Most men are surviving — few are truly providing.

In this episode, we dig into what it means to be a real provider, why your family needs more than just a paycheck, and how stepping into this role brings peace, safety, and softness to your home.

Get ready to have your assumptions about financial responsibility challenged, and get the encouragement you need to take the next step to Kingdom-building wealth.

---

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:13 Fear of Being The Sole Provider

7:01 The Shift From Thinking About Finances The Way Your Parents Did

17:44 Faith To Thrive (and...the time I didn't tell my wife I got laid off)

30:03 The Peace of God versus Pro-and-Con Lists

31:50 If You're Making Good Money Now...

39:03 Generosity At Every Level

41:47 It's Ultra Masculine To Provide

46:18 The Power of Vision (and Bringing Your Wife Home)

---

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠

---

Mentioned:

The Four-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002WE46UW/

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Man, it can rile a guy up if he's a hard-working guy with an amazing work ethic to see his kids acting lazy.

"You don't get that from ME!"

But what's really going on here?

Is your kid lazy?

Or is there something going on under the surface that has to do with you...as the father?

Find out in this episode, and figure out how to navigate the feeling of seeing your kids being lazy or slacking off.

(Plus, wait till the end for the wimpy Pastor Melvin rant from JM 😂)

---

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:52 HUGE Win From The Family Captain Elite Program

3:58 Lazy, Unmotivated Kids...and Our Reactions

7:56 Anger From Seeing Laziness Because Dad Has A Good Work Ethic

12:51 What Labels Are You Putting On Your Kid?

17:26 How To Correct Kids Without Crushing Them

30:10 Where Do You Turn If You Didn't Learn This From Your Dad?

33:37 What Your Kids Are Probably Missing If They're "Off"

37:33 The Pastor Melvin Rant

42:08 The Family Captain Elite

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠

---

Mentioned:

Vid Angel: https://www.vidangel.com/

Wild at Heart by John Eldredge: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400225264/

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It's hard to captain your ship when you're not training your boys to be captains themselves.

You can sort things out with your wife, but if your house is still run by disrespectful kids that you aren't training, life can't be sweet and joyful.

Thankfully, the answer is straightforward (if not easy)...

The answer is fatherhood.

In this episode, we'll break down how to raise your boys into strong men.

We discuss both ditches that dads can fall into - both passivity and being too harsh - and give a lot of ways that you can start training and leading well, wherever you are along the way.

---

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:47 Boys Are Wild

5:15 How To Raise Strong Men In A World That Loves Passivity And Weakness

8:12 The Two Things To Teach Your Boys To Help Them Mature Well

12:21 Are Your Boys "Behind"?

15:17 If You're Coddling Your Son...

20:04 Kids Are Not A Burden

35:03 If You're Too hard On Your Son...

38:51 Loving Them The Way They Need To Be Loved

40:38 If Men Are Left Unchecked, Women Don't Flourish

44:16 The Solution If You're Not Where You Want To Be

49:40 The Jonathan Edwards Family Legacy Blueprint

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Anger is one of the most common issues husbands and fathers face.

Some of it is justified and normal. Kids are chaotic and you can't fully control them, and sometimes our love for them even comes out in anger if they're being unsafe.

But what if you're living with a constant underlying anger? You're 2 degrees away from boiling at all times. It's destructive...but what can you do?

This episode is all about anger, understanding how to start taking control of your life in a way that brings peace and joy and gratitude and love, and restores the peace of Christ in your life.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:40 Chris' Anger Story

4:57 Why Does Anger Feel So Automatic, Yet Justified In These Situations?

8:12 How To React Properly If You're Always Almost Boiling Over

12:52 If You're Flying Off The Handle...

15:38 How Your Anger Impacts Your Marriage

18:10 Repent in the Moment?

22:07 Repentance for Nice Guys

24:28 Anger When Your Kids Sin Against Your Wife

30:07 When Mom Gets Between You Disciplining Your Kids

40:29 Negative Motivation

---

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It is one of the worst feelings in the world when it feels like your wife doesn't want you.

Especially when you've started doing some work, started growing, started leveling up...

And you still get nothing.

In this episode, we're going to cover what might be going on here, how you can navigate this as a godly family leader, and most importantly...

What to do to become the man she wants to have more sex with.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:21 I Want To Have More Intimacy With My Wife...Where Do I Start?

