Perhaps the most common marriage advice of the past 50 years has been:

"Happy Wife, Happy Life"

But it's a lie.

It's not biblical.

It leads to misery.

We're here to destroy the myth of the "50/50" marriage by doing something radical...

Reading the Bible and applying it.

In this episode you'll learn why this is the biggest lie, how it slowly corrodes attraction in your marriage, and what to do instead.

Implement our 3 legs of leadership and watch your family life flourish.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:27 Why is "Happy Wife, Happy Life" a lie?

2:43 Why wives lose respect for husbands in "50/50" marriages

12:10 What about BIG decisions?

17:31 Family Leadership in the Bible

23:31 Hierarchy and delegation

29:41 Micromanaging and being controlling

32:17 If you're doing everything right...

42:03 Is a good wife necessary for SUCCESS?

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Feminism has subtly rooted itself in most marriages today. And yes, probably your marriage, too.

Men and women who truly love the Lord are settling for meh, or even miserable, marriages...all because they've let demonic, feminist lies infiltrate their lives.

In this episode, we'll break down how to identify and start to push back against feminist lies, how to bring peace to your wife by leading as a godly, masculine husband, and what the Bible ACTUALLY says about marriage, men, and women.

This one will have immediate application for most marriages, so buckle up.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:44 Feminism in Christian Marriages

6:29 Covert Feminism

14:31 Leading AGAINST culture

19:08 If your wife was taught male leadership is dangerous...

21:58 Why feminists feel threatened by us

27:04 What the Bible reveals

30:29 Bringing peace to your wife

34:05 Is submission only because of The Fall?

41:21 How to become the man she trusts

47:37 The SECRET to a happy marriage

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Your wife is anxious, exhausted, and overwhelmed, and feminism told her this is what freedom looks like. She was raised to believe male leadership is dangerous, that she doesn't need a man to lead her, and that 50/50 is the only "fair" way. Now she's carrying a weight she was never designed to bear, and your marriage is suffering for it. 

In this Episode, John Michael Clark dissects the lie of feminism and reveal what the Bible actually says about a wife's need for a strong, steady husband. They explain why modern Christian wives can't rest, how society sabotaged your marriage before it even started, and what it takes to become the godly man she feels safe enough to trust.

This episode covers:

◼ How feminism rewired your wife's brain to resist the very leadership she craves

◼ Why your wife's anxiety is often a symptom of absent or weak male headship

◼ What the Bible says about her design and why she finds peace under godly authority

◼ How to lead a wife who was taught that submission is oppression

◼ The specific steps to become the man she can finally stop testing and start trusting

If your wife seems constantly on edge, this episode will show you the cultural lie behind it and the biblical truth that sets her free.

Free leadership training: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_P15gdv8eDc 

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Bitterness and resentment.

After working with so many Christian husbands, we know that these feelings come up and create distance, even in Christian marriages.

If left to their own devices, these do immense damage to families.

That's why Family Captains nip resentment in the bud and get back to leading.

How?

In this episode we'll give you 3 questions to ask and answer that'll get you back on track, conquering resentment in your heart, and moving forward with strength and love.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:02 The Marriage That Breeds Resentment

3:27 Do You Keep "The List"?

8:46 Have You Removed Your Protection?

24:43 Wife Screen Time Example

34:03 What Do You Do When You're Disappointed?

Mentioned:

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C438CW/

No More Christian Nice Guy by Paul Coughlin: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MBTYGK8/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

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Addiction stops many husbands from taking their life and their family to the next level.

Inside the Family Captain, we're (accidental) experts on crushing addiction.

I say accidental, because we never explicitly talk about it.

We don't have curriculum that helps our clients defeat addiction.

Our program simply creates so much momentum in men's lives that they don't have time or desire to do the things they used to cope or numb with.

Internet lust. Gambling. Drinking. Scrolling. You name it.

Many of our clients have come to us after and told us they broke free from the grips of addiction because of everything else we helped them put in place.

This episode starts that process for YOU.

No 12 step programs, just a solid 3 step plan to help you live the life you want to live, and addiction naturally crumbles.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:56 Big Shift #1

4:22 Husband 1.0 vs 2.0

10:43 Can You Even Level Up If You're Stuck in Addiction?

19:00 Big Shift #2

31:43 Sports and Food

40:17 Big Shift #3

45:42 First Step

Mentioned:

Death by a Thousand Lies by Blaine Bartel: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692104860

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

The thing you're missing? Leadership.

The reason you're missing it? Nobody ever showed you what it looked like.

