & Deal Breakers
25:02 Finding Support Within A Community
28:25 Healing Your Trauma with Old Communities
33:57 Dana Reads A Quote From Gordon Brewer's Website
37:21 You Can Find Help Within People and Communities of Different Walks of Life
40:40 Where Can You Find Gordon Brewer?
↓ M U S I C ↓
Track: "Worthy Kings"
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42 min
June 14, 2023 A Deep Dive Into Intrusive Thoughts, Trauma-Fishing, and Oversharing with Jake Ernst
Get to know the inspiring Jake Ernst, a guru of young people. In this video, we explore various topics that affect our daily lives, from recognizing and filtering negative thoughts to the evolutionary drive to survive and why we give so much attention to our negative thoughts. What is cuffing season, and how does loneliness affect our brains? So join us as we explore these important topics and more with Jake Ernst. Don't forget to hit that like button, share with friends, and subscribe for more amazing content.
*Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*

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↓ C O N N E C T ↓
|Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
Connect with this week's guest | Jake ErnstLinkTree → https://linktr.ee/mswjake

↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
01:53 Meet Jake Ernst02:21 Recognizing and Filtering Negative and Intrusive Thoughts06:59 Why Do We Give So Much Attention To Our Negative Thoughts?10:20 The Guru Of Young People11:10 What is Cuffing Season?12:40 Evolutionary Drive To Survive13:53 How Does Loneliness Affect Our Brains?16:50 How Can We Help Millennials Beat Loneliness18:52 Thinking Isn't Doing20:27 Using Our Feelings to Identify Our Needs23:13 Trauma Fishing, Trauma Dumping & Oversharing28:29 Think Before You Share29:36 Fabrication in Social Media & External Validation33:06 Where To Find Jake Ernst

↓ M U S I C ↓Track: "Last Time", LaxcityMusic provided by https://slip.streamFree Download / Stream: https://get.slip.stream/NaYNb1
35 min
June 07, 2023 From Breakup to Breakthrough: Regaining Clarity After Divorce
Divorce is tough. But in this video, we've got a special guest who's going to help you reframe and rebuild your life after going through it. Meet Ilyssa Panitz, a Divorce Journalist and host of The Divorce Hour. Through her lived experience, she shares with us some truly valuable lessons on resilience, strength, and vulnerability - things that can actually be the key to making it through this trying time in your life. Don't mistake vulnerability for weakness, guys! It takes courage to embrace vulnerability and turn it into strength. So sit back, relax, and prepare to feel empowered and inspired by Ilyssa's story. Remember to like, share, and subscribe for more awesome content!
*Disclaimer: Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*
→ Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email [email protected] for more information!
↓ C O N N E C T ↓
Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
Connect with this week's guest | Ilyssa Panitz
LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/ilyssa-panitz-74b1275/
Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/ilyssapanitz/
Facebook → https://facebook.com/TheDivorceHourShow
Twitter → https://twitter.com/IlyssaPanitz
↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓
00:39 Meet Ilyssa Panitz
03:40 Normalizing Divorce
05:54 Build Back Better
06:50 Divorce Gives You Clarity
08:49 The D in Divorce Stands For Do-Over
10:40 You Achieved Your Greatest Accomplishment With Them
14:26 The Do's and Dont's of Divorce
18:51 How Do You Tell Your Children About an Upcoming Divorce
24:37 What is Nesting After Divorce?
30:42 Compromise in a Divorce
32:25 Grieving A Relationship That Has Come to an End
35:35 Different is Good
37:18 Use Your Journey to Help Someone Else
42:01 Where to Find Ilyssa
46 min
May 31, 2023 People, Puppies, Relationships and Mental Health: A Recap of This Year's Fair
Greetings, everyone! This week on The D Spot Podcast, we're shaking things up a bit and deviating from our typical topics. Instead, we'll be providing a recap of the 2nd annual mental health fair. It was a fantastic experience connecting with individuals and raising awareness about the importance of mental health and couples therapy. Additionally, we'd like to take this opportunity to shed more light on what The D Spot Podcast represents. Join us for this special episode, where we'll discuss our passion for mental health and relationship therapy, along with some highlights from the fair. Remember to hit the subscribe button so you never miss an episode!
