The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

So many of you are recognizing the power of integrating the Enneagram into your life.

You're discovering the root of why you do what you do and communicating in a way that allows other people to see the truth in your heart instead of hiding behind your fears.

You want this beautiful gift for everyone in your circle of influence.

But that comes with a warning.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, we're taking a deep dive into Enneagram etiquette and how NOT to use the Enneagram.

I walk you through the 3 most common ways people use the Enneagram ineffectively and how those missteps can turn people off and keep this beautiful tool for growth from the very people who need it the most.

Listen in to understand how to communicate the Enneagram to open people up to receiving this beautiful tool for their own personal discovery journey into their Enneagram type.

Get ready to walk the Enneagram walk more than you talk about it, so you can help those in your circle of influence reach their own next level of growth.

If you're interested in taking a deep dive into the dynamics of your personal relationships for deeper connections, I'd love to create a custom program just for you. Reach out to me today at Tracy O'Malley.com.

What You Will Learn

How to know if someone is ready and open to discussing the Enneagram
How (vocally) typing people before they're ready ruins the Enneagram for others
Why it's not just rude but also irresponsible to use the Enneagram as a party trick
Why using a person's Enneagram type against them shuts down their growth
How to stop using your Enneagram type as an excuse for bad behavior
How to communicate the Enneagram effectively for open discovery
How to dig deep into the dynamics of your relationships for deeper connections

Connect with Tracy

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twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
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Today I have a special message for those listeners of mine who are high achieving, power through, take no prisoners and drive to the goal—like me.

Recently, I've been on a major upswing. Professionally it's a time of escalating.

And then…

I started to feel a bit tired and less like myself, so I knew it was time to check things out. And that was the right call…

Isn't that how it goes? We have these huge goals, and then God decides to detour us?

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share the story of my past health struggles, a look at what's going on now, and why you must take responsibility for your health to be the ultimate leader in your life. Plus, how to be your best health advocate.

You know, we get one shot at life—Just ONE! So today on the show I’m challenging you to take care of those health checks and balances so that you can do all you're called to do and all you deserve to do.

Listen to this special message to discover why it's so important to honor the vessel YOU were given for YOUR one shot at this grand adventure called LIFE for more time here, doing what you are divinely called to do.

What You Will Learn

Why how you feel is your own best compass for what's going on with your body
Why I'm giving you this call to action to take care of your health TODAY
How my past health struggles put me on the path to taking better care of my precious vessel
Why taking care of your body is more about vitality than vanity
How to be your own best health advocate
The two most important things in everyone's life
Why "health detours" are "wake-up calls" to focus on what's most important in life
How letting go of your preconceived notions about life leads to more the joy in the journey
How taking care of yourself honors the gifts you're divinely called to share

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Lindsay Fricks is a high-level real estate agent in the hot Phoenix Arizona market with her own team. In her own words, Lindsay says there is no such thing as a five-day work week in her business, so she subscribes to the work hard, play harder mentality.

But, with the housing market changing, Lindsay wanted to find new tools to help her build rapport with her clients and more intimacy in her personal life. She was interested in learning more about the Enneagram, so I thought it would be fun to bring her on the show for a fan favorite live Enneagram typing session.

Lindsay is a high achiever from a family of high achievers. She admits to being intense and assertive, with a BDE energy. She also admits to putting up walls when she isn’t perceived as she wants to be, which can cause a disconnect in her relationships.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Lindsay and I explore how, as Enneagram type 3, the Competitive Achiever, she’s born to make stuff happen while making it all look easy. But all of that climbing the ladder of success and competitiveness can lead to burnout and empty victories.

Listen in to understand how Lindsay can learn to leverage her 2 and 4 wings to integrate into the direction of the Enneagram type 6, her growth number, to slow down, avoid burnout, and for more connection, intimacy, and freedom in her business and her life.

