The Davenport

Happy Thanksgiving from our families to yours! This week Jamie and Guy wanted to express their gratitude for all of their listeners and fans. You are so appreciated!! We are taking a break this week but will be back with a new episode next week. Today's episode is an encore episode (#29) on Gratitude.  We hope you enjoy it -again! And don't forget, if you haven't done so already please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much and Happy Thanksgiving!

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss phubbing (phone snubbing). Jamie referenced a recent article in Psychology Today on this topic and felt it was worthy to bring to the Davenport.  They discuss what it is, why we do it and the effects it has on connection and communication.  To read the full article, click here  https://bit.ly/3g6gXtH

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, in response to a listener's request Jamie and Guy discuss in-laws and boundaries.  With the holidays approaching, they knew several of their other listeners might also be curious about this subject.  Sometimes our relationships with our in-laws or extended family can be difficult but there is a way to navigate your differences and stay generous towards each other.  Jamie and Guy both discuss what has and hasn't worked for them in the past to help you with the upcoming holiday season:)  The following are links to books they recommend on this subject:

How to Hug a Porcupine by Julie A. Ross   https://amzn.to/3FX8Jyx

Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a Time  by  Susan Craig Scott M.D.  https://amzn.to/3NMw8oe

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss entitlement and how it can creep into our lives at time.  From teenagers who feel entitled to have certain things to adults who feel they've worked hard and deserve certain results or rewards - we've all felt it.  Jamie discusses how entitlement can stem from expectations and an attitude of indifference vs. gratitude. They discuss how to recognize and then manage it when it shows up 💛

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the hyperrational saboteur  - which happens to be Guy's  2nd strongest saboteur behind his controller.  The 'hyperrational' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, wellbeing and relationships". He defines the hyperrational saboteur as having an  intense and exclusive focus on the rational processing of everything, including relationships. They can be perceived as uncaring, unfeeling, or intellectually arrogant. The over-rational tendencies of this saboteur often come at the cost of not being able, or wanting, to experience deep emotions. They value the intellect above all else.

Listen to learn how to manage this for yourself or how to support the ones you love when they are feeling sabotaged by this way of negative thinking.

Have you taken the Saboteur Assessment yet? To learn more about Positive Intelligence and to discover what your saboteurs are, click this link to take your free Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of listening.  There's more to it than you think and they break it down into 3 different levels by explaining what each looks like. Jamie explains that listening is a skill that can be learned and takes practice. They both reflected on how their careers as a therapist and coach have helped them improve this skill. We hope you have a chance to listen and reflect how you listen to others and challenge you to improve this skill if you need 💛  
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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the power of friendship.    There are so many benefits to having good friendships in our lives: it makes life more enjoyable, it gives you a safe place to be yourself and it enriches your everyday experiences because you are sharing it with someone. A friend is someone that you can reach out to in times of need. It is someone who you can be totally honest with and they will be honest with you.  They discuss how strong friendships have to be cultivated. They take time, energy, and commitment. Jamie also explained that the reason we keep people as friends in our lives - is because we prioritize it. When it comes down to it, friendship is essential to enriching our lives and bringing us happiness.💛 We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss keeping score in relationships. From romantic relationships, to parenting, to driving in traffic - they discuss how keeping score isn't a winning strategy for improving connection. Jamie explains that when we are keeping score someone is always on offense and the other is on defense.   By keeping score we often discount the good because we are keeping score of what's not working.  Plus,  there are so many factors involved it would be impossible to keep an accurate score.  We should want to be on the same team as our spouse or partner. We can do that by communicating our needs, looking for what is going well within our relationships and staying in gratitude 💛

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy talk about differentiation. This topic came up after reading an article in Psychology Today titled Feeling Fed Up, Resentful? Maybe You’re Differentiating by Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. In this article, differentiation is defined as the active, ongoing process of defining self.  It involves separating from those close to us and focusing more on our needs. It can happen at various points in our life - as a toddler trying to do things on our own, to a teenager trying to differentiate or separate from our parents, and to an adult when we don't feel content in a job or a relationship, etc.  Some of the common characteristics of differentiation are: feeling angry, resentful, irritable, feeling incomplete, and questioning past decisions.  Listen as Jamie and Guy discuss times in their life they have felt this and how they have moved through it.

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week’s episode, Jamie and Guy welcome a very special guest, Dr. Leonard Sax MD PhD.  Dr. Sax graduated Phi Beta Kappa from MIT at the age of 19.  He then went on to the University of Pennsylvania, where he earned both a PhD in psychology and an MD.  He has been continuously certified by the American Board of Family Medicine since 1989. He is also a New York Times Bestselling author and has written 4 books about child development and parenting: The Collapse of Parenting, Boys Adrift, Girls on the Edge, and Why Gender Matters. On today's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the growing gender gap between boys and girls in education (and motivation in school) and how this has been widening over the last 40 years.  From changes in schools that cause disengagement from boys, to video games, to fewer boys getting college degrees, Dr. Sax discusses the causes and what we can do as parents to help our boys succeed. To learn more about Dr. Sax and his books, go to his website: https://www.leonardsax.com/  The following are links to his four books:

Boys Adrift
https://amzn.to/3RVVHVa

The Collapse of Parenting

https://amzn.to/3R29xE5

Girls on the Edge

https://amzn.to/3DBISuU

Why Gender Matters

https://amzn.to/3DUiWLp

We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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