Men, your wife wants you to lead.

Are you willing to step up to the plate?

Or are you going to risk your entire marriage, as your passivity gets the best of you, and your wife starts making plans to leave?

In this episode, we talk about the weight of responsibility, the first steps into family leadership, the bad advice out there by so-called Christian influencers, and why the solution to your marriage problems are actually really simple.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:20 First Time Feeling Weight of Leadership

6:47 How To Identify Your First Step Into Leadership

9:41 Why Men Hesitate To Lead

13:23 Where You Might Be Perverting Your Desires

17:30 Is Leadership A "Personality Trait"?

18:23 When Your Wife Is "More Spiritually Mature"

22:36 John Delony's Bogus Marriage Advice and What To REALLY Do

35:16 Why Start Small

45:42 Imperfect Action (Don't Be A Podcast Bro)

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Passivity is one of the biggest killers of intimacy and leadership in marriage.

If you let life happen to you, or find yourself making excuses...

Chances are, you're going to benefit from listening to this episode.

Learn where passivity stems from so you can cut it off at the root, plus hear a ton of real-life example so you can start to take action immediately.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:03 The Root of Passivity

5:27 The Levels of Passivity

12:23 Fearful Motivation

17:15 The Difference Between Passivity and Delegation

22:14 You...Or Your Wife?

35:29 The Difference Between Passivity and Gentleness

38:49 You Can Still Be Passive If You're Angry

41:26 Good Cop vs. Bad Cop Parenting Dynamics

52:59 The Cost Of Inaction

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

A "good" marriage is fine. But wouldn't you rather be ECSTATICALLY married?

Most "good" marriages are really just getting a C+.

In this episode, you'll learn the 5 keys required to level your marriage up to an A+.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:17 Is Happily Married The Enemy of Ecstatically Married?

5:28 Lack of Attraction

10:02 What If Your Upbringing Set The Bar Low?

13:51 Submission In An Ecstatic Marriage

19:39 Joyful Provision

25:05 Raising Sons as Sons

28:00 Vision

37:50 Frequent and Passionate Sex

46:19 The ONE Thing That Takes A Marriage From Good To Great

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Mentioned:

Good To Great by Jim Collins: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0712676090

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

How much influence do you REALLY have at home?

And more importantly...do you know WHY you have that amount, and how to increase it?

Leadership capital, baby.

Being a great family leader means your family actually has to follow you.

Do you have the leadership capital required for your wife to follow your lead?

Listen to this episode to learn what fosters trust, submission, and engagement.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:25 What Do You Mean "Leadership Capital"?

5:36 Bonus Masterclass on Submission and Leadership Capital

18:14 The Silent Killer of Your Leadership

22:13 Destructive Media

28:19 How To Build Leadership Capital From The Ground Up

34:25 Public Leadership vs. Private Leadership

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Marriage counseling doesn't usually work...

But it's not for the reason you think.

Before you make your marriage even worse by going to a marriage counselor who isn't going to help you become the man the Bible directly tells you to become, listen to this episode.

Then, start taking REAL steps to build an amazing, godly marriage.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:50 The Ridiculous Realities of Posting Online

5:46 The Disappointment of Most Marriage Counseling

9:24 Where Should The Bar Be For Your Marriage?

14:25 The Lie of Marriage Counseling

22:04 Common Problems Guys Face

29:15 How To Choose The Right Next Step In Your Marriage

39:49 What To Do Next

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Building masculine confidence is important to lead your family well.

BUT...there's a huge risk in putting your confidence in the wrong thing.

There's also a huge risk in destroying your kids' confidence if you don't build some of your own.

You're going to get the full meal deal with this episode, because John Michael and Chris discuss everything from the CORE of confidence, to practical ways to build it, to showing up as the father who raises confident and faithful kids, to the stumbling blocks laying in wait for you.

If you want to confidently become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known, hit that play button.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

4:00 Where Confidence Comes From

7:56 Building Confidence In Your Kids The RIGHT Way

11:47 How To Build Confidence If Your Didn't Get It From Your Dad

15:57 How To ACTUALLY Raise A Strong Christian Boy (Without Crushing Their Confidence)

23:14 Overcoming An Imperfect Dad and Finding Joy In Christ

34:01 Raising Boys Who Surpass You

36:25 The Right Order Of Skill and Mastery in Confidence

48:51 The Slippery Slope of Accomplishments

56:00 How To Actually Build Skill and Mastery (And Business)

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Mentioned:

The Art Of Manliness: https://www.artofmanliness.com/

The Only Skill That Matters by Jonathan Levi: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1544504349/

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

If your home is more like a war zone than a sanctuary, listen up.

In this episode, you'll learn how to become the type of husband who never gets drawn into fights, who brings peace, conviction, and leadership into the home, and who can withstand his wife's strongest emotional hurricanes.

That all leads into the bigger picture, though, which is how you go from suffering as Husband 1.0 to Husband 2.0 and eventually crushing life as Husband 3.0.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:00 Fighting Less At Home

6:00 How To Lead During Conflict

12:30 How To Recover When You Blow It

16:20 How Long Does It Take To Rebuild Leadership In Marriage?

23:02 Becoming The Best Husband Ever (HUSBAND 3.0)

38:14 Why You Have To Take This In Stages

40:55 90 Second Review

Mentioned:

JM's Homeschool Example of Leadership Without Fighting

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

How do you create a family vision and leave a legacy...especially if you never had this passed down to you?

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:47 How Far To Cast Your Family Vision

5:08 How To Start Building Your Vision (From Scratch)

9:31 From Dream To Reality

13:40 Should You Like Your Job?

18:35 Fatherhood Goals For Raising Kids

25:05 What's Distracting You From Building Your Family Culture

32:20 The 7 Layer Exercise

Mentioned:

Previous Episode on Letting Your Kids Date: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEFYfIME5jw

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What does letting your kids date have to do with your legacy?!

Pretty much everything.

OK maybe not EVERYTHING, but it sure is a microcosm of your values, and if you play this one issue out over the course of your life, chances are you're going to miss your one shot at leaving a legacy for the Lord.

Come for a Christian definition of legacy...

Stay for John Michael yelling about parents who let their kids date...

Leave with a deep conviction that this legacy stuff matters way more than you thought...PLUS some practical steps to get started righting the course of your family ship.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

0:57 Legacy Isn't What You Think It Is (A Christian's Definition)

7:26 What To Do Now, To Prepare Future Generations

13:19 Parenting For A Kingdom Legacy

15:35 Interlude: Letting Your Kids Date Is Dumb

27:33 Conviction Leads To Legacy

40:22 How To Parent Toward Legacy If You're Just Surviving The Chaos of Your Family Life

54:40 Prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Going through something difficult? Here's how to lead through it.

We live in a fallen world, brothers.

Life gets hard. We go through seasons of suck...getting fired, challenges with the kids, health complications, you name it.

But here's the reality for us men as Family Captains.

We still have to lead.

You still have to lead.

You're the head of your wife. Your kids are looking to you for guidance.

You don't have the luxury of packing it in and moping forever.

So, how do you lead through the most difficult seasons of life?

We'll answer that today with practical, tactical advice in today's episode.

In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:53 Real Life Example of Leading Through A Rough Season

11:29 To the Guy Who's IN IT Right Now

18:05 When You're In A "Dry Season" With God

26:20 How To Still Show Up For Your Wife and Kids During The Suckfest

34:32 Navigating Stress Without Burdening Your Wife With It

46:35 The Second Time I Got Fired

52:50 How Chris Led His Wife Through Investing In The Family Captain Program

1:01:04 Prayer For The Man Battling

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.