The Feels with Charmian

Fam! It was a pleasure reading all of your emails with your theme and stories from 2023. I've selected three to share on the final episode of the season.

The Feels is officially 3 years old now. Thank you for 3 amazing years. The goal of the podcast was first to create a space to heal, over time it turned into a space to empower. Without this community, it could not have done either.

I leave you with this reminder: Any desire you have was made for you. If you weren't "allowed" to have it, you would not have the desire for it in the first place. Follow the feeling and let it guide you.

Sending you love in the new year ahead, and as always, talk to you soon. x

*This episode is a follow-up to EP 36.

This was a year in the making! At the start of the season, I decided that we’ll all pick a theme for ourselves to live by in 2023. We’d let it guide us from the back of our minds and see how that intention would manifest for us. Now, 10 episodes later, I’m finally revealing my 2023 theme to you all and sharing the highs and lows that came with it.

This episode is paired with the upcoming one, where I’ll be featuring some of your themes and stories over the year. Keep your emails coming, I’ve been loving reading them all! In case you missed it, you can send in yours via the details below. Stay tuned for EP 47 for your story shout-out! 

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EMAIL ME YOUR THEMES!

In your emails, please indicate in the subject:

"For The Feels: My 2023 Theme"

Some guided questions to help you get your juices flowing ☺

1. The theme — What led you to this theme and why did you pick it? What were your interpretations of the word, and were there specific experiences you intended to experience?

2. The changes — How did you see yourself change according to the theme you set? e.g. habits, attitude, mindset, perspectives. Was there anything that surprised you?

3. The stories — Share with me 1-3 of your favourite / most memorable experiences that happened this year, as a result of you setting that theme!

*Please indicate if you would like to keep your entry anonymous, and if so, please mention your alias so I can credit you in the episode!

EP 47 drops 23rd December.

The council has spoken; we're having a meeting with all of our toxic traits ☺ I'm not a fan of the woe-is-me mindset, and this is definitely not a hall pass for us to indulge in victim mentality. However, it is healthy to acknowledge what we got going on that is causing undesirable patterns in our lives, so that we may fire them accordingly.

In this episode, I share a few of my own patterns with you, to create a safe space for you to go within too. These include:

1) Calling it quits early

2) Never fully appreciating the present

3) Strengthening the pillars of self-love (self-trust, self-belief, self-compassion)

As you do this, please remember that in spite of what you acknowledge require looking into, you never need to be perfect before you can be lovable. If you need additional support, you may wish to share your discoveries with a trusted therapist.

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EMAIL ME YOUR THEMES!

In your emails, please indicate in the subject:

"For The Feels: My 2023 Theme"

Some guided questions to help you get your juices flowing ☺

1. The theme — What led you to this theme and why did you pick it? What were your interpretations of the word, and were there specific experiences you intended to experience?

2. The changes — How did you see yourself change according to the theme you set? e.g. habits, attitude, mindset, perspectives. Was there anything that surprised you?

3. The stories — Share with me 1-3 of your favourite / most memorable experiences that happened this year, as a result of you setting that theme!

*Please indicate if you would like to keep your entry anonymous, and if so, please mention your alias so I can credit you in the episode!

The episode will be released 2 weeks from today. I look forward to hearing from you fam x

We all know what it's like to experience moments where we entertain the idea of giving up. It's taking too long, it's not going anywhere. We've all been there. If you're on the brink of that, perhaps this episode will help reignite the flame in you to keep going. Especially if giving up is not your first choice.

While my journey to becoming senior instructor at Absolute is not for everyone, my aim of sharing the highs and lows of this with you is to remind you to "make it to the click" no matter how winding the road may seem. Whether it's in the form of a random shower thought, an awakening after a night's sleep, or in my case, a deliberate change of mind - it will click for you. If it hasn't, maybe it's not time to give up just yet.

New episode drops every Saturday!

Your entire personality is made up. The identity you put on the most becomes who you are.

Whether that scares or comforts you, in this episode I discuss how that's possible through repeated storytelling. You are not a product of your circumstances, since those circumstances are actually taking cues from your state of mind, i.e. who you are being most of the time. The state you occupy the most, produces these outcomes that reaffirm what you first repeatedly entertained internally. So if we want our circumstances to change, we must first change within. Saddle up people, this is a big one x

We're baaaack.

Turning 30 this year has been liberating, and in the time away I found the words to describe my takeaways from being 20-something. I share my discovery about self-worth, recognising that there's more to life than being attractive to the people you like, to stop asking for permission, and how being triggered is a choice.

Side note; I hope you've been keeping tabs on your 2023 themes ;) I look forward to hearing your stories, the surprises and changes as a result of the theme you chose at the start of the year.

Next episode drops a week from today.

Letting go is not something you do, it's something you stop doing.

In this episode, we'll be discovering:

1. What letting go is and isn't

2. Why letting go seems hard (but doesn't have to be)

3. The Sedona Method, and how I apply it

4. The Charmian Method, and how you can apply it!

Letting go doesn't have to be dark, tedious or dramatic. It doesn't have to take long. It can even be fun, if you allow yourself to make it so. I understand what it's like to struggle with this topic, and I hope that this will help free you in the process of letting go. There are tons of techniques out there regarding this topic, but these are the ones I personally use and count on.

You deserve to feel free of the things you no longer want to include in your life, and I hope this helps. <3

This is a bonus episode. Stay tuned for Part 2 of Season 3 coming soon!

It is the nature of nature to forgive.

Hailed as “Asia’s Anna Wintour” and “Top 100 Women of the Future”, Singaporean Dr Loretta Chen is an award-winning creative director, bestselling author and respected professor. She was shortlisted as a Nominated Member of Parliament and was International Consultant to the investment arm of the Royal Government of Bhutan. Above all, she is a loving daughter, sister, wife, aunt, and mother to 18 fur babies. Her latest book, M/OTHER, is a collection of the most heart-wrenching, yet hopeful stories of mothers and their children from different walks of life.

In alignment with Mothers' Day, Loretta and I discuss the varying modalities of being a mother, the stories that forever changed her, post-natal depression, and why support for diverse parenting is crucial. The book gives us an insight into the realities of unconventional parenting, while I ask Loretta about her relationship with motherhood, her own mother, and her take on romantic partnership and marriage in this day and age.

This episode isn't just dedicated to someone who resonates with the role of a mother in any capacity, but is important for anyone who understands the profound responsibility that comes with loving, against all odds.

Get the book: https://www.stbooks.sg/products/m-other

Connect with Loretta: @drlorettachen on Instagram

The full episode list for Part 1 of Season 3 can be found @charmiantyx on Instagram. Hit the bell icon to be notified when the next episode drops!