Join me today as I walk through what's really underneath the tendency and temptation to fake orgasms, and how to stop. You'll learn the hidden costs of this habit to you and your relationship. You'll learn what it is actually all about and how to start creating the safety you need in order to have authentic pleasure, connection and communication. 

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Premature ejaculation or "PE" is one of the most widespread challenges for men and couples that include men. There's no special pill being sold on TV.  And while it's not quite that easy to find good help -- we got you! There ARE solutions that work way better than trying to think about baseball or frantically masturbating before a date. 

Join me for a fun and important conversation with Caitlin V, fellow sex coach, YouTube sensation and host of Good Sex on MAX and Discovery+. Our conversation focuses on the best paths to overcoming PE, from her experience and mine. There's no shame, just practical solutions that actually work. 

Use this link to access her course "Come When You Want" for men and enter the code LauraListener for 10% off!

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It may be surprising, but how we treat ourselves is irrevocably linked to how happy we are in our connections with others. Tune in to this heartfelt episode for shortcuts on how to have a better relationship with yourself, first and foremost. You'll be amazed at how that will transform your relationships with everyone else (and your sex life!)

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Applying the idea of "polarity" without full knowledge can actually undermine you and harm your sexual connection. So it's best to be informed. Some people act like the idea of "polarity" applied to relationships is some sort of universal truth, but the reality is that it's just a made-up concept that is really only helpful in. I’m going to break down what polarity actually is and the facts beneath the hype, so you can apply your brilliant critical-thinking mind to decide if you want to play with this idea yourself or not. I’ll also break down the situations where it is and is not useful, give you the knowledge to know when it is harmful (which is really common), and also give you some options for less problematic role-playing concepts to play with, which tend to work better for a larger range of people. 

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This episode will walk you through how to have boundaries that feel great. Good boundaries feel like a big hug for you, rather than a barbed-wire fence to control others. We'll also cover why kind boundaries are critical to creating secure attachment. Don't miss this one!

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Today we're talking about common challenges & solutions for giving and receiving oral sex. Plus, since this is episode 69, I'm celebrating with some cautionary tales around 69, and I'll cover why so many people just don't like it (plus what to do instead). 

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If you're feeling like change is impossible, you may be falling into a sneaky self-undermining habit. Instead of imagining your worst beliefs are true, take a listen to this empowering episode. 

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Ever wish you had more make out sessions with your partner(s)? 

Ever wish you felt 100% allowed to just flirt or kiss and then . . . stop? 

Do you ever wish you could get physical affection without feeling like you're on the hook for getting your partner to orgasm? 

If so, this episode is for you! 

It's also for anyone who notices their partner avoiding sex. And anyone who, on reflection, notices that they take flirtation and making out as a signal that their partner wants sex, but rarely do you talk about it explicitly or actually ask. 

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Both monogamy and non-monogamy are valid choices, but a lot of people default into the modern-day societal norm without even fully discussing it or considering the options that best align with us.  This episode provides an introduction to the different choices for relationship structures available. Whatever you choose, I encourage you to make it an intentional decision for you and your partner or partner. I also provide direct you to some resources that can really help. As a coach who has helped many couples navigate changes in their relationship structures, I highly recommend having a listen. 

Book list mentioned:

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships (originally The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality)  by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern

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This episode gives you the bird's-eye view of what we all need to know and understand in order to have our best sex life and best relationships. You might want a pencil and paper for this one!

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