The Fetish School

Are you struggling to get your sexy back? Have you lost your naughty spark and need help finding your way back into kink? Mistress D. sits down with Special Guest, Mira, and shares insight into why we may lose our motivation to be sexy as well as some exciting tips to get your juices flowing…back toward your kink journey.

Show References

10 Things That Steal Our Motivation: https://advice.theshineapp.com/articles/10-things-that-steal-our-motivation-and-how-to-get-it-back/

European Journal of Social Psychology 2009 Study: http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.695.830&rep=rep1&type=pdf

The Fetish School Info:

Website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

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Instagram: @thefetishschool

Fantasies are part of the human experience. They are also responsible for the occasional arousal we experience throughout the day, before bed, and sometimes during sex. This episode reveals the kinkiest, most mouth-watering fantasies, the impact of fantasies on your mental and physical health, as well as tips on how to bring these common fantasies to life if you dare.

Show References

The Many Forms of Monogamy in the Animal Kingdom: https://www.nsf.gov/discoveries/disc_summ.jsp?cntn_id=126932

7 Most Common Sexual Fantasies: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201911/our-7-most-common-sexual-fantasies

Monogamy Rare in the Wild: https://www.audubon.org/news/monogamy-rare-wild * OnlyFans Statistics: https://earthweb.com/onlyfans-statistics/

The Nature of Forced Sex: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19085605/#:~:text=Results%20indicated%20that%2062%25%20of,at%20least%20once%20a%20week.

Fantasies of Forced Sex: https://metro.co.uk/2017/11/29/why-do-half-of-women-have-fantasies-about-being-raped-7099630/

The Fetish School Information

The Fetish School Website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

PayPal Donations: @thefetishschool

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Instagram: @thefetishschool

This episode explores the elemental essentials of play without limits or guilt. Mistress D. covers the roots and causes of shame and how to counter it with unabashed confidence.

Key Takeaways

Understand the history of shame and how it develops

Learn why confidence is important in kink or any sexual activity.

Discover how to gain or increase confidence

Get tips on how to tactfully display your confidence

Show References

10 Ways to Build Confidence - https://www.forbes.com/sites/francesbridges/2017/07/21/10-ways-to-build-confidence/?sh=23674863c594

Toxic Shame: What It Is and How to Cope - https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/toxic-shame#:~:text=Shame%20typically%20comes%20up%20when,others%2C%20especially%20during%20your%20childhood.

PsychCentral - Sex Shame - https://psychcentral.com/health/sex-shame

Is Shaming Affecting Your Sex Life - https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/is-shame-affecting-your-sex-life-0830185

Sex Toy Sales are Up - https://digiday.com/media/sex-toy-sales-are-up-and-publishers-are-seeing-an-opportunity-to-grasp/

The Fetish School Information

Website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

PayPal Donations: @thefetishschool

Fetlife: The Fetish School

Instagram: @thefetishschool

Are you an s-type or identify with the more submissive side of kink? Have you ever experienced a wild rush of excitement and emotions when thinking of kink activities? Well, you're not alone!

Mistress D. gets into a common phenomenon called “submissive frenzy”. Discover the signs of sub-frenzy and how to safely manage it as a newcomer or an existing submissive. You’ll get several tips on how to minimize risk, make better decisions, as well as how to safely, scratch your submissive itch.

Show References

Frenzy in BDSM - https://limitsunleashed.com/2015/02/13/domsub-frenzy/#:~:text=Frenzy%20can%20also%20cause%20one,and%20response%20%E2%80%93%20often%20resulting%20in

The Neurochemicals of Happiness - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201211/the-neurochemicals-happiness

The Fetish School Information

Website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

PayPal Donation: @thefetishschool

Fetlife: The Fetish School

Instagram: @thefetishschool

Are you ready to get Nerdy?

Mistress D. explores the science of what exactly makes us love BDSM. This episode explains the chemical reason we seem to feel our best when we play, and why it's so comfortable when we're done.

