The Dervish and the Mermaid

By Pace & Kyeli

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April 06, 2017 WCML 122: I used to love something, but now I don’t. Is it my path, or not?

I used to love X, now it’s stale.
Does this mean that I’m off the right trail?
Or maybe I care
So much that it scares
me to try, because then I might fail.
Kyeli used to love writing, but lately she’s not feeling the love. She wants to know if writing is on her path but she’s resisting it so much that it’s disconnected her from the love, or if the love is just old and stale and not rekindlable.

* Questions to ask to tell the difference:

* Is it yours or someone else’s?
* Are you drawn toward the fantasy, or the reality?
* Do you have a secret goal that this is secretly related to?

* pathfear
* On Writing by Stephen King
* what the science of psychology has to say about sand demons

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43min
March 23, 2017 WCML 121: Help us rename this podcast!

To better accomplish our aim,
Let’s play a curious game.
Take heed and take notes,
Then send in your votes,
To give this podcast a new name!

We’ve been learning about inclusive language, why it’s important, and why we need to rename our podcast. But we don’t know what to rename it to, so we need your help! Send us your suggestions or thoughts here!
Thanks for listening to the podcast soon to be formerly known as Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.
That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!

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29min
March 09, 2017WCML 120: Peaceful Productivity 5: Peaceful Mind Management
Productivity? Ehh, maybe later.
Procrastination makes you crater.
Thrashing can stop you,
Overwhelm drops you.
What if you had a translator?
procrastination
this could be because you’re overwhelmed, thrashing, or unmotivated. We’ll cover the first 2 of these today. (Motivation was covered in WCML 118: Peaceful Productivity 3: Peaceful Motivation, episode 3 in this series.)
What about resistance? resistance is misguided attraction
Last resort: Productive Procrastination (structured procrastination)
thrashing
noticing, e.g. on the days when i stick to some kind of structure I feel better, I feel more productive, I don’t have that flailing around thrashing feeling
separate planning from doing
batch it or batshit
overwhelm
underwhelm
open loops
trusted systems
post-it notes: How to get organized, part one: coffee table + post-it notes = business plan! and WCML 094: MasterHeart: Like a mastermind but, you know, heartier.

