Guys, sex is not a bad, dirty thing.

God is not surprised that it's pleasurable and wonderful within the confines of the marriage bed.

We've got to re-program what we think about sex, number one, and number two, we have to apply Family Captain leadership to this area.

That means we see it as NOT merely physical. It means we REJECT the idea of our wife being the "Keeper of the Sex". It means we lead and build attraction in our marriage, and STOP apologizing for wanting to partake of God's good gift (that, by the way, strengthens your marriage).

Dive in and learn how to become the Captain of your married sex life.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:30 Why sex is not just "scratching an itch"

6:01 Why sex shouldn't be selfish

10:07 Sexual baggage

12:17 Shame

15:15 Married sex should be erotic

17:18 What about trauma?

32:28 How to flip the script you've bought into

45:31 Renouncing past connections

48:18 Song of Solomon + Prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Everything changes when your wife gets pregnant...should your leadership change, too?

This episode is a deep dive for all of our brothers who are navigating the sometimes-choppy waters of pregnancy.

Should you go get her ice cream at 2 AM?

Should you ever expect to be intimate again?

Should you lay off the leadership for awhile so you can all adjust?

Prepare to learn exactly how to show up like a Family Captain and lead your family through a pregnancy so things actually improve, instead of stay stagnant or get worse.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:39 Leading Through Pregnancy

10:53 When It Doesn't Feel Reciprocal

15:47 Leading In Health

20:06 Taking Back Leadership From A Toxic Culture

24:21 Managing Her Anxiety

33:49 Boundaries

38:49 Lust and Temptation

44:10 How Much Should We Let Things Slide?

58:23 Sacrifice

1:05:25 How To Thrive NOW

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It's hidden in plain sight.

In books, in media. Unfortunately, often times in the pulpit.

It's the idea of "Biblical Feminism".

Is that even a real thing? No of course not, BUT, it's deceiving many women (and men!) into building mis-ordered relationships, thinking they're following God's Truth.

In this episode, JM and Chris go through a chapter of a popular "Christian" marriage book, showing exactly why the idea of "Biblical Feminism" is so wrong, so dangerous, and so rampant...and how you can defend your marriage against it.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:10 Feminism in a highly-regarded Christian book

9:14 Not loving your wife like Jesus does?

14:05 Are we in need of "Biblical Feminism"?!

24:40 Actually read your Bible!

33:14 How to lead so you and your wife don't end up deceived

43:13 Why men shouldn't do ballet and women shouldn't play football

50:59 Does Genesis 1:27 really mean that?

1:00:25 Practical application

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We talk a lot about leading your family - being the head - in the Family Captain, because it's your God-given role.

But what if your wife is totally against you taking up the mantle of leadership?

First of all, it's not a surprise, so don't try to go all tyrant and take control with a heavy hand.

Second of all, there is a way through this, and it's not any more complicated than any of the other hurdles on your way to family leadership.

Brush up on the fundamentals, get your mindset right, and hear some actual roleplaying to help you understand what a strong, capable, godly family leader actually sounds like, when his wife is giving him a hard time.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:34 What if your wife doesn't want you to lead?

4:26 Fundamentals are VITAL

7:44 The fruit of the fundamentals

16:14 What are the fundamentals?

22:38 Staying steady when you're not being recognized

36:14 Is this all just for sex?

44:17 Stop overexplaining

51:47 Confidence

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This is the most practical revelation, diagnosis, and fix for a man looking to level up his entire life.

Most guys walk around as 1.0 guys.

We need to get you to a 2.0 and eventually a 3.0 man, husband, and father.

There's levels to family life you can't even fathom if you faithfully walk the path the Lord has laid down for you.

This episode will wake you up, give you practical wisdom to get started, and point your family toward greatness.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:08 The Difference Between Husband 1.0 and 2.0

7:03 A Lack of "How"

9:03 Usual Avenues

16:52 The Difference Between 1.0 and 2.0 Sex

20:46 Self-Leadership

23:15 2.0 Fatherhood

27:13 The Church

35:20 Cringe Ministry Advice

41:50 How To Level Up

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Mentioned:

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C438CW

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Are you slowly destroying your family by managing them instead of leading?