This episode features a very juicy interview with Sir Phoenix Black, a Sadistic Male Dominant, who has an extensive background in Anatomic Pathology and BDSM. He enlightens us to the biochemical process that takes place in our bodies before, during, and after a BDSM session. He provides tips on how to safely explore your limits and enjoy your kink experience.

Show Timestamps for ease of sharing:

(1:28) - Show overview

(4:00) - Sir Phoenix Black Introduction

(7:00) - Why people get into BDSM

(13:00) - What is Dom/sub-space

(16:40) - The Euphoria of BDSM

(17:55) - Trust opens the door to euphoria

(19:00) - Sir Phoenix Black on Fireplay

(21:03) - Pain-tolerance in Kink

(29:22) - Initiating your Kink journey

(31:30) - Inside Dom/sub-space

(37:20) - Personalities perfect for kink

(38:22) - What is Dom/sub Drop

(50:15) - Your Kink, Your Journey

(56:20) - Tips and Events from Sir Phoenix Black

Guest Information - Sir Phoenix Black * Fetlife: Sir Phoenix Black * Instagram: @realphoenixblack

The Fetish School Information

Website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

PayPal Donation: @thefetishschool

Fetlife: The Fetish School

Instagram: @thefetishschool

We all enjoy a good conversation about kink and fetishes, but it is even more important to discuss the safety of play and consent. This episode highlights how to properly obtain and identify consent, details on consensual non-consent, as well as tips for maximizing safety and fun.

Show Timestamps for ease of sharing:

(01:28) - Episode overview

(04:31) - The importance of consent

(05:40) - The definition of consent

(07:20) - Consent should be voluntary

(08:06) - Consent must be clear

(10:22) - Consent should be given coherently

(13:15) - Consent is ongoing

(16:20) - Consent is revocable

(23:20) - Kink contracts

(36:09) - Discussing consensual non-consent

(46:20) - Tips for consent

(52:45) - Safety precautions

Show Refences

EdgePlay and BDSM Examples - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailydot.com/irl/edge-play-bdsm-examples/%3famp

Shape.com - What is Consent - https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/what-is-consent

5 things about Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): https://domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/

The Journal of Sex Research - https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2012-28578-008

Contact The Fetish School

The Fetish School website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

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Instagram: @thefetishschool

Happy New Year!

2021 has been a year of victories, challenges, growth, and exciting new experiences. 2022 will be even better! Mistress D. shares in the final episode of the year, five things to leave in the past and several inspiring and kinky things to caring into 2022.

(00:06) - Introduction

(02:26) - Show overview

What to Leave in 2021

(05:14) - Leaving Judgment Behind

(09:22) - No More Guilt

(12:58) - Kink-Shaming Has Gotta Go

(15:33) - No More Neglecting

(19:25) - Forget Fear

What to Bring into the New Year

(24:52) - Become Active and Network

(30:57) - Keep Learning

(34:53) - Explore More in 2022

(37:13) - Trust the Kink Journey

(40:13) - Be Authentic

(47:14) - A Thank You from Mistress D.

(49:15) - Episode Conclusion

Show links

* 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Guilt: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201411/10-things-you-didnt-know-about-guilt

* 9 Psychological Reasons Why Some People Are Judgmental: aconsciousrethink.com/16811/why-are-people-judgmental/

* The Fetish School Website: https://www.TheFetishSchool.com/

* Fetlife: The Fetish School

* Instagram: @thefetishschool

Everyone deserves a bit of naughty and nice this holiday season. This special episode will share tips for self-care, ideas for supporting others during the holiday season, and fun gift ideas for you and your partner. Happy Holidays!

Having trouble accepting your kink? Afraid to share it with your partner? Mistress D. walks you through the process of accepting your kink or interests using the “ICE Method” while sharing a personal story of her own.

Mistress D. shares a story of humiliation, degradation and abuse to help listeners understand what not to do, how to play safely and find pleasure in Humiliation Play.