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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome a good friend and fan of the podcast, Whitney Clarke to have a discussion about disconnection. They discuss how the pandemic has affected their relationships over the last couple of years and how to get back to connection.  From teens to adults, introverts to extroverts - disconnection has affected everyone to some extent.  Listen as they discuss how they have been affected and how they are working their way back to connection 💛

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy continue with their saboteur series - this time focusing on the 'Victim' saboteur. The 'Victim' saboteur is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, wellbeing and relationships". The Victim saboteur is defined as:  emotional and temperamental as a way to gain attention and affection. An extreme focus on internal feelings, particularly painful ones. Martyr streak.
Although the victim saboteur isn't the strongest saboteur for Jamie or Guy - it still shows up from time to time on days when they feel like nothing is going their way or they can't catch a break 😔 It may or may not be your strongest saboteur, but chances are you have someone in your life who struggles more with it. Listen to learn how to manage this for yourself or how to support the ones you love when they are feeling sabotaged by this way of negative thinking. 

Have you taken the Saboteur Assessment yet? To learn more about Positive Intelligence and to discover what your saboteurs are, click this link to take your free Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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In this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the two lies we can tell ourselves about our value and individual importance. These lies can make us feel worthless and, in extreme cases,  can make us feel like life is not worth living.  These lies can affect us at any age, but teens in particular can be particularly susceptible to them.  Listen to this episode to learn about these two lies and how to combat them when they creep into your thoughts.

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome Jamie's niece, Skyler Stubblefield, to discuss the Hope Squad: a peer-to-peer mental health support system in elementary, middle and high schools nationwide.  Jamie explains how the Hope Squad was begun by a high school principal who was compelled to act due to the high suicide rate at his school.  Joining forces with health care professionals and the community, the first Hope Squad was formed.  As a current member of the Hope Squad in her high school, Sklyer explains how she and other classmates are nominated by their peers and then trained to help their classmates struggling with depression, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or dealing with a death in their family.  Skyler explains the positive impacts this experience has had on her and her community.  Listen to learn more about this valuable program and the success it is having on our kids at a time they need it the most 💛

 https://hopesquad.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss 5 tips to improve communication, conversation and connection.  Recently Guy shared these tips when presenting to a group of teens and thought they are good reminders to share no matter what your age.  Listen to  hear these 5 simple tips and choose one to focus on this week.  We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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In today's episode, Jamie and Guy welcome guest Russell T. Osguthorpe, an instructional psychologist, former college professor at BYU and author of several books, to discuss attachment theory in adults. Dr. Osguthorpe explains that attachment theory originally focused on infants and children but in more recent years has expanded to include adults.  He explains the 4 types of attachment we can have include Secure Attachment, Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment and Dysfunctional Attachment.  Knowing your attachment style and the attachment style of the person you are in a relationship with can help help you better understand each other and help you to strengthen your relationship. To learn more about the topic, we encourage you to check Dr. Osguthorpe's most recent book, Filled With His Love, which can be found  here:   https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09S6KDQ2F/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0

Also check out his podcast, Filled With His Love, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/filled-with-his-love/id1603874193

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss how and why our kids "fail to launch" into adulthood.  Over the years as a therapist, Jamie has seen a delayed "emerging into adulthood". This can look like a delay in entering the workforce, going off to college, or living independently.   She explains that adolescence is "lasting longer". They compare this phenomenon to a rocket and break down why we are seeing it more and how to manage it.  We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

The Collapse of Parenting by Dr. Leonard Sax:  (https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465094287)

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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Counting sheep has nothing on this week’s guest, Chrissy Lawler, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, lover of sleep, and baby sleep consultant. Chrissy explains when she began practicing therapy she started to realize that sleep issues were a common thread among all of her clients. Because of this, she decided to pursue additional training in advanced sleep medicine. She says her goal is to “take the stress out of sleep training and get everyone in the family a good night’s rest.”  What began with helping adults achieve a better night's sleep, shifted to focusing on helping babies sleep when she became a mother.  She says, “I started having babies and realized that I functioned 1,000x better when I had slept. I read every book I could get my hands on about sleep training and realized that, though there are differences with every baby, there are a lot of universal truths about getting babies to sleep well.” In this episode, Chrissy explains to Jamie and Guy the differences between how babies sleep and how adults sleep - and tips on how to improve both. Jamie and Guy both agreed all this information would have been so nice to have had years ago when they were newborns.   To learn more about Chrissy and how to get better sleep, follow her on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/the.peaceful.sleeper/ and on her website:
https://thepeacefulsleeper.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy deep dive into another saboteur as part of their Positive Intelligence Saboteur Series: the Avoider. The "Avoider"" is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, wellbeing and relationships". The Avoider saboteur causes a person to focus on the positive and pleasant in an extreme way.  It causes them to avoid difficult and unpleasant tasks and conflicts. While neither Jamie nor Guy have the "Avoider" as their top saboteur, it still shows up for them from time to time.  From doing laundry, to delaying hard conversations with loved ones to putting off doing taxes until the last minute, they share how this saboteur can manifest in their lives. 😓
Have you taken the Saboteur Assessment yet? To learn more about Positive Intelligence and to discover what your saboteurs are, click this link to take your free Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy welcome Jason Clawson, therapist, widower, father and founder of Sunshine Boxes. During this episode, Jason shares the devastating story of losing his wife to colon cancer and how he tackled what felt like an impossible journey to find joy again.  He explains that nine months after her passing, he staged his own "intervention" and created a "healing team" that he could turn to when things felt too heavy.  By being vulnerable and connecting with others, he begin to heal and find happiness again.  Looking back, one moment that stood out to him during this difficult time was receiving a "Sunshine Bucket" full of happy yellow items.  He recalls how much joy and momentary happiness that brought to his family.  After his wife passed, he and his sons decided to create Sunshine Buckets for others who might be struggling.  As word spread, Jason received more and more interest in his boxes and what began as a few buckets has grown into "a Sunshine Movement".   To meet that need, he has created a a kickstarter campaign to be able to provide a little bit of sunshine to anyone in need.  He explains that these boxes are more than fun yellow items, "they are a customized box of sunshine to comfort your loved ones with their specific struggles and are designed to help the person going through grief branch out and build support around them with minimal effort".  To learn more about Sunshine Boxes go to his website: https://givingsunshine.org/ and follow him and his team on Facebook or Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/givingsunshinedaily/

To learn more about his kickstarter campaign click here:
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/givingsunshine/care-packages-that-leave-an-impression-for-a-lifetime

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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