The Date with Confidence Podcast

We’re back baby!!

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I take a deep dive into my recent experiences with dating and how they've made me reflect on my own values, self-awareness and boundaries. After ending a ‘relationship’ with someone whose views didn't align with mine, I took some time off from dating to process everything. I talk about the subtle red flags I’ve learned to recognise and how my 30-something self is more attuned to what I truly want in a partner.

I also share some recent dating stories, including a date that went well but ended without any follow-up. While I acknowledge that I have high standards, I'm unapologetic about them—I want someone who's certain about me. I reflect on a missed connection where someone was uncomfortable with my work, but I see that as a sign they may not have been the right fit.

After a not-so-quick catch up, I also answer your questions about dating anxiety, discussing how to let go of insecurities and focus on self-worth in relationships.

Questions I answer:

• How do I let go of being hyper anxious before it ruins what could be an amazing relationship?
• I’ve been dating someone for 3 months and have already deleted my dating apps but he still has his on his phone - how do I talk to him about it?
• We’ve been dating for 9/10 months now but he hasn’t said “I love you” - surely he should know by now?

Our community episodes happen on the second week of every month. Want to get involved? You can contribute your stories to The Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

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Mentioned:

Interview on The Remote Life Podcast: iTunes / Spotify / YouTube

Am I Delusional?! 

Resources

• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

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There's some things we need to catch up about....

Resources Mentioned:

Manifest The One

The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately

Heal Your Heart: Powerful Journalling for Breakup Grief

The reel I was talking about

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• Level Up In Love
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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This video was shared on my YouTube channel in February and I thought it'd be something you'd benefit from listening to too so here ya go....

After 4 years of being single, I'm ready to fall in love again. In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I talk about my commitment to intentional dating with the goal of finding a meaningful relationship and I reveal the key steps I'm taking, the challenges I'm facing and the transformative lessons I'm learning on the path to love.

Here's a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Falling in Love with Yourself: The foundational step in any relationship journey is cultivating self-love. Learn why loving and accepting yourself is crucial before seeking love from others.

2. Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: Uncover the importance of putting yourself out there, even when it feels uncomfortable or daunting. Gain insights into building confidence and navigating the world of dating apps.

3. Building Trust in the Process: Explore the significance of trusting that your dream relationship is not only possible but also on its way. Discover practical tips for shifting your mindset and creating a positive, magnetic energy.

4. Setting Standards and Boundaries: Understand the power of writing a wish list and defining your standards and expectations. Learn how these lists act as guiding principles, helping you avoid settling for less than you deserve.

5. Manifestation Practices: Delve into two powerful manifestation practices and understand how these practices align your energy with your desired relationship, making you more open to love.

Join me in this honest and empowering discussion about self-discovery, growth and the pursuit of a love that aligns with your highest self. If you're on a similar journey or seeking guidance in your relationship pursuits, this is for you!

Episodes Mentioned:

How to Manifest 'The One'

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here's How to Believe In It

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Love Languages are a load of rubbish!” was his response when I asked him to take the 5 Love Languages quiz, which led to an in depth discussion and a new, alternative perspective on Gary Chapman’s Love Languages.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I dive deep into the concept of Love Languages, reflecting on personal experiences and their impact on relationships. Exploring my own journey with the Love Languages, I highlight how recognising and communicating our preferred languages can deepen connections with the people we’re dating. I also offer the alternative perspective that was given to me recently and how this point of view has made me think of the Love Languages differently. 

Do I now agree it’s a load of bollocks? You’ll have to listen to find out….

Here’s what we cover: 

1. Introduction to Love Languages: Exploring the five love languages and their significance in relationships

2. Personal Reflection: Reflecting on personal experiences and insights into Love Languages

3. Prioritising Love Languages: Understanding the importance of prioritising top Love Languages for yourself and a partner

4. Balanced Approach: Advocating for a balanced approach to incorporating all five Love Languages in relationships

5. Debate and Alternative Perspective: Considering differing viewpoints on the rigid application of Love Languages and proposing an alternative perspective

6. Application to Self-Love: Discussing how Love Languages can be applied to self-care and self-appreciation

7. Open Communication: Emphasising the role of open communication and mutual understanding in relationships

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

Resources

• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• Level Up In Love
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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Who knew that your Married At First Sight Australia addiction could improve your new relationship?