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February 23, 2017WCML 119: Peaceful Productivity 4: Peaceful Time Management
“Productively manage your time.”
Sounds like a steep uphill climb.
But that is fallacious!
You can feel spacious,
And slacking need not be a crime.
“not enough time” is a polite lie
aligning your time with your priorities
WCML 068: Wild Crazy Meaningful Death, with Caitlin Doughty
pathfinding
reminder: boil shoulds and have-to’s down to wants
It’s better to make tough “this can wait” decisions than to feel overwhelmed.
choice
tyranny of choice (“It’s bread, in crumb form”)
manufacturing happiness only works when you’re locked in
perfectionism
“I need to be perfect because…”
you are enough
Turn it around and remember your new mantra in the moment.
tiers or tears: Tier 1 “must-do”, Tier 2 “would be awesome”, Tier 3 “would be nice” (http://paceheart.com/tiers/)
The Leonie Effect
practicing (e.g. no backspace in email)
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February 09, 2017WCML 118: Peaceful Productivity 3: Peaceful Motivation
Productivity? Self-flagellation.
But only if you feel stagnation.
Begin at the root
And the rest follows suit:
Help yourself feel motivation!
we do what we most want to do (triple soul)
why this is helpful – e.g. resistance to habit, procrastination, thrashing
goals vs. intentions. does “goal” mean strict and rigid? if so then set an intention instead.
is this a “should” or “have to” goal?
the paradox of change
all-love Mondays
1. not inspired? you need taste
the “just 5 minutes” trick – give yourself permission
futureme.org
visualize the process, not just the end result
2. inspired but not motivated? you need energy
3. motivated but not taking action? you need the right environment
smoothness
pickling
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That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!
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January 26, 2017WCML 117: Peaceful Productivity 2: Peaceful Habits
Productivity isn’t traumatic
If you make it less vague and erratic.
Don’t push and don’t force,
Instead, set the course,
Then accomplish things on automatic!
when it’s good to be on autopilot and when it’s dangerous. habits vs. practices (autopilot vs. mindful)
habits got a bad rap
“morning routines, morning autopilot, was what I have used, ever since high school, to get from nice comfy bed to horrible morning school or job. Autopilot doesn’t take me anyplace good.” – a past student
“good” habits vs. “bad” habits
let go of “should”
motivation to form a habit (see also next week)
Gretchen Rubin’s habit types:
Upholders wake up and think, “What’s on the schedule and the to-do list for today?”
Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?”
Obligers wake up and think, “What must I do today?”
Questioners wake up and think, “What needs to get done today, and why?”
What Kind of Person Are You? The Four Rubin Tendencies.
“Better Than Before”
The 6 keys to forming a habit:
30-day trial
little changes
one at a time
trigger
accountability
celebrate!
2 special cases:
when your routine changes, either find a trigger that will stay the same, or plan to reinstate your habit later
you can’t quit, you can only replace.
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That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!
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January 12, 2017WCML 116: Peaceful Productivity 1: Peaceful Self-Care
Productivity? Better beware.
I’ll compare, which will lead to despair.
Instead of this struggle,
How ’bout a nice snuggle?
Let’s start off with peaceful self-care.
making peace with productivity
“I am hard on myself when I feel unproductive.” survey question. half the class agreed and the other half… strongly agreed.
tapes
rewriting tapes. you can’t erase them.
“I get more done in one hour when I’m well-rested than I get done in eight hours of pushing through.”
“I would rather be a peaceful failure than a stressed-out success.”
“Taking care of myself is important, valuable, and necessary.”
“I’m worthy of love for who I am, not for what I do.”
self-trust
we are heart people in a brain world
Help Wanted story
structure
resistance to structure, like “you have to go to bed now” as a kid
I used to think “structure meant a lack of freedom”
structure = “I have to get up at 8am” but it doesn’t have to be like that. It can be semi-flexible
acceptance and compassion. whatever you choose, even if it’s not the productive option, choose it wholeheartedly
resisting the things that are the most important – it’s actually a good sign
Spiritual practice is the magic bullet for maintaining peace.
Rest and play
Give yourself permission to be where you are and take care of yourself
Spaciousness inside out. Heart first, calendar second.
Stay-at-home retreat
Even a little time is enough to be kind to yourself
Put your own oxygen mask on first. “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” -Jack Kornfield
capacity management – schedule recovery days, don’t oversocial yourself before a big social thing
What even is self-care? How to know what is effective self-care for yourself.
Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.
That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!
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December 29, 2016WCML 115: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2017
2017 is nigh here;
Let’s shift to a much lower gear.
We’ve always preferred
To choose just one word
To set our intent for the year.
Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry, easy mode
Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid, epic
How easy mode has shaped Pace’s 2016
How epic has shaped Kyeli’s 2016
Pace’s word of the year for 2017
Kyeli’s word of the year for 2017
WCME 022: A conversation with Danielle, a 5 (Investigator)
Previous podcasts
WCML 077: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2016
WCML 039: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2015
Soul Mantras by Liz Lamoreux
Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.
That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!
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45min
December 15, 2016WCML 114: Living a wholehearted life
If to thine own self you are true,
If there’s nothing you wish to undo,
You won’t fall apart.
You’ll have your whole heart,
And that means you’ll have your whole you.
all 9 limericks”
“God doesn’t care about the size of your cookies.” -Kyeli
WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?”
a kyriarchical memeplex!
Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.
That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!
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43min
December 01, 2016WCML 113: Caging the Beast Within: What if you’re secretly a bad person who fakes being a good person?
I must keep the beast under guard,
In a cage always minded and barred.
If the beast were set free,
I fear I would be
As awful as Jean-Luc Picard.
A bad person + a conscience = a good person
A selfish person + a filter = a considerate person
A selfish person is a kind person who is not getting their needs met
Praetor Shinzon from Star Trek: Nemesis (it was a movie, Kyeli was right)
The upward spiral
Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com.
That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live!
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41min

FAQs about The Dervish and the Mermaid:

How many episodes does The Dervish and the Mermaid have?

The podcast currently has 287 episodes available.