What You Will Learn

Why Enneagram 3s feel like they need to be the best to be worthy of love
Why social Enneagram 3's are the ultimate chameleon of the Enneagram
Why 3s should lean into their 4 wing to figure out why they want to win
Why leaning into their 2 wing can help 3s create more intimacy by digging into what others need
How 3s can use their 4 wing to find more meaning in their victories
How 3s can use the healthy part of the Enneagram 9 to communicate the ‘win, win’ to others
How Enneagram 3s can use their growth number type 6 to become more strategic instead of bulldozing to the finish line

Connect with Lindsay

Lindsay Fricks:
https://lindsayfricks.com/
Lindsay on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/lindsay.fricks/?hl=en

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]

Resources

Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Anytime you are making a difference in the world, there will be objections. Some will even say, "how dare you?"

How you deal with that is up to you.

The beauty of doing your deep inner work is you can move through the hurtful things that once would have knocked you down quickly and elegantly. The gift of the Enneagram is it provides the tools to help you do that in a healthy way for your type.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I share a personal story of how a Mother's Day post I made on my social media channels led to an adverse reaction from a family member. We'll look at how the tools of the Enneagram not only helped me respond but also helped me move past the pain and emotional energy that followed in less than 24 hours.

I share the one tool I use to stay in a sacred space when others throw darts and try to knock me off my divine path. I explore how the Enneagram can help you let go of the negative energy around the haters and those who no longer want to be a part of your journey, so you can grieve their loss and move on with elegance.

If you’re ready to step into your calling and do the work to evolve into the divine version of yourself you were always meant to be, I’d love to work with you. I have ONE 1:1 Coaching spot open, Apply Now.

What You Will Learn

Why each Enneagram type reacts the way they do when navigating hurtful actions
Why the sacred 24-hour pause is so important when you are triggered
Why Enneagram 8's would much rather stay in anger than feel the pain of rejection
Why it might be necessary to let go of some relationships to let your light shine
Why other people's judgment isn't about you
How to keep from reverting to your old coping patterns when others throw darts
How you can stand in your truth, sidestep the shame, and move past being stuck

Connect with Tracy

DM Tracy on Instagram:
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
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www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]


Resources

Apply for 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Review The Leadership Formula on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-leadership-formula-podcast-enneagram-success/id1491541582
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We are all here because we have a vital message to share with the world.

But so many of us are not showing up, instead we’re choosing to watch other people show up while we zone out on too much screen time instead of sharing our own message.

Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, best-selling author, and speaker who has been featured in Forbes and Working Mother Magazine. Her mission is to empower women to become sought-after thought leaders and experts in the online space. She's also the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast.

Amber and I both believe everyone has unique stories and gifts to share with others. But often, there’s something holding us back.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Amber and I take an authentic look at some of the excuses you might be hiding behind that keep you from sharing your story with those who need to hear it. Plus, we'll also delve into what to do if you are not in a season or space to share right now, and it's the exact opposite of shaming yourself into action.

Listen in for insight on the fine line between having compassion and making excuses for ourselves. We'll discuss how you can do the inner discovery work to get real with yourself, live in honesty even in the uncomfortable spaces, and put the real YOU out there in an authentic way to a world that desperately needs your gifts.


What You Will Learn

How to give yourself grace if you’re not in a sharing season
How to enter a place of peace about not showing up and being engaged 24/7
Why you being authentically YOU is both what the world needs and where the challenge lies
How to find the courage to dig deeper to discover what's holding you back from sharing your story
How to get past the physical and the filters and find the courage to show up
What's THE bigger issue than if you filter your frickin' face
How to find the underlying motivation when you find yourself judging yourself or someone else
How to reframe judgment, jealousy, and justification through the core motive and fear of your Enneagram type
The key to FINALLY start speaking to yourself with compassion

Connect with Amber

Amber Lilyestrom:
https://www.amberlilyestrom.com/
Amber Lilyestrom on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/amberlilyestrom


Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/
Email Tracy [email protected]


Resources

Amber’s SEEN Visibility Breakthrough Challenge May 16-19, 2022:
https://www.amberlilyestrom.com/seen
Tracy O'Malley on Understanding the Enneagram on the Amber Lilyestrom Show:
https://www.amberlilyestrom.com/soulpoweredceo-podcast/tracy-omalley-on-understanding-the-enneagram
The Ability to EMBODY Every Enneagram Type with Elegance and Grace with Amber Lilyestrom (Enneagram 9):
https://tracyomalley.com/ep199-live-enneagram-typing-session-the-ability-to-embody-every-enneagram-type-with-elegance-and-grace-with-amber-lilyestrom-enneagram-9/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
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I first met my guest Erin Nicole approximately four years ago, but we didn't have an opportunity to get to know each other until we joined the same mastermind. Erin doesn't have much background in the Enneagram, so I thought it would be fun to bring her on the show for another live Enneagram typing session—your favorite!

Erin Nicole Porter is a Spiritual Business Coach, Master Practitioner & Trainer of NLP, Breathwork Facilitator, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner in Training, Adult Attachment Repair Model Therapist, and Host of the Energetics of Business Podcast.

Although she is an Enneagram type 5, Erin recognized that she needed to put all her learning into the world; otherwise, the knowledge was pointless. This essential piece of insight helped me to determine Erin is a type 5 with a one-to-one subtype offering her the ability to tap into the emotional vulnerability that other type 5s don't have.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Erin shares how she grew up on a farm in Ohio with midwestern energy in a blended family where she always protected her mother. This upbringing helped develop her one-to-one nature.

Erin shares her big life story around burnout and the effect that has had on her health. We explore how burnout comes when she's leaning into her Enneagram stress number, the 7—with 8 million tabs open at once.

Listen in to understand what characterizes a one-to-one Enneagram 5 like Erin as we explore some ways she can change the way she expresses herself using her 4 wing. We'll also look at how she can use her 6 wing to implement all her Enneagram 5 information gathering and pour it out through her life's work to change more lives.

What You Will Learn

Why type 5's seek all the knowledge but sometimes have difficulty sharing it with others
How Enneagram 5s try to manage their fears by hoarding everything from resources to energy
How one-on-one Enneagram 5s differ from other 5s in their desire for more emotional bonding with others
How Erin can use her 4 wing to communicate their feelings.
How Enneagram 5's can lean into their 6 wing to share their vast knowledge with others
Why type 5s worry about becoming energetically and emotionally become drained
Why intellect overrides emotion for type 5s every time
How the type 5s propensity toward taking in so much knowledge internally can lead to body burnout

Connect with Erin

Erin Nicole Coaching:
https://erinnicolecoaching.com/
The Energetics of Business Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-energetics-of-business/id1303310665

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources
Burnout To Breakthrough:
https://www.erinnicolecoaching.co/breakthrough
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Mother’s Day week can bring up complicated feelings for so many of us for many reasons.

For some of you, it's a huge celebration, and for some of you, this is a heart-wrenching week.

Maybe you're not a mom but want to be. Or perhaps you didn't have the example you needed in your mother—I think my own kids probably had those feelings at one time.

No matter your situation, whether you are a mama, on this side of heaven the most important child you will ever raise is the one inside of you.

So, I wanted to do a special episode to support whatever you're feeling this week. And also, to explore some of the ways the tools of the Enneagram can help support you as a mom no matter what format that role takes.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I walk you through my personal journey as a mother to my two children. We’ll look at how the tools of the Enneagram helped me make massive changes in our relationship, both in how I related to my children and how I was able to hear and understand them.

I explore how doing the work and understanding your Enneagram type and the types of those you love and lead can help you develop the tools to offer your children a safe space so they can be the best expressions of who they were meant to be.

