What started as figuring out how to lead a "type a", go-getter wife, quickly turned into a DEEP dive on the importance of rest, Sabbath, and margin.

Too many people don't even THINK about this topic today. We live in a go-go-go society.

I've got news for everyone:

You can't do it all.

You're not God.

If you don't have time for everything you've "got" to do, then it's not from the Lord, plain and simple.

Time to start developing your life around your actual values, and make some trade offs. But you MUST build rest into your weekly rhythm for you AND your wife.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:42 High Performing Wife Outpacing Your Leadership?

9:02 Should Your Wife Run Your Family Calendar?

13:57 Sabbath

19:54 When There's No Margin

35:37 Serving in the Church with a Young Family?

42:58 How to Actually Slow Down Your Family

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Look, things are crazy out there, guys.

And seemingly only getting crazier.

So what is a man to do?

Do we become insular and shy away from the things presented to us?

Do we grab the bull by the horn and demand everyone fall in line?

Or is there another way forward for men who want to be Family Captains?

In this episode, we talk about a lot of timeless things relevant to Christian husbands at this point in history, including how to do a "fruit assessment" in your marriage and life, how to not be paralyzed by what's going on, how to win at home AND work, and more.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:01 What do we do in this chaos?

8:37 If you're paralyzed by worldly situations...

12:32 Action builds sexual attraction

21:19 Not in a playful season?

25:18 Personal "Fruit Assessment"

40:19 Nick Saban (crushing it at work but not home?)

47:29 Alpha in the work place but weak at home?

51:03 What if you crush at work but are too exhausted to care at home?

1:01:22 The next step

Mentioned:

Nick Saban Clip: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/foBm57NNqS8

No More Christian Nice Guy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0764212680/

No More Mr. Nice Guy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/9391560407/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

There's not a lot more dangerous than being a limp man.

It's one thing if you're ignorant and ready for a wake up call...

But it's another thing entirely if you're just passive, not making the changes you know need to be made, and letting life slide by.

Today is our wake up call to you if you've been slacking on taking ACTION.

Don't navigate backwards...make sure to watch this one and take the first little step into becoming a strong, erect, penetrating man of action.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:02 Limp men have a false sense of progress

4:57 Employee to Owner

7:26 Being stagnant

11:31 What needs to shift to take action

14:59 Making it impossible to fail

20:25 The greatest objection...

25:37 A typical wife's reaction

30:46 The danger of being a limp man

40:51 Our gift to you

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Do the small things really make a difference?

Should you really start by making your bed when your home is in chaos?

The answer may surprise you.

It doesn't sound sexy, it's not a home run...but if you hit singles and a couple of doubles, you're rounding the bases. When you take care of the little things, that 1%, 3% increase adds up.

Turns out the big things are tackled one little thing at a time.

We'll explain the broken window theory of family leadership in this episode, and give you some specific ideas on how to start levelling up TODAY, without the overwhelm of having to figure it ALL out.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:05 John Michael Takes The Stage, Doesn't Get Canceled

7:09 Get Fruit FAST

8:59 The Broken Window Theory

14:17 The little things that lead to big things

18:15 Momentum!

34:15 You get what you tolerate

45:08 Reclaiming Dominion

49:05 Next steps

Mentioned:

VidAngel: https://www.vidangel.com/

Tineco 5: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P2RKRWX/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

You think your 7/10 marriage is pretty good.

Then you discover what a biblical marriage actually looks like and realize you're closer to 7/100.

The problem isn't that you need better communication or more date nights...it's that you've been sold a lie about partnership and mutual submission that's turned you into a family butler instead of a family captain.

What if everything you've been taught about loving your wife is backwards? What if the "nice guy" approach that keeps the peace is actually destroying the respect, freedom, and passion your marriage was designed for?

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

8:00 Default Marriage

11:25 Being afraid to lead

23:09 Mutual submission

38:32 What it looks like to move from "co-submission" to leading

45:24 You can't lead with co-submission

51:29 The two ditches

1:03:35 Getting unstuck

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

You want your marriage to go from good to legendary. You want to actually lead your family. But here's the problem: most men don't even know what they really want because they're too busy living for comfort, managing other people's expectations, or settling for "fine."