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Track: "Mood Ring", Eazy
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8 min
May 24, 2023 Bio-hacking Meditation with Craig Goldberg and Sound Therapy
Welcome to this week's episode of the D Spot! This week we are getting into the world of sound therapy and meditation with our special guest Craig Goldberg from inHarmony. Have you ever wondered how to reset your sympathetic nervous system using simple techniques? Well, we've got you covered. Dr. Dana and Craig will guide you through the science behind inHarmony's Meditation Cushion and how it can help you center your mind and body for optimal health. So, sit back, relax, and get ready to learn how to live in harmony with yourself. Don't forget to hit that subscribe button for more helpful wellness content!
*Disclaimer: Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.*
► Connect with The D Spot: https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
► Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT: https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
► Key Moments
01:25 Meet Craig Goldberg
02:18 Teaching the World How to Relax Through Sound and Vibration
05:11 Entering A World to Equalise Your Nervous System
06:17 A Tool For Keeping Couple's Centered
07:38 inHarmony's Meditation Cushion Helps Diffuse Conflict within Families
08:39 Love Unconditionally
10:16 Resetting Your Relationship
13:04 Healthy Alternative Coping Method
14:37 Inspiration
16:44 Music Moves You
19:18 How Does it Work?
20:56 Dana's Experience with A Meditation Cushion
24:31 Shaking Yourself Free From a Traumatic Space
28:49 Let's Sleep On It
33:08 A Tool Endorsed by Certified & Licensed Therapists
Track: "Mood Ring", Eazy
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37 min
May 17, 2023 Origins of The Gottman Method: Effective Evidence-Based Therapy for Couples with Dr. Carrie Cole
Are you curious about the secrets to a happy, long-lasting relationship? Then join us on The D Spot Podcast where we delve into The Gottman Method with your host Dr. Dana McNeil, Founder of The Relationship Place, and special guest Dr. Carrie Cole, The Director of Research at The Gottman Insitute. Discover the origin story of this evidence-based couple's therapy and learn how it can help improve communication and intimacy in your own relationships. From understanding the Gottman method framework to practical tips and insights, this episode has it all. So grab your headphones and join us for an enlightening discussion that might just change the way you view love and relationship therapy. Don't forget to hit the like button and subscribe for more amazing podcasts like this one!
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► Connect with The D Spot: https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
► Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT: https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
► Connect with this week's guest | Dr. Carrie Cole PhD, LPC-S, LMHC
► The Gottman Institute | https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/
► The Gottman Institute Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute
► Dr. Carrie Cole LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-cole-3281471b/
► Key Moments
00:43 Meet Dr. Carrie Cole
01:01 Dr. Carrie Cole, Director of Research at The Gottman Institute.
02:31 What is The Gottman Method?
02:55 John Gottman
05:32 "If it weren't for Julie Gottman, we probably would have never heard of John Gottman."
06:33 The Birth of The Gottman Method
07:22 Three Systems Needed to be Healthy in Relationships
08:12 The Four Horseman | Communication Patterns That Kill Relationships
13:40 The Antidotes
18:18 Gaslighting
21:02 We're Not Expressing How We Really Feel
21:59 The Gottman Method Helps Couples Have Those Difficult Conversations
23:41 Stress, Heart Rates, Logic, Frontal Lobes, and Communication
26:20 Flooded
27:13 The Break Ritual
29:02 Rules of Re-Engagement
31:20 The Aftermath of a Fight
33:18 "You Can't Just Sweep it Under the Rug Anymore..."
34:23 Knowing Your Partner
35:29 We Need to be Protective of Our Partner's Vulnerabilities
36:05 MInimizing The Stigma Around Couple's Therapy
38:43 A Good Therapist. is One That Helps Facilitate Conversation
40:27 The Average Couple Waits Six Years to Go to Couple's Therapy
41:33 Do You Think Covid is Influencing That?
