Most modern men think that the spectrum of respect they can expect from their wife goes from 1 (blatant disrespect) to 6 (neutral).

We're here to tell you that neutrality is NOT respect. Respect LOOKS like something. It's not just the absence of disrespect.

From 3 godly women in the Bible to countless specific examples guys can probably relate to, our job in this episode is to provide a framework and pray that God gives you revelation for what respect actually looks like in a marriage, and how to become the man who makes it EASY for your wife to obey God by respecting you.

It's time to level up.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:18 The Levels of Respect

10:27 Culture Creep Into the Church

14:35 Why Neutrality is NOT Enough

18:35 Sexual Distance and Respect?

21:10 How To Tell If You're Not Being Respected

24:58 Make It Easier For Your Wife To Respect You

35:26 What Are You Missing?

38:24 Biblical Examples of Respect

52:04 The First Step To Success

54:57 The 3 Solutions To Be Respected

58:34 WARNING

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This might be our most specific and example-filled episode on how a Family Captain fathers his children - especially his sons.

JM shares a lot of personal stories about his own family, and gives plenty of examples of how he talks to his boys, how he disciplines them, and how he carries himself as a father.

Most men these days have no idea they should raise boys that they actually like to be around, so let this episode encourage you to start doing just that, and watch the peace in your family flourish.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:26 JM's Boys

4:34 Do you father differently for different kids?

9:28 Non-negotiables for the household

22:01 Why do good fathers get angry at their sons?

33:37 Don't let them do things that make you not like them

39:16 Discipline vs Overreacting?

43:53 Fathering teen boys

49:06 What JM's boys build outside of homeschool

54:01 The battles you'll always fight

1:02:59 How to instil a hierarchical home culture

1:11:44 Seeing your family through a new lens

Mentioned:

VidAngel: https://www.vidangel.com/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It's alarming how many Christians miss this particular element that God designed when it comes to your marriage.

We're talking about ATTRACTION.

"I love my wife and she loves me and the Bible says she shouldn't deprive me sexually!"

Well, OK, my brother, that's true. But you're missing a huge helping of wisdom there.

Because what is ALSO true is that the Lord has designed sexual attraction to be a thing.

And the more attractive you are to your wife, the more she's going to want you.

And not just physically.

The more ecstatic your marriage will be overall.

More fun, more flirting, more joy, and yes, more intimacy.

In this episode, we break down the top 5 most common things that KILL intimacy in a marriage.

Listen, decide if you've got some vulnerabilities you can address, then get to work and watch as things change.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:07 How to initiate before bed (with example)

9:11 Killer 1: Neediness

14:20 I don't need my wife...I want my wife

19:06 Killer 2: Stagnation

24:30 The Kryptonite of Mastery

28:23 Killer 3: Neglect

36:51 Killer 4: Low Status

50:13 Killer 5: Submitted Out Of Fear

1:00:47 "My better half"

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We talk to a lot of men who are crushing it at work, but drifting at home.

On one hand, it makes sense...work and home are different beasts, and there's a lot of focus put on professional success in this culture.

On the other hand, it makes no sense...why do these high-performing dudes struggle where it matters most?

That's what we're diving into today.

We'll cover the root causes of this issue and give you specific things to work on to start building that capital at home so that you start to love leading your family with strength and love instead of shift into autopilot when you walk through the door.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:15 Do these 3 questions prove every guy is the same?

10:53 Why you crush at work but drift at home

17:50 Lack of vision

19:46 What you're missing at home

27:36 Why a man tolerates drift at home

31:28 The mindset shift required to win at home

40:38 Order to chaos

50:21 Glory and credit at work

56:12 Audit your capital

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What we've found over the years is that there are basically infinite levels that a man can ascend as a family leader.

Every time you think you've reached the top, you discover there's another 10, 100, or 1000 levels to you could get to, by God's grace.

In this episode, we're breaking down 4 of the main levels we see guys coming into the Family Captain, and helping to give you some practical ways to get unstuck and to get to that next level.

From start to finish, this is about going from zero, not really even paying attention to family leadership or improving your marriage and sex life, to absolute stud, building generational wealth...financially, relationally, and spiritually.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:53 The Dominion Mandate

6:35 Waking Up and Buying Into God's Good Design

10:57 The Big Lie Keeping Most Guys Down

15:54 50/50?

