The Decoding Couples Podcast: Unfiltered Relationship Advice & Marriage Tips

It’s no secret alcohol can be the cause of many relationship problems, not just with your partner but also with your social circles.

In this episode, we are talking about the boundaries we have (or don’t have) surrounding alcohol and ways to initiate healthy communication with your partner around their drinking habits. Plus we dive into “mom drinking culture” and it’s influence in today’s society. 

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In this episode, we are breaking down what to do when you’re no longer attracted to your partner, reasons why this can happen and steps to take in rebuilding intimacy for the long run.

We are giving insight into those burning questions: “Should I tell my partner?” and “Is this normal?”

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In this episode, Rachel and Stacey break down the "unsexy" parts of sex...to make them feel sexy again! Rachel and Stacey start by discussing what younger versions of themselves used to find attractive and sexy and how it has changed through age and different phases of life. They then dive into topics such as when partner's have different libidos, crying during/after sex, what to do when you or your partner want to try new things in the bedroom but the other doesn't, body image and so much more. This episode, Rachel is taking on DC in the DMs, where the DC community wrote about their "unsexy" experiences with their partner's for our tips and feedback.

This episode tackles all things couples therapy! This episode starts by discussing why couples therapy gets such a bad rap and what typically lands couples in therapy. Rachel and Stacey then share their first experiences in couples therapy…mostly what went wrong. They talk about when individual therapy is more appropriate than couples therapy, and different scenarios that could lead a couples therapist to ask partners to do individual therapy first. 

This week’s DC in the DMs is a little different: Stacey & Rachel were flooded with couples therapy horror stories from their Instagram community, so they set the record straight on exactly what to expect and NOT expect in couples therapy.

Rachel and Stacey dive into the magical world of rom-coms, Disney movies and how that has set them up for relationship failure. From relationship expectations to sex and intimacy, Rachel and Stacey discuss different ways the make-believe of movies and tv shows have impacted their romantic relationships and how they show up with their partners. They answer DC community questions on adjusting to “real life” relationships and how to make sense of what real love looks like outside Lifetime movies.Rachel is in the hot seat for this episode's DC in the DMs where she gives her take on what relationship expectations are realistic or “Disney”.

Rachel and Stacey share their experiences of how the lines blur between their professional roles as couples therapists and regular ol’ people when it comes to relationships and mental health struggles. Rachel discusses how being a professional “soul walker” in private practice impacts her marriage. Stacey shares her struggles with depression and anxiety as well as her experience sharing her medication journey with the Decoding Couples community on Instagram. This week Stacey is in the hot seat for DC in the DM’s where she's asked about relationship experiences that potentially “blur the lines” between kosher and break up worthy behavior. 

The article referencing the Gottman’s stat https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-vs-resolving-conflict-relationships-blueprints-success/

The article referencing medication stat https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db419.htm

This week we are joined by Lorena Aynalem, LCSW, to break down mental health in pregnancy and postpartum. We talk about the impact of becoming parents on the relationship and practical relationship advice so all parties can be supported during this time!

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ps://lorena.aynalem.com/⁠ ⁠

https://www.instagram.com/lorenaaynalem/⁠

Need more support? Check out these resources!

Postpartum Support International (PSI) ⁠https://www.postpartum.net/⁠

The postpartum partner by karen kleinman ⁠https://bookshop.org/a/56047/9781669858485⁠

The Postpartum Husband by karen kleinman  https://bookshop.org/a/56047/97807388363

Is it healthy to grieve a relationship while you’re still in it? Is there such a thing as “too much grief”? Do I need to grieve in order to fully heal from my past? We answer these relationship questions and give advice related to grieving your relationships!

Communication, kids and boundaries oh my! Here are the top things that we wish we had talked about before marriage, moving in together, joining finances, kids and generally just getting serious with a partner!

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Does your partner have ADHD? Is your relationship impacted by ADHD? Do you struggle with how to support your partner? Lorena Aynalem, LCSW joins Rachel & Stacey from Decoding Couples to unpack the big and small ways neurodivergence, specifically ADHD, impacts everyone in the relationship and how to move forward and continue to thrive in the partnership.

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Produced by: Joey "Q" Quenga

Mixed by: JTB Studios