43:05 Why Should I Pick up the Phone and Call a Certified Gottman Therapist
44:47 It's Our Job to Help Couples Have Better, More Connected, Loving Relationships
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46 min
May 10, 2023 Therapy for Black Women: Why Having a Lived Experience Matters
Welcome to the latest episode of the D Spot! This week, we have an amazing guest: licensed therapist Jerisha LeCrae, founder of Therapy For Black Women. We're exploring topics like how therapists can truly relate to and understand their clients' struggles, discussing the history of insanity and freedom, as well as the difference between having lived experiences and no context at all. We touch on concepts like racelighting, micro-aggressions, and show you how to find a therapist who will really get you. Don't miss this powerful and informative discussion - watch now and subscribe for more great content!
► Connect with The D Spot: https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
► Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT: https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
► Connect with this week's guest | Jerisha LeCrae
►Website | https://www.therapyforblackwomen.org
► Key Moments
00:49 Why Did Jerisha Start Therapy For Black Women?
02:11 Therapists and Being Able to Relate and Understand What Their Clients Are Going Through
05:45 How Do You Teach What it Feels Like to be Discriminated Against Based Merely on the Way You Present?
09:04 This Goes Back as Far as When Insanity Correlated with Freedom
10:39 Is History the Reason We Don't See as Many Black Clients Going to Therapy?
12:04 I Have a Lived Experience as a Black Woman
12:21 Religion is Another Factor Psychologists Would Hospitalize Black Americans For
13:49 Race-Based Traumatic Stress
14:59 Tonic Immobility
17:23 Creating A Space For People to Just, Be.
18:50 How Do I Find A Therapist That Can Understand and Relate To Me?
23:51 The Most Effective Therapists Are the Same Person Everywhere They Go
25:02 Discovering Self Value: A Book By Jerisha Lecrae
30:35 "We Need to Unlearn That."
34:13 We Need to Have These Conversations as Therapists
34:59 Where Can You Find More About Jerisha LeCrae and Therapy For Black Women?
35:45 Nerd Out on Theory While You Talk About Self
37:01 L is For Licensed, Not Life Coach
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40 min
May 03, 2023 The Link Between Mental Health and Home Clutter: How Your Space Affects Your Mind
Join us for a conversation with Theresa Russell, the expert Intentional Organizer. In this episode, we'll learn what it means to be an Intentional Organizer and how it can help couples navigate different organization preferences. We also discuss how living space affects our mental health and how to approach the topic with your partner. We dive into the importance of language and semantics when discussing household responsibilities, and explore the emotions of guilt and shame that may arise when it comes to keeping a tidy home. Watch now to gain insight and tips on how to maintain a harmonious and organized household! Don't forget to hit the like button, share with your friends, and subscribe for more insightful conversations.
► Connect with The D Spot: https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast
► Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT: https://linktr.ee/danamcneil
► Connect with this week's guest | Theresa Russell
► Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/homegirl.space
► LinkTree | https://linktr.ee/homegirlspace
► Key Moments
00:10 Meet Theresa Russell
00:35 What is an Intentional Organizer?
01:30 Conflict, Couples, and Different Organization Preferences
03:23 How do I Tell My Partner that My Living Space Affects My Mental Health
04:30 We Start Talking About How I Feel Verses You
06:13 The Compromise
07:15 Semantics and Expectations
09:10 Maybe I Am Being A Little Over the Top
10:06 It'e Not Just Dishes
11:11 Guilt and Shame: That's Not How It Was When I Was Younger
13:19 Giving Yourself or Your Partner Permission
15:22 A Conversation About Marie Kondo
17:09 Attaching Memories and Feelings to Items
18:40 Minimalist VS. Maximalist
19:45 How Do I Know If I am A Hoarder?
21:34 Is the Concept of Having Too Much Stuff a Western Culture Thing?
22:27 Do You Need to Help Organizing Your Space?
24:10 Where Can You Find Theresa Russell?
#mentalhealth #drdanamcneil #relationships #relationshipsadvice #couplestherapy #marriageandfamily #lmft #cgt #psyd #homeorganization #declutter #organizedhome #cleaningtips #tidyhome #minimalism #mariekondo #konmari #homecleaning #organizationtips #clutterfree #homeimprovement #neatfreak #homeandliving #homeinterior #organizedliving #homegoals #organizedspaces #homestorage
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27 min

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