If your home is more like a war zone than a sanctuary, listen up.

In this episode, you'll learn how to become the type of husband who never gets drawn into fights, who brings peace, conviction, and leadership into the home, and who can withstand his wife's strongest emotional hurricanes.

That all leads into the bigger picture, though, which is how you go from suffering as Husband 1.0 to Husband 2.0 and eventually crushing life as Husband 3.0.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:00 Fighting Less At Home

6:00 How To Lead During Conflict

12:30 How To Recover When You Blow It

16:20 How Long Does It Take To Rebuild Leadership In Marriage?

23:02 Becoming The Best Husband Ever (HUSBAND 3.0)

38:14 Why You Have To Take This In Stages

40:55 90 Second Review

Mentioned:

JM's Homeschool Example of Leadership Without Fighting

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

How do you create a family vision and leave a legacy...especially if you never had this passed down to you?

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:47 How Far To Cast Your Family Vision

5:08 How To Start Building Your Vision (From Scratch)

9:31 From Dream To Reality

13:40 Should You Like Your Job?

18:35 Fatherhood Goals For Raising Kids

25:05 What's Distracting You From Building Your Family Culture

32:20 The 7 Layer Exercise

Mentioned:

Previous Episode on Letting Your Kids Date: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEFYfIME5jw

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What does letting your kids date have to do with your legacy?!

Pretty much everything.

OK maybe not EVERYTHING, but it sure is a microcosm of your values, and if you play this one issue out over the course of your life, chances are you're going to miss your one shot at leaving a legacy for the Lord.

Come for a Christian definition of legacy...

Stay for John Michael yelling about parents who let their kids date...

Leave with a deep conviction that this legacy stuff matters way more than you thought...PLUS some practical steps to get started righting the course of your family ship.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:57 Legacy Isn't What You Think It Is (A Christian's Definition)

7:26 What To Do Now, To Prepare Future Generations

13:19 Parenting For A Kingdom Legacy

15:35 Interlude: Letting Your Kids Date Is Dumb

27:33 Conviction Leads To Legacy

40:22 How To Parent Toward Legacy If You're Just Surviving The Chaos of Your Family Life

54:40 Prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Going through something difficult? Here's how to lead through it.

We live in a fallen world, brothers.

Life gets hard. We go through seasons of suck...getting fired, challenges with the kids, health complications, you name it.

But here's the reality for us men as Family Captains.

We still have to lead.

You still have to lead.

You're the head of your wife. Your kids are looking to you for guidance.

You don't have the luxury of packing it in and moping forever.

So, how do you lead through the most difficult seasons of life?

We'll answer that today with practical, tactical advice in today's episode.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:53 Real Life Example of Leading Through A Rough Season

11:29 To the Guy Who's IN IT Right Now

18:05 When You're In A "Dry Season" With God

26:20 How To Still Show Up For Your Wife and Kids During The Suckfest

34:32 Navigating Stress Without Burdening Your Wife With It

46:35 The Second Time I Got Fired

52:50 How Chris Led His Wife Through Investing In The Family Captain Program

1:01:04 Prayer For The Man Battling

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

There are a TON of things that get in the way of you leading your family well.

One of the biggest threats is wasted time, especially in the culture of distraction we live in.

From scrolling to working too long to sports...there are a lot of ways to waste your time, get distracted, and completely miss your own life.

If this is happening to you, we've got to start asking the tough questions...

As the captain of your family ship, don't you have a big enough vision to keep you from being distracted? Isn't your responsibility so big and so joyous that you have no room for anything else?

This is not a fairy tale, gentlemen. This is reality for intentional Christian husbands who are done with a mediocre family and sex life.

In this episode, we talk common threats and distractions, what to do about them, and why this simple values framework could solve all these problems.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:15 The threat of wasting time as a family captain

4:57 What if you're exhausted?

9:23 How to rest responsibly and avoid distraction

14:19 Navigating life in seasons

23:59 Learn this lesson about values from JM's "you're a psycho" homeschool story

34:01 How to escape distraction and become intentional

37:54 Managing distraction and scheduling intentional refreshment

43:04 For the dad who isn't present

48:27 What if you are NOT pumped up to be spending time with your family?

Mentioned:

Choosing To Cheat by Andy Stanley

Alpha vs Beta Episode

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Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti by Bill & Pam Farrel

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Don't feel too bad about hitting the play button on this episode, brother.

There are many, many thousands of men stuck in the same position you are.

You settle for infrequent pity sex, you feel bad about it, you start becoming resentful, and you have absolutely no idea how to get yourself out of this mess.