We live in a strange generation. God's Truth is still True. Marriages still function ideally within that Truth. But, almost all of us are completely divorced from seeing it in action.

So we become passive. Uncertain. We stop leading. Our marriages are..."okay". But they're certainly not God's best. They're usually not even that much different than secular, non-believer marriages.

This episode helps fix that.

• What leadership ACTUALLY looks like.
• How to start leading today.
• How to use systems and strategies, not just tactics, to BECOME the man who leads, not just pretends.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:02 Didn't Learn Leadership From Dad?

4:16 If You're "Winging It" on Family Leadership

11:00 What To Do When You Get Home

24:11 Building The 3 Legs of Leadership

30:07 Masculinizing Your Wife

41:58 Busy Is Not Leading

Mentioned:

AI Episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyIVKodyYZI

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

"My wife loves me...but she doesn't WANT me."

This is something we hear all the time from men here at The Family Captain.

You're doing life really well together, you're operating as a team, you're friends with one another...

But sex is irregular and infrequent, and you have a hard time telling the difference between what a "wife" means versus what a "good friend" means.

This episode helps to change all of that.

You'll learn some tactical stuff, but you'll also learn the thing underlying all of it that makes all the difference.

Oh, and stick around to hear why we coach men to literally never ask for sex from their wives ever again.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:07 The WRONG Way To Think About The Problem

14:08 Warm and Fuzzies vs. Hot and Bothered

16:11 Friend vs Roommate Marriage

20:09 Pursuing vs Pressuring

30:37 If You've Stopped Asking

38:29 The Pout

41:34 What To Do Tonight

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

If your wife is loyal but not inspired - this episode is for you.

Many women vent to each other about their husbands' "failings". Maybe your wife doesn't vent, but...

She's probably not bragging about you, either.

If you're a Christian husband looking to have the greatest marriage you know of, full of respect, love, intimacy, and growth in the Lord, you probably need to level up in at least one of the 5 traits we're going to be talking about today.

These are the traits that make wives proud of and grateful for their husbands.

The things that make a wife whisper, "thank you, Lord, for my husband".

Level up in these areas, and you'll become a better husband, lead in your marriage, and make your "roommate marriage" a thing of the past.

Let's dive in.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:38 What it looks like when your wife brags on you

3:07 What your wife WON'T brag on

6:18 How to become the man your wife brags on

15:13 Where do you need to grow so she brags on you?

18:18 Where to start

23:10 The 5 traits your wife will love to brag about

26:10 Trait 1

28:04 Trait 2

32:39 Trait 3

37:20 Trait 4

46:54 Trait 5

50:45 What to do first

Mentioned:

The 5 Silent Killers of Attraction in Marriage Episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PFl3JEWjWqI

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Most modern men think that the spectrum of respect they can expect from their wife goes from 1 (blatant disrespect) to 6 (neutral).

We're here to tell you that neutrality is NOT respect. Respect LOOKS like something. It's not just the absence of disrespect.

From 3 godly women in the Bible to countless specific examples guys can probably relate to, our job in this episode is to provide a framework and pray that God gives you revelation for what respect actually looks like in a marriage, and how to become the man who makes it EASY for your wife to obey God by respecting you.

It's time to level up.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:18 The Levels of Respect

10:27 Culture Creep Into the Church

14:35 Why Neutrality is NOT Enough

18:35 Sexual Distance and Respect?

21:10 How To Tell If You're Not Being Respected

24:58 Make It Easier For Your Wife To Respect You

35:26 What Are You Missing?

38:24 Biblical Examples of Respect

52:04 The First Step To Success

54:57 The 3 Solutions To Be Respected

58:34 WARNING

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This might be our most specific and example-filled episode on how a Family Captain fathers his children - especially his sons.

JM shares a lot of personal stories about his own family, and gives plenty of examples of how he talks to his boys, how he disciplines them, and how he carries himself as a father.

Most men these days have no idea they should raise boys that they actually like to be around, so let this episode encourage you to start doing just that, and watch the peace in your family flourish.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:26 JM's Boys

4:34 Do you father differently for different kids?

9:28 Non-negotiables for the household

22:01 Why do good fathers get angry at their sons?

33:37 Don't let them do things that make you not like them

39:16 Discipline vs Overreacting?

43:53 Fathering teen boys

49:06 What JM's boys build outside of homeschool

54:01 The battles you'll always fight

1:02:59 How to instil a hierarchical home culture

1:11:44 Seeing your family through a new lens

Mentioned:

VidAngel: https://www.vidangel.com/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.