A family captain is compassionate.

A family captain takes responsibility.

A family captain has...

Authority.

(This is where the shrieking starts and everybody and their cat tries to cancel us).

It's just Biblical guys, and we're not sorry for it.

In this episode we break down exactly what we mean by authority and power, and how to use it effectively as the third, and often missing, leg of leadership.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:30 Authority in family leadership

8:44 Why do guys shy away from of authority?

11:45 Neglecting your power

18:33 Where to start if you're "too far gone"

26:06 If your wife says you're only the leader in certain areas

28:57 Does this mean you have to be 100% in charge of everything?

33:55 When your ship is growing

42:11 Diffusing overwhelm and anger

50:42 Overstepping delegation

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

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Too many guys are asleep at the wheel, not even living as the main character in their own life.

God put you here for a reason. Your wife and kids are looking to you.

You CAN actually live a life that you want to binge more than whatever show, or sport, or video game you're living vicariously through right now.

Let this episode help you do it.

Become the main character.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:58 What does it mean to be the Main Character?

4:42 Why you matter

8:25 When the NPC wakes up

13:54 Stop living vicariously

16:57 Why guys finally wake up

28:04 The dark side of waking up and leveling up

40:07 Careful who you listen to

47:57 TRULY Surrendering

53:35 What story do you want to tell later?

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain - Admiral's Orders. Captain's Actions. Seamanship. Course charting.

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In this episode, we dive deep into what the Family Captain Ethos is, explaining the 4 Pillars that guide everything we do.

This is the most in-depth breakdown of the Family Captain Elite program we've ever done, and should give you two things:

1. The framework to start building toward in your own life
2. An inside look at what it's like actually working with us

Some brothers will figure it out on their own with the help of the podcast and local mentors, and that's great.

But after working with 400+ men at this point, we know it's a fact of life that there are guys just like you that we've successfully helped turn their life, family, and marriage around. And if you're one of those men, we'd love to help you.

So listen in and get the framework to start aiming toward, but also take a real look in the mirror, and consider if this is the moment you need to stop being passive, and start taking action to build the future you know God has called you to.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:05 The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain Ethos (The Family Captain Philosophy / Ethos - Biblical Headship is not outdated)

4:43 Useful family systems

7:55 Pillar 1: Admiral's Orders

16:38 Pillar 2: Captain's Actions

25:11 Pillar 3: Seamanship

34:07 Pillar 4: Course Charting

41:56 The next step

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode will change your entire outlook on sex in marriage.

We explain why your wife feels like the keeper of the sex...

Why you're not having as much sex as you want...

How to turn the tides and have as much frequency and freedom as you want in your sex life...

Why and how to decline low quality affection and set standards in your life...

Essentially, we take everything you've been learning from The Family Captain, and apply it VERY specifically to sex in the marriage bed.

The thing is, it works in the bedroom.

But you'll find pretty quickly that all of this actually improves your entire life.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:58 Why does sex feel so high pressure in marriage?

4:14 What to do if things don't feel light, playful, and intimate

7:20 How to lead when life is heavy

13:20 The big thing to change to level up your sex life

20:45 When she's not really into it (but is a people pleaser)

29:33 Stop treating your bedroom like your office

36:20 Go find stuff to upgrade

42:42 Are you a man of high standards?

48:34 Decline low quality affection

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Are you just a super compassionate leader?

Or is it passivity in disguise?

We see so many men being "nice guys" instead of kind men, because they're overwhelmed, afraid of conflict, unsure what to do, obsessed with comfort...whatever the reason, it's causing grief in your family.

In this episode we talk about why you might actually be patting yourself on the back for something that isn't actually compassionate, and how to fix it.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:17 When everything falls apart, even though you're being "nice"

4:26 Misplacing compassion

7:25 Values drive right action

12:59 Gaining leadership when you've been too "compassionate"

20:47 Justifying overwhelm and passivity

28:40 The cost

36:50 What might you still need to surrender?

51:37 The next move

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What on earth is a golf course marriage, you say?

It's one of the best analogies we can use to explain how to start improving your marriage.