You may even have an excuse or two in your back pocket, ready to justify the fact that your sex life is mediocre.

But...

We believe Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives, and if you can handle the initial discomfort of owning up to WHY you're here in the first place...we can help you get unstuck and turn your marriage bed back into a place of desire, passion, and deep connection.

Get ready to learn how to toss the pity sex and have your wife deeply attracted to you again.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:14 How couples end up having "pity sex"

11:35 How to lead your wife through periods where sex might start to feel (or become) transactional

14:33 Prayer to improve your sex life?

22:26 The Martha Stewart Interlude (men's vs. women's egos)

29:00 How to reconcile with the fact that you're responsible for the current state of your sex life

32:23 Stop putting limitations on God

37:11 Dealing with your victim mentality

40:37 Beating p*rn addiction with an aggressive offense

46:00 Getting off the couch and into the arena

Mentioned:

Extreme Ownership by Jocko

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

"Servant Leadership" is redundant. A leader IS a servant.

So, why are so many men obsessed with making sure everyone knows that they are specifically a SERVANT leadership?

Because we have collectively believed the Satanic lie that leadership is bad, authority is bad, husbands shouldn't be the head of their wife...the list goes on.

We think the only way to lead in our families is to be a lap dog. To say "yes, wife". To ask, "how high?" when your wife says "jump!".

Whether you're too scared to call her out for being lazy and selfish, or whether you're the one acted lazy and selfish by abdicating leadership to her, it's time to start giving a rip about your family and about the fact that you're accountable to God for your household.

This episode tears down the reasons why you might find yourself in this situation, AND gives you practical tools and advice for righting past wrongs and starting to captain your ship.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:08 What guys get wrong about servant leadership

3:45 Should "Leaders Eat Last"?

7:15 The consequences of taking "servant leader" way too far

10:31 How to show servant leadership without losing strength

15:26 What to do if your wife is walking all over you

25:19 The solution to your emasculation problem

31:17 The secret hack...

33:53 What sales training can teach you about being a man worth following

Mentioned:

Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Was Jesus alpha or beta when he was letting people spit in His face and punch Him?

Was He alpha or beta when He was rebuking the Pharisees?

Gentlemen...Jesus shows us so clearly that He was the right thing at the right time.

And if we're going to be following King Jesus as godly family leaders...we've got to be the same:

The right thing at the right time.

There's a ton of nuance in the alpha/beta conversation that gets lost amidst childish emotions and immaturity. This episode will help you avoid ditches on either side of the debate, while also giving you a way out of toxic tendencies to operate in one extreme or the other.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:33 Antarctic explorers and captaining your ship

7:20 Alpha vs. Beta

11:26 Should I lean into being an Alpha to be more like Jesus?

18:53 But what if my wife is a "strong woman"?

24:11 Don't be self-centered

26:48 What to do if you're a "nice guy"

38:23 Is the extreme Alpha a Beta in disguise?

42:41 Is it wise to give your wife "the little things" to decide, while everyone understands you make the big decisions?

Mentioned:

Endurance: Shackleton's Incredible Voyage

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This is Biblical Masculinity 101.

What is it?

What are the lies most men believe about masculinity?

What does it look like applied to married husbands?

How do you leave passivity behind and start leading confidently?

This is a MUST listen if you want to get value out of anything else we talk about. Without the basic revelation about what God says about a man and husband, nothing else will make sense, and you'll never have the confidence or tools to lead your family well.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:10 True Biblical masculinity

5:00 What lies about masculinity do Christian men need to look out for?

8:34 What does it mean to be a Family Captain?

11:40 Common ways most men fall into passivity

18:58 How to stop abdicating leadership

24:15 Coaching through a real time example of passivity

30:57 How to pray for and start living with Biblical masculinity and leadership

39:29 Closing prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Welcome to The Family Captain Podcast...relaunched and revamped.

This podcast is designed to help Christian husbands grow in family leadership and sex in marriage.

Today's episode will frame what you can expect from the show moving forward, introduce you to your host John Michael Clark and his co-host, Chris Farrell, and start to tease out a few pillars we'll be unpacking over the coming months that'll change your family's life.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:54 How I'd start to fix your marriage

7:20 Are you honest enough to admit you want your wife to respect you?

13:05 What to expect when you "get" what we're teaching here

14:32 The Family Captain origin story

20:38 Turn your masculinity back online

28:36 The biggest excuses men make to justify their crappy sex life

31:12 Why am I being walked over by my wife and kids?

32:57 I feel lack of purpose...why?

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.