Whether you’re actively dating and looking for ‘The One’ or you’ve just started seeing someone new (it’s ok, you don’t have to call it a relationship yet), I’m sharing the important lessons we can learn from the remaining couples in Season 11 of Married At First Sight Australia so you can avoid the mistakes they’ve made.

First, here are the remaining couples in MAFS Season 11 that I’ll be talking about in this episode:

1. Timothy & Lucinda

2. Tim & Sara

3. Tristan & Cassandra

4. Richard & Andrea

5. Ridge & Jade

6. Jonathan & Lauren

7. Jack & Tori

8. Jayden & Eden

Alongside the relationship lessons we can learn, I’ll also be sharing my honest opinion on each of the couples including the groom that fills me with unmeasurable levels of rage and how one of my favourite couples has the biggest lesson for us all, even if you’ve been in your relationship for a long time.

Once you’ve listened to the episode, come over to Instagram to share your thoughts with me or fill out the contribute form here and I’ll share your feedback in the next community episode.

Confidence Boosting Resources:

(Dis) Comfort Zone Come Down

This Simple Concept Will Help you Date with Confidence

How to Create Daily Confidence That Actually Lasts

The 3 Layers of Confidence You Need to Master

The Confidence Kit

The Confidence Course

Want help communicating with confidence? Check out Level Up In Love or Loved Up

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

Resources

• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps

Visit the website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel. Follow on Instagram.

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It’s that time of the month again….Community Episode!

This episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast is all about YOU. We’ve got dating stories, bad responses to your dating profile prompts and some particularly juicy questions including:

1. A guy I’m dating asked if he could film us having sex, am I overreacting?

2. I don’t get many matches on dating apps and it’s making me feel rejected, what can I do?

3. It’s been 5 days and he hasn’t asked me out on a second date, is he still interested?

4. All my friends are married so I have no one to talk to about dating, how can I stop feeling so lonely?

5. The guy I’m seeing told me he’s had sex with a man and I don’t know how to feel about it, should I end things with him?

Our community episodes happen on the second Thursday of every month. Want to get involved? You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

Sign up for the FREE one day coaching event to get instant feedback, support and helpful tips from me to improve your dating life: Count me IN!

Episodes mentioned:

How to Be Confident When Dating

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

How to Be More Attractive to Men

The Guaranteed Way to Be Single Forever

Confidently write a successful dating profile with Attract on the Apps

Resources

• The Dating Debrief
• Loved Up
• Level Up In Love
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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Want to become more magnetic to the man of your dreams?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we’re talking about how to be more attractive to men including the pep talk every woman needs, actionable steps to feel more attractive in your own skin and common things that can instantly put men off.

Episodes Mentioned:

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

How to Be Confident When Dating

How to Feel Confident Having  Sex with Someone New

The Nightmare First Date

Resources Mentioned:

Build Body Confidence 

The Confidence Course

The Confidence Kit

Everything Page

The Dating Debrief

Level Up In Love

Loved Up

Don’t miss the Secret Announcement….

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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We’ve got a fun one today, friend!

Join me in this lighthearted episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast as I dive into the world of dating profiles, sharing my instant "swipe left" criteria. From nicknames to topless photos, I explore what repels me and why. Drawing from my personal experiences and observations, I shed light on common pitfalls in online dating profiles, offering humorous yet insightful commentary along the way. 

Here’s a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Instant No-Gos: Exploring various aspects of dating profiles that immediately turn me off, from nicknames to topless photos.

2. Bio Etiquette: Discussing the importance of detailed bios and the frustration of encountering vague or empty profiles.

3. Values Alignment: Highlighting the significance of aligning values and lifestyle preferences, such as prioritising health and avoiding excessive drinking.

4. Authenticity vs. Image Crafting: Reflecting on the authenticity of profile content versus the portrayal of an idealised image.

5. Environmental Awareness: Examining attitudes toward wildlife and nature conservation, with a focus on ethical considerations in profile photos.

6. Personal Preferences: Sharing individual preferences and deal-breakers, such as grooming habits and social media integration.

7. Humorous Profile Excerpts: Offering amusing examples of quirky or unusual profile statements encountered during my online dating journey.

Join me for an entertaining exploration of the dos and don'ts of online dating profiles, with a touch of humour and self-reflection. Whether you're a seasoned online dater or a curious observer, this episode offers insights and laughs alike.

Don’t miss the Secret Announcement….

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Introducing.....Loved Up

A confidence-boosting membership dedicated to helping you let go of insecurity, build more self trust and improve all areas of your love life. 

