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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss fear. From the fear of flying, to first dates, to spiders - they explain the discuss the importance of fear and how to manage it.  Fear is a primal response that alerts us to danger. It can stem from real or imagined threats. For our ancient ancestors that might have been a bear outside their cave - but nowadays our fears might look more like taking a test, speaking in public, interviewing for a job - not as life-threatening but still fear-inducing.  Listen to Jamie and Guy discuss the importance of not being afraid of your fears and the growth that comes from facing them 💛

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Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome a very special guest remotely from Kharkov, Ukraine - André Polonski. They first discovered André on IG when he began sharing his efforts to deliver food and supplies to his neighbors shortly after the war broke out in Ukraine.  André shares how his humble efforts to help a few people has grown to over 3500 food deliveries and counting.  What began with a couple of neighbors in need quickly grew into local humanitarian effort to help everyone he can.  Listen as he shares his story of courage, kindness and hope.
 
Follow him and his daily food deliveries on Instagram @andrepolonski and if you would like to donate money to his ongoing food delivery effort , go to his PayPal account: [email protected]

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss another saboteur or inner critic: the Pleaser. Jamie explains how she is all too familiar with this saboteur because it is her "#1".  Being a "pleaser" is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, wellbeing and relationships". Jamie explains how the pleaser shows up for her and when it becomes a little too strong.  She also clarifies that being a pleaser isn't all bad but she knows went it's starting to become unhealthy when she begins to feel resentful or taken advantage of.  As she has gotten older she has learned to recognize when it is "sabotaging" her and has learned to quiet it better. To learn more about Positive Intelligence and to discover what your saboteurs are, click this link to take your free Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy welcome local guest Kara Ryska - mother of four including one special needs child, Levi.  Kara is also a life coach and host of The Special Needs Mom Podcast: A place for moms to connect and grow.  Kara tells her story about when her son Levi was diagnosed with brain cancer at age two and how life has looked different since then. She explains how a couple of years ago she felt inspired to help this community of special needs moms by starting a podcast with the hope of bringing them together and creating a place they can connect. Being a special needs mom can feel alone and hard on so many levels.  Connecting with this community and helping them connect with each other inspires her everyday.  Sadly, Levi’s cancer has returned for the third time and he is undergoing brain surgery again this Thursday. Our thoughts are with Kara, Levi and their family this week 💛 To learn more about their story see the links below. We have also attached a link for anyone who would like to support Levi at this time.

To learn more about Kara, follow her on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/kararyska/

To offer support to Kara and her family, click the link below

https://www.flipcause.com/secure/cause_pdetails/MTM0NjYx 

To listen to her podcast The Special Needs Mom Podcast, click here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1190612

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week’s episode Jamie and Guy discuss change - particularly making and maintaining changes in our lives.  They agree that often times when people think of change - they are referring to the “action” stage of change - but they discuss how there is  a lot more to change than that. Jamie explains that there are six stages of change and explains why they are each important. Take a listen to understand better the process of change and how to make and maintain the changes you want to in your life 💛

We hope you enjoy this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

For more information on Positive Intelligence and a link to the free Saboteur Assessment can be found here: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss accountability.  From RSVP'ing to parties, to holding yourself accountable to training for a marathon, to taking ownership in relationships when you "step in it" - accountability is important and shows up in all facets of our lives.  They discuss how there are no "buts" or blaming when you are being accountable for your actions.  Being accountable means you turn inward to analyze how you have behaved instead of outwardly blaming others or the situation. Being accountable means taking responsibility for your actions. Highly accountable people don't make excuses and work through the problems.  Simply put, accountability means following through and doing what you say you are going to do. 

We hope you enjoy this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

For more information on Positive Intelligence and a link to the free Saboteur Assessment can be found here: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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This week's episode was inspired by Terry Real's discussion about self-esteem in his most recent book Fierce Intimacy. Self-esteem is a topic Jamie and Guy have focused on before but after reading this book wanted to take a deeper dive into the 3 types of self-esteem discussed in this book: (1) Performance-based esteem: I have worth based on what I do. (2) Attribute-based esteem: I have worth based on what I have; and (3) Others-based esteem: I have worth because other people think I do.  Take a listen as Jamie and Guy discuss the harm in basing your self-esteem in any of these three ways and how to develop a strong sense of self esteem. The key to gaining strong self esteem or self worth, Jamie explains, is truly understanding you are "as good as" everyone else - you are not better than anyone, they are not better you - you're as good as everyone else.

We hope you enjoy it - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

For more information on Positive Intelligence and a link to the free Saboteur Assessment can be found here: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss control and being a controller.  Being a "controller" is one of the ten types of saboteurs identified by Shirzad Chamine in his work on Positive Intelligence.  He teaches that the saboteurs are the negative voices in our heads that "generate negative emotions" (stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness) and "sabotage our performance, wellbeing and relationships". A controller is someone who wants to do things their way (because they feel it is the best way or the right way) to achieve the outcome or goal they desire.  Guy gets vulnerable sharing how his #1 saboteur is 'controller' and how that shows up for him (...often when he's waiting in line at Wal-mart or parking in the Disneyland parking garage 😂).  They both agree controllers are not inherently 'bad'.  They make great leaders and help get things down because they are goal-oriented.  But left unchecked, controlling behavior can go too far leading to abusive behavior and damaging relationships.  This episode is bound to leave you chuckling - seeing as it lead Jamie to tears 😂  We hope you enjoy it - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!

For more information on Positive Intelligence and a link to the free Saboteur Assessment can be found here: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode Jamie and Guy discuss how to disagree without being disagreeable.  They reminisce about both being part of their debate teams in high school and compared the art of debate to this topic. They give advice on how to discuss differing opinions or points of view with others without being contentious.  Jamie explains it is easy to get defensive when you're feeling criticized.  She also explains that it's an art to disagree with someone while at the same time respecting them and honoring their opinions and ideas. They conclude by emphasizing that it’s always important to give space to hear the other side. 

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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On this week's episode, Jamie and Guy discuss different parenting styles and how to work together with your partner when your parenting styles differ.  They discuss the whole spectrum of styles from Authoritarian to Uninvolved Parenting and what each one looks like.  Jamie explains it's not uncommon to have different parenting styles than your partner and that is ok. She also explains it's important to discuss what you and your partners long-term goals are for your children and how you plan to get there.  They conclude with the acknowledgment that no one does it perfectly all the time. You have to allow for mistakes - you’re going to make mistakes your spouse is going to make mistakes and that's ok too💛

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 About  Jamie and Guy:

Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt

 Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguy

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