6:12 The Mental Toll This Takes On Men

10:05 What Can Happen If You're Feeling Rejected

12:57 When You're In A "Standoff"

18:42 When Lack of Sex Leads To Temptation And Lust

21:20 How Lack of Intimacy Hurts Your Leadership

25:16 How To Find Accountability When It Can Get Awkward With Friends

29:31 How To Start Stacking Wins

36:20 Should You Just Show Your Wife The Scriptures?

41:08 When You've Started Growing But Nothing's Happening

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Brotherhood and strong male friendships are like jet fuel to a man's development in self leadership. Yet most guys don't have a solid group of men around them, often because they've never heard of the insane benefits, or because they've bought the "lone wolf" lie.Guys, consider this the episode you need to fast track your success in leadership, marriage, and manhood. Brotherhood changes lives. We're not designed to do this alone.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:25 Why Do Dudes Choose Isolation Over Brotherhood?4:31 The Pitch for Brotherhood7:41 Why Not Join Brotherhood?15:20 Healthy Masculinity Exposes27:11 Don't Let This Be What They Say At Your Funeral34:00 Skin In The Game37:52 How To Audit Your Current Brotherhood45:08 You Get What You Tolerate51:18 How To Start Building Your Brotherhood and Friendships55:28 Accountability

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Men, your wife wants you to lead.

Are you willing to step up to the plate?

Or are you going to risk your entire marriage, as your passivity gets the best of you, and your wife starts making plans to leave?

In this episode, we talk about the weight of responsibility, the first steps into family leadership, the bad advice out there by so-called Christian influencers, and why the solution to your marriage problems are actually really simple.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:20 First Time Feeling Weight of Leadership

6:47 How To Identify Your First Step Into Leadership

9:41 Why Men Hesitate To Lead

13:23 Where You Might Be Perverting Your Desires

17:30 Is Leadership A "Personality Trait"?

18:23 When Your Wife Is "More Spiritually Mature"

22:36 John Delony's Bogus Marriage Advice and What To REALLY Do

35:16 Why Start Small

45:42 Imperfect Action (Don't Be A Podcast Bro)

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyleader725

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Passivity is one of the biggest killers of intimacy and leadership in marriage.

If you let life happen to you, or find yourself making excuses...

Chances are, you're going to benefit from listening to this episode.

Learn where passivity stems from so you can cut it off at the root, plus hear a ton of real-life example so you can start to take action immediately.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:03 The Root of Passivity

5:27 The Levels of Passivity

12:23 Fearful Motivation

17:15 The Difference Between Passivity and Delegation

22:14 You...Or Your Wife?

35:29 The Difference Between Passivity and Gentleness

38:49 You Can Still Be Passive If You're Angry

41:26 Good Cop vs. Bad Cop Parenting Dynamics

52:59 The Cost Of Inaction

👉Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage:https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain

---

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok:https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website:https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyleader725

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

A "good" marriage is fine. But wouldn't you rather be ECSTATICALLY married?

Most "good" marriages are really just getting a C+.

In this episode, you'll learn the 5 keys required to level your marriage up to an A+.

---

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:17 Is Happily Married The Enemy of Ecstatically Married?

5:28 Lack of Attraction

10:02 What If Your Upbringing Set The Bar Low?

13:51 Submission In An Ecstatic Marriage

19:39 Joyful Provision

25:05 Raising Sons as Sons

28:00 Vision

37:50 Frequent and Passionate Sex

46:19 The ONE Thing That Takes A Marriage From Good To Great

---

⁠👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/

---

Mentioned:

Good To Great by Jim Collins: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0712676090

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyleader725

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

How much influence do you REALLY have at home?

And more importantly...do you know WHY you have that amount, and how to increase it?

Leadership capital, baby.

Being a great family leader means your family actually has to follow you.

Do you have the leadership capital required for your wife to follow your lead?

Listen to this episode to learn what fosters trust, submission, and engagement.

---

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠

---

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:25 What Do You Mean "Leadership Capital"?

5:36 Bonus Masterclass on Submission and Leadership Capital

18:14 The Silent Killer of Your Leadership

22:13 Destructive Media

28:19 How To Build Leadership Capital From The Ground Up

34:25 Public Leadership vs. Private Leadership

---

👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠

---

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptain

Website: https://thefamilycaptain.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyleader725

---

Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.