The Deeper Pulse with Candice Schutter

Love is like gravity; it helps us to keep our feet on our ground as we navigate the topsy turviness of the human condition. Even so, sometimes the ways in which we ‘do love’ inadvertently sabotage wholehearted connection. In Part 2 of the Sovereignty series, Candice invites you to walk with her along the tightrope between love and limits. Patterns of codependency are explored and we gain insight from the work of Joan Halifax, who encourages us to move through the world with a strong back & soft front. Candice shares more intimate personal stories and a game-changing quote from her favorite Game of Thrones character. 

This episode delivers some counterintuitive realizations. The more we self-center, the less selfish we become. The more we express our limits, the greater our capacity for loving connection.

CHAPTERS
0:47 - Quicksand (story)
4:11 - Love & Limits
11:26 - More on boundaries
14:45 - San Fran Shell Shock (story)
24:14 - Strong back, soft front
26:05 - Arya Stark
27:59 - The Pushback & the Pendulum
30:37 - Snot-Soaked Tissue (story)
37:09 - Forest as a whole

Referenced in this episode:

• Forests Are Wired For Wisdom, Suzanne Simard - OnBeing Podcast

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What if you can live life authentically while exuding an internal power that liberates you from the weight of other people's opinions? What if you can cultivate a capacity within you that offers an alternative to cutting ties and erecting walls? What if it's possible to go beyond boundaries?

In part 1 of the two-part sovereignty series, we explore what it looks like to swap self-protection for embodied self-regard. We get real about anger, conventional gender roles, and what it means to know the sovereign self whose expression doesn’t rely (so much) on external validation. The episode wraps up with a helpful visual meditation and a helpful breakdown of the 4 domains of sovereign self-expression.

CHAPTERS
 1:18 - Never always
4:38 - How Dare She? (story)
9:29 - What is sovereignty?
11:56 - On boundaries
15:06 - Pixie Cut (story)
20:19 - Gender conditioning & control
23:36 - Sovereignty (a visual)
27:26 - The 4 Domains of Sovereignty

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Let’s get real about self-sacrifice and what, if anything, it has to do with empathy. Candice shares a few hard-earned lessons she learned about ‘service’ while waiting tables, along with an intimate peek into how she and her partner often mess things up when it comes to offering empathy to one another. We’ll explore how hijacking vulnerability isn’t the same thing as helping, and explore options when it comes to supporting (versus saving) the people we love. The episode wraps up with four strategies to help us to develop emotional agility. 

CHAPTERS
 0:35 - Snickers Pie (story)
7:11 - Service vs. servitude
12:22 - My First Diary (story)
15:07 - Social anxiety
17:35 - Spilling the truth
19:18 - Hijacking vulnerability
21:54 - Lizzie (story)
28:46 - 4 strategies for emotional agility

Referenced in this episode:

• Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life, by Susan David

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Candice is coming to you with a brief personal story & another timely reminder to trust your own natural rhythms, even when it means defying conventional wisdom or disappointing others. Effectively immediately, TDP episodes will be rolling out bi-monthly… because 'being seen' with consistency isn't at all the same as 'being known' for the deeper pulse that lives within your one unique & precious heart. Listen & remember what it means to trust your own rhythms.

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Empathy. It’s the 4th key of courageous self-expression and lubricant for connection. Building upon the first three keys, Candice invites you to look closely at how you show up to support others, particularly when strong emotions are at play. She offers a variety of personal stories to illustrate, revealing shameful mistakes she’s made along the way, moments when she failed to offer what was needed in the face of shared vulnerability. You’ll learn about three different types of empathy, and how ‘emotional intelligence’ is a developmental journey that has everything to do with where (and how) our inner and outer worlds continually intersect. And then, we wrap up this part 1 empathy exploration with a candid peek at the role that shame - and cancel culture - play in exacerbating divisions and discouraging accountability. It’s a jam-packed episode that will inspire you toward a more practical and embodied approach to everyday compassion.