This episode hands you five questions that will either unlock your next level or expose that you've been lying to yourself about what you're actually willing to do.

If you answer these questions honestly, you'll unlock a whole new world.

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In This Episode:

0:11 Intro

2:57 The questions

6:16 When these questions hit us in the nuts

13:25 A win from actually answering these questions

21:52 How to start asking and implementing

31:22 The Law of the Spectrum

37:11 Wisdom

46:42 The biggest unlock

48:45 What have I tolerated that must be crucified?

55:56 Submitting your plans to the Lord

59:32 Big Family Captain news

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What does it really mean to have sexual integrity as a man of God?

Chris and JM unpack the hidden struggles many Christian men face, even beyond internet addiction, and expose the subtle compromises that keep men from true freedom.

JM shares his personal story of confession, breakthrough, and leading his family with strength and purity.

Together, they challenge men to move from playing defense against temptation to running a mighty offense in faith, purpose, and leadership.

If you’ve ever wondered how to walk in real victory over lust, shame, and mediocrity, this is the episode you can’t afford to skip.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:58 Sexual integrity struggles

6:12 Guarding your thoughts

14:20 Why your burdens are blessing you

19:22 Guardrails?

28:02 Where to start

35:54 This is impacting your marriage

44:32 Full and true freedom

56:00 Prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What if your wife actually WANTED more intimacy...and you were the man she couldn’t resist?

In this episode, Chris and JM dive into 10 (of 34) proven ways to have more sex with your wife.

From tracking her cycle to leading yourself like a man on a mission, they reveal practical and biblical strategies that build real attraction.

This isn’t about cheap tricks. it’s about becoming the man your wife longs for in every way.

Stick around to the end, because these insights will completely reframe how you approach leadership, marriage, and the bedroom.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:42 #1 Track Her Cycle

8:30 #2 Don’t Pout

18:24 #3 Send Flirty Texts

24:30 #4 Never Ask Again

34:25 #5 Love God More Than Her

43:12 #6 Be a Man on Mission

49:49 #7 Stay Groomed & Fit

57:42 #8 Quit Internet Trash

1:00:30 #9 Make Her Feel Beautiful

1:05:33 #10 Give Her Rest

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Something is stirring in America, and it’s bigger than politics.

Chris and John Michael dive into the surprising ways Jesus is being proclaimed at the highest levels of government and why it matters for your home.

From the White House to your house, this episode explores how to ride the spiritual momentum sweeping across the nation.

Along the way, they tackle cynicism, margin, family leadership, and boldness in sharing the gospel.

Get ready for practical wisdom, fiery encouragement, and a challenge to step up as the man your family needs right now.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:06 White pill maxxing

7:03 Comparing post-9/11 unity vs. today

9:31 Don't be a cynic and don't squander this

18:39 Creating margin for family discipleship

31:48 Momentum

38:55 Lighting your household up

43:50 Exactly how to share the Gospel

58:43 A personal story on bold obedience

1:04:02 ANNOUNCEMENT!

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Last week, Charlie Kirk’s life was cut short by an act of evil.

In the days since, countless stories have surfaced - not of controversy, but of a man marked by conviction, grace, and an unshakable devotion to his faith and family. His friends, colleagues, and even opponents testify to a rare combination: courage to speak truth without apology, and restraint to meet hostility with patience.

In this episode, we reflect on what Charlie’s life and death reveal about legacy, the cost of truth, and the quiet strength of a husband and father who left behind more than a movement.

If you’ve ever wondered what it means to live boldly, love deeply, and lead with faith in a world full of noise, this conversation will give you both challenge and hope.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:13 The very impressive Charlie Kirk

8:13 Legacy vs. noise

10:22 Family as your calling

16:33 Noise that kills legacy (and grief)

24:43 Can you build a "comfortable" legacy?

28:50 Christians and politics and Charlie Kirk

30:11 Is there such a thing as to much truth?

36:55 The gift of restraint

43:15 Preparation behind boldness

47:55 Being a truly great man

55:22 Martyrdom, conviction, and preaching the gospel daily

1:00:21 God goes before us

1:04:22 Closing prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.