Listen in to understand how to use the Enneagram to offer yourself compassion for your inner growth because you are here for something beautiful, and you have an inner child inside of you that needs the mama in you.

I’d be honored to walk alongside you to help you integrate the powerful tools of the Enneagram into your life and into your parenting. Sign up to work with me here.


What You Will Learn

What I have learned as a mom over the last quarter of a century
Where most of our parenting strategies are learned
Why how we think about ourselves is reflected in our children's actions
How the power of the Enneagram can help your children be their true selves and not just mirrors of you
How understanding your child's motives can help you relate to them in a way they can receive
How asking bigger questions of our younger kids will allow us to teach them better
How using the Enneagram can help you build more trust with the children in your life
How you can use the Enneagram to understand why some things your children do trigger you
My number one tip to help you become the mom you have always wanted to be
Why the most important child you will ever raise is the one inside of you


Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book an Enneagram Typing Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Apply for 1:1 Enneagram Coaching:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

When Melissa Henault hit the magic age of 40, she decided she needed to do some internal work, so she hired a life coach, not knowing what would go on in between her ears.

Melissa is a former top corporate executive leader who publicly quit her multiple 6-figure career on LinkedIn™ in front of millions. Now she’s helping others use LinkedIn to generate organic leads through her LinkedIn Lead Gen Masterclass and her LinkedIn Method Academy.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Melissa shares the trauma in her childhood and how she tried to stay out of the chaos by excelling in sports and academics, all the while protecting her mother.

Melissa is an Enneagram 8, one-on-one instinctual subtype. The instinctual subtype is where nature and nurture collide to bring us to who we are and who we were always designed to be. It’s like the next level of the Enneagram.

She’ll share the profound moment when she realized she was recreating her childhood in her relationships and through self-sabotage in her business. I walk her through how her childhood experiences led her to want to protect her inner circle at all costs.

Listen in to understand how Melissa can use her 7 and 9 wings to lean into her growth number to become a world-class leader and change maker. We’ll discuss ways she can continue optimizing the drive she was born with while embracing her vulnerability and softer side for an even energy exchange and more connection in her roles as wife and mother.

What You Will Learn

The 3 things that helped Melissa heal from her childhood and become a better version of herself
Why 8s sometimes feel the need to manufacture chaos in their lives
How type 8s can use their 7 and 9 wings to transform their intensity and use it for the greater good
How Melissa’s upbringing affects her instinctual subtype and causes her to ask, “what’s going to happen to us” when life happens
Why type 8 women’s difficulty receiving can cause problems in their one-on-one relationships
How Enneagram 8 women can lean into their feminine energy to allow their partners to be the superhero for more connection, intimacy, and trust


Connect with Melissa

Burn Out to All Out:
https://www.livethefreelife.co/
Melissa on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/melissa_henault/?hl=en
Melissa on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-melissa-henault-7074ab25/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Sign up for the LinkedIn Lead Gen Masterclass with Melissa:
https://www.livethefreelife.co/masterclass:
The LinkedIn Method Academy:
https://www.livethefreelife.co/the-linkedin-method-academy
Mirror Work: 21 Days to Heal Your Life by Louis Hay:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01BE3R6IA/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
How to Do The Work by Nicole LePera:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08B3G1H76/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Unlocking Your Full Potential: Understanding the Enneagram Instinctual Subtypes on Leadership Formula EP220:
http://tracyomalley.com/ep220-unlocking-your-full-potential-understanding-the-enneagram-instinctual-subtypes/
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]

Communication is a two-way street between the communicator and the listener.

But 80% or more of communication is not the words we use, but in our speech patterns and the nonverbal ways we communicate our energy to the other person. The Enneagram helps honor each of our communication strengths so we can be understood and understand others more effectively.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, I explain what each of the other Enneagram types might be thinking when you're talking to them. We’re talking about how you can develop next-level awareness when you are talking to the other Enneagram types in your life.