CHAPTERS
0:53 - Review of the first 3 keys
2:58 - Turbulence (story)
7:51 - Connection vs. connectivity
11:47 - Empathy & vulnerability
14:05 - 3 types of empathy
18:11 - 5 components of emotional intelligence
20:57 - Regret for Dinner (story)
25:46 - Shame & accountability
30:06 - Holiday Halftime (story)
34:29 - Brave enough to love

Referenced in this episode:

• Man's Search For Meaning, by Viktor Frankl
• Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, by Daniel Goleman
• Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts., by Brene Brown

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Candice launches the Summer Season of TDP with a continued exploration of the 3rd key of courageous self-expression - vulnerability. She opens the episode with a story from her past and a peek into an intimate therapeutic breakthrough. She speaks about how social conditioning shapes our relationship to emotional expression, and the role that privilege (or lack thereof) plays in the development of emotional resilience. She illustrates the primary difference between coaching and therapy through story, and candid exploration of unresolved trauma and the role it plays in our ability to self-regulate expression. And then finishes up the episode with a crash course on the nervous system, offering tools and insights that will support you to ‘do’ vulnerability with greater presence, integrity, and grace. (DISCLAIMER: Some listeners may find the opening content of this particular episode triggering. Listen at your own discretion.)

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CHAPTERS
0:38 - The Dreaded Serpent (story)
9:23 - The subjugation of emotions
11:27 - Privilege, resilience, & trauma
14:57 - Pathology of expression
18:40 - Mother-In-Love (story)
23:23 - Coaching versus therapy
26:42 - Emotional regulation & the nervous system
35:39 - Link to free download

Referenced in this episode:

• What Happened To You, by Oprah Winfrey & Dr. Bruce Perry
• The Wisdom of Trauma, Dr. Gabor Mate

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It's officially summer & The Deeper Pulse is back! Listen to the trailer for the Summer 2021 Season. Candice walks you through upcoming episodes, reveals the message at the heart of her work, and invites you to be a part of the social impact she envisions moving into 2022.

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The first in a two-part series, this episode offers an introduction to the 3rd key of courageous self-expression - vulnerability. Candice speaks intimately about her childhood and how a legacy of trauma has informed her path in life. She speaks about the power and privilege of healthy emotional expression. In order to express what is most alive within our hearts, we must feel safe, seen, and held. And unfortunately, there are times when these resources are far beyond our reach. Using personal stories from her own life, she paints a vivid picture of how generational trauma gets passed down through generations; inviting us to soften in our approach so that we might approach vulnerability in ways that are more compassionate and inclusive. She ends the episode with three practices that will help you more easily connect with vulnerability in new and tangible ways. 

CHAPTERS
 0:21 - Pill Bugs (story)
 5:48 - Open Wounds (story)
 8:24 - The power & privilege of vulnerability
 10:53 - Emotional Scarring (story)
 17:23 - Forgiveness & generational trauma
 22:14 - What is Vulnerability?  
28:21 - 3 Arenas of Practice

Referenced in this episode:

• The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown

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Let's talk change. Braving uncertainty requires a higher vantage point and in this episode, Candice introduces you to a helpful visual model she developed over the course of her many years working as a life coach. The Growth Spiral is a theoretical model detailing the six stages of change. It is a tool of self-awareness that supports us as let go of what no longer serves us and risk a reach into the great unknown. If you're facing a transition in your life (be it big or small), this episode and its accompanying download is made for you. 

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CHAPTERS
0:35 - My First Tattoo (story)
4:21 - Finding Grace through Change
6:13 - Beware of Magical Thinking
9:33 - Vertical Development
11:45 - The Model's Origin
15:27 - What Is The Growth Spiral?
17:32 - Fears: My Top 3 List
22:38 - Access to the Free E-Course

Referenced in this episode:

• Integral Theory, by Ken Wilber
• The Growth Spiral, by Candice Schutter

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Candice is taking a week off and will be back with Episode 7 soon. In the meantime, she's sharing from the heart how courageous self-expression has helped her strike the delicate balance between outside expectations & her own honest rhythms. If you consider yourself an introvert or if you sometimes struggle with taking a much-needed timeout, this interlude is for you.

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