This membership is designed to support you in all areas of your romantic life, whether you’re single and ready to mingle, healing yourself from heartbreak, not-so-happily coupled up or head over heels in love and looking to make things EVEN better.

Resources

• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• Level Up In Love
• The Breakup Bounce Back

Visit the website here. Subscribe on YouTube. Follow on Instagram.

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I did not expect  this to happen when I started dating someone new….

And I’m not going to lie, some of the things that’ve been coming up since I started dating the new guy in January have come as a bit of a shock.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we’re exploring the unexpected memories that’ve been bubbling to the surface since I’ve been dating someone new, the complexities of healing from past heartbreak, and I’m highlighting the importance of self-compassion and acceptance as you navigate feelings of guilt and sadness while embracing the joys of present experiences. 

Here’s a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Surprising Challenges in New Relationships: I’m reflecting on unexpected triggers and memories that’ve been resurfacing as the connection with the new guy begins to grow.

2. Healing from Past Heartbreak: I’m acknowledging the lingering effects of past relationships and the process of releasing emotional baggage.

3. Navigating Feelings of Guilt and Sadness: We’re discussing strategies for coping with guilt and sadness associated with reminiscing about past relationships.

4. Managing Doubts and Insecurities: We’re exploring techniques for distinguishing past patterns from present experiences and choosing to trust in new relationships.

5. Embracing Present Joys:  I’m highlighting the significance of savouring moments of joy and connection in new relationships while honouring past experiences.

6. Practising Self-Compassion: I’m encouraging you to be gentle with yourself and embrace self-compassion while navigating the complexities of dating and relationships.

7. Choosing to Focus on the Present: I’m offering guidance on redirecting your attention from past memories to present experiences and creating a positive outlook on new relationships.

This episode provides valuable insights into navigating the emotional landscape of new relationships, emphasising the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and embracing the journey of healing and growth.

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  

Introducing…..Level Up In Love & Loved Up!

Level Up In Love

A 3 month close-proximity coaching container dedicated to helping you date with confidence, build better boundaries, raise your relationship standards and finally manifest the dream relationship you've always deserved.

Loved Up

A confidence-boosting membership dedicated to helping you let go of insecurity, build more self trust and improve all areas of your love life. 

This membership is designed to support you in all areas of your romantic life, whether you’re single and ready to mingle, healing yourself from heartbreak, not-so-happily coupled up or head over heels in love and looking to make things EVEN better.

Visit the website here. Follow on Instagram.

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Dating can be brutal, can't it?

There are moments in dating where you're just like “what the fuck am I doing?”

There are moments where we question ourselves, we question our choices and we question whether it's even worth it.

To survive the shitshow that dating can be, there’s one thing you need.

And in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’ll be revealing exactly what that is.

Here’s what we cover:

1. The Importance of a Solid Support System: Highlighting the necessity of having friends who provide encouragement, feedback and empathy in the dating journey

2. Diverse Perspectives: Emphasising the value of friends who offer varied viewpoints and challenge your assumptions to promote personal growth

3. Balancing Compassion and Tough Love: Exploring the roles of compassionate listeners and assertive friends who offer both soothing reassurance and blunt honesty.

4. Avoiding Echo Chambers: Discussing the dangers of surrounding yourself with individuals who only offer validation without constructive criticism

5. Creating a Judgment-Free Space: Advocating for supportive communities where you can freely express vulnerabilities without fear of judgement or ridicule

6. Celebrating Successes and Failures: Highlighting the importance of a community who celebrate achievements and provide solace during setbacks, fostering resilience and optimism in the dating journey

Introducing…..Level Up In Love & Loved Up!

Level Up In Love

A 3 month close-proximity coaching container dedicated to helping you date with confidence, build better boundaries, raise your relationship standards and finally manifest the dream relationship you've always deserved.

Think: a private group chat with your besties where you can talk about dating dilemmas, how to confidently communicate your wants, needs and desires, get support after a shitty dating experience and celebrate all the positive moments in your dating and relationship journey. 

Loved Up

A confidence-boosting membership dedicated to helping you let go of insecurity, build more self trust and improve all areas of your love life (without weekly calls or another FB group to keep track of...). 

This membership is designed to support you in all areas of your romantic life, whether you’re single and ready to mingle, healing yourself from heartbreak, not-so-happily coupled up or head over heels in love and looking to make things EVEN better.

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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