It's a trap too many men find themselves in.

Dealing with the small things.

Rearranging the deck chairs, while the ship sinks.

You're supposed to be the captain! That means getting out in front of the chaos.

Leading. Showing the way. Providing direction and optimism.

Learn how to apply the art form of leadership to your household to start leading and building an amazing marriage.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:00 Managing chaos, or leading?

4:50 Comparison

13:00 The art form of leadership

15:37 How to start leading, not managing

22:09 What gets you stuck in management?

29:22 Leave the right legacy

35:53 Are you just looking for status?

43:21 Novelty

Mentioned:

Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0739PYQSS/

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Apathy is the slow killer. You don't care. You've never seen what ambition looks like. You silently tell your family "this is as good as it gets".

We don't want that for you, brother. There are huge risks! You're setting your kids up to lose, at the bare minimum.

In this episode, we'll dive into how to conquer apathy and become a godly, ambitious family leader who seeks greatness and finally lives a life full of faith.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

3:00 Passivity, Apathy, and Becoming Ambitious

7:22 Waiting For The Right Time

10:43 Action Creates Ambition

19:09 Risk Averse?

24:46 Take Big Leaps, Not Incremental, Fearful Growth

39:48 Sowing, Reaping, and Obedience

44:08 Apathy and Addiction

52:59 Live A Life That Requires Faith!

56:10 Make Your Next Move

Mentioned:

10X Is Easier Than 2X by Dan Sullivan: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGK74SR5/

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Boredom is a killer in marriage.

Your wife could make a great meal one day, but if she makes it every day for the rest of your life, you'll get pretty sick of it, right?

Same thing goes in your life, your marriage, your walk as a father.

And guys, let's talk about where the rubber hits the road here...intimacy with your wife.

Boredom is a silent poison in your home, and it's time you took charge and became the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known. We'll show you how, in this episode.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

1:15 How To Kill The Boredom In Your Marriage

5:01 How To Build

7:29 Giving Away Your Masculinity In Marriage

14:55 Isn't Being Pretty Good Enough?

20:05 When Christian Men Are Still Blinded

31:29 Reviving A Sexually Dead Marriage

46:11 What To Do Next

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

You've heard us talk about family leadership, but I know some of you are wondering...

"What does his wife ACTUALLY think about all this?"

Well, why don't I let her answer that question herself?

My wife, Natalie Clark, is our special guest on today's podcast.

You'll hear exactly what she thinks about what I'm teaching you (to prove it works), and get her insights as a wife that'll help you navigate your own marriage better.

Let us know if you liked this, and we'll get her back for round 2.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:15 How can a wife respectfully disagree, while still being under his leadership?

9:32 Making big decisions together

15:25 Who to be so your wife relaxes when you're around

22:23 Issues wives struggle with when following

26:05 How to go from boy to man

38:21 How JM stepped into entrepreneurship

44:00 The power of a wife's cheerleading

53:04 If your wife is checked out

1:00:24 How to take action

1:06:35 Prayer

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

How do you lead your wife when she doesn't even know how to follow or submit to your leadership?

First, hold up, gentlemen...

Everything starts with you and your self-leadership. So, don't think we're here to blame your wife.

But...

This is a common thing we see in marriages, and we're here to unpack it and help you lead, even if she doesn't know how to follow.

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In This Episode:

0:00 Intro

2:44 Your Wife's Flesh Naturally Opposes Being Led

6:34 How Our Upbringing Impacts Our Marriage Dynamics

11:05 If You Think Marriage is 50/50...

19:00 Giving Your Wife Veto Power

24:42 Domineering and Passivity

30:53 How To Respond If Your Wife Says, "You Hurt My Feelings"

39:51 Reclaiming Your Leadership

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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.