19:28 "Pretty Good"

24:59 The Comfort Kryptonite

35:05 Doing a Lot, But Frustrated

42:45 Do You Ever Get To A Point You Can Stop Doing The Things?

44:17 The High Performer

59:16 Legacy Limits

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

60-some episodes in, you've heard bits and pieces of JM's life and experience, but he's never shared the full story behind what made him the man he is today.

It's always fun when you get the inside track on people you listen to regularly, and since there are thousands of people who listen to these episodes, we figured it'd be fun to go deep on John Michael Clark, and figure out why he's wired the way he is.

(You'll also get a good sense of whether or not you want to know more about him inside the Family Captain program after listening to this episode.)

But, even though he tried not to, JM drops lessons and teaching nuggets that, if you only listened to this episode, could still transform you entire family dynamic, so press play and get ready to become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:39 Bio

3:50 Parents divorce

8:40 Coxswain: the chip on the shoulder

19:19 After high school

28:55 Confidence

33:12 Early marriage

36:14 Improving sex life

41:53 Fatherhood

45:48 Family mastery

48:19 Pastor

51:27 Fired...Family Captain

57:34 The first client

1:00:19 Lack of confidence?

1:03:43 North Star for The Family Captain

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

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Making friends is hard for American men...even Christians.

But does it have to be?

This is a topic few people are willing to shed light on, so we figured we'd break it down so you can get a really clear idea of the types of friends, the types of friendship behaviour, and perhaps even how to find that ultimate "unicorn" friend we're all secretly hoping for.

Learn about the 4 categories of friendship traits, how to find friends at this stage of life, and why the role of "Battle Brother" can change your life.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:53 Losing a best friend

9:45 The Presence Bro

15:20 The Challenge Bro

25:24 The Bearing Bro

35:40 The Battle Bro

42:26 How to find a brother

45:34 The actual role of Battle Brother

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode is for all of the guys out there we hear from all the time who are worn down, overwhelmed, dealing with the thorns of life, and just discouraged.

We're going to walk through 5 levels of invisible battles you might be fighting, and how to get through them with wisdom and with help from the Lord.

Let this be an encouragement if you're carrying a lot and you're not sure where to turn next, brothers.

Our God is a God of hope. He has solutions. He will not forsake you.

Try a few of these practical things and get back on the horse...you have a high calling as a Family Captain, time to get moving in the right direction.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:00 Encouragement

4:47 The Ache of Success

17:32 The Thorn of Circumstances

21:43 How to stop falling into discouragement

29:53 The Drift of Boredom

41:29 The Winter of Numbness

47:17 Real life example of brotherhood

51:25 The darkness of discouragement and depression

58:43 The Fast Track

Mentioned:

Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310361176/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode is all about exactly how to talk to your kids about sex and God's good design for the marriage bed.

We believe that dads need to be the primary discipler for their kids in every aspect of their lives, but particularly so in their sexuality.

The enemy has wounded so many people in their childhood in sexuality, and it's not something you can afford to leave to chance, especially in our hyper-sexualized and perverted world.

This one is highly tactical, but more importantly shows you another specific way to use the broad Family Captain principle of being on OFFENSE instead of DEFENSE.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:07 "The Talk" with your kids?

3:44 Will I "steal their innocence"?

7:02 What age to talk about things

10:59 Options for conversations

12:22 Talking about anatomy correctly

18:03 Discomfort

19:52 What's at stake (clip?)

24:59 If you're "late" to the party

28:57 Books and resources

33:31 Go from defense to offense

Mentioned:

God's Design For Sex (series of 4 books): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00O5DIVTU/

God Made All Of Me: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1942572301/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This is the definitive episode - with examples - on how to navigate and respond when your wife becomes hysterical or overly emotional.

Stop taking the bait. Start leading. Remember you're her head, not her "life partner" (puke).

If your marriage is otherwise decent, but her emotions get the better of her, you, and your entire family...hit the play button ASAP to level up your marriage and your life right now.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:21 A hysterical wife

6:57 Tracking your wife's cycle

10:07 Understanding, not justifying

16:44 How to screw up when your wife's emoting (CLIP)

22:51 Emotional ambush before bed

24:55 How to be the lighthouse

28:51 Silence or matching her?

37:45 Discerning the timing

46:42 Honoring the weaker vessel

52:43 Starting to fix this in your marriage

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.