We'll give you the overview, the principles to focus on, how to start building the life and marriage you want today, regardless of where your wife is at with it, and give practical examples to help you level up.

Oh, and happy anniversary to Mr. and Mrs. Clark! 18 years, let's go!! Drop some love in the comments!

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:10 The Golf Course Marriage

6:19 Principles to build your golf course

13:35 Focus on today

15:36 1.0 Husband and beginning to level up

22:18 Golf courses are not conflict free

27:55 What if she asks you to take out the trash?

36:03 Disrespect or intensity?

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We haven't talked much specifically about provision, and that's where this conversation started.

JM and Chris dive into one of the keys to making more money, gaining influence, and increasing your upward mobility.

This topic is like the gateway into advancement in work, in social settings, and in life.

And, obviously, it's not a sleazy sales tactic or manipulation.

We find most guys totally miss this, and it's holding them back.

Not only in their career, but in their witnessing and making disciples.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:22 How to get people to know, like, and trust you

5:04 Where most guys get stuck at work

9:37 Overdelivering

12:19 Likability

17:25 The $200M CEO offer

25:48 The gift of curiosity

37:28 Frame control (change the way you operate at work)

48:50 Leading with humility

1:00:20 How to reach out for advice without "picking your brain"

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Are you overwhelmed with fatherhood?

Being a dad isn't meant to be an absolute grind. It takes effort, yes, but fatherhood is also a natural, God-given thing. There IS a path forward, filled with principles that seem to have been lost over the decades, that make it more peaceful and effective.

Discover how small steps - pausing a movie to talk about values, launching rites of passage, reclaiming phone-free moments - actually form the backbone of consistent, intentional fathering. By learning to operate proactively (offense, not defense) and leading your wife to be consistent with consequences, you’ll begin shaping spiritual legacy one baby step at a time.

If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this conversation is your invitation: take that next small step toward becoming the captain your family needs.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:33 Is parenting easy?

7:14 Leading kids' souls is hard work

17:20 Intentional fatherhood

20:04 Reactive leadership

24:37 Rites of passage

29:30 Discipline (so Mom doesn't lose her voice)

40:40 Intentional nurturing and training

46:19 On the phone with kids around

56:00 Letting them help you

1:00:42 The one thing I'd do if the worst happened...

Mentioned:

Raising a Modern Day Knight by Robert Lewis: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1589973097/

King Me by Steve Farrar: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802433197/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

There are 4 lies that keep men STUCK, on the sidelines, and falling further behind where it matters most.

Today we'll dive into each of those lies and help you defeat it so that you can become a man whose default is to take action, become the family captain we know you can be, and start reaping the good fruit that the Lord has for you.

If you haven't actually taken action and started building your family life as a leader, this might be the encouragement you need.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:47 Lie 1: "I don't have time!"

5:41 Lie 2: "I don't have energy!"

17:39 Solve your screen

20:28 Lie 3: "It's not gonna work!"

32:28 Lie 4: "If I change now, they won't believe it!"

37:35 Let consistency do the talking

41:08 The spirit of cynicism

45:46 Is there a perfect time to start?

55:59 Accountability to reject the lies and get moving

Mentioned:

Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D23CFGR/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This is the number one spiritual rhythm in the Clark household, and it's SO foundational that JM almost took it for granted.

In fact, it wasn't until he spoke to hundreds of guys through the Family Captain, that he realized almost NO ONE was doing this as their #1 spiritual leadership rhythm, which is crazy.

We'll dive into what that rhythm is, and WHY it's so vitally important, so that by the end of this episode, you'll have something to lock and load moving forward TODAY, no matter where you live and what you're dealing with.

Start here, and everything else flows out of it.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:17 JM's most consistent family rhythm

4:05 What if you can't find a good church?

19:13 Where you attend church is life and death

22:04 Going to a small church as a big family?

28:45 Don't pick a church because your kids like it

32:40 You can still grow in an imperfect church

44:25 Gathering with the saints is an assumption and command in the NT

52:14 Starting your day with the presence of God

58:49 How to grow

Mentioned:

Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310361176/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.