For instance, Enneagram 3s and 8s want you to 'bottom line' them, while 4s like deep intense conversations and can talk about anything.

I describe how the Enneagram 7s are the visionaries who love to hear your ideas and expound on them, plus they tell great stories.

No matter how brilliant, how savvy, or how many skills you have, the relationships in your life won't work if you don't know how to communicate effectively. Listen in for insight into communicating with each Enneagram type accurately and authentically.

If you're ready to dive deeper into your Enneagram type, head to TracyO'Malley.com to book your Enneagram Kickstart Session. I promise you it will probably be the most powerful 90 minutes of your life.

What You Will Learn

Why type 1s black and white thinking can lead them to be easily irritated and make quick judgments
How 2s stuff down their needs and what you do to help them explore some boundaries
How you can form a more intimate connection with an Enneagram 3 by slowing down the conversation
Why type 4s are the Enneagram type that you can talk to about anything
How to motivate type 5s to talk more without making them shut down
Why Enneagram type 6s are the best collaborators for developing better strategies
Why type 7s are THE go-to's for bigger business vision
Why you will always know exactly where you stand with an Enneagram type 8
How giving Enneagram type 9s time to respond will open them up to sharing more of themselves

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources

Book Your Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/

I recently met my guest, Corrine Angelica Conroy at a wedding we both attended when we sat together at dinner, and let me tell you, I fell in love.

And whenever these roundtable situations come up, so does the Enneagram. Corrine told me she was an Enneagram 2, the Considerate Helper, but I wasn’t sure—she doesn’t immediately fit all the type 2 stereotypes that normally jump out at you.

But after going deeper together, we discovered she is a Self-Preservation (SP) 2 Enneagram type. Within the 2 family, the Self-Preservation is the counter type, which means it does not look like your typical stereotype and can often be mistyped as a type 7 or a type 6.

Enneagram 2s are driven by self-sacrifice. They also love to be needed and the drive to be liked and appreciated is so strong they almost always have difficulty saying no.

Corrine Angelica is a Board-Certified Holistic Nutritionist! She helps women regulate their hormones by targeting the root cause of any imbalances and then using nutrition and lifestyle shift to help treat and regulate them.

On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Corrine describes her relationship with her family and how, while she was growing up, she often acted as the mediator. To this day she has trouble saying no to them. We’ll discuss the consequences of being an over-giver. Plus, I’ll share my top advice for how 2s (and the rest of us) can learn to say no without the accompanying guilt.

Listen in to understand how Corrine can learn to discern her reason for saying yes, and how she can tap into the strengths of her 1 and 3 wings to help say no when she needs to without shame which is the underlying emotion of the type 2.

We’ll also go deep into some strategies she can use to move closer to her growth number, where she can operate in her superpower of intuitively knowing what people need so she can use her divinely given gifts to help even more women with her programs.

What You Will Learn

Why 2’s over-give and what happens to their life when into the over-giving trap
How the 2s superpower becomes their kryptonite when they come at it from the wrong space
How 2s can sometimes be more helpful to people by telling them no
How their own need to say ‘yes’ to everything and everyone can keep 2s stuck
How to determine if you should say yes to a request and what to say when the answer is no
How 2s can use their 1 wing, the ‘sheriff of the Enneagram’ to help them say no
How Corrine can use the ‘black and white’ thinking of her 3 wing to hit more of her goals
How leaning into the intuition of type 4 will help Corrine help people more effectively

Connect with Corrine

Corrine Angelica Nutrition:
https://www.corinneangelicanutrition.com/
Mind Your Hormones Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-your-hormones/id1527837623
Corrine Angelica on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/corinneangelica/

Connect with Tracy

tracyomalley.com
www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley
www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
twitter.com/TracyOMall
www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources
Listen to Tracy and Corrine on the Mind Your Hormones Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mind-your-hormones/id1527837623
Book an Enneagram Kickstart Session:
http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Email [email protected]