Are casual-sex relationships always problematic, or can they actually work for some people? In this episode, we break down the key differences between "friends with benefits" (clear boundaries) and situationships (confusing lack of clarity). Learn why catching feelings during casual sex is completely normal and healthy, when these arrangements can work, and crucial signs they're not right for you. We'll explore attachment styles, discuss why some people naturally bond through sex while others remain detached, and provide practical guidance for knowing whether you're built for casual relationships. Plus, we address the long-term implications of consistent emotional avoidance, and answer the question: is it possible to  prioritize my emotional well-being while having casual sex?

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We're going to get really nitty-gritty here today and give you the full details on why, when and how to tell your partner what turns you off. I'll also give you the important exceptions -- that is, when NOT to frame something as a turn-off. Plus you'll get a step-by-step guide on how to have these conversations -- and my Golden Rule for how to make them WAY less hard.  

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What if getting better at relationships and intimacy could actually feel amazing? In this episode, we look at the evidence to challenge the assumption that learning relationship skills has to involve painful, difficult conversations or years of heavy therapy.

Drawing on science about how our brains learn best, we talk about why pleasure and play are actually superior teachers when it comes to intimacy. I'll break down the problems with traditional talk-only approaches and share how embodied, experiential practices create lasting change faster—and more enjoyably.

You'll learn why focusing only on problems keeps people stuck, how positive emotions enhance learning and memory, and why building confidence through practice (not just talking) transforms relationships. What if growth could feel good?

Perfect for anyone ready to stop making intimacy harder than it needs to be.

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Today's episode is all about non-verbal communication, it's role with authenticity and trust, and why it matters so much in romantic and sexual relationships (and all relationships, for that matter). 

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Even though nearly everyone will go through periods of low sexual desire in their lifetime, most people have no idea how common it is or that it's solve-able. Sadly, a lot of people feel like there is something wrong with them, or like they are broken. This episode will normalize what you're going through, plus give you 10 important questions to help you identify the root causes of your own low desire. 

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Are you secretly scared of your own desires? I see this all the time in my practice – we avoid knowing what we truly want because we're terrified of disappointment. But here's the thing: your desires are there whether you acknowledge them or not, and avoiding them is just quitting in advance (there's no benefit). 

In this episode, I'm walking you through a powerful exercise that will help you uncover what you actually want (not what you think you should want). We're going to dig past those surface-level desires – like wanting the perfect body or your partner to initiate sex more – and get to the real stuff underneath.

I'll share how my own perfectionist fantasies were actually masking deeper desires for self-acceptance, and how recognizing this changed everything. You'll learn to distinguish between desires you can control versus ones that depend on other people, and why that matters so much.

This isn't about repressing your wants – it's about getting smart about them. I'm giving you the exact questions to ask yourself that will help you figure out which desires are worth pursuing and which ones are just symptoms of other issues.

Grab a pen and paper – we're doing this work together.

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Have you ever been with someone you love, but their touch just felt... wrong? Or maybe your partner has told you that YOUR touch feels off, and you have no idea what you're doing wrong?

I'm diving deep into this incredibly common issue that so many couples face but rarely talk about. First, I want you to know: you're not broken, and neither is your partner. This happens to normal humans with normal senses, and it's actually important information your body is giving you.

I'm breaking down the four main reasons touch can feel off – from being too up in your head instead of present in your body, to timing issues, to picking up on unspoken emotions your partner isn't even aware they're having. The good news? All of this can be fixed with better communication, presence, and attunement skills.

I'll share a real example from a recent intensive session where I walked a couple through this exact process, and it was absolutely life-changing for them. If you've ever struggled with this, you're going to want to hear the practical solutions that actually work.

This episode could transform how you connect with your partner.

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It can be hard for couples to find good times to connect sexually. Busy lives or different sleep schedules are just some contributing factors that make finding time for sex especially challenging. Add to that an expectation that sex is "supposed to be spontaneous" and we have a recipe for frustration. 

Join me for an exploration of where the whole "thing" around spontaneity comes from, why you might like to de-bunk the myth that spontaneous = passionate, and how you can find more time and better times to get it on. 

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If you're asking yourself whether you and your partner are just too sexually incompatible for your relationship to work, this episode is for you. (Tip: It's also for people you know who seem to be asking themselves this all the time. Please share it and you could save someone a lot of angst). 

Join me as we dive into the hidden issues underneath this question. If you or someone you know is asking this question, you know that it can take a lot of energy and really sap your joy. So let's figure it out and give you the right questions to ask so you can start feeling empowered to make the right decision for yourself today. 

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Don't miss this important (and fun) conversation with Danielle Harel, PhD, co-founder of the Somatica Institute. We talk all about discovering your deep turn-ons, how to know and ask for what you like, and why everyone's arousal pathway is different. We also flirt and laugh a lot while we demonstrate a mini-conversation to have with your partner. 

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